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How to Believe and Trust You’ll Find Your “Person”

When you were a little kid and imagined yourself in a relationship as an adult, how did you see it? Did you imagine yourself happy, having fun, laughing, and crying together? Did you imagine more happy days together than sad? Did you imagine growing and thriving together?

Whatever you imagined your ideal relationship to be, you can have it because you didn’t come to this earth NOT to have a relationship that feels joyful and instills peace in your heart.

When and why did you lose sight of your destiny and your truth?

Did someone say something to you? Did you just get older and more jaded? Relationship after relationship didn’t work out, so you eventually believed that feeling just “ok,” and surviving in a relationship and not thriving is sustainable? It doesn’t matter who or what took away your hope and belief that happy relationships exist; just know that that part of you is still inside- it’s just a matter of accessing it.

I don’t care what anyone says; love is the basis of life. Loving and feeling loved is EVERYTHING, and this goes for every kind of relationship – familial, platonic, and romantic; especially romantic!

When things aren’t going well in our love lives, everything else seems to fall apart, but you don’t need to be the victim of your circumstances.

You have a choice, and you can manifest and create the love you deserve versus settling and not being an active participant in your life.

You have the power to cultivate your ideal relationship; there’s no reason why you can’t have what you desire and deserve.

I was a guest on the “Let’s Pause Podcast” recently, and towards the end, they asked me what I believe are the three most important and inspirational words to leave the viewers with was, and this is what I told them:

#1 Intuition#2 Self-loveand# 3 Trust

 

# 1 Intuition:

When you have a strong relationship with your intuition, you will never have a regret again…EVER! You need to listen to your inner knowing as it is your compass; it guides you to the abundance, majesty and magic that is there for you, just waiting for you to be open to it!

# 2 Self-love: 

Self-love is the basis of everything in life. When you love yourself unconditionally, you will attract unconditional love. You don’t judge yourself, and others don’t judge you (or if they do, it won’t bother you). Cultivating self-love will help you lead by example as when you show people what it looks like and the fulfillment, joy, and peace it brings you, they will say things like, “I’ll have what she’s having!” Drinking from the well of self-love grants you freedom beyond your wildest dreams.

More on Self-Love Here!

# 3 Trust:

Can you trust that your past couldn’t have happened any other way? That everything is planned out, and that everything, the “good” and “bad,” ALL happened to lead you to where you are today in this very moment? Cultivating trust in yourself and the universe sets you up to be in the flow of life versus resisting the natural flow of life. No one’s life is perfect, and everyone has challenges. Embrace your challenges, then trust and see that they happened for a reason to help you learn and grow.

I speak to all of this to empower you to know that your love is out there, just waiting to meet you. You don’t need to become “more” of anything. Your strength of heart and self-love is already within you. You need to get past and heal anything (including you) that’s in your way that’s blocking you from accessing your authentic self, your self-love, and here’s how to do it!

Just think of the word “L-O-V-E!”

Let Go:

Let go of the past. Sticking around and dwelling in the past doesn’t serve any purpose, and the only thing that it does is it causes depression and prevents you from being able to bring in the right one for you.

If you feel like you have been struggling to let go of your past relationship and you find yourself ruminating over how you could’ve done it differently to yield a better outcome, you need to remind yourself to be present; bring yourself back to the present moment. Letting go doesn’t mean forgetting; au contraire. To me, letting go means remembering how you felt and using it as leverage. You don’t need to let go of your feelings; you’re letting go of the person.

Be grateful that you had the experience of knowing what it feels like to be in love. Use it as a basis for the bar that has been set, i.e. the “heart bar.” Now you know how much your heart can feel, so anything less than that will not be aligned with you. Understand that the person you end up with, you will feel as much if not more for them because the universe brings us “this or something better,” so set that intention!

(Be) Open:

Be open to whatever is meant for you. Stop resisting what the universe brings forth because there is a reason why it’s in your life. For example, say you go to an event, and you’re hoping to meet someone who floats your boat there, and you don’t – well- you never know who is there who could lead you to “The one.” You could be talking to someone and become friends, and then their best friend or sibling might end up being your soulmate… you never know.

Being open also means that your heart needs to be open no matter what happened in the past that closed your heart. You need to open it again so the universe knows that you are open for business, and when you meet someone, you need to take those walls down so that you can actually let someone in to see who you really are, which brings me to ….

(Be) Vulnerable:

Vulnerability means sharing who you are unapologetically, no matter what, with no attachment to the outcome – not caring how your partner will react and believing that if they love you unconditionally, they will not leave. As a matter of fact, when two people are supposed to be together, having the ability to truly share honestly, is how you connect and bond and stay together….

Evolve:

Be the best version of yourself possible. Do the work to really get to know yourself and love yourself to manifest your match. It’s attractive when you meet someone who is whole and secure; they know who they are and what they have to offer, so the same goes for you; be that whole person who is already happy in your life, and when you meet your match, they will only add to your happiness. Be “self-full.” It’s not selfish or selfless- it’s being one hundred percent fulfilled in your life before meeting the one. I always say that the most beautiful relationships are the ones where two whole people who are full of light come together and create more light and magic in this world.

No matter what your relationship status is today, use this day to set your intention for the year ahead, actually for your life ahead!

Know that whatever is for the highest good of all concerned will come forth at the right time; all you need to do is stay conscious and do all that is in your power to show up authentically in this world and love yourself unconditionally. Believe in yourself and watch as your incredible life unfolds. You will bring in your “person” at the perfect time.

Never forget to trust the timing of your life. Always remember to believe in yourself and honor your dreams because you CAN make your dreams a reality. Tell the little one inside that you’ve got this and together you will create all that your heart desires!

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New Year, New You- How Will You Choose to Live Your Life?

Oh, last year was a year! What do you really want out of this fresh new year and out of life for that matter?

Last year validated and highlighted over and over again, the fragility of life. 2020 showed us that we really are all one; not one race, gender, or socioeconomic status was untouched by the pandemic. Knowing that we are all one, how can you make this year ahead more conscious – can you muster up all of the compassion you have inside and exude it each and every day?

2020 was humbling to all.

It taught us and inspired us to live in the moment more and take more risks. The old adage “life is short” has never meant more. As we saw people unnecessarily taken from us, it caused us to pause, to take a look at our lives and the fragility of every aspect of our time on earth. We now view our lives and the people in them with more preciousness and gratitude.

Last year caused us to look at our lives and relationships, to keep what is authentic and fulfilling, and end what does not serve our highest good. Living in our truth and our integrity has never felt better.

Last year made us more grateful for things we used to take for granted, like the freedom to go on a date actually INSIDE a restaurant, meet a friend for coffee, catch up with our colleagues around the water cooler, and to attend school … IN a school.

There will be a time in the future when this difficult time will seem like a distant memory. However, no matter how much time passes, I hope that you learned to appreciate these freedoms that the virus temporarily took away, and when you go on a date IN a restaurant or meet your friend for coffee at your favorite café, I hope that you remember to treasure that freedom even more, as life is about connections. It has been hard for some people to stay connected under the circumstances. Remember how lucky you are to have the freedom to be together physically – no masks, no fear of “catching it.”

I hope that this year has brought back some lost connections, missed connections, and even bruised connections, and I hope that relationships that had been pushed aside became stronger. I hope that the new connections you have made have been planted in joy and gratitude.

I am looking forward to the lifting and clearing of the collective fear and fear-filled energy that’s in the air. I believe that things will start to feel lighter and more “light-filled” as we progress into this new year.

Any previously weighted-down shoulders won’t feel as heavy, and that goes for hearts as well. The world’s heart has been heavy. I am hopeful that with this new year will come new hope, new beginnings, and new awareness for the collective evolvement, allowing people to return to being able to get back on track and focus on getting on with their lives.

What does getting back on track mean to you? Perhaps you’ve experienced a metamorphosis of some kind, and you feel called to start a new path. Let that inspiration lead the way. Don’t feel like you need to go back to the life you were living.

Live and love fiercely and fearlessly. If last year taught us anything, it taught us that LIFE. IS. FRAGILE! Therefore, we must take chances. Make this the year that you get out of your way and lead with your heart. With every beat, time goes on, and it’s another second that turns into history before you know it. Be intentional about your heartbeats and your moments. Don’t let time slip through your hands. Use those strong hands to reach out and get what you want. The past is in the past, and it brought us to where we are today, so we are grateful.

The future doesn’t exist either, so you must be present if you want to live intentionally and lead with your heart. Being present and living in the moment has never screamed out to us as much as it is screaming now.

The universe is pleading to us, “Don’t worry about the outcome…”

I am sending out an abundance of prayers to those who have lost loved ones. Their lives were blessings to so many people. Life can seem unfair. I encourage you to be gentle with yourselves and take the time needed to grieve and do it in your own way. Honor whatever comes up that is in service of your self-care and self-love.

I don’t believe that COVID “stopped” things. However, it may appear to many as being the case –  things will get done at the right time. Trust that it hasn’t been the right time yet. I do believe that this was a time and an opportunity to deepen our knowledge of who we are and what we truly want in this life.

In many ways, this past year was a blessing in terms of slowing down…. A LOT and reflecting. It has been a time to look at your life and see what is and is not working and fitting and not fitting. This year has been a time to get clear on where you want to go in life while cultivating gratefulness for the present moment and all of the blessings that come with being present.

The present is truly a gift. Each breath we take is truly a blessing. I know that we will forever be grateful for each moment and each breath and never take our lives and our loved ones’ lives for granted ever again.

I’m sending so much light and love!

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The Art of REALLY Living and Feeling Alive

There aren’t many “for sure’s” in life, but one thing that is for sure is that we were all born, and we will all die at some point.

Are you living a life that makes you happy?

Do you feel fulfilled?

Are you learning? Are you growing?

Have you cultivated loving relationships in your life where you feel supported and loved unconditionally, and you do the same for those around you?

If someone told you, you had six months to live what would you do?

Or would you simply not change a thing because you are utterly and completely fulfilled already?

Life is hard! We often find ourselves wishing time away to get to the next phase if we are going through something uncomfortable. We feel so desperate to move on instead of experiencing the passage of time. When people move too fast, they miss the lessons, the growth, and the learning opportunities that life presents to us daily.

We are all characters in this performance of life. Looking at life from an elevated point of view can be helpful when you find yourself in a challenging time of life; a time that you’d rather bypass instead of going through it. People and situations come into your life to challenge you. Are you going to let them stop you and hold you back from your purpose on this planet? Are you going to make up an excuse like:

“Because I got dumped or I didn’t get that job; they don’t believe in me, so forget about it- I’m not going after my dreams!” Please, don’t live your life like that. Don’t let anything or anyone get in the way of you pursuing whatever it is that sets your soul on fire.

At the end of your life, you want to be able to look back and feel like you LIVED.

What does that mean? It’s actually pretty subjective, just like love. You might look at a couple and think, “I wouldn’t want to be in that relationship;” meanwhile, the couple is perfectly happy.

Whatever really living means to you is perfect for you. Really living to me, means there is meaning, fulfillment, and enjoyment in my life. It also means that I challenge myself to go above and beyond what I think I can do. I know that I feel stronger and even more prepared to tackle the next big thing because of everything I have accomplished in life up until now; especially the things that seemed to be extra “big” or challenging.

Accomplishments are essential to really living, but what matters the most, are the people in your life.

Your loved ones are there enjoying your highs with you and supporting you through your lows, as you do the same for them. The mutual unconditional love all leads to a sense and a mentality of really living life and feeling “alive!”

Really living also means feeling the essence of life; squeezing all of the humanness you possibly can out of one life. Feel what you feel so you can experience life fully. For example, as adults, we teach our children all about “Big” feelings; the whole gamut from happy to sad and everything in between. Why do adults feel like they are exempt from feeling all the big feelings? The truth is, it doesn’t matter what age you are, you should have BIG feelings and fully express yourself always, no matter what. Use that beautiful voice that you have to share what’s in your heart.

You never want to look back and wish you would’ve said something you wanted to say.

The more you share your feelings with someone, the closer and more connected you will feel. The more connected we are with our loved ones, the more connectedness and less loneliness there will be in the world.

Really living means feeling connected and being present enough to enjoy your precious relationships. In order to appreciate the present moment and to get as much out of life as possible, you need to identify your meaning and purpose.

All of us came to this earth with our own purpose. Look inside and find what your purpose is.Once you live a purposeful life, your life will naturally feel more meaningful.

What is the point of living? Love

Why do we stay alive? Love

Why are we here? To love, grow, learn lessons, and have fun.

My mom has been such a brilliant example of the importance of fun; my mom knows how to really live! She has always told me that it’s important to “play” in life and have someone to “play” with! If you allow yourself to lighten up and not take things too seriously, you will find that playing can enlighten and enliven your life.

When you look at the big picture, we are here for such a short time, and every portion of life is like a slice of a cake. Each segment of life has its own sweetness (value). There are positives and negatives to all segments. You need to go through every slice to get to the next “slice of life.” In the ideal lifetime, you grow and learn from each slice, appreciating the sweetness, even more, the fuller (more fulfilled) you get from eating the cake.

The key is to be present throughout all of the slices of life.

My dad pointed out to me a while ago that you have no freedom and no responsibility in the first portion of your life. Once you go off to college, you have total freedom and not a lot of responsibility. When you get to be in the real world, you have complete freedom and a lot of responsibility.

It would’ve been incredible if we could’ve taken advantage of just how cool that time of life was with no responsibility and total freedom. But, when you’re in that period, you feel invincible, and death is so far away that you don’t appreciate life as much as you could. There’s a book called “The Five Invitations” by Frank Ostaseski that addresses how it’s actually a positive thing to think about your own mortality and keep it in the back of your mind. Your life is not over. Do what you can to take advantage of every moment that you still have left of life so that when you look back, you will know that you had the opportunity to enjoy your life, and you did.

I remember I was about eleven years old; I was doing homework in my room one night when suddenly a rush of sadness came upon me as I started to think about life and all of its stages. I became saddened as I thought about how people get to a certain point in life where they have accomplished a lot, and then what do they do? Do they just stop working and sit around all day doing nothing, feeling bored and sad? I pondered and contemplated, wrestling with this new idea that was disturbing to me. After a little time had passed, I shifted into pure excitement, realizing that life doesn’t need to be that way. I shifted into a more positive outlook.

I had the awareness that we all have a choice in life.

I had answered my own queries.

I burst into my parents’ room because I couldn’t wait to tell them what I had discovered. My dad was in his dressing room, changing out of his work clothes, and I marched over to him and announced that he had to stop what he was doing because I had uncovered the key to living a long life. I explained to him that no one ever has to feel bored or sad in life when they get older because as long as you are always setting goals one after the other and challenging yourself, you will always have something to learn and enjoy in life. If you have someone to share all of this leaning and joy with, then it’s even better (the little romantic in me had to add that piece in)!

After my dad got over the shock factor that his little eleven-year-old girl shared these profound philosophical thoughts with him, he nodded his head and told me that he agreed with me and that I was wise beyond my years. To me, this was normal as my brain was always trying to figure out the wonders of the world and the wonders of life. It’s who I am, so I didn’t feel extra wise, but I took the compliment, gave my dad a massive squeeze, and then went back to my room to finish my homework. I spent the rest of my night gossiping on the phone with my friends, who brought me back to acting like an average ten-year-old again. It’s as if I was “Supergirl,” student and normal kid by day, and philosopher at night (and then back to a normal eleven-year girl gossiping with my friends on the phone about the cute boys at school).

It’s the quality of what you choose to do in life and the quality of the people you choose to surround yourself with that matters because life is short.

You don’t need to be doing a million projects or jobs at once. It’s about finding one quality goal at a time, something you are passionate about, and genuinely care about, or what is the point?

Meaning, purpose, and love are what life is all about.

Have you ever thought about death in terms of how it relates to life? Thinking about death to fully live can be life-changing. At the end of each day, your goal should be to look back at the day, and regardless of what happened, feel grateful for your life and the people in it.

Your life is not perfect. My life is not perfect, but our lives are perfect for us.Do what it takes to start loving your life and really living your life before it’s too late.

Tell those you love that you love them. Find a goal to accomplish, and then when you achieve it, find another one. Enjoy every day to its fullest. Get up early to watch the sunrise and go to beautiful places to watch the sunset. Through it all, remember to enjoy your precious life with the precious people lucky enough to share it with you.

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The Importance of Energetic Alignment and Raising your Vibration When it Comes to Love

Have you ever wondered why you “click” more with some people than others? Most people refer to that as chemistry. I refer to it as an “Energetic Alignment.”

Energetic alignment means that your energy is a match with someone else’s energy.

You will not vibe with everyone, but when you DO vibe, it’s an incredible feeling.

We are all made up of energy and actually, everything is made up of energy- not just people. When you fall in love, you fall in love with someone’s energy, not the actual person, which is fascinating to me!

The reason why aligned energy is so powerful in manifesting is that everything is a reflection, so you want your energy to be on point and up to par to attract the right energy match for you!

When you are intrigued and feel alive in someone’s presence, it’s because your energies are aligned, and they are reflecting a part of YOU, to you. For example, if you are sitting at a table with your date at dinner and you feel lit up inside, that’s a fantastic indication that your energies are aligned and the wonderful things that you see in that person, YOU actually have inside, so that’s why it feels so incredible and magnetic.

A soulmate feels like “home” because your energies align so well.

Energetic alignment is crucial in manifesting the right person for you. There are tons of random couples in the world. Anyone can get married, but to marry the RIGHT one for you is a different story; it’s different when there’s a deep connection. It’s an outer-worldly connection versus a random surface relationship.

Click here to learn more about aligned couples!

If you aren’t in touch with your intuition and you’re not checking in with your feelings and how it “feels” energetically in your date’s presence, you might miss it.

If you are too focused on fear, you might not be tuned-in enough to see what’s right in front of you. On the flip side, if you are only looking at someone’s surface, you will get a surface relationship and miss having the opportunity to feel pure bliss!

Ideally, you want your energy and vibration to be as high and as authentically “you” as possible to manifest your match, but what does it mean to be vibrating at a high vibration or high-frequency level?

Operating at a high frequency means that you are mentally and emotionally healthy, happy, and thriving.

You are optimistic and have a positive attitude. You BELIEVE that good things are going to happen for you. You look at everything in life as happening FOR you, not TO you. Everything is an opportunity for growth and upliftment. There’s no victim mode, only great, high-vibe-ing, and THRIVING mode. There’s no believing in lack or scarcity; only abundance.

When you are operating at a high-frequency vibration, you are open to receiving, and you are in the flow of life; things can happen the way they are supposed to.

It is helpful to be aware that like energy attracts like energy. For example, if your vibration and energy are low, you will attract a low-energy partner. If your vibration is high, you are more likely to attract those positive, motivating, and motivated people into your life that you desire because you are probably bouncing with high energy and a positive attitude. When you are operating at a high vibration, opportunities seem to fall in your lap. You are in the FLOW.

When you are in the flow of life, you’ve left the past in the past and you are in the here and now.There’s no stagnant energy holding you back or preventing things from coming in; it’s pure freedom, and you are FREE.

Once you feel like you’re residing at a high vibration, you won’t want to lose the momentum and the incredible feelings. Make sure that you do everything possible to protect yourself from negative and stressful people and circumstances and make sure that you are practicing self-care. Be aware of your inner world, because anxiety and stress can 100% affect your energy and vibrations if you let them.

If you have relationship stress, financial stress, job stress, or friends or family stress, it could affect you and keep you existing in “low-vibration land,” but you have the power to rise above and not let those things affect you. Trust that everything happens in divine timing, and you will get through the tough times by staying strong in who you are and keeping your vibration high.

Does having a high vibration sound like something you would like to cultivate in your life? Look no further. Read on to discover ten ways to raise your vibration and keep it that way.

#1. Be Aware of Your Thoughts

Everything you think, say, or feel becomes your reality. Every single thought that comes into your head has an impact on you. When you change those thoughts for the positive, your reality will become positive too.

I know it’s easier said than done when you’re going through a difficult or low-vibration time; however, the next time a negative thought shows up in your head, take the time to acknowledge it, thank it for showing up, and then dismiss it and turn it around for the positive.

#2. Be grateful

When you are filled with gratefulness, the universe naturally brings you more reasons to feel grateful because the universe brings us what we focus on.

Making a gratitude list shifts your vibrations from focusing on what you DON’T have to what is already abundant in your life. There is more to be grateful for than you could possibly imagine and more abundance out there just waiting for you to be open to receiving it!

#3. Self-Forgiveness

Forgive yourself for anything that you feel you have done wrong. The universe has already forgiven you, so you need to forgive yourself. Staying in a negative place filled with guilt keeps you in a low vibration. Instead of feeling guilty, replace it with self-forgiveness, and your vibration will automatically rise.

#4. Meditate

Meditation helps to calm you down and puts you in a peaceful state of mind. Sit in a comfortable position, close your eyes, and breathe in and out. Do this for as long or as little time as you wish. Too often, we rush through our days with a scattered brain, leaving us in a state of anxiety and stress. A little meditation can make massive shifts in raising your vibration.

#5. Visualize What you Want

If you want to bring in your soulmate to your life, start to visualize what life would be like with this person. Imagine walking down the street with this person, sharing a romantic dinner, or a tropical vacation. Simply imagining and visualizing how you will feel when you are with this person can simulate it. Suddenly, you will start to feel those amazing feelings, and your vibration has been lifted.

#6. Exercise

Vibration requires movement. The more you move, the more your vibrations flow. So, get Active! Exercise, dance, go swimming, or run around the block. Do whatever it is that you desire to do. The happier you feel, the more you will draw in happy experiences because you are operating at a different frequency.

#7. Drink Water

Make sure you drink plenty of water to assist your body in flushing out toxicity daily. Toxicity has a significant impact on our vibration, so we must do what we can to reduce its effects within us and around us. Make sure that you drink water from a glass, not plastic.

#8. Practice Being in Service to Others

Joy raises your vibration and helps people feel less depressed and anxious. I am always doing my best to spread the word to help inspire people to know the extraordinary benefits of service.

Giving to someone else (without expecting anything in return) shifts your thinking from “I don’t have enough or LACK mentality” to “I have MORE than enough to give to others. Being kind brings you to a high vibration. If you talk poorly about others or mistreat others, your vibration will suffer, and you will exist in negative and “low vibration land.”

#9. Eat Healthy

Some foods vibrate at high frequencies, and some at lower frequencies. Berries have a high vibration as well as spinach and all greens. A greasy taco and nachos, not so much. Eat organic and natural as much as possible. If you are taking in foods covered in chemicals and pesticides, or foods found within plastic packaging, it will leave you vibrating at a lower frequency. On the other hand, eat Organic and natural, and feel the high vibrations flow throughout your entire system.

#10. LAUGH

Laughter is good for the soul.

When you laugh, your body physically relaxes, which relaxes your whole system; body, mind, and soul.

Find the person who makes you laugh the most and spend some time with them and see how you feel after. I guarantee that you will feel lighter and higher, existing with a higher vibration, which gives you a natural HIGH!

The great news about raising your vibration is that it has nothing to do with anyone else. You have a choice to operate at a low vibration, or you can choose to rise above. The higher you vibe, the faster you will manifest love because the higher the vibe, the more authentic you’ll be showing up in life. When you show up authentically in life, everything unfolds beautifully right before your eyes in the exact way that it is supposed to unfold.

Cheers to high vibes! I’m sending you lots of love and light on your path to finding the authentic you, and on your journey to the love who is patiently waiting to meet you.

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