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What Sets You Apart?

What sets you apart?

What is the difference only you can make?

Is it a unique perspective, exceptional talent, or signature process?

Leaning into your distinctive edge has always been the way to stand out in your field.

It's also the fastest path to sustainable prosperity.

Why?

Because when you amplify your distinct edge, the difference only you can make, it's not just easier for those who need you not only to find you, it attracts them.

Your standout offer becomes irresistible to them.

There are MANY ways to magnify your magnificence. But let’s discuss that another time.

 First, you need to answer this question.

What sets you apart?

Scott Perry, Encore Life Coach at Creative on Purpose

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Nicole Richards — "Don’t compromise on who you are."

Insight and inspiration for flying higher in the difference only you can make from guests who have appeared on Creative on Purpose Live.

This week’s wisdom comes from a conversation with Success Finder founder, Brandon Straza.

Tune into the entire conversation here.

[NICOLE] "Just be you."

"That's the most powerful thing you can do is just be yourself and don't compromise on who you are."

Nicole just delivered a powerful (and succinct) reminder about playing your game all in and full out without compromise.

How are you conspiring with yourself to step fully into your power and the difference only you can make today?

Scott Perry, Encore Life Coach at Creative on Purpose

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Three Skills You Need to Succeed

How do you navigate the inevitable uncertainties and adversities that come with making a difference in your life’s next chapter with greater clarity, confidence, and peace of mind?

The best way to find my way is to help others find theirs.

Of course, everyone’s “what’s next” is unique.

Because each of us is unique.

Your tolerances, temperament, and talents are as idiosyncratic as mine.

And they inform and inspire the difference only you and I can each make.

But there are three skills we all need to develop to get clear about and closer to what we want in our life’s next chapter.

Receptivity - being open to new ways of seeing and being
Restraint - less is more, focus only on essentials
Resilience - embrace uncertainty and microstep into possibility

Your life is speaking to you because it wants to speak through you.

Don’t die with the difference only you can make still inside.

Let your life speak.

How are you developing receptivity, restraint, and resilience to master the art of encore living today?

Scott Perry, Encore Life Coach at Creative on Purpose

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Brandon Straza - "Take your time. Just be yourself."

Insight and inspiration for flying higher in the difference only you can make from guests who have appeared on Creative on Purpose Live.

 This week’s wisdom comes from a conversation with Success Finder founder, Brandon Straza.

Tune into the entire conversation here.

[BRANDON] "Take your time. Take a step back. Take your time. It's not a race. This is not a race."

"Time will start and end when it's going to start and end."

"Find the right mentor. Find the right leader. Find the community that resonates with you and that you can bring value to, and start seeing how they're doing it."

"Start absorbing every little piece along the way. And as that's happening, don't try to be them. There's only one of you in all of existence."

"Don't try to be authentic. Don't try to be someone else. Just be who you are."

"When you come from yourself... I always... You know, 'Be your authentic self...' When you just come from who you are, we spoke about this earlier, your work life, your business life, your personal life, it's all you. It is your breath. Come from that place."

"Don't sit and expect that these results are going to happen. You have to have consistency along the way. You have to keep doing it over and over again and slowly tweaking it."

"A friend of mine, a dear friend of mine, Steve Sims, says, 'Go from like good to great or go from, you know, bad to good to great.' Whatever it is. And it's not..."

"When you look back at your original work, it's gonna not look like what it is today, you know, 12 months later."

"Take your time. Find the right mentors. Find the right communities that resonate with you. Get involved with them."

"That's the great thing about The Success Finder. There are free areas, free communities that you can come into. Yes, there are paid areas. But come in there. Find that community that you can actually bring value to, and that can bring value back to you and move forward."

"Start putting your message out there on a consistent basis."

Brandon just delivered a powerful reminder about stepping into your power, leaning into your uniqueness, and the perils of authenticity.

How are you taking your time and being yourself today?

Scott Perry, Encore Life Coach at Creative on Purpose

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Resilience

In the second half of life, we may feel uncertain and vulnerable.

You have an intuition that you can be and do more and better, but you need to figure out how to develop and step into that potential.

What to do?

It begins with trusting yourself enough to take small bets on yourself.

Be open to and take small steps into possibility in defining, developing, and delivering the difference only you can make.

Receptivity, restraint, and resilience can inspire and inform the real work of your life's next chapter.

Living your legacy is work that matters, and it's work that might not always work.

Failure, misfortune, and being ignored are just a few difficulties that will greet you daily.

Each day's effort is a lesson. Refining the work and whom it is done with and for is a never-ending challenge, but it's also a privilege.

Living your legacy rewards your intention and integrity with meaning and purpose that fuels resilience.

Resilience is a skill acquired and honed through doing the real work of making the difference only you can make in the second half of life.

Doing human work.

Committing to your gift and those whose lives will be enhanced by it.

Resilience is cultivated by showing up daily with curiosity, courage, and creativity and collaborating with others to make meaningful change for the better happen.

Resilience is usually framed as returning to a previous state after being bent or stretched.

We associate resilience with recovery.

But resilience isn't merely a return to "normal" or how things were.

Resilience is about developing yourself and growing into your potential.

Resilience helps you flourish regardless of the intensity or duration of a struggle or its ultimate outcome.

Resilience isn't required for those who prefer to remain humble, hiding and watching from the stands.

But for those in the arena playing their game, resilience is one of the rewards for determined and deliberate effort toward an aim worth pursuing.

How are you developing resilience as you step into what's next today?

Scott Perry, Encore Life Coach at Creative on Purpose

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It's All Relative

How do you get clear about and closer to what you want in your life's next chapter?

Force multipliers and leverage.

Embracing your unique experience and perspective informs idiosyncratic insights and skills that provide leverage to ratchet yourself forward into possibility.

Force multipliers are leverage amplifiers, meaning they help something already working work more efficiently, effectively, or exponentially.

Improving skills, systems, tools, and processes are examples of force multipliers.

Another force multiplier that's accessible to everyone and easy to engage is relationships.

Relationships have a profound influence on your success.

You're not the average of just the people you spend the most time with. You're the cumulative average of your entire network and their entire network and their entire network and their entire network.

Seriously. Look it up. Scientific data backs up the assertion that your success is impacted by people who are three networks removed from your immediate network.

Your relationships have a massive impact on your success and the quality of your life.

How do you leverage the relationship assets that you already possess and turn them into a massive force amplifier to help you get clear about and closer to what you want? What relationship assets should you seek and nurture as force amplifiers?

Here are five places to begin.

Adjust, eliminate, or end toxic, harmful, or unsupportive relationships. (Pro tip: start with your relationship with yourself.)
Amend the amount of time, attention, energy, and effort you expend on unhelpful relationships you can't adjust, eliminate, or end.
Amplify existing relationships where you receive and deliver exceptional value.
Acquire better teachers, leaders, mentors, and guides. 
Access communities of learning and practice.*

 What relationships do you need to find, fix, or fine-tune so they become greater leverage and force multipliers that get you clearer about and closer to what you want in your life's next chapter?

*Recommended communities: The Art of Encore Living Legacy Circle, The Coaching Business Prescription Catalyst Circle, The Difference-Maker Digital Campfire

Scott Perry, Encore Life Coach at Creative on Purpose

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Jessica Abel - "Self-compassion is your most powerful tool."

Insight and inspiration for flying higher in the difference only you can make from guests who have appeared on Creative on Purpose Live.

This week’s wisdom comes from a conversation with Autonomous Creative founder, Jessica Abel.

Tune into the entire conversation here.

[JESSICA] "One of the biggest things that I've discovered is that the most powerful tool that, when people take it on, really has an enormous effect is self-compassion."

"So when the inner critic pops up, compassion is your most powerful tool for dealing with that."

"Thinking 'Wow, you know this inner voice is really afraid. I can take care of it.' And having compassion for this part of you, physically afraid and really struggling, even though it sounds so commanding and in charge. Right?'

"Or getting back to the thing of being totally over-committed and, you know, 'I'm so late on this. I'm so late on that,' you know? Especially self-set deadlines, you know? They just slide."

"Constant self-forgiveness about that, because that time is gone. That's gone. You know? There's no..."

"One of the things I teach everybody to do in my groups, I don't know if they actually do it or not, but if you have to-do lists and things go red, you know, things go past due. Go take all those things and take them off past due and put them on either never, like don't assign them to yourselves, that's number one."

"But number two, set the deadlines in the future sometime when you have some chance of being able to do it."

"Past due doesn't tell you anything except that you suck. So, don't let yourself tell yourself that every single time you look at your project management software it's irrelevant and it does not help at all."

"What it does is set you up for a shame spiral where whenever you look at that thing all you want to do is run. Run away screaming. That doesn't help you do the thing."

"If you want to do the thing, get out of a shame relationship by deep and continuous self-forgiveness about whatever you thought was going to happen and didn't happen."

"Because life is life and you're a human being."

[SCOTT] "I love it. Shame is an invitation you do not have to accept, for sure."

Jessica just delivered a powerful reminder about the power of compassion. How are you practicing compassion today?

Scott Perry, Encore Life Coach at Creative on Purpose

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Receptivity

What’s the first step toward a second half of life filled with more joy, purpose, and peace of mind?

Receptivity.

There’s a moment when we realize there’s more living behind us than in front. It can be depressing and even triggering.

But the second half of life is also an awakening that you and I haven’t yet even come close to delivering on our promise.

Life’s second half can be reframed as an invitation to tap into and deliver on your limitless potential.

If you have a sneaking suspicion that you can be and do more and better. You can.

The rules of the game of life you were schooled for and occupied by in the first half of life are compliance, conformity, and competition.

Is it any wonder the game you were taught to play feels limiting? Are you surprised that you never really felt like you were winning?

You can’t win a game you don’t want to play.

It’s time to reconnect with who you really are, what you’re really good at, and where you really belong.

It’s time to play your game.

All it takes is the will to acknowledge and engage your power to see and step into the limitless possibility ahead of you.

Here are three receptivity practices to help you tap into the difference only you can make in the second half of life so you can live your legacy with greater equanimity and fulfillment.

First, cultivate curiosity, consideration, and creativity. Reconnect with the instincts to explore and experiment you experienced as a child.
Don’t be so quick to make binary decisions and value judgments about yourself, your situation, and others. The unconscious and subconscious biases and prejudices you’ve used to navigate your life so far conspire against your growth and freedom.
Practice maintaining open loops, embracing not knowing, and responding to challenges and opportunities with “yes, and...” and “both-and” thinking. Letting go of your false certainties and overconfidence will free you of self-limiting beliefs that are neither true nor serving you.

Receptivity will help you see possibility and encourage you to step into your power to become an agent of your destiny.

How can you embrace and encourage receptivity today?

Scott Perry, Encore Life Coach at Creative on Purpose

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Jeff Moore - "You have something to share because you have experiences to share."

Insight and inspiration for flying higher in the difference only you can make from guests who have appeared on Creative on Purpose Live.

This week’s wisdom comes from a conversation with Thursday Night Boardroom founder, Jeff Moore.

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[JEFF] "I'm going to talk more about wisdom in this and the two types of wisdom."

"Okay, you can hear somebody speak and go, 'Oh, that's really wise,' and 'I'm really gonna do my best to live by that.'"

"But then there's wisdom that's experienced."

"And that experience is where, if you want to make an impact in the world, you share your experiences."

"People go, 'Oh, you know it's a learning experience and, you know, once I fail it's good.'"
"I'm like, 'You don't have to fail.' You can actually use other people's experiences and wisdom."

"I've got a little poem that says, 'Wisdom taught is fleeting, like the single drop of rain, but wisdom experienced remains and flows through the soul like a mighty river for all eternity.'"

"I think that when I share my experiences and what I learn from those experiences, and I share it in such a way that people can experience it as if it was happening to them, it becomes that visceral experience that lives within them for all eternity."

"And I think that there's a lot of kids out there that are reading books and taking programs and turning around and acting as if they are the expert."

"But as we get into our 50s and 60s, and we have experiences in dealing with things, and might I say the nuances of these lessons if you will that we've experienced."

"As a musician, you know, nuance is the space between the notes that make the music. Right? And so, that's the thing. It's the experience."

"The wisdom experienced is the things that we can share."

"People are expecting to go 'I don't know what I could share.' 'I don't have anything I can share.'"

"Let's talk about what is the most memorable experience you've ever had in your life? And this is what's important to somebody. This is what you could do to help somebody."

"You don't have to become this big enterprise owner. You can start having small conversations and put yourself in front of young professionals and young, hungry people that are looking for that. Or even adults that are confused."

"You have something to share because you have experiences to share."

Jeff just delivered a powerful reminder that each of us has wisdom to share because we have experiences to share. How are you bridging the knowledge wisdom gap today?

Scott Perry, Encore Life Coach at Creative on Purpose

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Just Because

What’s the most effective way to get closer to what you want in the second half of life?

Restraint.

The first half of life rewards you for chasing more.

More money. More status. More stuff. More, more, more…

But has this relentless pursuit of happiness actually made you happy?

The research says no.

Why is that?

It’s a disconnect between causation and correlation.

Causation and correlation are often conflated, but they have distinct meanings.

Causation is a relationship between two variables where one variable directly affects another.

For instance, stepping on the gas causes your car to accelerate.

But does that correlate with getting where you want to be faster?

It depends.

Correlation is the relationship between associated variables, but one does not necessarily cause the other.

Without a clear destination and direction, stepping on the gas may mean simply going faster in circles or toward a cliff.

Causation implies correlation, but correlation doesn’t necessarily lead to causation.

So, how does this relate to leveraging restraint in navigating the second half of life?

Just because you played the game of life by rules dictated by institutionalized education and occupation and reaped the reward of more doesn’t mean that correlates with happiness.

Ancient philosophical and spiritual traditions and modern psychology and neuroscience reveal that true happiness requires very little once our immediate existential needs are met.

What we really want is to find fulfillment and joy in a few activities and relationships that align with our values and talents, where we can develop and share our unique gifts.

It turns out less is more. Restraint correlates with and causes real, sustainable happiness.

Defining who you really are, what you’re really good at, and where you really belong helps you dial in the few essential things necessary for fulfillment, meaning, and joy.

Then you can define a path that closes the gap efficiently with intention and integrity.

More is not the point in the second half of life. Restraint is its own reward.

Define the difference only you can make in the second half of life. Live your legacy. This correlates and causes a second half of life that rewards restraint with purpose and peace of mind.

Scott Perry, Encore Life Coach at Creative on Purpose

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