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How To Have More Energy…

Often people carry around so many tasks in their mind that they think they have to do, should have done, could do etc. The mental energy expended just thinking about this never ending to do list can leave you feeling drained, lethargic and completely overwhelmed.

To paraphrase David Thoreau:

“Most people are living quiet lives of desperation, not invigorating lives of inspiration.”

In other words not doing what they love nor loving what they do. They aren’t grateful so they are putting on the brakes in life and lacking the energy and vitality to live.

The body and mind are inseparable in their interactions. We need to be accountable for how our psychology may be affecting our overall health.

A short pencil is better than a long memory

In today’s fast paced world it is essential we learn how to delegate and not try to take responsibility for everything. I suggest putting this imaginary list on paper, reviewing it and then separate what only you can do from what you know you can give to someone else to do. Once you have done this you will not feel as overwhelmed and immediately more motivated.

Energy levels and Age

I have come to the conclusion that the level of energy one has in life is not so much connected to age as it is to state of mind.

Naturally when someone is coming to the end of their life and may be more susceptible to disease, they may not have the same reservoir of energy and vitality as someone in their middle ages. But I have seen human dynamos at age 94 to 99 still out doing people half their age.

The difference was their attitude and zest for life. They found what they loved to do and they do it.

Lack of energy

The people who are most at risk of ‘suffering’ a lack of energy are those who do not feel like they are living purposefully. People who tend to feel lost, overwhelmed and out of focus often lack energy. They are scattered and trying to live other people’s lives.

Simple solutions to have more energy
1. Know where you are going:

Your energy soars when you are clear on your aim and direction in life. When your heart and soul are guiding you energy abounds.

2. Delegate low priority actions
3. Be Thankful:

When you are grateful for all that you have rather than dwelling on all that you are lacking, you will discover a very powerful source of energy. Count your blessings daily.

4.    Eat Moderately

Many people try to perk themselves up by pigging out but this is definitely not the way to do it. It has actually been shown that if you eat less you have an increase in vitality and overall energy. Biological research also shows people who eat less live longer. Walk away from the table a little less full and you will have a lot more spark to do the things you want to do.

5.    Eat wholesome nutritious foods:

Become aware of what you eat. Be sure to “eat to live” not “live to eat”.

6.    Drink Water
7.    Breathe fully and deeply
8.    Connect your vocation with your vacation:

If you aren’t doing what you love and loving what you do you have the brake on all the time.

9.    Smile:

Smiling can change your physiology and make you look up at life.

Gratitude can open up your heart to love and live your life, with more energy and vitality!

If you’d love to learn more about a living with more energy consider Dr Demartini’s brilliant CD: Adding Life to your Years and Years to your Life.

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Fleeting Passions Vs A Meaningful Purpose Or Mission…

 

Are you distracted by your many immediate gratifying passions, or are you consistently inspired by your one mighty and meaningful purpose or mission?

Your brain is your body’s most intricate and complex organ!

The brain express both passionate behaviors and purposeful pursuits

It is responsible for both your ungoverned, passionate or animal-like behaviors and your governed or purposeful behaviors.

The whole brain is therefore responsible for expressing both your irrational, passionate behaviors and your more reasonable and meaningful pursuits. 

Passions

Your most basic, but often compelling emotional feelings, initiate your impulsive and instinctive passions.

These passions can transiently change with the wind. What you’re interested in and fascinated by today will probably bore you tomorrow.

They can be the source of much of your suffering. It actually etymologically means suffering.

“To seek that which is unavailable and to avoid that which is unavoidable is the source of human suffering.” – Buddha 

Generally passions won’t pay your bills or initiate long-term achievements for life.

Though they can sometimes be useful for surviving immediate threats or stresses, they are not reliable keys to great achievements or fulfillment.

Your passions represent strong and uncontrollable emotions driven by your pleasureful and painful perceptions and their corresponding feelings. They represent your lower, more reflexive forms of behavior over your higher, more reflective functions.

They reveal where you are an amateur in life, rather than a master!

Passions do not have an intuitive and inspired direction or any objective reason.

Their intense and fervent zeal can be ambitious, but delusional. You tend to express your fantasy with ease. They emerge when you extrovertly tell in great detail that you intend to become and what you imagine your future will be like. When they rule you, you can be naive and unaware of your true surrounding reality.

Passion can stop or plateau you and make you eventually lose interest and become fearful or defeated.  It can make you strive for pride and manic excitement.

Passions can also be associated with your most subjective state of mind and can lead you to confirmation biases and disconfirmation biases. This leads to irrational beliefs of “all” (infinity/1) or “none” (1/infinity) or extremely irrational labels. 

With the transient nature of your passions you may not even discover when you’ve been thrown off by the futile frustrations and setbacks that they create.

“There is a boundary to men’s passions when they act from feelings.” – Edmond Burke

Life lived in moderation

Aristotle described the greatest life as the one lived in moderation, according to the golden mean. This is the mean between the oscillations of passionate emotional extremes.

Courage is the mean between cowardice and foolhardiness.
Temperance is the mean between abstinence and self-indulgence.
Generosity is the mean between meanness (stinginess) and extravagance.

Your life of moderation requires your rational control over your emotional appetites. 

“For desire is a wild beast, and passion perverts the minds of rulers, even when they are the ‘best’ of men.” – Aristotle

According to Aristotle, when your life is governed by nothing more than the impulses toward pleasures and the instincts from pains that come from the satisfaction and frustration of your passionate appetites, you are indistinguishable from the untamed animal.

In your animal like nature you desire to acquire and enjoy more and more in the world.

When you are poised, your prefrontal neocortex keeps your impulsive emotions in check. It inhibits them or tones them down.

Likewise transiently shutting down your executive center and turning on your primitive allocortical center allows you to temporarily survive your most immediate and perceived threat. 

Pursuing a meaningful purpose is an essential function for your fulfillment

Evenmore knowing and pursuing a meaningful purpose is a primary and essential function for your fulfillment.

Clearly identifying your primary purpose can make you act wisely and remain more poised and resilient for what lies ahead.

Likewise it can make you humbled by its magnitude and determined to see it through, regardless of your many distracting impulses.

Your purpose gives you direction. It provides you with the more objective reason for which something meaningful is done or created or for which something inspiring exists.

Your purpose is a lot more steady and stable and allows you a metric to base your inspiring pursuit on.

A meaningful purpose does not excite you for successes, or fluster you for failures. Nor is it sensitive to the praises or criticisms of your peers or superiors.

This purpose does not stop if your results don’t go according to your initial plan.

Your purpose is what truly and intrinsically drives you.

It is an expression of your highest most intrinsic value.

This purpose inspires you to leave a marked impression upon the world.

Your purpose is more realistic, objective and detached from any immediate outcomes.

So before you embark on your life’s journey, it is wise to  know where you’re going and why.

It is wise to know that you’re running a race towards an “infinish” line that you are called to, not the finish line that you think others expect, or what will make them impressed.

Not because you have a fleeting passion but because you have a long-term purpose and vision that penetrates through your many assumed setbacks or obstacles.

Your purpose is your true north and it is the primary why behind your life.

It is the deep reason you have created for your very existence.  

Your journey will be long. Your road will be arduous and at times seemingly difficult;

and if you are like some you may have never yet even known or pursued your purpose.

But, it is your purpose that allows you to repeatedly triumph over your momentary passions.

Your newest brain is your purpose seeking and fulfilling organ.

Dedicate yourself to your purpose or inspired mission!

Use your forebrain masterfully and wisely and give yourself permission to do something extraordinary on planet Earth!

If you’d love to learn more about a meaningful purpose and mission consider Dr Demartini’s brilliant CD: Purpose – Life’s Driving Force.

Purpose – Life’s Driving Force

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Can You Overprotect Your Child…

Is it possible to overprotect your child? Overprotecting children sets up false securities. This creates a false illusion of the balanced realities of daily life. It is unfair to paint a utopian idealism to children and not prepare them for the other half of life.

Children will require greater outside governance if they have not developed self-governance. Any area of a child’s life that is not empowered, they become overpowered in.

Children automatically become more self-governed, confident and resilient when they set goals aligned to their highest values. They become more balanced in their orientation. In this way you help them to face daily pleasures and pains, supports and challenges.

“They are more problem solving oriented than problem avoiding.”

Challenges birth creativity

Children need challenges to facilitate the birth of innovation, creation, solution and opportunity.

“Too much support and ease creates juvenile dependence. Too much challenge creates precocious independence.”  

Pain is part of life! We wouldn’t have pain endings at the end of our fingers if pain weren’t necessary. The book “Brilliant Function of Pain”, by Milton Ward explores the function of pain further.

Pain is your feedback! If you medicate it away, you won’t get your feedback. You need pain, discomfort and things that challenge you to grow.

When you overprotect your child from discomfort, you simply create internal discomforts or challenges for them. If you help your child to escape challenges, they simply breed new ones that follow them like a shadow.

“If you attempt to remove all challenges, discomforts and pains from your life you would miss out on what they have brought and taught you.”

You might experience frustration to “always” protect your child, while your child becomes addicted to these unrealistic fantasies of a one-sided existence. The source of depression amongst children is this unrealistic fantasy to live a life of ease without difficulty. Depression is a result of comparing your current reality to an unrealistic fantasy.

Fear causing you to overprotect your child

You probably overprotect your children because you are afraid of peer pressure and judgment for them. Or you could be afraid that your children will experience something that you as a parent have not learned to appreciate and love.

Whatever wounds or fears you have not learned to love in your own life, will probably be where you overprotect your child.

Hedonism and utilitarianism started the movement that we are supposed to be happy, safe, secure and only good all the time.

“Maximum psychological development occurs at the border of challenge and support.”  

The fantasy of a utopian world with all peace and harmony, etc. can set up unrealistic expectations and undermine human development.

It is wiser to prepare your children for the realities of life. Teach them how to embrace both sides of life:

support and challenge
ease and difficulties
pleasures and pains
cooperation and conflict

Both are essential. We have a need for both support and challenge.

Accountability, challenge, problem solving and responsibilities are just as essential. In this way you build future entrepreneurs and leaders.

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Toxic Relationships…

How do we know when it is time to exit toxic relationships?

Before we discuss exiting toxic relationships, let’s look at what is happening within the relationship in question.

The term ‘toxic relationship’ is a label projection. One of the parties in the relationship is unable to see how the behavior of their partner or friend is serving them. We tend to label other people because we project our own values onto them and unwisely expect them to live according to our values.  We don’t recognize and respect their values and that they will live according to their own set of values and not ours.

A relationship can become corrosive when we consistently challenge our partners. When we don’t know how to communicate what we value in terms of their values this relationship can become caustic. If we leave this relationship before learning how to communicate in their values, we are likely to recreate the pattern with someone else.  It would be prudent to attempt to fire up the relationship before firing it out.

There are a few conflict resolution steps to follow prior to deciding to leave the relationship.

First, ask yourself which specific traits, actions or inactions displayed by your partner you dislike or hate the most. Be specific and objective about what they’re doing and beware of your own confirmation bias. Compose a list of all these things.
Then, look at the list one item at a time and ask yourself where you display or demonstrate the same behaviors in some same or similar form. Who experiences and sees these behaviors when you display them? It is easy to resent others for their behaviors, but in truth, they are just reminding us of the parts of our own lives that we dislike or judge and maybe too proud to own. We become blind to our own actions and would be wise to humble ourselves and look at our situation clearly before we respond.
Now, think about how these behaviors are serving you. How do you benefit from them? What are you learning? How are they strengthening you? Are they making you more independent, giving you drive, expanding your social circle or making you closer to your family? Are they helping you develop your career in some way? Often the challenges in our lives are what make us more precociously independent and entrepreneurial.
Lastly, imagine if your partner were to act in the opposite way, in the way you wish they would, what would the drawbacks be?  You might wish that they could provide more and be more complimentary and then all would be “good”. However, if they did this, it may stop your growth and you may become dependent on them. You may end up stuck at home while they work and they may then control your life. We don’t often think of the consequences of the fantasy we hold on to. It’s not actually a better life; it is just a different life. This exercise will help to crack that fantasy.

When we are angry with people, we generally display a subjective bias in how we perceive them. We accentuate the negative and minimize the positive. The truth is somewhere in the middle. We are all kind and cruel, generous and stingy etc. Your partner has balance, as do you. If you’re projecting a label onto them and calling them toxic, they will be under a constant sympathetic response and act in a retaliatory manner.

People want to be loved and appreciated for who they are

People want to be loved and appreciated for who they are and what they are is a reflection of their highest values.

If you don’t know what your partner’s highest values are or don’t respect them enough to determine them, you will have unrealistic expectations as to how they will live their lives. They can only live according to their highest values.

If you communicate with them according to their highest values when you want them to do something for you or behave in a certain way, then there is a higher probability that they will do it. When you help them get what they want, you’ll get what you want.

If you haven’t considered or mastered the action steps above, I advise that you try them. You might discover that the relationship is not as toxic as you first thought. If, however, you truly believe you have applied these action steps and you still feel that you want to leave, do it without resentment.

Resentment will be the baggage that you take into the next relationship. Find out how your experiences in this relationship served you so that you don’t take that baggage into your next relationship.

Anything you can’t say thank you for, is baggage, and everything that you can say thank you for is fuel.

Don’t remain a victim of your history rather, become the master of your destiny.

If you’d love to learn more about a meaningful relationships consider Dr Demartini’s brilliant CD: The Heart of Love. 

The Heart of Love

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Employee Engagement Pays The Greatest Dividends…

Employee engagement will be one of the greatest challenges you will face in your entrepreneurial business career. Disengaged employees can burden and cost your business heavily.

“As a business leader it is wise not to operate within an outdated leadership model and master the art of employee and customer engagement.”

Uninspired and uncommitted employees can stunt innovation, weaken customer relationships, lower team performance, and diminish productivity.

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A century ago autocratic leaders simply issued orders and subordinates obeyed.

Now more educated employees ask: Why?

They want meaning and fulfillment according to their individual highest values. This requires an engaging and relational leadership method. This includes purpose, priority, productivity and distributed power.

Making productive relationships with employees is ultimately your highest priority.

Because they are your most valuable, value-creating and value-sustaining assets you have.

Gallup Pole  found businesses with above-average levels of employee engagement, reap 147 percent higher earnings per share.

When your employee engagement are above average, you will experience a great jump in  business outcomes.

As a leader, your employee respect is the most powerful predictor of your employee engagement. When your employees feel respected they become 55% more engaged.

Employee engagement focused business leaders can offer more to shareholders

As an engagement focused business leader you will offer more to your shareholders by creating engaged and productive employees.

“When you as a leader are engaged, your words become your actions. You are more likely to re-invest in your employee’s learning, mentoring, team-building, involvement and compensation.”

These areas express employee value and build appreciation, greater respect and productivity.

To be an engaging leader:

you will require purpose-filled people
you will emphasize mission and purpose
your employees will be doing meaningful responsibilities every day

These are the strongest factors for retaining quality modern employees.

Goals with purpose and meaning

When short-term financial goals are substituted for purpose and meaning, employee engagement and commitment diminishes.

Commitment-worthy purpose means touching your employees and customers in a meaningful way, which in-turn captures their inspiration and delivers a unifying magnetic pull.

A wise question to ask yourself is: “Where and in what way can you contribute to your employees and customers lives most profoundly?”

The primary purpose of your business is not your shareholder value, but rather to serve your employees and customer’s interests.

This ends up in the long run being the wisest way to serve your shareholder interests.

Inspire, engage and empower employees

As a wise leader your intention should be to inspire, engage and empower your employees.

This will stimulate and distribute energy and empowerment throughout your organization.

It is wise to ask yourself: “How can everyone involved become more powerful?”

More powerful people make more powerful business organizations.

When you become overpowering and lose touch with your people they stop attending carefully to what your customer think and feel is most important.

Increased power-sharing amongst your employees is the key to scaling the human-energy demands.

This will ensure innovating for new products, building strong customer relationships, and growing your markets.

Multiplying your power occurs by giving a portion of it away.

By allowing yourself to become more communicative and transparent, you will bring the greatest performance out of others.

You can build high-performance teams by being less exclusive and controlling and to lead by example.

Indifference is expensive, hostility is unaffordable and trust according to their true highest values is priceless.

Congruent and engaged leaders, employees and customers pay the greatest dividends.

If you’d love to learn more about building an inspiring business consider Dr Demartini’s online learning program: 6 Powerful Steps for Business Leaders.

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8 Action Steps Before Asking For A Raise…

To ask your employer for a raise, might be a very intimidating and fearful experience. Dr John Demartini gives advice and what actions steps you can take before asking for a raise.

Before you ever ask for a financial raise at your company, consider doing the following eight actions steps:
1.   List your contributions

Compose a list of clear and certain profitable contributions or accomplishments you have made for your company.

Memorize this prior to the raise request meeting and negotiation.

When you can demonstrate that you have produced additional profits, then they will be more likely to be receptive to offering you more rewards.

Be factual not fictional.

2.   List new responsibilities

Compose a list of new accountabilities, responsibilities and achievements you have fulfilled or are about to fulfill since the previous salary determination.

When you can demonstrate additional accountabilities that you are responsible for, they will more likely be receptive to offer you more rewards.

3.   Clear desired raise

Define clearly what new wage or salary you desire and feel you deserve to receive.

4.   Benefits to the company

Write out 30+ benefits to the company of paying you the newly desired wage or salary.

Then write 30+ drawbacks to the company of paying you only the current wage or salary.

5.   Highest values of employer

Determine the highest values, priorities or objectives of the employer, HR manager or boss who will be your request decision maker.

When you communicate what you intend and desire to have happen in terms of the highest values or priorities of your raise decision maker, they will become more open to your request.

When you help other people fulfill what they would love, they are more likely to fulfill what you would love.

6.   Own the traits of your employer

Identify any of the intimidating traits that the raise decision maker might display during the meeting. Own where you have this trait in the same or similar form and to the same degree.

When you are not intimidated by your raise decision maker, and you communicate as an equal and not as an underdog, you are more likely to receive the outcome you would love. If you cannot walk away from the negotiation when you do not receive what you desire, then you are in a position of an underdog.

You have to be willing to walk away to receive what you want.

If you cannot walk away from the raise request negotiation table to an alternative job offer that pays what you desire then you would be wise to add more value to the company and decision maker by adding to action step 1, 2, 4 before the meeting.

7.   Outline the raise request presentation

Outline the raise request presentation and be sure to factor in the previous items of 1, 2, 3 and 4.

Rehearse the presentation in a manner where you have imagined yourself receiving your desired raise outcome.

8.   Dress for the part and position

Dress up to match the image and standard of the additional accountabilities that you will be responsible for so as to position yourself in a higher light during the presentation.

Time your raise request at an obviously more profitable period when there is more likely to be a cash surplus in the company. Only request something for something (a fair raise for your added service and productivity) and not something for nothing.

Fair exchange is the only thing that builds and lasts.

Thank your raise request decision maker for honoring your raise request and then deliver even higher quality and more productive service to the company.

Be sure to periodically look or ask for additional responsibilities that you can be accountable for. Continually add more value to the company and open the door for additional future raises in the process.

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A Grateful Mind Opens Up A Loving Heart…

Operating from a state of appreciation and gratitude is not only the secret of fulfillment, but it’s also the secret of decreasing the editing, fractions, side bending, and wanderings in life. You have more vitality when you are grateful for all you are, do and have.

Every single day: Stop. Reflect. Think about what you could be grateful for. Make it your aim to be appreciative of your life. Acknowledge the magnificent life you experience.

When you are grateful you become less burdened by subconscious emotional baggage when you are grateful for events and experiences in your life. You become more uplifted and more enlightened.

True gratitude reflects the state of mental order and poise.

Gratitude enhances all seven areas of your life:

Spiritual – you become more present, caring and loving when you are grateful.
Mental – you have less brain noise and a clear mind when you are grateful.
Vocational – you become more productive and engaging when you are grateful. You are likely to care about your customer and employees.
Financial – you become more objective and reasonable when you are grateful. Your financial assets are more likely to appreciate in value than depreciate.
Familial – you are more dialogue oriented than monologue projective, as well as patient when you are grateful.
Social – you are more caring of others and centered when you are grateful. You display more equity with those you lead or influence.
Physical – you are more poised than poisoned when you are grateful, more homeostatic than emotionally erratic.

Every situation contain something to be grateful for

Every situation is neutral until you subjectively bias your perceptions and label it otherwise. It inherently has both sides. It is neither positive, nor negative until you filter it through your values. Or polarize it to one side or another, and narrow it down with your temporary moral or ethical label.

There are at least two sides to every event in your life. It is not what happens to you that matter as much as how you perceive it. Your daily events can appear to be negative at first glance. And then a day, week, month, year or decade later they can appear to reveal their other positive side.

The speed in which you see both sides is a reflection of the wisdom you have and the breadth and depth of your awareness.

If I told you that you are ALWAYS:

Nice and never mean
Kind and never cruel
Generous and never stingy
Positive and never negative
Peaceful and never wrathful

Your intuitive bullshit meter would go off and let you know that is not the whole you.

If I told you that you were ALWAYS:

Mean and never nice
Cruel and never kind
Stingy and never generous
Negative and never positive
Wrathful and never peaceful

Your intuitive bullshit meter would again go off and let you know that that is not the whole you.

But if I told you that you are SOMETIMES:

Nice and sometimes mean
Kind and sometimes cruel
Generous and sometimes stingy
Positive and sometimes negative
Peaceful and sometimes wrathful

Your intuition would immediately say within that that is true.

Events or actions are neither positive nor negative

You are neither one label, nor another as a whole person, but at any one moment you could be perceived to be one or the other.

When your highest values in life appear to be supported you can display one side. But when your highest values appear to be challenged you can in turn display the exact opposite side.

So too for events in your life. They are neither positive nor negative until you, with your incomplete awareness, label them to be so.

When you see both sides simultaneously, you become grateful for the hidden order within your apparent chaos.

Whatever you label will run your life until you return it to balance and become grateful.

“Anything you are ungrateful for becomes baggage and anything you are grateful for becomes fuel.”

Wisdom is the instantaneous recognition that every:

Crisis is accompanied by a blessing
Challenge is accompanied by an opportunity
Door that is shut is accompanied by an open window

Wisdom is the synthesis and synchronicity of complementary opposites

The sooner you see both sides the wiser and more grateful you become.

Seeing only one side of an event will run your life until it’s complementary opposite side is revealed.

When you are infatuated with someone you are conscious of the positives and unconscious of the negatives. When you are resentful with someone you are conscious of the negatives and unconscious of the positives. You embrace your conscious and unconscious sides simultaneously when you become fully conscious and grateful.

Your intuition is attempting to awaken you to this wiser state of poise that makes you grateful.

Anything you are not grateful for, will run your life

Anything you cannot say thank you to will occupy space and time in your mind and run your life until you do.

The result of gratitude is what matters and what liberates your mind!

You can be accountable and diligent on your own and discover the hidden order. Or gratitude can be generated through self-reflection, which is wise and productive. You can even seek assistance from a knowledgeable specialist or facilitator to see the balance and become grateful.

“Once you see things on the way instead of in the way, you are set free of the bondage and burden of an incomplete and one sided emotional perspectives.”

A balanced objectivity is more empowering than emotionally biased perceptions.

Give yourself permission to see both sides and liberate your mind and life from unnecessary burdens.

A grateful mind opens up a loving heart.

Gratitude is the key that opens up the gateway of your heart. This allows the love that resides within to radiate to those you love.

If you’d love to learn more about opening the gateway of your heart consider Dr Demartini’s brilliant book: The Gratitude Effect.

The Gratitude Effect

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Divorce A Last Option? Consider These Steps First…

Human behaviouralist, Dr John Demartini, offers advice on successful action steps to reduce the probability of divorce.

Every person wishes to be loved and appreciated for who they are. If they are in a relationship where they feel their partner is over supportive, they will probably get bored. And if they are in a relationship with a person who over challenges them, they might get burned out.

A lasting relationship demands a healthy balance of support and challenge. When either support or challenge becomes extreme, it can result in a lack of fulfillment. This in turn leads to the consideration of either affairs or divorce.

To reduce this probability, there are things you can do first:

1. Determine what is truly most important to you both

Determine what you truly value, what is truly important to you, what you are dedicated to and what is truly meaningful to your life. Then determine what is most valuable and important to your partner. Determining your values and priorities and theirs is crucial.

(For more information on this, see Dr Demartini’s Value Determination)

2. List how your different values serve each other in the relationship

One of the greatest questions you will ever ask in a relationship, before you throw in the towel, is:

How is what your partner is dedicated to, what is most meaningful and important to them, helping you?

And how is what you are dedicated to, what is most meaningful and important to you, helping them?

Answer each one of these two questions 30 to 50 times. If you can’t see how what they are dedicated to is helping you fulfill what you are dedicated to, you will talk down on them and sabotage the relationship. Trying to change them and fix them will only lead to more frustration and as a result undermine the relationship.

It is wiser to see how their values serve you and how your values serves them.

Understanding each others values and how it contributes to what you are dedicated to, creates a relationship of mutual respect. You will listen to them with a dialogue instead of an alternating monologue.

3. Identify the traits in your partner which you dislike and own them 

Make a list of the specific traits or actions that you dislike, resent or despise in your partner, which makes you consider the idea of divorce. Then write down where and when you have displayed the same trait or action, and who saw that in you.

It is easy to judge another person and to be too proud to admit you have the same trait.

It is wiser to look within and find out where you’re doing the same that you see in this person.

This will already lessen the charge you have on your partner and also bring the decision of a divorce into a neutral state.

4. Write down the benefits 

Lastly, write at least 20 benefits of how them displaying the specific trait you, help you or serve you. Continue to write how this trait benefit or help you, until you are grateful for them.

When you can see how this first perceived negative trait is also serving you, you no longer wish to change this about them and you become grateful for them as they are. Appreciating your partner with both their negative and positive traits, will help you to love them unconditionally. And to make a decision of divorce is better to do from a place of unconditional love and gratitude.

Taking the time to work through these steps, might help you to save your relationship that could function under mutual love and appreciation. Loving and appreciating each other for who you are, might transform an unfulfilling relationship into something that can last. Divorce does not have to be your last option, you can always learn how to appreciate and love your partner more.

To learn more about the law of attraction consider Dr Demartini’s online learning program: Conscious Intention.

Divorce last option? Consider these steps first…

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Activate The Entrepreneur Within Yourself…

Anybody can be an entrepreneur! There is entrepreneurial spirit in each and every one of us!

The difference between those who take action on creating their dreams and those who don’t is one of two things. One is buying into one of the fears in the 7 areas of life and the other is not being clear on what it is that you would love to do.

Activate the entrepreneur within yourself! Break through the 7 fears or learn how to become clear on what it is that is most inspiring to you. Become an entrepreneur and make money out of doing what you love so you get to love what you do.

 The 7 fears are as follows:
1. Breaking morals and ethics of authorities

This is the fear of breaking away from accepted establishment norms, breaking established ethics and doing something you don’t believe will be acceptable to authority figures such as the church or government. With this fear you are subordinating or minimizing yourself to someone else.

2. Not being intelligent enough

Thinking that you are not creative or imaginative enough or that you don’t have a degree or the right credentials can stop you to become an entrepreneur. This can stop us from seeing our real capacity and make us shrink away from taking action to grow our inspiring ideas.

3. Failure in business or career

Having a fear that we are not going to succeed at our endeavors can sometimes be so overpowering that we lie to ourselves about our dreams and say to ourselves ‘it is not really important’.

4. Loss of money or not making enough money

Staying in a job that does not inspire us, because of the fear of losing money or not making enough money can hinder our entrepreneurial spirit.

5. Losing the respect of friends and family

People worry that family members may disapprove, that loved ones may leave and that their friends will reject them if they are not doing what these people see as ‘the right thing’.

6. Social rejection

This is worrying about what others will think of, that people won’t like you or that you won’t fit in.  Believing that someone else’s opinion is more important than yours can stop you from doing something that is really amazing.

7. Physical incapability

The fear of not having enough energy, not being strong enough or having the right look.

Dissolve these fears to activate the entrepreneur in you

To dissolve these fears you can write down 100 benefits of the thing that you fear occurring until you see that you get as many benefits as perceived drawbacks if the event occurs.

Fear is perception that we will experience more pain than pleasure, more drawbacks then benefits or more losses than gains.

In reality there are no one-sided events. When we balance our perceptions and we see that we get both challenge and support no matter the event, we dissolve the grip that fear has on our actions forward.

The Demartini Value Determination Process is a series of questions that can assist you to become crystal clear on what your most important areas of life are. When you know what they are you are able to then ask how you can make money out of doing what you most enjoy which leads you to living a life that inspires you.

When you know what direction to take and you don’t have fear holding you back, you begin taking focused action steps towards your dreams. Perseverance to an outcome over time adds up to success.

It is that simple to be an entrepreneur!

If you’d love to learn more about activating your inner entrepreneur consider Dr Demartini’s brilliant CD: Activating Your Entrepreneurial Spirit.

Activating Your Entrepreneurial Spirit

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Activate the Entrepreneur within yourself

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Appreciating Your Physical Body As It Is…

The greatest art form that exists on this planet is the human physical body – a magnificently structured temple of sacred architecture.

Are you grateful for your body? Some people are but most people take this wonderful gift of a physical body for granted. Many people complain about the shape of their body – I’m too fat, too thin, too short or too tall. They spend a great deal of time in front of the mirror focusing on what they perceive as imperfections, rather than focusing on its perfections.

Be grateful for your physical body as it is

Being grateful for your physical body can make the difference between experiencing wellness or illness in your life.

Some people criticize their bodies is because they compare themselves to a fantasy of a magazine cover.

I am convinced that for every part of our physical body we don’t like there is a part we admire. If we are putting ourselves down in one area, we are proud of another area.

We may not like our:

Thighs, but we admire our eyes
Thin hair, but we admire our skin
Shape of our body, but we like the shape of our lips and our smile and so on.

Even Supermodels have parts of their body that they don’t like

I worked with a supermodel in Canada who I thought was beautiful from head to toe but she didn’t think so. She focused on exactly half of her body she didn’t like.

What’s not to like?

She thought:

One of her eyes was off to one side if you looked from a certain angle
Her breasts weren’t balanced
The eyebrows was plucked too much and was too thin
One of her teeth was crooked, or so she thought
Her hair was always folding on one side

You get my point!

Her body had a balance of things she liked and disliked, and so does everybody else’s.

A balance of things we like and dislike about our bodies

We need this unique balance to keep us humble and to keep us growing. If we only had things we liked about ourselves, we would get puffed up, overly proud and alienate ourselves from other people.

Have you ever met people who thought they were all that, the people who were marvelous in every area and didn’t need to grow or evolve anymore? That’s right – you probably wanted to get away from them as soon as possible.

Begin to train yourself in becoming grateful for all parts of your physical body that you currently dislike. Think about your head – How can you be grateful for it? For your hair, scalp, eyes, skin, nose, lips, etc? Ask yourself, ‘How does this serve me?’

Keep asking yourself how that part of your body serves you until you are truly grateful for every part of it.

No matter what your physical body looks like, you have things you like and dislike, or even admire and despise, about yourself. Everyone practices the same math of fifty-fifty, right down the middle.

Both things you like and dislike are going to serve you in your life and the wisdom is appreciating this balance and being grateful for it. When you do this and take the time to see all parts of your body are serving you in your life to appreciate it for what it is, you empower yourself.

Recognize the magnificence of your physical body and find a way to look at it in a new way – with awe and gratitude!

Be grateful for your physical body

Start each week with a boost of inspiration from Dr John Demartini. To receive your Monday inspired quote click HERE.

If you’d love to learn more about appreciating your body consider Dr Demartini’s brilliant book: Count your Blessings.

Count your Blessings

Dr John Demartini, Founder of the Demartini Institute, International bestselling author, educator and consultant www.dr.demartini.com.

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