D.J. Walters's Blog, page 2
September 7, 2019
August 23, 2019
When at the Strip Club: How Far is Too Far When You're in an Exclusive Relationship?
Let’s be honest, there’s definitely something exciting about the thought of going to the strip club. All those cheeks clapping, penises flying, chiseled abs and thighs to die for. There’s those people to look up to; both male and female, that could probably teach you a thing or two in the bedroom as well. And then, there’s that essence of arousal in the air; all mixed in with the odour of sweat. You’ll probably end up leaving with your panties moist or you standing with three legs; unless of course, you’ve already had the chance to deal with it. But how far is too far at the strip club when you’re in an exclusive relationship? What do you think? Well, I’ll let you know my thoughts.There are two types of people when it comes to strip clubs; those there for a good time and those there for a long time. The good timer’s go just to eye up the talent, make it rain, have a laugh with their friends and probably have no intentions of taking it further than that. But the long timer’s live by the mantra ‘what happens in the club stays in the club’, so there’s no limits to the lengths they’ll go to. On a night out, they might kiss, touch and even have sex if the wind blows them that way; even if they’re in an exclusive relationship. Some people even go to strip clubs as a couple to get them going or just for fun; sometimes even to scout for a third party if they’re really liberal.
That’s all well and good if your partner has agreed to soft limits for that night or they generally don’t mind when it comes to those sort of things. The problem comes when people do what they want anyway even if they know their partner wouldn’t approve or they think that they won’t find out. That’s called cheating; lying and infidelity! If your partner can’t find out what happened at the strip club or would be upset if they knew, then in my opinion, you’ve taken it too far. 
On a personal level, I don’t see nothing wrong with a playful tap on a stripper’s cheeks. But I also think it depends on the person’s intentions. If the intention is just banter, then it’s not really a big deal but if it’s to progress things further, then I see it as a problem. I see no issues with getting a dance but private parts should be kept private. So I don’t condone touching of any reproductive or productive organs, kissing or any penetrating. As a general rule, I wouldn’t do anything that I wouldn’t want my partner to do. But ultimately, it’s all dependent what you’re both comfortable with. Some people don’t mind touching, kissing or even a bit of penetration. Some don’t even like the strip club at all. As long as you’ve discussed it, then there shouldn’t be any nasty surprises. And if you know and respect your partner, there shouldn’t be any problems.August 17, 2019
August 1, 2019
I Don't See Nothing Wrong With a Bit of Vacation Sex
Let me be clear. When it comes to vacation sex, I’m not talking about getting freaky with bae or someone you’ve been previously been getting to know. I’m talking about getting down and dirty with someone you’ve met whilst abroad. I’m sure that idea has at least crossed the minds of both singletons and those taken; sometimes before you've even stepped foot off the plane. Yes, it sounds like something thrilling to tick off the bucket list but it can also end up being your biggest regret. Is there anything that bad with a bit of vacation sex? What do you think? Well, I’ll let you know my thoughts. I’m not going to lie, the thought of having a bit of sex whilst abroad does sound exciting. It comes with a bit of extra pleasure and memories that go beyond and even on the camera reel; for those who are into that sort of thing. Vacation sex is like having an unexpected bonus to an already amazing break away; like finding a free dessert in your favourite take away meal. And for those who aren’t having a good time, then I bet it’s even better; it would probably really boost that holiday feel. Who knows? It could even come with a few new tricks to take home and some self-learning experiences. Sometimes, vacation sex can lead to pleasure that goes beyond the sheets with free excursions to places you'd never have discovered alone. You could even build long lasting relationships; as friends or more intimately.
But the consequences are real and also need to be considered because one thing’s for sure, we don’t live in a fairy tale world. As much as vacation sex can be all fun and games, it ultimately means sleeping people who we don’t really know. They could literally have any skeleton in their closet. So by having sex with that person, we could be putting ourselves at real risk. Sometimes we don't even know their relationship status. And whether we’re in a relationship or single, we all know that sex can come with attachments. Attachments are great if both parties are on the same page but it just causes unnecessary heartbreak if one person has different intentions. On top of that, vacation sex can also come with babies and sexually transmitted diseases if we don't protect ourselves. Of course, some STD's (and even babies) can be eradicated with the pop of a few pills but sometimes they remain with the person for life. It just boils down to the question of whether it's actually worth it. Just one session could affect all future intimate relationships and even your mental health. 
Some may not be bothered by any of that because of their own baggage or they might just be up for potential vacation fun. On a personal level, vacation sex is not something that I could see myself doing as I’m too paranoid about all of the consequences. On a general level, I don’t see nothing wrong with a bit of vacation sex if that’s your prerogative; as long as you know what you are doing and you’ve analysed the situation. Do they want the same the things? What’s their situationship? Protection at the very least, can be a life saver. A broken heart is one thing but coming home with something that can completely wreck your health or your life is an entire different ball game. So if anything, I think it’s best to stay strapped up. Stay safe guys. D
