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December 25, 2019
Recalled
My vehicle is in the shop. I thought it was a simple recall notice that could easily be fixed, but a week and a half later, it’s still in the shop. I am fine with that. I don’t have some strange attachment with my vehicle, counting down the days until I get it back. It’s just a vehicle. There are so many things in life that we think if they were stolen or destroyed or lost, we would have a period of mourning for that treasured sweater or nick-knack.
But is that a reasonable attachment? Is placing some value on a material possession crazy or perfectly sane?
The first time I bought a new car, that night I got a scratch in it. I had searched for two years for a vehicle and I got a scratch on my first big purchase. I didn’t get sick. I wasn’t angry. I didn’t cry. I just chalked it off and moved on.
I recently was talking to a friend who said he knew someone that would literally dent his newly purchased car so he wouldn’t worry about getting the first scratch. Now, I’m not going to go to that extreme, but I understand the logic.
We place so much value on material possessions, flashy vacations, size of a wallet or square footage of a home. But in the grand scheme of things, does any of that matter? On your deathbed are you going to ask someone to tell you what the balance is in your IRA? No.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m a CPA who likes to plan and prepare for the future, but when your preparing causes you to miss out on your life you’re living now…well, you need a recall as well.
You need a recall to re-evaluate your life and what’s really important to you. If money is more important to you than relationships, well, go make your money. But don’t be annoyed when there is no one around you in the end.
Funny, this coming from a single man, but there are more types of relationships than a married one. People who know me, know I’m not one to hoard all my blessings to myself. Just because God poured blessings onto me, doesn’t mean I’m supposed to enjoy it all. Many times we are to pour out to others what has been poured into us.
It could be money, or in life lessons, a cup of wisdom to a younger generation, a bucket of time to someone needing a helping hand, a well of love and mercy to the sometimes unloveable.
Yes, life is full of recalls. And for good reasons. Sometimes the recalls will help us in the future. To correct a problem. To mend a tattered relationship. To cause us to slow down and remember what really matters in life.
Lost jobs can be hard, but if you look at it like it’s a life recall, then you will know it’s going to be okay. Something better will come along.
Life is all about perspective.
Yes, life is full of recalls. Sometimes it’s a wake up call we desperately need to have.
Funny how a recall can wake you up to so many problems you didn’t know you had. But the solutions are always available. It may take time, but nothing is too far out of reach. Ever.
Peace
December 18, 2019
Some People are Born Unhappy
Why is relaxation such an elusive state to achieve? Are we really as busy as we say we are? Or do we like to say we are just too busy to slow down for one minute?
As I’m writing this, I’m on a cruise (somewhere in the middle of the Gulf of Mexico) and I feel calm and relaxed.
Yet I look around the ship with 1000s of other people and many people don’t look relaxed. Planning tomorrow’s agenda, arguing with their spouse or kids, complaining about the pinkness of their steak.
I’ve always known that some people just can’t be happy, but I see it more and more every time I cruise.
Are some people just born unhappy? Is that a thing?
I’ve heard my whole life, “Looks like she woke up on the wrong side of the bed.” It’s such an odd expression. It probably originated from some poem or limerick written in the Middle Ages, but who knows, I don’t have internet to research it. And I’m content to not having Google or Siri at my beckon call. But back to the saying, try saying that to someone sleeping on a dirt floor, a park bench, the backseat of an abandoned VW Beetle. If you wake up on a bed, snap out of your unhappiness. Snap out of your woe is me complex as you wear an Apple Watch. Snap out of your notion that life is unfair as you sit in front of your television instead of a casket. Life can seriously cause unhappiness, but why let it?
Why let life drag you down to the trenches when there is a mountain top view just a mere perspective away?
Life is a journey, how are you traveling it?
Are you wallowing in the sands of despair when you could be building a castle of your dreams?
Are you sitting in the rubble of complaints instead of planning where to lay your next brick?
Are you closing your eyes to the blinding sunlight also ignoring the beautiful sunset in the distance.
Yep, some people can not be happy. That’s another cop out. All the Debbie Downers of the world decide to be Debbie Downers. You may disagree with me. You may be defending your friend’s or even your own outlook in life as being a realist instead of what people call me.
You can call me whatever you want. I’m happy and I know it, can you hear me clapping from my cruise ship? Because I’m clapping.
When’s the last time you clapped in joy?
When’s the last time you felt joy?
If you can’t remember or it’s been awhile, snap out of it.
If your not happy, you’re only hurting yourself.
Sadly, I see more dead people walking the streets of life than a mortuary can hold. Are you just a dead man going through the motions?
Snap out of it.
Life is to good. Life is amazing. Life is beautiful.
If you don’t see it – SNAP OUT OF IT.
Don’t expect someone else to snap you out of it. Just as Smoky the Bear says, “Only you can prevent forest fires.”
Only you can prevent your own unhappiness.
Peace
December 14, 2019
Do I Really Believe In God? Really?
Do I believe in God? This question popped into my head as I was walking around a cruise ship recently. I was standing alone, high above the sea, and the blue abyss was all I could see for miles in all directions. And this moment of pause caused the question to roll in like a tide colliding with the ship.
Faith in a higher being is a tricky and finicky aspect that to the faithless is unfathomable to comprehend as a definition and to the faithful as simple as “I just believe.”
But is saying, “I just believe” cause enough to merely “just believe?” In the grand scheme of things, is this a cop out answer? To those that “Just believe” would you believe any differently if you had been raised by different parents, born in a different culture, educated by a different set of norms. Would you think your beliefs would be the same as they are now if you had traveled a different road of faith?
I sometimes wonder if I were born in India would I be a Hindu and no matter what someone else said to me, I would live and die a Hindu?
Just because I have lived my life grounded in the faith I was born into, does that make it right? I could be wrong and not know it because I am too stubborn to consider broad questions. The first, “Is there a God?”
All my life I have mostly believed, but I am honest enough to say that there have also been moments where I’ve pondered the notion of an intelligent designer and if there really is one.
What if this faith stuff is just a hoax? What if the notion of faithful people being afraid of the idea of there being nothing after death is correct and they concocted this notion of a God to turn to in hopes in a life in the hereafter as a means to help them and their kids sleep better at night? What if these stories of faith are just that…stories like bed time tales for a peaceful rest?
Have you asked yourself these questions?
If you haven’t, why haven’t you?
So I’ve asked the questions. I’ve pondered the ramifications of belief and unbelief. I proverbially flipped the coin, and I know where it landed for me.
So as I stare into the vastness of the sea, and I’m just a tiny speck, on a cruise ship that is a speck, in the Gulf of Mexico which is just a speck on the planet we live as Bill Nye so eloquently stated. We are specks upon specks upon specks in the universe. And he can say there is no proof of an intelligent designer, but this speck sees proof that life cannot be just an accidental coincidence of atoms and molecules.
Just because I cannot prove the existence of God in a mathematical equation, doesn’t mean God doesn’t exist. Centuries ago scientists were not aware of galaxies that the Hubble telescope have found, but I’m pretty sure that these galaxies were around centuries ago. Just because we just found them doesn’t mean they weren’t there hundreds of years ago. Scientists may cringe at this statement, but scientists have more faith than the normal man. If they didn’t, they wouldn’t create satellites to explore unknown galaxies, they wouldn’t have invented microscopes to look further into the inner sanctum of the atom, they would merely settle for what they know. But they don’t. They continue to search because they know that there’s got to be more than what we already know. And the scientific circles encourage them in the searches.
One wouldn’t explore space if they didn’t have faith that there was something else out there to find. Call it scientific guessing, forming a hypothesis, experimenting a possibility, but I call it faithful searching.
Scientists spend lifetimes searching for one new find. Some find it and some never do, but they keep searching for what they believe is out there.
It just amazes me that the scientific community blackballs the faithful in their beliefs in an intelligent designer because they haven’t found it. But they applaud their fellow colleagues in their lifelong pursuit of finding life on other planets which they haven’t found, but based on equations life could be plausible. Could be.
Why does finding life on merit more time and research than searching for the one that created life in the first place.
Just because they haven’t found God, doesn’t mean an intelligent designer is a myth. It could just mean they haven’t found Him yet.
Just as they just discovered a black hole so large that they said just a week ago was impossible based upon their equations. You’re equations could be wrong. The black hole is real. If you’re wrong about the black hole, could there be other things scientists are wrong about.
Sadly, they will scrutinize over their equations trying to prove the black hole is real, even though it’s already found.
I’ve found God…yet sadly, they’re not researching that. God is just something to dismiss.
I think we have our priorities out of line.
Just as a baker prepares a chocolate cake and coats it with dark chocolate frosting, we know someone made the chocolate cake. It didn’t just magically form through years of evolutionary combinations. It would be ludicrous to think the slice of cake made itself.
Then why do we think anything different with God?
Just because you can’t explain Him doesn’t mean there’s no explanation. To say that is very ignorant and a simple cop out answer to a very difficult question that needs further research.
But sadly little research will be done because most people who assume God isn’t real won’t waste their time with these questions. Because they think they already know the answer.
But what if your answer is wrong?
November 25, 2019
Devotional – Chapter 5 – Sing, Sing, Sing – A Life of Worship
“Whenever the living creatures give glory, honor and thanks to Him who sits on the throne and who lives for ever and ever, the twenty-four elders fall down before Him who sits on the throne, and worship Him who lives for ever and ever. They lay their crowns before the throne and say ‘You are worthy, our Lord and God, to receive glory and honor and power, for You created all things and by Your will they were created and have their being.’” Revelation 4:9-11
One
of my favorite worship songs is “Revelation Song” by Jennie Lee Riddle. The words are taken directly from the book of
Revelation. Every time I sing it, I feel the presence of God. “Worthy is the lamb who was slain, Holy, Holy
is He.” Think for a minute about your
last worship experience. It could have
been in a church, a Bible study, your car, in nature, what were you thinking
about? Were you thinking about the
pretty song and words or were you thinking about the God you were singing to? I am thankful for awesome worship leaders who
get us energized, but sometimes I wonder, do we need a worship leader? Should a guy stand in front of us and command
us to sing praises to our God? Should
some music get us excited about what God is doing? Sometimes I wonder if we have missed the boat
on worship. Don’t get me wrong, I
believe corporate worship is something that should be done at least weekly, but
worship should be done daily. Are you on
that boat?
“Sing
a new song to Him who sits on Heaven’s mercy seat.” Have you ever sung a song that you’ve
written? Or even hummed a tune you made
up while sitting in the car or a doctor’s office? I feel like we should be like David and
express ourselves in our own form of worship.
You may be thinking, ‘I can’t write a song.’ But it doesn’t have to be a
song with a great rhyme or a catchy hook. I believe God loves to hear us praise
Him with words from our own heart. You may not enjoy singing, so find a form a
worship that is yours and yours alone.
Praise God however you wish to praise Him. If it comes from your heart, He will not turn
away your praise. He may even like it
better. So, how will you worship Him?
“Holy,
Holy, Holy, is the Lord God Almighty, who was and is and is to come. With all
creation I sing, praise to the King of Kings, You are my everything and I will
adore You.”
“Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever.” Hebrews 13:8
Is
Christ your everything?
Do
you truly adore Him?
You
can answer these questions anyway you like.
You can fool yourself into thinking that your worship is real, but you
can’t fool Him. Take a moment and
reflect on your worship.
“These people come near to Me with their mouth and honor Me with their lips, but their hearts are far from Me.” Isaiah 29:13a
Is
your heart far from God? If it is, you
can fix that by giving Him your heart.
Give Him everything. Then praise Him with all creation. Praise the King of Kings. He is Holy!
Daily Scripture – Isaiah 29
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November 23, 2019
The Inspiration of a Writer
It never ceases to amaze me how inspirations arise. I’ve had fleeting moments where it felt like the whole world stood still for a moment as something as simple as a bird flying by my speeding car caught my eye. It’s moments like that where I realize these simple moments that I often brush by the wayside are not really simple but miraculous.
The same can be said for conversations with friends and family. When that thought provoking saying can spark an interest in my brain, begging me to write it down for three people to read in my blog.
People tend to ask me how do I come up with what I write? And the simple answer is, “I don’t know.”
I don’t force myself to try to write something impactful. If I live with that type of high standards, I dare say I would ever type another word. And as my thoughts jumble, I never think that what I am writing is insightful or wise. These are just words that caused myself to pause and reflect for a brief moment in time.
I’ve imagined storylines that will probably never be written, or characters that will never breathe in the pages that few readers will flip through. There are songs that I’ve written that will never be heard and heart numbing quotes that will never be posted.
Inspiration isn’t about gaining a buzz or a following. To me it’s not about being trendy with a catchy hook or nitch. It’s just being in the moment and allowing that moment to change you from the inside out.
I’ve had many moments that I felt changed and I hope those moments have actually changed me. It’s like the expression of feeling God and knowing God.
I hope at the end of the day I don’t settle for feeling God move when knowing God is so much better.
So I may not understand a lot that happens in this world or why it happens, but I can rest in the assurance that I know the One that does.
I hope you feel those moments of divine inspiration and allow yourself to let it sink into your soul where feeling turns into knowing.
Peace
Devotional – Chapter 4 – Blind Faith
“Then Jesus told [Thomas], ‘Because you have seen me, you have believed; blessed are those who have not seen and yet have believed.’” John 20:29
Wouldn’t
faith be easier if we could tangibly see Christ walk on the earth, feel the
wounds on His hands, see the hole in His side, hear Him say this verse, face to
face. Wouldn’t it be easier? Would it still be faith? When Jesus said this to Thomas, or commonly
known throughout history as Doubting Thomas, imagine Christ saying it to
you. What if you were one of His
disciples? What if, until the end of time, people read about you in the Bible, and
all they remember about you, is you were the one who would not believe until
you saw and touched the risen Christ. They wouldn’t remember your love and
faithfulness. They primarily remember your doubts. Is that the legacy you would
like to leave? Doubting (fill in your
name). What a sad legacy to leave.
Call
it strange, but Christ said we were blessed because we only have our
faith. We don’t have the luxury of
sitting down with Him and sharing a cup of coffee. We don’t have the ability to go fishing and
watch Christ walk upon the waters. How
are we blessed when we do not have the same type of bond that the disciples had
with Him? Today we are blessed because
we have a stronger bond that unites us with Christ. It’s not our memory of stories and laughs
that we shared with Him. It’s not the
emails or Christmas cards that He sent to us and that we keep in up in our
attic. We have a continual connection with
Christ through the Holy Spirit. It’s not
a physical connection, which has its limitations, but a spiritually one, which
is unlimited. We are blessed in the fact
that despite what we feel, we are always connected to Him.
“Though
you have not seen Him, you love Him; and even though you do not see Him now,
you believe in Him and are filled with an inexpressible and glorious joy, for
you are receiving the goal of your faith, the salvation of your souls.” 1 Peter
1:8-9
I
hope you love Him. I hope you fall more
and more in love with Him. I desire a
passion for Christ unlike any other passion.
Some may think this strange, but that’s okay. When I am alone in my room
singing or reading the Bible, those are the nights when I feel the closest to
someone. I can’t see Him, but I know He
is there. I can’t feel Him, but He fills
the room. I may not hear Him, but I know
that He hears me. Those truths give me
so much joy that the emotion of being lonely is gone. With Christ, I am never alone. I hope you feel the same communion with
Christ.
Christmas spirit is about believing not seeing. If the world saw me, all would be lost. The paparazzi’s been trying to nail me for years. – Santa Claus in Elf.
I
just finished watching Elf, and this line in the movie stuck out to me. It is so similar to our faith in God. It is not about seeing God, it is about
believing in God. Stars can be seen from
afar, at a distance, with a telescope or binoculars, but God doesn’t want us
from a distance. He wants us in it. What is the difference between seeing a swimming
pool and being in a swimming pool? Well,
God doesn’t want us to just see some fun, He wants us to get in on the
action. Believing is filled with action,
as it pulsates through your entire body.
Don’t live your life hoping to see God, because seeing God is easy.
Daily Scripture – Psalm 29
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November 20, 2019
Devotional – Chapter 4 – Bling Faith
“Rejoice
greatly, O Daughter of Zion!
Shout,
Daughter of Jerusalem!
See,
your King comes to you
righteous
and having salvation,
gentle
and riding on a donkey,
on
a colt, the foal of a donkey.” Zechariah
9:9
Have
you ever wondered how strong your faith would be if you lived before Jesus
Christ was on the earth? This verse in
Zechariah was written about 500 years before Christ. Back then, this was all
the people had to rely on. Today, we
read the Old Testament and we see all the signs that Jesus was the Messiah. But
what if all you had were these promises from God…would you have total faith in
His promise?
I
envision the faithful who lived before the time of Christ, as a group of people
wandering in the darkness, clutching in their hands an unlit candle. They know the benefit of what they hold. They
know that when it is finally lit, it will shine bright and they will not be in
darkness anymore. But sadly, they do not actually have a match to light the
way. Would you throw down your candle
since it is only dead weight or would you hold it for a lifetime, waiting for
that perfect day when it shines? Sadly,
I do not know how solid my faith would be in that situation.
I
am so thankful for the Christmas season, knowing that Christ came to earth for
me. But I have another reason to be thankful.
I am thankful that I live in a generation that I have faith that Jesus
Christ came, because I don’t know if I could believe without any proof of my
waiting.
May
we have a new found respect for those who believed in the waiting. We also are in a time of waiting – waiting
for Christ’s return. But may our faith grow stronger as we look at how strong
their faith must have been.
Faith
is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase. – Dr.
Martin Luther King Jr.
They
might have taken the first step, but we are not at the top stair yet. Keep stepping up in your faith.
Daily Scripture – Psalm 89
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November 17, 2019
No One But You
Do you have a relationship with the love of your life that will stand the test of time? A type of relationship that others are envious of the love that reciprocates? A love that sees through your flaws and sees the person you are meant to be, but not the person you sometimes are? A love that is totally one sided most of the time?
I’ve never been one to chase after romantic affiliations. It seems that the few times I ran the path, I quickly asked where am I running? Am I running through this woodsy trail because I want that person to run through life with me or am I hiking through the hills and valleys because everyone else on the planet seems to be walking it? And for the sake of normality I guess I need to as well.
It’s taken many years to realize that the path that 99% of the world is on (it’s seems that high to me) is not the path that beckons at my heart. My family may not understand. My friends may look at me odd. The world may come up with wrong conclusions for my reasoning. And after 38 years, I’m okay with wrong conclusions. Because I know the true one.
I often wondered did God leave something out? That piece in my DNA that longs for affection. That missing puzzle piece that God must have misplaced and after not finding it decided, well, he’ll survive.
These are thoughts I’ve had often.
I’ve wondered am I different? Am I odd? Am I strange? And looking around the world, yes is the only answer that causes my mind to stop racing. But the answer that gives me peace isn’t an answer I tell myself. It’s a whisper that God speaks over me time and again.
I sometimes think that maybe I am content with my single life because the love Christ has for me overwhelms me sometimes to states of euphoria. It takes me to a place that is so far out of my understanding I don’t even try to figure it out. When I commune with my God, it’s as if, I feel whole. Those questions of am I different vanish and I can hear God sometimes laugh and answer, You are very different, but I love you anyways.
I’m not saying my relationship with God is better than yours. Please don’t take it that way. God created us all uniquely different. I’m just saying that maybe God created me this way for a purpose. Maybe He knew that if I found that special someone I wouldn’t be looking for Him. And that gives me a peace that causes my mind to run faster with endless good possibilities.
A current song that resonates to me and I keep replaying is “No One But You” by Hillsong Worship on the Awake album.
You may think you have the best relationship with someone, but God is better than you could ever imagine. It’s good to have earthly relationships, but none should go above your relationship with God. Would your spouses love you if they knew every thought, every deed, every word? It may be hard for them, but God’s Love is limitless. It is freely given with no strings attached. It is generous and abundant. It is good and everlasting. He sees the gunk we have in our life and yet loved us more and more. Even more than we love ourselves. May this song speak louder than my words. May God wrap you with arms of love. But when you feel of that amazing love, give it right back. He deserves so much even though we can only give a fraction of what He deserves.
Who can melt the hardest heart
And speak life into my soul
Who can spin the world around
And hold me ever close
Who can search the depths of me
And love me to the core
Who controls the world I see
And walks me through it all
No one but You
No one but You
Who has made the righteous bright
Who has paved my way with grace
Loved me through my darkest hours
A thousand different ways
No one but You
No one but You
I’ll sing of Your love
I can’t get enough
I just want You
The Lord of my soul
King of my heart
Jesus it’s You
Hear the oceans roar
See the skies light up
Every heart now
Sing to the Lord
Hear the rocks cry out
See the mountains bow
Every heart come
Worship the Lord
No one, no one
No one, no one
No one Lord but You
May God become the Lord of your soul and the King of your heart. And may you learn to say those words with a true and loving heart. I’m still working on it. Peace
November 15, 2019
Don’t Be a Jerk
Don’t be a jerk.
Very wise words, from a podcast I just listened to. Yet I know I fall victim to my good intentions and become a jerk in some situations just as everyone else.
Was Jesus ever a jerk? No. Did he say things that were opposed? Yes. So, where is the fine line of having firm conviction in your beliefs and not coming across as a bigot or an elitist or even superficial?
Does anyone know how to walk that razor thin tightrope? If you do, can you give me lessons with a safety net, because I know I will definitely mess up along the short walk.
In my innermost circle I hope they would each say that in my heart of hearts my actions and words are true and pure. That I don’t harbor any ill will against anyone who may counter my thoughts and opinions with an opposing view. But that is what I, myself say about myself. But what if my inner circle actually thinks I’m a jerk? I hope we have a layer of honesty to have these tough discussions with those that we say are in our inner circle.
Now that being said, try not to be jerks.
Just as Peter wrote “But in your hearts revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect, keeping a clear conscience, so that those who speak maliciously against your good behavior in Christ may be ashamed of their slander.” (An all time favorite of mine with another backstory from years ago)
When we talk about our opinions whether it be religion, politics, social issues, or any other debatable topic, where is your gentleness?
Shouting your theory doesn’t make you any more heard.
Where is your respect for your fellow citizen of this planet. A mere reflection of the God many claim to revere. Degrading their opinions doesn’t move you an inch closer to the divine meeting of introducing them to the God of love and forgiveness. It probably causes their feet to be dug deeper into their own notorious opinions of Christ followers.
Where is your clean conscience after you leave your tweet or Facebook post laced with a deadly combination of love and judgement.
Were you a jerk or just another beggar trying to show another beggar where to find bread?
So, may we all try to live better.
Wouldn’t it be horrible that at your funeral instead of your friends and family regaling of stories of love and loyalty all they could say, “He was a jerk…but with good intentions.”
You know what they say about good intentions.
So go forth. Not like a jerk but like Jesus. If you believe in him or not, His life was a pretty good example of how we should all live.
Gentle. Respect. And a clean conscience.
Peace
November 8, 2019
Dear Married Folks, Know Your Audience
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Know your audience. Know your audience. Know your audience.
I don’t know how many times I have heard that phrase, but I have heard it many times from inside the singles circle. Just as married folks tend to congregate together, the band of misfits without a wedding band on our fingers also tend to flock together as well.
Sitting around a table of veggie burgers and chips the discussion begins. “One of my coworkers was complaining about their kids again. Don’t they know how lucky they are to have kids? What I wouldn’t do.” Or, “Mr. X once again was venting about his wife. Does he not know how lucky he is to have someone to go home to each night?” Or one of my favorites, “Lady M was telling me the other day that she hates sitting alone in church when her husband doesn’t go with her. It’s so awkward, she said. Does she not know that if I want to go anywhere, I usually have to go alone?”
Know your audience.
I’m not saying that it’s wrong to vent, but when you vent, realize who you are venting to. Some people do not choose to be single. Some people would do anything to lose that stigma of being alone and file a joint tax return with a love of their life. Many people would give up a limb to know the feeling of a pair of arms hugging them on lonely nights. Many people would give up their life savings for the chance of having or adopting a son or daughter.
Married people tend to think they are saying something positive, but to a single persons ears, it sounds like an insult. “You don’t know how lucky you are not having to pick up after a three year old. Seems like all I do is care for him.” Or “What I wouldn’t give to sleep past 6 on a Saturday morning. You are so lucky. You always look so well rested. How many hours of sleep do you get each night?” Or “My husband gives the worst birthday presents ever. Count yourself blessed to not have to wear this sweater out in public.”
I sometimes wonder if married people are jealous of a single persons life? Is it like in middle school that when you are envious of someone, to make yourself feel better, you knock someone else down? I don’t think all married people purposely knock down singles, but I know there are some that do. And then there are those who do it unknowingly.
Next time you want to rant about the terrible twos to a motherless or fatherless individual, consider yourself in their shoes. In their shoes that they would gladly give up to hold a newborn child in their arms. Next time you want to complain about your mother in law, consider how fortunate you are to have that nagging woman in your life. That woman who raised your spouse. Yes, you may be teetering on the edge of sanity, but don’t ever wish that your curly haired blessing had not have ever happened. Sometimes people don’t see their own blessings.
So, whatever situation you are in, know your audience.
We singles will listen to you married couples vent…and then we will vent about you venting.
