Tracey Alley's Blog - Posts Tagged "flaws"
How Do Others See You?
If you're like me and you've reached a certain age, like me at 42, you pretty much think you know yourself through and though. Well, at least, I did. I thought I had myself finally figured out and had become content with who I was - not that there weren't still aspects of my character that didn't need working on but I thought I even knew all of them as well. However, recent events have shown me quite a different picture of myself through the mirror of someone else's eyes.
In a series of strange coincidences I was told by more than one person about a few different aspects of myself that I had never seen or even thought about. Now, of course, if that were a one off you could, and probably, would, instantly dismiss it. When you're told the same thing by several different people in differing circles and situations then you have to acknowledge that these people have seen something in you that you didn't even know was there.
Being my ever curious self this got me thinking. How was it possible that others could see so clearly these aspects of my character - some good, some not so good - while I remained oblivious? Then I remembered the old saying 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder'. Beauty, be it human, animal, plant, words, art or music, is always judged individually by people in differing ways.
And that is probably the explanation of why different people will focus, at least enough to comment, on different aspects of your character and personality. You, however, still see yourself through your own filter - or the beauty you see through your eyes.
I'm not really going anywhere with this but I did think it's worthwhile to really listen to the things people say about you... You might just learn something :)
Cheers,
Trace
In a series of strange coincidences I was told by more than one person about a few different aspects of myself that I had never seen or even thought about. Now, of course, if that were a one off you could, and probably, would, instantly dismiss it. When you're told the same thing by several different people in differing circles and situations then you have to acknowledge that these people have seen something in you that you didn't even know was there.
Being my ever curious self this got me thinking. How was it possible that others could see so clearly these aspects of my character - some good, some not so good - while I remained oblivious? Then I remembered the old saying 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder'. Beauty, be it human, animal, plant, words, art or music, is always judged individually by people in differing ways.
And that is probably the explanation of why different people will focus, at least enough to comment, on different aspects of your character and personality. You, however, still see yourself through your own filter - or the beauty you see through your eyes.
I'm not really going anywhere with this but I did think it's worthwhile to really listen to the things people say about you... You might just learn something :)
Cheers,
Trace
