Zaid Ismail's Blog, page 27
November 23, 2021
Failed expectations
The greatest hurts are not from blatant lies. The deepest cuts are from those we hold dear when they deliberately ignore what they know is important to us. Or worse, when they deliberately do what they know offends us. When we make known our expectations or needs from a significant other, we reveal to them […]
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November 22, 2021
The truth about compromise
That old adage about marriage being about compromise explains why so many marriages appear so burdensome to the ones involved. Before you start listing all the sacrifices that you make towards making your marriage work, consider that a willing compromise or sacrifice is a contribution towards something greater than who we are. The only time […]
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Do you practice self-serving justice?
The matter of justice doesn’t only apply to matters of criminal behaviour or social conduct, but it’s especially true for how we conduct ourselves within our family units. It’s the injustices that we experience within our families that result in the misconduct that we express in our lives. That injustice doesn’t always feel like a […]
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November 19, 2021
Who is that voice in your head?
There are signs in everything, if only we paid attention, or reflected deeply enough on it. It’s like noticing all the cars on the road that are similar to your own. You may also notice cars that you really dislike, and cars that you love. But do you notice cars that don’t interest you in […]
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November 18, 2021
Understand before you judge harshly
Before you get upset with someone for not treating you the way that you want them to treat you, consider that what you need may not come naturally to them. Without meaning to, we oppress others when we assume that just because we’re capable of something, they should be too. This is especially true when […]
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November 17, 2021
Who defines your resilience?
“Resilience is our ability to cope with adversity when we focus on rising above, rather than sinking below. Too often we wait for a sympathetic outstretched hand to lift us up because we’ve convinced ourselves that we need lifting.” (The Egosystem) Your resilience is directly affected by your belief in your ability to rise above […]
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November 16, 2021
Daydream your life away…
Sometimes we lose ourselves to nostalgia to the point of disconnecting from the life that we have. Good memories are great, as long as it’s not a reason to take our current blessings for granted. Many of us are so fixated on the life that we once had, that we neglect the people and the […]
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November 15, 2021
Cutting your nose to spite your face?
Spite is that thing we do when we don’t want to appear needy or dependant on others for something that we need from them. Like needing attention or validation, but not wanting to appear desperate. If we feel valued, we’ll have a reasonable discussion without feeling as if it’s going to make us appear weak. […]
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November 14, 2021
What are you taking from life?
Our efforts towards others is what we give. How they receive and reciprocate those efforts is what we get. But what we take from that exchange is often lost to the emotional experience that lasts long after the moment has passed. What we take is OUR interpretation of what was behind the way that someone […]
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November 12, 2021
Reframe what brings you joy
Reframing our perspective on life is more important than trying to solve problems that have been plaguing us for years, if not generations. Like Einstein said, “You cannot solve a problem with the same thinking that created it.” Or something like that. Point is, if you keep hitting your head against a brick wall hoping […]
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