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January 23, 2015
How to Ask & Get What You Want by Judy Davis, The Direction Diva
Asking for help when life becomes overwhelming is something I advocate for and discuss a lot here on the Direction Diva Blog. I believe asking for help is critical especially with regard to depression, mental and behavioral health issues and so much more. I even talk about how the military community needs to do a better job of asking for and offering help in general here. But today I want to take this concept to a different place, I want to talk about asking for help to create a better life for yourself.
Asking for help is something that has gotten a bad rap. As we grow up, we are programmed to think that asking for help, support or direction means that we can’t do it ourselves. In the military community, asking for help is often seen as a sign of weakness. Even from the time we are young we are told “Don’t ask for that”, it’s impolite. And frankly this mindset just doesn’t make sense, and asking for help is not only something that I do, but I also encourage it…as long as you follow some simple guidelines.
Shakti Gwain said…
“You create your opportunities by asking for them”
Without exception I have experienced this. I mean, how can we create anything new if we don’t ask questions? How can we grow if we don’t ask for direction. How do we get through any challenge if we don’t ask for support? Simple answer: we don’t. If you look at any successful person, Judy Davis, The Direction Diva included, we have developed the skill of asking for what we want and work hard.
We don’t do it in a rude way, nor do we do it expecting others to make things happen for us, but we ask for help in strategic, well thought out ways that are MUTUALLY beneficial. We ask the questions that no one else will, and we ask for what we need as we move forward with our goals. But most importantly we ask and know that you get what you want in life when you ask according to the simple guidelines I am sharing with you today.
Creating a better life for our self isn’t something we do in a bubble, we need other people. In fact, the most successful become masters at finding resources that can connect them to opportunities that they couldn’t access on their own.
So if asking is part of moving forward and integral to being able to get what you want in life, then why don’t people believe that asking is ok? Why does it get such a bad rap?
Bottom line, most people ASK for help because they don’t want to do it themselves. They want a better life but aren’t willing to take action to make that happen. They ask for things that only benefit their personal interests, or ask for support because they feel entitled to it. Asking has become the thing to do when you don’t feel like doing it yourself. And that’s bad.
The ability to ask for something is earned. It’s not something you do with strangers, and it’s not something you do if there isn’t anything “in it” for the person you are asking something from. Asking is a skill that has to be learned, and there is an appropriate time to use it.
Asking for help is ok and it will get what you want in life as long as you follow this simple guideline:
Only ask for help if you are truly unable to do it yourself (no laziness allowed!)
You do it unselfishly
You are seeking mutually beneficial results
You are appreciative and express those sentiments
You NEVER ask for help from someone you haven’t helped before!
Would you add anything to this list?
— Judy Davis, the Direction Diva is a motivational speaker, author, and military lifestyle blogger at TheDirectionDiva.com. Her book Right Side Up is the go to resource for military spouses looking for help navigating the stress, chaos and change that comes with military life.
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How to Ask & Get What You Want In Life by Judy Davis, The Direction Diva
Asking for help when life becomes overwhelming is something I advocate for and discuss a lot here on the Direction Diva Blog. I believe asking for help is critical especially with regard to depression, mental and behavioral health issues and so much more. I even talk about how the military community needs to do a better job of asking for […]
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January 21, 2015
10 Simple Ways To Become Better at Networking by Judy Davis, The Direction Diva
Networking has become part of everyday life. We network for business and for pleasure. We network to meet new contacts and strengthen relationships. Networking is essential to our success and while we don’t have to be perfect at, we do need to be able to hold our own in order to thrive. Personally I network online and off especially […]
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January 19, 2015
7 Surefire Ways to Easily Find Success by Judy Davis, The Direction Diva
Here at Direction Diva headquarters our goal is to help you find success quickly. Sometimes we do that by sharing our experiences so you don’t have to deal with the challenges yourself so I thought I’d talk about 5 things you can do to find success right now. But first I wanted to talk a little […]
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January 16, 2015
5 Ways Bullying Made Me A Better Person by Guest Stephanie Cameron
I love when I run across great content especially when it focus’ on issues affecting children. Today Stephanie Cameron, author of Ella Mae The Courageous Cheerleader joins us in a post with a unique viewpoint that we all need to hear about bullying and how it helped her become a better person. I hope you get as […]
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January 14, 2015
The Reality Check Every MilSpouse Business Owner NEEDS by Judy Davis, The Direction Diva
Being a small business owner is hard but being a military spouse small business owner is even harder. As the Direction Diva you know that I call it like I see it, especially when it comes to business. And right now I believe that we military spouses all need a reality check when it comes to building our businesses and finding success. We create, […]
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January 12, 2015
Smart Advice for Mastering Military Life by Judy Davis, The Direction Diva
As a military spouse I am no stranger to change. In fact I’m always looking for the best advice for mastering my military life. Heck I even became the Direction Diva because I share the tips and strategies I picked up along the way as I discovered how to navigate my everyday military life. For years whenever I was met with change I saw it as […]
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January 9, 2015
Top Military Spouse Technology, Tips & Resources by Judy Davis, The Direction Diva
With technology being such an important part of our daily military lives, have you ever wondered what the top military spouse technology, tips and resources are? Until last year when I was approached by the VZWBuzz* team to become one of their brand ambassadors, the Direction Diva was a smart phone virgin. Yes, I must confess, I did all of […]
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January 7, 2015
4 Sure Fire Ways that Will Help You Lose Weight by Judy Davis, The Direction Diva
Last year was the year I, Judy Davis, the Direction Diva chose to change my life. For far too long I had let the stress and chaos of the military lifestyle dictate my day-to-day experience and my weight. From food choices and steadily increasing numbers on the scale to the excuses justifying my infrequent visits […]
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January 5, 2015
Focus: One Word Can Change Your Life for the Better! by Judy Davis, The Direction Diva
As we begin 2015 we create New Years resolutions, set goals and start fresh. We look forward in hope that the year ahead is filled with success, prosperity and good health. We search for resources, tips, books and information that can help us change our lives for the better. But there is a simple thing that many of us don’t do, and that is to personalize […]
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