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I've been thinking about confidence based on Goodness and intent-to-Goodness, instead of the more typical supports for Confidence.


Message by (707) 322-0361: Confidence, hmm, do you mean self-confidence, or credence/trust, or secret?, Saturday, October 13 2018, 11:10 PMmore_vertConfidence, hmm, do you mean self-confidence, or credence/trust, or secret?


Message by (707) 322-0361: Is it confidence based upon goodness, or vice-versa? Seems to me that if goodness is already established, then confidence adds nothing. If I am confident in Joe's ability to set up the zip line correctly and safely, because I know he is a good person who intends good for all, and yet we all end up in the river nonetheless; Joe's goodness is not impugned by the fact of the accident, not should my confidence in him be. Goodness doesn't confer magical powers over the fact of the inherent uncertainty which we accept as part of the world. Once I've determined the goodness of something, my confidence in it adds nothing, because win, lose or draw, it remains good. It's like once goodness is determined, nothing else is needed,. No matter the outcome or eventualities, the good has it covered., Saturday, October 13 2018, 11:32 PMmore_vertIs it confidence based upon goodness, or vice-versa? Seems to me that if goodness is already established, then confidence adds nothing. If I am confident in Joe's ability to set up the zip line correctly and safely, because I know he is a good person who intends good for all, and yet we all end up in the river nonetheless; Joe's goodness is not impugned by the fact of the accident, nor should my confidence in him be. Goodness doesn't confer magical powers over the fact of the inherent uncertainty which we accept as part of the world. Once I've determined the goodness of something, my confidence in it adds nothing, because win, lose or draw, it remains good. It's like once goodness is determined, nothing else is needed. No matter the outcome or eventualities, the good has it covered.


Message by (707) 322-0361: It's like, I only know human goodness and the kinds of goodness that are available to me as a human. I don't know flawless goodness, because nothing I have ever encountered in the universe is without flaw. Perfect is unavailable to me; it is as conceptually impossible as a fourth primary for, or the end of natural numbers. Goodness already assumes imperfection. And goodness is the first ordination; my attachment to or desire for any particular outcome cannot take precedence over goodness, and if I say it does, then I have lost both goodness and purpose, which is to lose all meaning., Saturday, October 13 2018, 11:57 PMmore_vertIt's like, I only know human goodness and the kinds of goodness that are available to me as a human. I don't know flawless goodness, because nothing I have ever encountered in the universe is without flaw. Perfect is unavailable to me; it is as conceptually impossible as a fourth primary, or the end of natural numbers. Goodness already assumes imperfection. And goodness is the first ordination; my attachment to or desire for any particular outcome cannot take precedence over goodness, and if I say it does, then I have lost both goodness and purpose, which is to lose all meaning.



Message by (707) 322-0361: I don't know if any of this is relevant to what you were thinking of, but it's what your remark made me think of., Sunday, October 14 2018, 12:00 AMmore_vertI don't know if any of this is relevant to what you were thinking, but it's what your remark made me think of.


Message by You: I was certainly thinking of Self-confidence. A Perspective-Shift which enables feeling more confident based on a different parameter., Sunday, October 14 2018, 10:31 AMmore_vertI was certainly thinking of Self-confidence. A Perspective-Shift which enables feeling more confident based on a different parameter.


Message by You: Thinking of it in the way you laid out with Joe, yes certainly competence and confidence should not be confused, or confidence inappropriately assigned. With Good Person Joe, on balance, that Goodness will, for me, encourange a confidence when compared to non-good person Joe. here I don't mean bad, but simply someone to whom Goodness is not first and foremost, nt something they are particularly focused on and strive to be in everything they do. Thus, Good Joe would tend to be diligent and thorough and careful and so on. Also, more importantly, Good Joe would not take chaces, especially where the safety of other's is concerned. Even more importantly, since Humility and Modesty are so intertwined with the Good Persona and mindset, Good-Joe is unlikely to overestimate his abilities, more likely to understimate, and thus, I typically would indeed have confidence in Good- Joe and the zipline. All conditional on Joe not being a Good fool. There are such. Like children who become immersed in beliefs which can lead to the overestimation of abilities and such problems. Thus in the case of Good Joe, a modicum of Sensibility is part of the assignment iof Good. This was not my focus with the comment but it is interesting when thought through. I have actually used the Good Joe perspective with employees. I never bother wih qualifications much,, If you were a good person, i's hire you. No problem. Details could be learned. But lol, some good people could also get overwhelmed somtimes, unable to handle the trust placed on them, which really wasn't much, and didn't trust themselves to fulfill even the basic requirements on their own. They sometimes, purely via inappropriate imagination, created all sorts of stress for themselves because of extrapolating failure because they did not *specifically* know what to do. But that's a seprarate long story., Sunday, October 14 2018, 10:48 AMmore_vertThinking of it in the way you laid out with Joe, yes certainly competence and confidence should not be confused, or confidence inappropriately assigned. With Good Person Joe, on balance, that Goodness will, for me, encourage a confidence when compared to non-good person Joe. Here I don't mean bad, but simply someone to whom Goodness is not first and foremost, not something they are particularly focused on and strive to be in everything they do. Thus, Good Joe would tend to be diligent and thorough and careful and so on. Also, more importantly, Good Joe would not take chances, especially where the safety of others is concerned. Even more importantly, since Humility and Modesty are so intertwined with the Good Persona and mindset, Good-Joe is unlikely to overestimate his abilities, more likely to underestimate, and thus, I typically would indeed have confidence in Good-Joe and the zip line. All conditional on Joe not being a Good fool. There are such. Like children who become immersed in beliefs which can lead to the overestimation of abilities and such problems. Thus in the case of Good Joe, a modicum of Sensibility is part of the assignment of Good. This was not my focus with the comment but it is interesting when thought through. I have actually used the Good Joe perspective with employees. I never bothered with qualifications much, If you were a good person, I'd hire you. No problem. Details could be learned. But lol, some good people could also get overwhelmed sometimes, unable to handle the trust placed on them, which really wasn't much, and didn't trust themselves to fulfil even the basic requirements on their own. They sometimes, purely via inappropriate imagination, created all sorts of stress for themselves because of extrapolating failure because they did not *specifically* know what to do. But that's a separate long story.


Message by You: To come back to my original perspective, I have been thinking of Confidence in Self, based on other criteria than say Accomplishments, recognition, status, credibility etc. Or even competence, which is a large factor of confidence usually. Good People, in my experience, those who have Goodness and being good as a predominant psychology, in my experience, tend to be modest and humble, they also tend to be earnest, sincere, honest, diligent, thorough, willing to make effort, considerate, underestimating of self, and tend to lack self-confidence. Because such Good People also tend to have a good Awareness of their failings, and what they still need to learn. That last especially a restriction on confidence. Indeed, the more they learn, and thus the more they become Aware of how much more there is to learn, the less confident they become in themselves. A peculiar problem. A ever-present fear or concern is being egotistical, or over-estimation., Sunday, October 14 2018, 10:56 AMmore_vertTo come back to my original perspective, I have been thinking of Confidence in Self, based on other criteria than say accomplishments, recognition, status, credibility etc. Or even competence, which is a large factor of confidence usually. Good People, those who have Goodness and being good as a predominant psychology, in my experience, tend to be modest and humble, they also tend to be earnest, sincere, honest, diligent, thorough, willing to make effort, considerate, underestimating of self, and tend to lack self-confidence, because such Good People also tend to have a good Awareness of their failings, and what they still need to learn. That last especially a restriction on confidence. Indeed, the more they learn, and thus the more they become Aware of how much more there is to learn, the less confident they become in themselves. A peculiar problem. An ever-present fear or concern is being egotistical, or over-estimation.


Message by You: However, I was thinking that such Good People can simply base their personal Confidence on the *fact* of their Goodness. Something they are sure of, do not doubt, a bedrock of their being. When thought-through, an excellent basis for Self-Confidence, as the many many good qualities which result from Goodness are all qualities supportive of Self-Confidence., Sunday, October 14 2018, 11:00 AMmore_vertHowever, I was thinking that such Good People can simply base their personal Confidence on the *fact* of their Goodness. Something they are sure of, do not doubt, a bedrock of their being. When thought-through, an excellent basis for Self-Confidence, as the many many good qualities which result from Goodness are all qualities supportive of Self-Confidence.


Message by You: Why does this matter? Self-doubt is ofc a corrosion of the soul and spirit, and when inappropriate, causes a weariness-of-being, which reduces not only the Joy of Living but also effectiveness an efficiency. Where Confidence for the Good person is a particular issue is in social interactions with those not bent on the Good. With mindsets immersed in a hierarchical perspective to whom evaluation on foolish criteria is important and predominant. Here Confidence in Self is huge and does indeed make a substantial difference. If only to avoid the ridiculousness of unnecessary "pecking" from the chicken mindset which cannot conceive of equality. Lack of *overt* confidence is immediately seized upon as an opportunity to "peck" and thus cause unnecessary misery, stress or complication. Further, even in non-hierarchical interactions, abscence of perceived confidence, not necessarily a lack, or self-doubt, but simply not seeing the Confidence specifically and overtly, leads to underestimation and inappropriate perceptions, all of which when connected to effective and efficient interactions and communications and accuracy of perception and thus relating etc, all matter substantially. I see no impediment to the Good person Leveraging the knowing of their Goodness into Self-Confidence and thereby avoiding the problems of being they tend to face as a result of not having such a Confidence of Self., Sunday, October 14 2018, 11:14 AMmore_vertWhy does this matter? Self-doubt is ofc a corrosion of the soul and spirit, and when inappropriate, causes a weariness-of-being, which reduces not only the Joy of Living but also effectiveness an efficiency. Where Confidence for the Good person is a particular issue, is in social interactions with those not bent on the Good. With mindsets immersed in a hierarchical perspective to whom evaluation on foolish criteria is important and predominant. Here Confidence in Self is huge and does indeed make a substantial difference. If only to avoid the ridiculousness of unnecessary "pecking" from the chicken mindset which cannot conceive of equality. Lack of *overt* confidence is immediately seized upon as an opportunity to "peck" and thus cause unnecessary misery, stress or complication. Further, even in non-hierarchical interactions, absence of perceived confidence, not necessarily a lack, or self-doubt, but simply not seeing the Confidence specifically and overtly, leads to underestimation and inappropriate perceptions, all of which when connected to effective and efficient interactions and communications and accuracy of perception and thus relating etc, all matter substantially. I see no impediment to the Good person Leveraging the knowing of their Goodness into Self-Confidence and thereby avoiding the problems of being they tend to face as a result of not having such a Confidence of Self.


Message by You: I'm also not sure why exactly this stays with me. It's been on my mind for a few weeks now. Something is still unresolved, some small aspect of it. And lol, I cannot, just cannot leave the unresolved alone. I have to get to Resolution before I can move on. :), Sunday, October 14 2018, 11:17 AMmore_vertI'm also not sure why exactly this stays with me. It's been on my mind for a few weeks now. Something is still unresolved, some small aspect of it. And lol, I cannot, just cannot leave the unresolved alone. I have to get to Resolution before I can move on. :)



Message by (707) 322-0361: If you, if I, if one is doing their best, that's what's good. We can't ask for more. Can your best be better? Of course, but not at the same time and place. It is what it is, and good will is good will towards myself also. This is what we have., Sunday, October 14 2018, 12:41 PMmore_vertIf you, if I, if one is doing their best, that's what's good. We can't ask for more. Can your best be better? Of course, but not at the same time and place. It is what it is, and good will is good will towards myself also. This is what we have.


Message by You: Exactly!!!!! And that's something which we can leverage when it comes to our Self-Confidence. Knowing this, keeping it in Awareness, and specifically Applying it to our Confidence is huge! :) :D <3, Sunday, October 14 2018, 12:47 PMmore_vertExactly!!!!! And that's something which we can leverage when it comes to our Self-Confidence. Knowing this, keeping it in Awareness, and specifically Applying it to our Confidence is huge! :) :D <3


Message by You: That's indeed an element whiich was missing., Sunday, October 14 2018, 12:48 PMmore_vertThat's indeed an element which was missing.




Message by (707) 322-0361: https://youtu.be/eDO4bzFWewk, Sunday, October 14 2018, 12:57 PMmore_verthttps://youtu.be/eDO4bzFWewk


Message by You: :) :D you remind me of that civilisation in Star Trek whose language consisted of references to mythology, or an epic story. :) :D Lol, Like if we communicated only by quoting Shakespear. :) :D Seems music works much the same way for you. :) :D, Sunday, October 14 2018, 1:04 PMmore_vert:) :D you remind me of that civilisation in Star Trek whose language consisted of references to mythology, or an epic story. :) :D Lol, Like if we communicated only by quoting Shakespeare. :) :D Seems music works much the same way for you. :) :D


Message by You: Another way to come at the Confidence Perspective is from the angle of Value. If we feel we can provide Value, then we tend to feel more Confident. I think for most Good People, they do not necessarily connect their Goodness to the Value they bring as a consequence, like the Value of Earnestness, sincerity, diligence, thoroughness, effort to do their best etc. These are *massively Valuable and as such an excellent basis for Self-Confidence. Yes?, Sunday, October 14 2018, 1:21 PMmore_vertAnother way to come at the Confidence Perspective is from the angle of Value. If we feel we can provide Value, we tend to feel more Confident. I think for most Good People, they do not necessarily connect their Goodness to the Value they bring as a consequence, like the Value of Earnestness, sincerity, diligence, thoroughness, effort to do their best etc. These are *massively* Valuable and as such an excellent basis for Self-Confidence. Yes?





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V: What's been on your mind?

Syl: What we can be thoroughly and totally confident about when it comes to ourselves. :)

V: That we nincompoops?

Syl: That also yes, which is good for our Humility, but in the more usual sense. Like we are a bit cockeyed and lacking when it comes to Confidence. We tend to base our confidence on accomplishments, projected competence and ability, credibility, status, image etc., which generally are also connected to perceptions of others, or at least partially.

But...

But we can be thoroughly and absolutely confident about our Goodness, and that out Goodness and out Intent-to-Goodness has Value.

We can be confident about our Earnestness, our Sincerity, our Integrity, our willingness to do and be good, our effort to try, and so on. When we bring this to the fore of our perspective on ourself we can have a confidence which we can carry into any situation. I may not know anything about specific details or information or anything like that, but that does not mean I have to lack confidence in myself, because I know the one thing I can have unwavering and absolute and resolute Confidence in, is my Goodness, and all the good qualities which come with it. Qualities which are exceedingly Valuable and Useful as they are also generally rare.

In the Application of this in the job market, those who know, and those are the ones we want to work for and work with, they value Good Character way more than qualifications. The most technically qualified criminal is not desired as an employee.

Technical mistakes and errors of applying ourselves to the tasks of the job are seldom a big deal, but issues of Trust and Character and Integrity and so on, those cannot be tolerated. Thus Good Character is at a premium for those who are the sensible ones we would like to work with. Along with that Good Character comes personal qualities such as diligence, thoroughness, punctuality, courtesy and consideration, willingness to try and make an effort and to learn and grow, kindness, generosity, helpfulness, honesty and self-honesty, reliability, responsibility, trust, plus much more.

Most people looking for jobs do not realise this fact and this Sensibility, and are not Aware of its implications, but it's a Huge big deal and a critical factor in business.

I have a friend who is a good earnest sincere helpful person with Good Character. She has been struggling on her own for years in various ventures. Recently she applied for a job-from-home with the parent company of one of the leading high-tech world-wide corporations, a very sought after job and company to work for. Like people want to work at Google and Facebook etc, this company is like that.

They put her on a trial period and she was worried she may not be fully qualified as she does know their products and services but not nearly as well as she could.

I told her she was a lock to get the job, regardless of her potentially insufficient product knowledge.

To cut a long story short she's now a permanent employee and she's over the moon, because the company is everything and More she's always hoped to be involved with. The company has a deliberate corporate culture of Collaboration and also specifically to make an Impact on the world and More.

They love her, lol, just as I told her they would. She was the first one picked and everyone is keen to have her on their team and help her and have her in the company and so on. Everything is just totally marvellous. And why?

All because of that Good Character. I told her just to be herself and to show her genuine desire to help and care and do a good job, and apply her natural efforts to do so and do more and to be thorough and diligent and all the stuff that comes naturally to Good People, and thus the job was a slam dunk. :) :D

BUT!!!

But, because she is also humble and modest, and is fully Aware of her nincompoopery, she was a bit imbalanced. She didn't have the confidence. So she worried and fretted and stressed some about getting the job.

Whereas if she had brought Confidence in her Goodness to the fore, to the forefront of her Being, and realised she could feel confident about herself, BE Confident about being a Good Person, then she could have entered the entire process with an entirely different mindset, one which would put her at ease and not be stressing or worrying, because when out Confidence lies in our Goodness and our Humility, when combined with our Positive Sobriety, we know we will always be striving to continue learning and growing and thus will always be a sought-after person to have on any team, and be someone who will always be valued. Because of course Goodness and Good Character are always Valuable. Not just to us, but to everyone and anyone.

It is in this Value of Goodness we anchor our Confidence.

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[In honour of Election day...]

Biella continued, "[...] ...one cannot take age as a factor. The Young Man was sixteen at this time. A powerful reminder sensibility is independent of age. Anyone, at any time can come to sensible Perspectives. Of course depends considerably on Intent and motivation. This change in the YM, and it's consequences, his understandings and insights, his Application of it, and at that age, had consequences. Much later, not in his time, but from an idea of his, led to a *maximum* age for politicians. In most of the Agglomeration the *maximum* age to enter office is twenty-five, as most of you know. But most do not know it's rooted in this incident."
Ursula held up a hand, more to herself, but also in a hopeful way, as if she wanted to put the entire world on hold just then, deeply immersed in this idea. Biella, with a meaningful glance directed the Group's Attention to Ursula. Seeing her holding that Pause, they would Understand why Biella was not continuing.
She sent a text note to all via her implant while waiting for Ursula: [The convo of the YM about Terese is long and complex. I want to break it up. Loses much when it's all in one go, too much. I'm deliberately digressing. :) ]
"A big jump," Ursula said, “To think of politicians being *at most* twenty-five years old. I had wondered how come many the Agg officials were so young. I'm assuming this applies mostly to elected positions? Yes?"
"Yes," Biella said, leaving Ursula to fill it out.
"I'm taking my cue from the YM. Rearranging the elements of the equation,. Coming at it all from the other side. Simply taking it as a given it's a good idea. This makes my mind immediately leap to seeing *why* exactly it would be good. I'm thinking of this in the context of my old home world."
"I can see that that age, is when people are most idealistic. When they are truly motivated by what we would want those in charge to be motivated by. And to counter the lack of experience argument, one only has to look at those who achieved great success in life. They were all most capable at a young age. Furthermore, since there's no future in it, can only be undertaken for good reasons." 
Ursula was thoughtful.

"But then again, could also be done to establish a reference for later. But that too would be good motivation. One would have to do a good job even if one was purely motivated by ambition, otherwise the reference would not mean much."
"I suppose there is always the possibility for corruption. But in an environment that's predominantly filled with the idealistic, the eager and the genuine, it's very difficult for other mindsets to thrive. They stand out way too much."
Ursula wasn't done yet, "When it comes to political problems, one wants those who have the energy and belief that nothing is impossible to deal with such problems. Because they inevitably are not impossible, it's merely the belief they are so, or the perception of the enormity of the task, which inhibits efforts being made to deal with it. All of which the youth have no problem tackling. It's brilliant. They would be willing to innovate, to try different things. And in my experience, when youth is given true responsibility, they are actually exceedingly careful with it."
Ursula smiled a massive smile, "It's brilliant!!! So tell me, I'm assuming it works well, judging by things. But please tell me how it is."
Biella smiled back, enjoying Ursula. "Yes, works exceptionally well. The youth become interested in social issues and develop a broader perspective from an early age. They initially had some adjusting to do, but that was a long time ago. On worlds such as yours Ursula, there would be a gradual phasing in. Mostly though, for worlds new to the Agg, when they could see the clear success of it, they're mostly happy to switch over right away, even knowing there'd be problems initially. The ideal seems to be to announce the decision to switch for about five years, sending all the youth who are interested to other worlds to participate in programs specifically for this end. The NN have a large hand in many such programs."
Biella finished with the key aspects of this different political Philosophy. “The training is to highlight the importance and significance of *Character,* as elections focus on *Character* first, then abilities, competence, and specific skills. The special skills would revolve around Awareness, Discernment and Understanding. Motivation and earnest interest counts for much.”

“No elections or campaigns are decided on a candidate's stance on issues. The system is geared to *Representation* and thus the office holder is selected for their ability to *represent,* not push an agenda based on personal ideology, which might not be representative.”

“Thus before office is held, there's training on how to determine constituent issues. How to set up polls, how to invite perspectives, how to root out issues and problems, and most important, how to run referendums. Although those are mostly taken care of by career admins. Almost all political activity is settled and determined via referendum. The politician's task is to bring referendums to the Attention of their constituency and manage them, then act on the results.”

“Any citizen can institute a referendum via signature collection. The mechanisms of office are pretty simple. Anyone really can manage the office, doesn't take much. The key element is resolution proposal. *That's* what youth energy is needed for. The interest and the honest and earnest desire to find *Actual* solutions and resolutions. Youth vigour is a key ingredient in doing the work involved, the research, the checking it out, putting together proposals and presentations which then are decided on via referendum. So, really, when one comes to actual real implemented democracy, one does not actually want someone in office who is there to make decisions on one's behalf, that's not democracy, but sanctioned temporary dictatorship.”
“Matters of administration, are, well, administrative, tending to be formulaic and don't necessarily require all that much. However, in all aspects where real power and influence could be involved, like say tenders for construction projects, those too are decided by referendum.”

"In the Agg, politics, which really is not thought of as such, but as Social Consciousness, is more akin to social media, as one's participation in the process is a daily ongoing affair, part of one's online activities. Participation an element of everyone's job, the job of being a citizen, which pays via UBI.”

“It's all connected,” said Ursula, “The political system becomes vastly simplified because the incentives for corruption have been removed, and most of the problems related to crime, because the incentive has been deactivated, via UBI. Cascades...”

“Yes indeed Ursula, that interconnected resolution is profound, one simple change affecting the entirety of society, leading to an incredible simplification, make admin, and politics, a fairly simple matter.” Biella grinned, “So you see, making the maximum age for a politician twenty-five is not such a risk at it would appear at first.”

“Ha, no, fascinating...”

"But back to the Young Man's story," Biella said, "He had more to say on...
Extracted from: The Young Man's Story

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