Mark Anthony Neal's Blog, page 388
May 12, 2019
Why Amazon Is Gobbling Up Failed Malls

Published on May 12, 2019 19:06
Rapsody Takes 'The Bar Exam'

Published on May 12, 2019 18:47
How Class Shaped Which Enslaved People Became Free

Published on May 12, 2019 18:35
A Black Single Mother’s Day by Lisa B. Thompson

A Black Single Mother’s Day by Lisa B. Thompson | @DrLisaBThompson | NewBlackMan (in Exile)
After thirty years of marriage my mother and father divorced. I was in high school when she officially became a black single mother. I’m a mother, but I have never been a wife. My son’s birth was planned and he was born into a loving, committed relationship that lasted longer than most American marriages. When it ended I officially became a black single mother too. I know many black single mothers and they each earned and wear that title in their own way. I find it exasperating that single parenthood is still considered an affliction or a curse that dooms children to failure—personal and professional—and their parents to scorn and financial ruin. That wasn’t the case for me as the product of a “broken” home, and from all indicators it won’t be the case for my son either.
Children are being born to unmarried women at higher rate than ever before. According to the National Center for Health Statistics in 2017 “nearly 40% of all births were to unmarried women.” Black single motherhood adds another level of complexity to that statistic. In fact 70% of Black children are born to single mothers. The U.S. Census Bureaudetermined that “one-third of all Black children in the United States under the age of 18 live with unmarried mothers.”The conventional belief is that children raised in single parent households are destined to live in poverty, end up incarcerated, and repeat the cycle of out of wedlock births. Over fifty years ago Moynihan Reportlabeled households led by black women as pathological. While institutional racism, high unemployment, the prison industrial complex, healthcare disparities, segregated schools, and other forms of discrimination get a pass, policy makers and arm chair critics continue to lay the blame for poor life outcomes on black single mothers. This is maddening.
It’s time for a fuller narrative about black single motherhood. Some of these woman became single mothers through adoption, some are widows, some are divorced, while others were never married. Many of the black single mothers I know are highly educated, and wield considerable cultural capital and political influence yet we rarely if ever see those stories depicted in media or studied by sociologists. If we paid attention we might learn that they are often the ones advocating for more humane policies, institutions, and communities that benefit everyone. It’s important to me that we share the full range of stories because the corrosive discourse about black single mothers diminishes all black women.
This not meant to be a critique of marriage—some of my best friends are raising their children in healthy, joyful marriages. I support marriage as well as all other kinds of families with or without children. I’m also not diminishing the struggles that single parents face. It can be quite sobering, especially when it’s 3 am and your child is running a high fever but that bottle of Motrin in the back of the medicine cabinet has expired. It is hard, very hard, but all life-changing experiences include adversity.
I just want to push back against the foregone conclusion that the lives of black single mothers are fraught, tragic, and desolate. Some of these mothers expose their children to the arts, money management, international travel, coding, and sports. It’s also important to note that most Black single mothers don’t raise their children alone. Many successfully co-parent with former partners. Most of the children I know are also showered with wisdom and love from a mighty tribe of extended family, and friends. Is that the case for all black single mothers? No, but we learn little about the complexity of black motherhood if we ignore families that defy stereotypes.
A new generation of black single mothers are raising their children and refuse to be shamed, silenced, or shunned. So on Mother’s Day this year don’t look down on black single mothers with pity, or hold them up as Super Mamas. Those mothers and their children just might be living their best, albeit imperfect, lives.
***
Lisa B. Thompson is a playwright and associate professor of African and African Diaspora Studies at UT Austin. She is the author of Beyond the Black Lady: Sexuality and the New African American Middle Class and the plays Single Black Female , Underground, and Monroe. Her new play The Mamaloguesabout the lives of black middle class single mothers opens at the The Vortex in Austin in August. Follow her on Twitter @drlisabthompson and on IG @theplayprof.
Published on May 12, 2019 07:00
May 11, 2019
Crazy/Genius: Why Should We Care About Privacy?

Published on May 11, 2019 14:37
May 10, 2019
Director Sacha Jenkins on 'Wu-Tang Clan: Of Mics And Men'

Published on May 10, 2019 19:38
May 9, 2019
Cite Black Women S1:E6: Dr. Ashley Farmer

Published on May 09, 2019 19:42
S2*EP 3 | Professional Black Girl | FRESH JOHNSON

Published on May 09, 2019 19:24
Left of Black S9: E17: Curating The Legacy of Dick Gregory

Published on May 09, 2019 19:16
Racial Divides on Display as Red Sox Players of Color Boycott White House Visit

Published on May 09, 2019 18:47
Mark Anthony Neal's Blog
- Mark Anthony Neal's profile
- 30 followers
Mark Anthony Neal isn't a Goodreads Author
(yet),
but they
do have a blog,
so here are some recent posts imported from
their feed.
