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Labeling Crazy

“She must be crazy”
Well imagine that, perfectly normal me, crazy. I guess I had crossed the line of ordinary reality. I saw things that others did not see. I heard voices no one else could hear. I could speak without speaking and the spirit world flourished around me. I was living in a world of spirits, synchronicities, sounds and souls. I was one with the universe, and I was crazy.

As I entered the mental ward I was taken to a room where it would be determined what kind of abnormal person I was. The questions began as the intake nurse started to fill out my form. Hearing voices – check. Seeing things that are not in the ordinary world– check. Reacting to the unseen world – check. All the information was gathered to obtain a label that I would wear the rest of my life. As behavior after behavior was examined and the boxes were checked I was getting closer to a final verdict on my ‘disorder” which would stigmatize me as mentally ill.

On the shelf were the mental health bibles, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manuals of Mental Disorders, all full of behavioral descriptions and labels. Choosing one or several for me, would be the mechanism that would launch a psychiatric plan. These labels would be required by my insurance company to cover my costs of “care” and prescribe antipsychotic drugs. The purpose of these medications would be to shut me off from the sensory world that was overwhelming me.

My head was in my hands realizing that I would need to accept this fate as I was becoming a label. I knew I wasn’t crazy, but unfortunately my culture and society thought otherwise. In our culture, abnormal is labeled and treated. Treatment, would be telling me the voices did not exist, I was only hearing things. Another doctor arrived and glanced at the clipboard that had borderline schizophrenia written on the margin with a question mark? He asked if I was hearing voices. I now realized that hearing voices was not a good thing. It was best to backtrack my previous answers when I had told the truth and said “yes”.  I paused, “yes I hear voices, but only when I have my ipod on” as I finally smiled. The grin on his face told me I would avoid a deeper dosage of medicine.

So who was I now that I had awakened from this human amnesia of the existence of a spirit world? Why could no one else see the extraordinary energy matrix that surrounds all of us? The pulsating field of possibilities on a cosmic grid waiting for us to manifest everything we want through our unwavering beliefs? My questions would have to wait.  

I was now redefined. This would be the moment that the successful, intelligent, compassionate, caregiver, recently widowed, fun-loving human being would be no more. I was now “suffering from” something. The labels were plenty, Psychic Break, Nervous Breakdown ( even though I wasn’t nervous), Bipolar, Borderline Schizophrenic, Severe PTSD and dissociative behavior.  Did those labels really capture the essence of who I was now? Really?

Deep I went into the mainstream of psychiatric care. I got stuck in a societal solution that cuts us off from spiritually awakening and then lures us into “normal” with a pharmaceutical cocktail.  

When I was finally able to abandon the conventional plan to deal with my unconventional reality, then I was on the road to recovery.

I walked out of the psychiatric formula to seek those on the fringe of solutions to heal a fragmented mind. Two women appeared in my life, like angelic beings, they became my mentors to the spirit world and saved my life.  Deborah, was a well-seasoned psychic and Marilyn came from several generations of shamanic healers, all from Haiti. They became my circle of sages, wise women with their feet in two worlds, the worlds where I existed. With them, I found acceptance of what I was seeing and found there was room for seeing the world differently.  They welcomed my “insanity” as part of a bigger process of awakening into a place where I truly belonged. There was an embracing of my story and great meaning in what was happening to me. My insanity instead was now a “sacred journey”, “the dark night of the soul”, “finding myself”, “a shamanic initiation”..

On this alternative journey I was valued again for the gifts of being me, the odd me now. When I realized I was not suffering, I was not suffering. I was being called to be in a world of love and compassion for myself, a place of spirituality. My little soul had just been trying to emerge out of layers and layers of others attempts to define me. I had been a nut in a well prepared greek dessert, baklava, sweet with honey but smothered with inconsistent layers of conditioning from a culture that did not understand the process I was in.  

I was a caterpillar in a total state of destruction of the old self. With kindness and the understanding of my journey into a metamorphosis, I emerged better, wiser, stronger and free. No labels, no diagnosis, no “suffering from”, no abnormal behaviors. I had just become the extraordinary me.  

 

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Family drama got you down? Try this !

Everyone on the planet at some time or shall I say much of the time deals with family drama. There is just a dynamic with family that breeds dysfunction. I think it is because everyone in the “pack” smells vulnerability, fear and your weakest vibration and they know just the right buttons to push to set you off. Like coyotes that can smell a fearful rabbit 200 feet away. When zealous family members want to go in for the kill they do not even need a weapon,  they just look to the past and find a lingering conditioning that shivers up your spine and destabilizes your emotional response. Like the voice of your mother judging and jurying, the tone never goes away, even the breath before the insult or the injury is so familiar that the delivery barely requires the spoken word.

Since everyone in a family group resides in the same pool of conditioned response, they take everything personally so are ready to defend and attack. They go right to the center of your heart where the most vulnerable of your emotions reside. This is why it hurts so much when it comes from family and not from friends. It is like the volume is turned up on their commentary and the lack of acceptance or criticism is louder. Non-conformity to the family dynamic is also punishable by your family (your personal pack of coyotes) and you are now the rabbit without a hole to hide in.

If you feel that every time you walk into a family scene that you are a scampering rabbit, here is the perfect strategy. Run for the bleachers! Or better yet, get the best seat in the stadium, make it a box seat even and get ready for the best game of your life. You have now arrived at the place of the family observer. Out of the chaos and confusion and into the highest vibrational place out of the pack. So how does it work?

Let’s take an example. It is thanksgiving, you are in charge of the potatoes. You know that mashed potatoes are totally non-negotiable to the “pack”. You instead hit the internet for a sophisticated gourmet recipe  for potatoes.  Potato al gruyere, a lovely blend of flavors and uniqueness (just like the real you).  You ring the doorbell and walk in. “Hi Mom, look, I brought you a new French recipe of potatoes to go with your ten generational turkey recipe and great great great great aunt Betty’s gravy. “isn’t this great? At that moment her illusion of mashed potatoes and tradition and “we always do it this way” is shattered. You now glance over at your siblings who think you are trying to show off and prove you are better than they are because you can pronounce “gruyere” correctly. Your brother is still gnashing his teeth because he got a D in French and your father is ready to sit you down and scold you for not “minding your mother” even though she just said to bring some potatoes.

All are in a subtle shock with their antiquated assumption that you would never break with tradition and betray the family with your own potato recipe. Next, they surround the table, hovering over the potatoes like they are an alien at a backyard barbecue, totally out of place and a betrayal of countless generations to even try them.

So here comes the good part. You, however are casually and strategically sitting in the bleachers watching the whole scene. There in the box seats you are safe, you are no longer in the dysfunction of generational layers of conformity. You are free and your perceptions are new, fresh and healthy. You have stepped out of the layers of the family lasagne and reached your safety zone.

The emotions tied to family can be very damaging if we are vulnerable bunnies alone with our independent thoughts on the prairie. In the bleachers you can be the unique and caring family member that you have always wanted to be.  You can inundate yourself with individuality and become a vital and healthy part of all of your relations from here. Many walk away from family as a solution to getting along but I suggest the spectator sport approach. This manuever of the disassociation of feelings and outcome can move you into harmony with yourself and the pack.  Give it try, it works wonders. Take a soft cushion you will spend a lot of time there and I will be cheering you on from the sidelines.

 

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The top ten things you should try if you are depressed.

Check out this list before you head to the psychiatrist for
anti-depressants.

One of the hardest things to come back from is a spiral into depression. It kicks you into a vortex and swirls around you, taking you deeper and deeper into the darkness, eliminating your capacity for hope. When hope fades anxiety flows in and your positive reality disappears. Then, an illogical mind takes over and convinces you that life isn’t worth living and there is no way out of the sadness. It is like trying to retrieve a goldfish from going down the drain, a slippery proposition.

Here are my top ten depression busters: 

1.) Tapping: Otherwise known as Emotional Freedom Technique. This is tapping your fingers on “meridian points” on the body that can release energy blockages that cause negative emotions. It is based on the concepts of acupuncture without the needles. You can find here a video that shows you how to “tap”.

2.) Meditation: I cannot recommend meditation enough. There are now a multitude of studies which show that meditation is the foundation to a peaceful existence. I wake up every morning, hit the bathroom and head straight to my meditation corner before I do anything else. If you are a beginner, I recommend a guided meditation that might be easier in keeping you focused during the meditation. Meditating is like a brain workout, practice makes perfect. As time goes by you will begin to manage your thoughts and be able to then support a positive and healthy attitude. Remember it is best not to meditate too close to bedtime.

3.) Food: Consuming sugar and carbs is like jumping on an emotional roller coaster that never ends. Too many sweets turns your tummy into an out of control fraternity party waiting for a keg of beer to arrive. Your stomach is your “second brain” filled with important neurotransmitters and is a big determinant of your mental state. A big chunk of your emotions are influenced by the nerves in your gut, not to mention that 95% of your serotonin is found in your bowels. Serotonin is what the body produces to keep us happy and without the proper amounts it can affect our mood, appetite, sleep, memory and sexual desire. When you use sugar to boost your serotonin levels you cause an even bigger problem by depleting your ability to store serotonin over time. It is helpful to boost the amount of protein you are eating since proteins make serotonin and push it to the brain together with a combination of healthy carbs like sweet potatoes, brown rice, fresh fruit or nuts. 

4.) Sleep: Start a ritual before you head for bed. At 7:30pm I turn off the TV and prepare myself a cup of calming tea and start my pre-sleep ritual. I may take a hot shower or bath, adding some essential oils for calm. I will write down all of the things I am planning to do the following day in my daily journal, best to get all of those monkey mind thoughts on a piece of paper and not take them with you to your pillow. Avoid caffeine after noon.

5.) Electronics: This is always the toughest for all of my clients to manage. There is a study that found 95% of people who used an electronic device within an hour of bedtime reduced by 50% the amount of melatonin in their system. Melatonin is a chemical that helps to regulate sleep. Too much light is another big factor with electronics as it sends a miscue to the brain and promotes wakefulness. It is better to buy an old fashioned paper back book and read, leave your devices in your home office and hit the delete button on checking emails and social media. Cut the social media time down by 25% and you will see an amazing difference in how you feel.

6.) Brain Snacks: Some snacks that promote the chemicals you need for regulating mood are pumpkin seeds, brown rice crackers, beans, sliced turkey (organic/full of tryptophan which helps to produce feel-good chemicals), greek yogurt with berries and nuts, black tea (for reducing cortisol – the stress hormone), dark chocolate (75% cocoa) for PMS, fatty fish like smoked salmon, sardines and anchovies packed full of omega 3’s.

7.) Essential Oils: Oils are a fantastic way to change the vibration around you. Buy a diffuser and purchase some oils to diffuse while you are working. My favorite oils are from Doterra, Doterra Peace which works on the crippling emotions of fear and worry and Doterra Cheer which boosts your happiness and positivity. You can buy the diffuser and the oils here Doterra Oils.  If you do not want the diffuser you can simply apply one to two drops to your hands and inhale throughout the day to help reduce worry for life’s stressors.

8.) Crystals and Stones: Amethyst provides clarity and calms the mind by releasing stress and anxiety. Rose quartz is the stone of love and helps to open your heart to receive healing energy. It also helps to forgive others and move on. It also has a vibration of harmony and can help to heal many emotional issues related to failing relationships with a spouse or family. If you are worrying about financial matters, citrine is the perfect stone to take to your place of work to stimulate positive energies and help you reach your goals. Black tourmaline is very helpful to ground all of the frequencies that are being emitted from your electronic devices. Carnelian is a stone that can help with addiction and boost your energy. Use stones where you spend the most time like your bedroom and work area. It is also helpful to carry them around with you in a small pouch around your neck.

9.) Nature and Spirit: This is the most readily available place for healing yourself. Take your problems to mother earth by calling her in and asking her to take all of your anxiety and hardship and give it back to the ground and the roots of your existence. Begin a relationship with your spiritual guides, GOD or whomever you trust and turn over your hardships and difficulties to these divine powers. If you feel alone, know that they are always with you. Trust in the spiritual world to guide you to a place of calm and peace.

10.) Create a new story and a new you: Many people who are depressed tell the same story over and over until they can no longer see the potential for a new story. Your story of misery then follows you around and is reinforced every time you tell it.  I suggest that you sit down, and in your journal, write a new story. A positive story that inspires you. If your mind goes back to telling the old story read your new one and refresh your mind about a new way you will walk in the world.

Leave me a message and tell me what helps you to get to calm.

Messages from The Tree of Life,

 

Lori

 

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Cruising to LGBT freedom

I was 21 when I met my first Gay person. His name was ironically “Christian” and he was openly gay in 1982, a tough time to be gay. I remember him as happy, funny, smart and handsome. We worked together at a bank which was my first job after college graduation. He had a personality that could charm a snake, so our grumpy and frustrated female boss adored him. I adored him too. Looking back, he stirred something in me. It was not a question of my own gender, but something else. He had a sense of purity, of innocence and acceptance of oneself. He was comfortable in his skin and with who he was in the world. Nothing was missing in his love of self. Of course, my mind wondered,  how you could love yourself so much when so many people around you were judging and intolerant of you, but Christian handled it very well.

Christian invited me to his house for a party and of course most were gay. When the few lesbians there were hitting on me, he would gracefully jump into the conversation and tell them I was straight. It was my first LGBT party. Behind the front door of the party everyone was very comfortable with who they were,  and in fact celebrated themselves and their sexuality. I learned a lot that day about being different and being happy.

There is one place and time on the planet when we are perfectly and purely happy, and that is the moment we are born. From that moment, everything is going great until we look into the eyes of our parents and we sense their fears for the first time. In minutes we are caught in a swirling energy of “holy crap we have a kid now”! Scarcity issues abound,”will we have enough money to send it to college?” Judgement starts, “she has his grandfathers big nose!” Comparing us to others, “he is smaller than the neighbors newborn”. Self esteem starts, “she doesn’t have any hair!” So, there we are, laying on our backs in our nursery with the remote baby monitors surrounding us because of our fearful parents who think we might stop breathing. This is our beginning, wondering all night what in the hell are those creatures dangling over our heads from our crib mobile.

Childhood is a design process. The design of who we will become, orchestrated by the fears, beliefs and confusion of our parents, who have been culturally programmed to unconsciously raise you the same way they were raised. It is a multigenerational fear process. Conformity rules all the way to your first communion or bar mitzvah. If you have any alternative ideas, it is like asking a 220,000 ton cruise ship to stop at a port that is not on your earthly itinerary.

The whole calculated design comes crumbling down when you realize you are gay, lesbian or transgender. You are no longer cruising through life and instead you find yourself on a lifeboat bobbing up and down in 50 foot waves without a midnight buffet in site. Many try and wait for the waves to subside, hoping that happiness and acceptance is waiting on the horizon, but it rarely is. The way back to shore is to go back to the drawing board of who you are. A re-design is necessary for finding a mind of your own, which was an effort previously penalized.

What it boils down to is choosing freedom, where you have the right to act, speak and think as you want. Independence, self-determination, self-rule, liberty, liberation, release. It is a challenge, yes, to de-construct the conditioning and find yourself, but the real you is inside of you somewhere. Trust patience, it has been many years of not being you and the essence of restraint lingers long.

The quickest way to find yourself is to love yourself. You become when love leads the way to being the real you. Happiness is never elusive when you are in love with you and choose freedom over a lifetime of conditioning and embrace a mind of your own.

From the other side of life,

Lori

If you would like to attend a free online seminar that helps you to get to the real you, sign up for the www.lgbtwellnesssummit.com . June 5-10th

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Glowing Review !! Lori – The disintegration of my ordinary reality

Update on the book! I have asked several people to read my manuscript and write me a review. This review came in from Katie Mottram who is the founder of the International Spiritual Emergence Network. I am so grateful to Katie for all she is doing in this field and honored to have her support.

So what’s the latest on the book? Just waiting for the design to come back from New York for the cover, auditioning people for the audible version, waiting for the publicity company to prepare the launch campaign, working with a stylist to get my public image nailed down, waiting for the printer to set the text on the pages so I can take the last look before it is printed! Our release date is July 10th, just in time for summer reading!

Here is the review:

It feels such an honor to be reading the manuscript for LORI, The disintegration of my ordinary reality; a book that I have no doubt is set to make an indelible impact on the bridge that is forming between the chasm that currently exists between the worlds of psychiatry and spirituality.

Through her powerful prose, Lori manages to demonstrate perfectly what is needed when someone is going through the process of spiritual emergence; to feel safe but to be given space for the wisdom of the natural healing process of the soul to occur, however crazy that may look to the ‘rational’ mind.

Heart- wrenchingly beautiful, authentic, brave and compelling; reading Lori’s excerpts had me both in streaming tears and laughing out loud.

Her detailed recollections so exquisitely exemplify the grey area between what is currently described as ‘psychosis’ and spiritual experience; often a process of the soul ‘remembering’ and starting the journey back to wholeness; a journey that is unavoidable once begun.

Reminiscent of reading The Celestine Prophecy; reading Lori’s manuscript found me lost in a story of adventure, love and excitement, but at the same time acknowledging it as an invaluable educational tool. That is a rare talent.

What I love the most about this book is that it doesn’t shy away from the darkness – such bravery by someone also maintaining a professional position is uncommon, but so necessary in the shift humanity is facing. Lori is more likely to be taken seriously in the vital information she so generously shares, and therefore rock the status quo; a rocking that is so desperately needed, to help those that are currently suffering at the hands of a naïve society that doesn’t understand this very natural process.

I am eternally grateful that the Universe led me to connect with Lori, and for her dedication to raise awareness and support those people going through such a traumatic transformation process; gracias, mi alma gemela.

 

Katie Mottram

Founding Director, International Spiritual Emergence Network

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How to make a happiness elixir you can drink

Energy Medicine

In 1994, Dr. Masaru Emoto from Japan had the idea to freeze water and observe it under a microscope. At first he observed the crystals of tap water and water from rivers and lakes near big cities and he was unable to see any hexagonal crystal structures in the water. He then took water from pristine rivers free of development, and what appeared astonished Dr. Emoto when he saw beautiful crystal forms. His studies continued and he applied other observations like showing the water pictures, playing music and praying over it. He came to realize that water takes on the characteristics of emotions through resonance or vibration. If the vibration is destructive and angry, nothing can be created out of it, but when the vibration is positive it can create intricate beauty.

This study has even more impact for us since the human body is around 60% water with babies being born higher at 70%. Water is a big part of who we are. Taking this further, we can better understand the impact of negative thoughts and emotions on us.

Let’s imagine taking a glass of water and writing down the word “happiness” on a small note. We then place the glass on the top of the note and leave it on our nightstand every night. The trick is to use only glass not plastic so that there is a reflection into the water. All night, the water is reflecting the word “happiness” and it is being programmed to take on the dynamic resonance of that. When you wake up in the morning you have a happiness elixir.

This should be your first glass of water for the day. You are drinking in a powerful happiness vibration that is engraved in every molecule of this elixir.  In order to fully absorb this potent potion, focus on the cells in your body and ask them to welcome and incorporate this energy into your being. Each cell in your body has the capacity of receiving this energy and reproducing it.

In order to maintain this happiness resonance it is important that our thoughts also align with the water we are receiving. As the Buddha said “anything that arises in the mind starts flowing as a sensation on the body”. I have noticed clients who have taken this to heart and when the body reflects a new resonance they takes on a beautiful vibrancy. The organs are clear and there is a loveliness to the face and the skin as it shimmers the positive cells that have been “re-programmed”.  Through this process you will see the opportunity to create more abundance in your life and even heal disease. The human body is really just a pile of cells, which are made of atoms, which are made of particles. All of these particles are what we see in a human being as their vibrancy. Just like the sun helps us generate vitamin D, much of our environment is absorbed into our skin and on to the cellular environment.

I often remind myself when I think that the solution for my sagging skin is in a jar, when in reality the secret potion is in the glass on my nightstand. Like a vibrational medicine, every day I drink my elixir it seeps deeper and deeper into my cells and I walk in the world with a sparkling surge of energy, aligned with nature and the world around me.

With 7 Billion people in a world full of emotions I believe we have an individual responsibility to wake up in the morning with a positive vibration for ourselves and for our world.

Enjoy your personal elixir, and pass it around to those who need a dose of happiness.

Here is what the intention of happiness looks like on water: 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This is opposed to what water looks like with the words “You disgust me!”

Here are the crystals with different songs played:

Imagine by John Lennon

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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An excerpt from my upcoming book – Thoughts of losing a spouse

I was back in El Salvador again, continuing with my personal damage assessments. My separation from Tino made me realize that most of the world familiar to me when Tino was alive, no longer existed. Shallow family and friendships crumble when you are no longer married, and business associations diminish when the power of the couple is gone. With the stopping of one man’s breath my world, as I had known it, was gone.

The beautiful home that we meticulously built seven years earlier to house our dreams had now become an empty box. As I packed Tino’s clothing and some other personal items to donate to charities, I realized possessions have no energy other than what we give them. Who really cared what label was on the back of Tino’s silk ties now? The stylish, perfectly laundered dress shirts hung in the closet in strikingly helpless poses. All the specially designed orthopedic shoes no longer needed to wait for their next steps, because now, none would come. Truly my accumulation mode had come to a skidded halt.

I revisited a stack of sympathy cards from members of El Salvador’s high society and realized that their empathy for my loss was really a bon voyage. Each card almost shouted a farewell to my past, announcing that my time in society had expired.

Waiting to fill that emptiness, I was lost and alone with myself, yet it was not a tragic loss. This would be my point of departure into the world of the unseen and a captivating adventure.

Saying I was beginning to go through a spiritual awakening doesn’t quite define what was happening to me since, in fact, there are as many definitions of awakening as there are actual awakenings. This phenomenon is not to be confused with a conversion, such as when a person converts to a new religion or is “born again.” Religious conversion is the acceptance of a new set of beliefs and dogma. I was not converting to a new belief system. I was instead destroying the old beliefs that had become obstacles to my growth.

My ego had also begun to dissolve. This did not mean I felt I was right and that everyone else was wrong. I simply no longer found value in having conversations that lacked truth and impeccability.

I was still broken, empty, and devastated at times because of the loss of what I once thought was relevant, but my need for belonging to anything was shifting. Although I was losing my cultural and societal connections, my existence was strangely that of being a part of everything and everyone around me. Who would have thought that I, the left-brained, practical entrepreneur, would ever utter the words, “I was becoming one with the universe,” but that actually describes what happened. With this shift and the battle through all the trauma and turmoil, I was now in a state of burgeoning enlightenment.

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Why Relationships are Big Karma

When we come into this world we arrive with a well-designed path of obstacles, a sort of divine course curriculum that takes us through this journey called life. The obstacles are all part of the plan, our “karma”.

Everyone we meet on the planet is a teacher, but the biggest teachers are those we fall in love with. Being in a relationship is when the tenured professor shows up to teach the big karma. Big karma is experiencing big emotions and what better place than a relationship to figure that out.  After our honeymoon, we walk into the Baskin and Robbins of love where we find the 31 flavors of fear.  We place our order for the big five, two scoops of wanting to control everything, some blame, a double scoop of judging, some possessiveness and then a thick sauce of jealousy on top. If we really want to splurge we will head for the toppings and load it up with unruly expectations so that we are assured of experiencing pain and suffering. We now have the emotional karma special.

Our culture never prepares us for learning the lessons of the heart. Instead, we keep focusing on the illusion when the real purpose is that relationships are really a set up for karma 101. The reason for so much failure is that we do not understand the purpose of a relationship. We mostly see it as a convenient arrangement to fulfill what is missing in ourselves. This results in a walk into the school of hard knocks.

When we meet someone, there it is, the whole ice cream sundae to take a bite of. Little do we know that it is an opportunity to taste the sweet but also the bitter futility of expectations. The hidden agenda is our chance to raise our consciousness above the fear by losing our grip on the big five.  Another looming pitfall is when you attach yourself to changing someone. It is like signing up for a chemistry class and wanting to learn French, you are not going to get what you want. If you stay attached to the illusion of wishing that the other person aligns with the illusion you have so carefully created you are doomed. When a relationship is weak it is because someone wants it all for themselves. When there are no expectations, the relationship survives and is strong.

You got to get down to the soul level, the place of the vibration of the heart. It requires deep digging into the fear based emotions that drive us into divorce. Every relationship is destroyed by one or more of the big five, leaving two souls wondering what the hell went wrong. Since the soul holds the key to this karmic navigation, when you ask it what went wrong it will probably say “you idiots, it wasn’t about getting the perfect grade it was about the lessons learned’.  What the soul really cares about are the lessons of the heart and how you did with the big 5 karma.

I have worked with many couples who are married and over fifty. Many find themselves in relationships that are stagnant and drowning in disappointment since they had relied on a well designed expectation system. As a result, the spark is gone. When I am counseling them on getting back to the perfect relationship I suggest a soul to soul meeting. I suggest they look deep into the eyes of the other person and ask, “what are you going to teach me?”  Listen for the answer and accept it as an opportunity to learn and experience the deepest of emotions. Explore the fear, abandon the self-imposed outcomes and increase the odds through wisdom and acceptance. Keep reminding yourself that expectations are futile and rise above the fear. A successful outcome all depends on loving someone without conditions. A relationship that is based on learning, never dies.

During my marriage, I survived many challenging times by looking across the breakfast table at my husband and reflecting on all the things that I had learned from him. He had enhanced who I was and helped me to grow into the person I had become through the good and the bad. I was a better person in many ways because he was in my life. It was worth the effort.

The final fear that often lingers is the fear of loneliness, something more to master since this breeds attachment. Unconditional love is not about possessing someone or an acquisition. The greatest expression of loving someone is that you are willing to set them free. If you walk away, take with you the karmic lessons and pack your gratitude and move on with the knowledge that the journey with that wonderful soul is now complete.

Life is for learning and relationships get top billing on the scale of Karma.

 

From the other side of life,

Lori

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Do you have good energy?

Our human energy field is very important in determining our overall health. I was recently tested by a very innovative imaging machine that is capable of measuring the body’s energy field. This is not one of the now popular  “aura” machines that many people are tested on but a much more sophisticated measurement. The test shows your health and well-being based on the distribution of a person’s physical, emotional and psychological state and the relationship of the inner self to the exterior world.

On the left-hand side there is a picture of an average person who is disconnected from life, stressed out and not in a balanced state. You will observe that this field is very sporadic and does not have a solid and stable function of energy. Most people are walking around the world in this way.

On the right is my own personal test that has a symmetry of 94% which is extremely high. The person who took the test told me that the highest she has ever seen is 96%.

People have often made comments that I have “good energy” and this test shows that they are right !  The blue is the physical being, violet is emotional energy, pink is psychological and orange is spiritual.  A score so high indicates that I have been able to combat stress and anxiousness and that I have a very good relationship between my inner voice and the outside world. It also shows, that I have very few emotional disturbances, that I am calm and secure in my thoughts and my mind. My overall distribution of energy is very balanced, meaning that there is a good alignment of my body, mind and spirit.

So what is my secret in being able to walk in the world with such good energy?

First of all, I meditate every day, without exception. Meditation has reduced my stress levels to pretty much nothing. It would take a lot now to get me “stressed out”. I have been able to organize my bodies energy into a walking state of calm. This has afforded me the opportunity to create a life of beauty and a balanced existence by tapping into the energetic world and the extensive field of possibilities around me.

This work has opened me up into understanding a new reality,  where I am connected to my environment in a positive way. This spills over into my connection with human beings, plants and animals as well as the spirit world. I feel connected to everything and this helps me to feel very much alive. I am able to walk in the world with an intention of love and kindness for other human beings which generates a positive response for me and my energy field and this influences the condition of my life. I am a part of a collective spirt in the world around me. I have little to no concerns about the life experience because through prayer, trust and surrender, I know that everything will work out. In addition, I realize that plants have the power to heal me because of the deep connection they have to the earth’s energy which is a positive interaction. I use essential oils and do my best to eat a plant based diet. The power of God can heal us and it is in everything that is alive.

Every morning I create a sacred space and set a positive intention as I walk through the world. This raises the vibration of my energy field so I am able to absorb new ideas by busting useless beliefs and realizing that I am a part of an inevitable divine plan that is our humanity. I embrace the unknown and walk in the knowing that I am healthy and happy walking on my earth journey. I have no fear, I have forgiven myself and others and I am a clear and vibrant being with no attachments to any emotion except the love of life.

Now believe me, this did not happen overnight, but it was worth the 6 years of effort to get to this place. A very old Guru in India told me that this would be my last trip to earth and it is no wonder now that I truly want to make the best of this last go around.

As a spiritual life coach, it is my job to get you to a state of bliss and joy. If you are ready, give me a call.

From the other side of life,

 

Lori

 

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Excerpt from my book “LORI, The disintegration of my ordinary reality” – New Year’s Eve

An interesting lesson about remaining in the PRESENT and not in the PAST or FUTURE of New Year’s Eve.

CHAPTER TWENTY-SIX

 

 After surviving another Christmas without Tino around, New Year’s Eve arrived. While I was waiting for the clock to strike midnight, I realized how much of a mistake it was to be anticipating what was next. I stopped myself and let the anticipation of what was next fade into reflections on New Year’s Eves past, the first kisses, the clinking of glasses, the noise-makers, and cascading fireworks. For fifty-six years I had been in similar settings waiting for a ball to drop. The fireworks went off. I wondered. What am I celebrating anyway? The past or the future? To celebrate either seemed futile to me now. I was simply in a place at a time, and that was all.

As much as I wanted to control my future I was beginning to realize that it doesn’t exist until it occurs. It was essential to stay present. Only what occurs is reality. I could no longer extend the view of my life so far out from me that I would never experience today.

In the weight of the moment, Tino swooped in and joked, “Did anything that you anticipated happening last year happen?” I laughed and said no. “So, what is all the new anticipation about?” he asked. “It is simply a guessing game people play. You all say that life will be different in the New Year, and of course it will. But that’s only because things change. This thinking is useless, as no one can know about tomorrow today.”

It was New Year 2012, the beginning of the year that the Mayan calendar would end a 25,000-year cycle, and I would have to be patient to know what the months ahead of me would bring.

Perhaps this New Year’s Eve should be about celebrating the moment. When the clock strikes twelve, stop and take a look around at where you are and who is with you. Take a snapshot in your mind. Cherish the kiss, the clinks of the glasses, the sounds and the excitement. Live into the NOW. It is really not about the past or future. Leave the thinking behind. The possibilities for change and the new always exists, your dreams are only a heartbeat away. Raise a glass to eternity and trust in the universe.
Happy New Year !!

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