Palak Kundra's Blog - Posts Tagged "abusive-language"
BC means what---before christ or behan****????
Why ‘BC’ only in the name of women????
You know since childhood, I knew a word BC, as Before Christ. But when I started using social media, I got a new meaning of BC i.e. Behan****, don't have that strength to spit it out. Why and who introduced this abusive slang to the internet and for what good it has done so far, is my question? So far, most of the abuses are being used in the name of women. Why there are no abuse, directly, in the name of men? Why after so much pain of Labour and so much care of everyone, a woman only gets these kinds of abusive rewards?
We talk about domestic violence in which these kind of slangs are very common mainly in rural areas. Even while trolling on the net, this word is used even after a good quote or saying.
Whosoever has invented it, wasn't doing any good for women and children.
Even when I was schooling, “kutta-kamina”, was prohibited. But these slangs are a hindi meaning of sisterf*****/motherf*****. An English word dates back at least to the late 19th century, with a Texas court in 1889 recording a defendant being called a "Goddamn mother-fucking, bastardly son-of-a-bitch”. Then, it widely spread afterwards. But when came to India, was translated into more and most lowly used words. But all in the name of women. In every possible way, it's seems disrespectful for women. But not only a sixty years old but also a small kid is using it like hell.
But why it was not father****** or son of a dog, or something else? And hindi, baap****/bhai****
And if we're using/adapting English language, their clothing culture, their food culture etc etc, why not we adapt freedom and equality and their mental build which secure rights for women. We must do that also! Why do our government not also make strict laws against rape and domestic violence, crimes against women and children as they do?
And any hindi language book written so far, doesn't consist of such word… BC. At Least, I've not read it. And what's the lesson in this slang? Already women are suffering utmost, and it adds more to their sufferings!
A woman gives birth to a girl or boy. But this slang, this abuse, is a black mark on her name, without no mistakes or wrongs done from her side. An abuse in the name of a woman backfires directly to one's own mother, sister, or any other lady in the house. But still is being commonly used. No laws, no punishment for this. Even on Internet, on social media, no one asks a ban on it. No parents, no teacher, no NGO and no leader raises a voice against this.
It's been written in guru Granth sahib ji
“sau kou manda aakhiye, jit jme rajaan!”
That means, the one who gives birth to the kings, why call her bad?
Asking the same question to our society?
Either answer or ban this abuse with strict law enforcement. There must be a strict punishment for this act, not merely on papers but must be visible socially. Isn't that moral right to get respect for what we're women. At least, by stopping abuses in the name of women?
You know since childhood, I knew a word BC, as Before Christ. But when I started using social media, I got a new meaning of BC i.e. Behan****, don't have that strength to spit it out. Why and who introduced this abusive slang to the internet and for what good it has done so far, is my question? So far, most of the abuses are being used in the name of women. Why there are no abuse, directly, in the name of men? Why after so much pain of Labour and so much care of everyone, a woman only gets these kinds of abusive rewards?
We talk about domestic violence in which these kind of slangs are very common mainly in rural areas. Even while trolling on the net, this word is used even after a good quote or saying.
Whosoever has invented it, wasn't doing any good for women and children.
Even when I was schooling, “kutta-kamina”, was prohibited. But these slangs are a hindi meaning of sisterf*****/motherf*****. An English word dates back at least to the late 19th century, with a Texas court in 1889 recording a defendant being called a "Goddamn mother-fucking, bastardly son-of-a-bitch”. Then, it widely spread afterwards. But when came to India, was translated into more and most lowly used words. But all in the name of women. In every possible way, it's seems disrespectful for women. But not only a sixty years old but also a small kid is using it like hell.
But why it was not father****** or son of a dog, or something else? And hindi, baap****/bhai****
And if we're using/adapting English language, their clothing culture, their food culture etc etc, why not we adapt freedom and equality and their mental build which secure rights for women. We must do that also! Why do our government not also make strict laws against rape and domestic violence, crimes against women and children as they do?
And any hindi language book written so far, doesn't consist of such word… BC. At Least, I've not read it. And what's the lesson in this slang? Already women are suffering utmost, and it adds more to their sufferings!
A woman gives birth to a girl or boy. But this slang, this abuse, is a black mark on her name, without no mistakes or wrongs done from her side. An abuse in the name of a woman backfires directly to one's own mother, sister, or any other lady in the house. But still is being commonly used. No laws, no punishment for this. Even on Internet, on social media, no one asks a ban on it. No parents, no teacher, no NGO and no leader raises a voice against this.
It's been written in guru Granth sahib ji
“sau kou manda aakhiye, jit jme rajaan!”
That means, the one who gives birth to the kings, why call her bad?
Asking the same question to our society?
Either answer or ban this abuse with strict law enforcement. There must be a strict punishment for this act, not merely on papers but must be visible socially. Isn't that moral right to get respect for what we're women. At least, by stopping abuses in the name of women?
What is HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY if..??
What if you don't respect WOMANHOOD.?????
Yesterday was mother's day and there's a flood of pictures posted on Facebook, Instagram and twitter.
Everyone shared his/her picture with mom/mom-in-law, as far as wedded girls are concerned.
I know it's a very good thing to show LOVE & RESPECT to the one who gave us birth or whom we're living with after marriage.
But does that respect only apply on Mother's Day?
I've going to different schools in amritsar to share my views on women empowerment. I talk to kids above class 7th, trying to pinch exactly where the need of the hour asking for, they share what happened with them.
Girls are being open to share what they can't even tell their mothers and boys are getting furious and ashamed and want change in this filthy thinking that a woman or girl is born only to used, in every heinous way one can think of.
I tried to talk to them openly, without filtering words like rape, domestic violence, Sexual abuse, or even the relationship between a girl and a boy which is still a taboo!
When I opened, they opened and to the extent that everyone hearing them, were either crying out loud or feeling ashamed, mainly boys.
I asked them whether it's fair to abuse in the name of a woman who gives him/her birth after bearing so much pain, a pain that equals breaking up of 57 bones at a time!
And we call her.... MOTHER!
I asked them whether it's fair to abuse in the name of a woman that his/her first friend who gives her blessings and makes them smile!
And We call her.... SISTER!
I asked them whether it's fair to abuse in the name of a woman who leaves her own parents and trust you over God, gives you all what she's!
And we call her.... WIFE!
I even went to an extent of asking boys,
"is it fair to rape, spoil her name or life, throw acid, molest, evetease or abuse her because she denied your love, your friendship....
And we call her..... GIRLFRIEND!
I just had taken a few roles, but every woman plays much more roles than these.
When I asked so much, they answered with eyes filled with tears, shame and anger towards this society and themselves even.
But then with my words, I did threw my secret card....
"then who will change these manaces, these abuses, these MC/BC slangs... From their own lives and society???? "
And I got my answer as an oath literally, their eyes were determined to do that and they stood up, were awaken from inside out.
But yesterday, while these uploaded pictures I was going through over the net, regarding MOTHER'S DAY CELEBRATION, I wondered why these people are celebrating mother's day if they didn't, can't or don't want to eradicate just the abusive words MC/BC from their day-to-day lifestyle.
It felt like we celebrated mother's day, we respect our mothers, and I don't care a shit about other's mom/sis/wife/daughter etc. And we use these slang for fun!
Fun????
To show care amongst friends,
To show that we're advanced and cool,
To show anger,
To show that we're not afraid to bounce back.
And that only by using these pathetic slangs MC/BC.
Then, why celebrate even one day for her, no matter what role she's playing in one's life.
If she's born to suffer verbally, socially, mentally, physically, then why give her a hope that....
Yes, they love me
Respect me.
Admire me.
I would rather say that either erase these abuses from your life
Or be clear about what she's worthy of!
If you choose the former one, then....
Then, cut a cake, click a selfie, share it with the world.
After that, she won't ask for anything and then you all will be respected by everyone!
STOP DISRESPECT, STOP ABUSES IN THE NAME OF WOMEN.
AND THAT IS THE ONLY WAY TO CELEBRATE....
HER!!
Yesterday was mother's day and there's a flood of pictures posted on Facebook, Instagram and twitter.
Everyone shared his/her picture with mom/mom-in-law, as far as wedded girls are concerned.
I know it's a very good thing to show LOVE & RESPECT to the one who gave us birth or whom we're living with after marriage.
But does that respect only apply on Mother's Day?
I've going to different schools in amritsar to share my views on women empowerment. I talk to kids above class 7th, trying to pinch exactly where the need of the hour asking for, they share what happened with them.
Girls are being open to share what they can't even tell their mothers and boys are getting furious and ashamed and want change in this filthy thinking that a woman or girl is born only to used, in every heinous way one can think of.
I tried to talk to them openly, without filtering words like rape, domestic violence, Sexual abuse, or even the relationship between a girl and a boy which is still a taboo!
When I opened, they opened and to the extent that everyone hearing them, were either crying out loud or feeling ashamed, mainly boys.
I asked them whether it's fair to abuse in the name of a woman who gives him/her birth after bearing so much pain, a pain that equals breaking up of 57 bones at a time!
And we call her.... MOTHER!
I asked them whether it's fair to abuse in the name of a woman that his/her first friend who gives her blessings and makes them smile!
And We call her.... SISTER!
I asked them whether it's fair to abuse in the name of a woman who leaves her own parents and trust you over God, gives you all what she's!
And we call her.... WIFE!
I even went to an extent of asking boys,
"is it fair to rape, spoil her name or life, throw acid, molest, evetease or abuse her because she denied your love, your friendship....
And we call her..... GIRLFRIEND!
I just had taken a few roles, but every woman plays much more roles than these.
When I asked so much, they answered with eyes filled with tears, shame and anger towards this society and themselves even.
But then with my words, I did threw my secret card....
"then who will change these manaces, these abuses, these MC/BC slangs... From their own lives and society???? "
And I got my answer as an oath literally, their eyes were determined to do that and they stood up, were awaken from inside out.
But yesterday, while these uploaded pictures I was going through over the net, regarding MOTHER'S DAY CELEBRATION, I wondered why these people are celebrating mother's day if they didn't, can't or don't want to eradicate just the abusive words MC/BC from their day-to-day lifestyle.
It felt like we celebrated mother's day, we respect our mothers, and I don't care a shit about other's mom/sis/wife/daughter etc. And we use these slang for fun!
Fun????
To show care amongst friends,
To show that we're advanced and cool,
To show anger,
To show that we're not afraid to bounce back.
And that only by using these pathetic slangs MC/BC.
Then, why celebrate even one day for her, no matter what role she's playing in one's life.
If she's born to suffer verbally, socially, mentally, physically, then why give her a hope that....
Yes, they love me
Respect me.
Admire me.
I would rather say that either erase these abuses from your life
Or be clear about what she's worthy of!
If you choose the former one, then....
Then, cut a cake, click a selfie, share it with the world.
After that, she won't ask for anything and then you all will be respected by everyone!
STOP DISRESPECT, STOP ABUSES IN THE NAME OF WOMEN.
AND THAT IS THE ONLY WAY TO CELEBRATE....
HER!!
