Constance Daley's Blog - Posts Tagged "internet"
Selling My Fantasies
When I set out to write erotica, I had two choices. I could write what I wanted and hope that I was a good enough writer that I would eventually attract an audience, or I would write to a specific fetish and hope to make money that way. Looking over the available erotica it is obvious that most writers opt for number two. There are large amounts of writers who focus on only one fetish, and they are selling you your own fantasies filtered through their imagination. If you're really into gangbangs, this can be great for you because it's easy to find hundreds of gangbangs stories. But I opted for the first choice.
So unlike many erotica writers, I'm not selling you your fantasies. I'm selling you mine. This is the way it always used to be. When I bought a collection of erotic shorts, I never knew what I was getting. I put my trust in the authors (and even more so in the editor) that even if they're particular fantasy wasn't my own, they would write it in such a way that I could still join in. Nowadays that's a lot harder to do, because ebooks have made it so simple to target every specific fetish.
This puts me in an odd position because I feel like the margin for error is much smaller for me than for other writers. If you are really into the idea of having sex with Bigfoot, then I'm guessing you'll cut the author a lot of slack regarding characters, plot, and description because you're getting to read about having sex with Bigfoot. I don't have that luxury. I have to write in such a way that my fantasy can become your fantasy for the few minutes we spend together.
That's the bad thing about writing the way I do. The good thing is that I get to write what I want, and that I get a chance to share myself with others. I get a chance to validate my fantasies in the minds of others. I get to know that, if I do a good enough job, I am helping someone get off on the exact things that I get off on. But the best thing is that I get a chance to broaden people's sexual horizons.
I fear in this day and age that it is too simple to have a very specialized sexuality. With the internet it is possible for a person to never range outside their existing proclivities. I think that's a bad thing. I think challenging ourselves and our sexuality is a healthy way to learn about ourselves and our partners. I'm hoping that people who read my stories learn a little bit about themselves while reading them, just as I learn a lot about myself by writing them.
So unlike many erotica writers, I'm not selling you your fantasies. I'm selling you mine. This is the way it always used to be. When I bought a collection of erotic shorts, I never knew what I was getting. I put my trust in the authors (and even more so in the editor) that even if they're particular fantasy wasn't my own, they would write it in such a way that I could still join in. Nowadays that's a lot harder to do, because ebooks have made it so simple to target every specific fetish.
This puts me in an odd position because I feel like the margin for error is much smaller for me than for other writers. If you are really into the idea of having sex with Bigfoot, then I'm guessing you'll cut the author a lot of slack regarding characters, plot, and description because you're getting to read about having sex with Bigfoot. I don't have that luxury. I have to write in such a way that my fantasy can become your fantasy for the few minutes we spend together.
That's the bad thing about writing the way I do. The good thing is that I get to write what I want, and that I get a chance to share myself with others. I get a chance to validate my fantasies in the minds of others. I get to know that, if I do a good enough job, I am helping someone get off on the exact things that I get off on. But the best thing is that I get a chance to broaden people's sexual horizons.
I fear in this day and age that it is too simple to have a very specialized sexuality. With the internet it is possible for a person to never range outside their existing proclivities. I think that's a bad thing. I think challenging ourselves and our sexuality is a healthy way to learn about ourselves and our partners. I'm hoping that people who read my stories learn a little bit about themselves while reading them, just as I learn a lot about myself by writing them.
