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February 5, 2017
What is to be done when waiting is no longer an option
At times we all probably need to hang around, waiting for this or that, him or her. Yet what is to be done when waiting is no longer an option? For whatever reasons we might find ourselves in the situation of not being able to sit patiently by whilst events, or people, fall into line with our plans.
Being clear about our intentions regarding any moment, and also in this case concerning what is to be done when waiting is no longer an option, gives valuable guidance to our eventual actions.
Making a move from a position of clarity, be it connected to objectives or overall values, is a way we maintain our direction even in the face of potentially annoying holdups.
Of course, there will be occasions in which the answer to the nagging question “What is to be done when waiting is no longer an option?” is a resounding “Nothing”. Accepting we just have to wait at times may be a pertinent lesson for us to learn sooner rather than later.
Then again we always have the possibility of finding new perspectives to any question, but that is surely material for another post. For now, thanks for reading this “What is to be done when waiting is no longer an option“.
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Brian.
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Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, CTI-trained co-active coach and freelance trainer, supplies professional and personal development through coaching, coaching workshops, marketing development training and English language training.
As an adjunct professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches a postgraduate course based on dramatic texts and elements of coaching to examine various work-related performance matters.
Publications
How to deliver your potential successfully on the stage of work (2016)
The stage of work (2016)
Performance skills at work (2015)
Personal performance potential at work (2014)
Coaching, performing and thinking at work (2013)
Reflections on performance at work (2012)
Elements of theatre at work (2010)
Training through drama for work (2009)
February 1, 2017
How to find value among fears and doubts
Being a ‘balanced person’ if that is a goal for us, can involve discovering how to find value among fears and doubts.
The presence of invariably considered negative items in our life is something to be accepted. After all, elements outside of ourselves crop up on what seems to be their own schedule. Rather than hoping we won’t encounter them, or indeed limiting beliefs arriving from the depth of our mind, we have other options.
One such choice is that of attempting to find value from them by exploring what the underlying issues are around them. Fears and doubts concerning falling short of expectations may indicate how much we are focused on living up to either our own or others’ performance guidelines.
Worries regarding the direction the future will lead us towards could signify we are uncertain about the validity of our plans. Preparation today will not guarantee a comfortable tomorrow, yet it will probably impact positively in ways unimagined beforehand.
Furthermore, we have the possibility to ponder what our fears and doubts are giving us. Are we clinging onto them as an excuse for not doing this or that? How are they influencing us on a moment by moment basis?
Other considerations along the lines of investigating how to find value among fears and doubts are surely equally interesting; if you’d like to share your input please leave a comment below.
Brian.
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About Brian
Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, CTI-trained co-active coach and freelance trainer, supplies professional and personal development through coaching, coaching workshops, marketing development training and English language training.
As an adjunct professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches a postgraduate course based on dramatic texts and elements of coaching to examine various work-related performance matters.
Publications
How to deliver your potential successfully on the stage of work (2016)
The stage of work (2016)
Performance skills at work (2015)
Personal performance potential at work (2014)
Coaching, performing and thinking at work (2013)
Reflections on performance at work (2012)
Elements of theatre at work (2010)
Training through drama for work (2009)
January 29, 2017
Are you collaborating with or fighting your dreams?
It might seem unfair to put ourselves on the spot by asking such a blunt question as “Are you collaborating with or fighting your dreams?” After all, in theory we are constantly building our desired life with our daily efforts.
In reality, of course, a certain amount of any day is given over to merely getting ourselves through it in as least painful manner as possible. Survival, perhaps not the right term yet valid anyway, is not something to be scoffed at.
Instead of asking “Are you collaborating with or fighting your dreams?“, we could choose to see the issue more as one concerning the extent to which we are embracing opportunities to put our values into action.
Collaborating or fighting suggests a stark contrast; most likely the overriding intention is one of doing our best in all situations and believing in the ripple effect this will have on subsequent instances.
Our dreams, those held securely in our heart/mind and the principle motivation for all we undertake, leave little room for distractions. “Are you collaborating with or fighting your dreams?” as such answers itself.
Setting our plans around the required input leading to the fulfilment of those dreams likewise leaves no space for any doubts over the answer to “Are you collaborating with or fighting your dreams?”
Kindest regards.
Brian.
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About Brian
Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, CTI-trained co-active coach and freelance trainer, supplies professional and personal development through coaching, coaching workshops, marketing development training and English language training.
As an adjunct professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches a postgraduate course based on dramatic texts and elements of coaching to examine various work-related performance matters.
Publications
How to deliver your potential successfully on the stage of work (2016)
The stage of work (2016)
Performance skills at work (2015)
Personal performance potential at work (2014)
Coaching, performing and thinking at work (2013)
Reflections on performance at work (2012)
Elements of theatre at work (2010)
Training through drama for work (2009)
January 26, 2017
Is time running from us?
With twenty-four hours in today and most likely forty-eight hours worth of things to do by tomorrow, we could be forgiven for asking ourselves; “Is time running from us?”
Looking at where the time has gone may be a valid investment of a few minutes, yet invariably we already know how we have spent the day so far.
Oftentimes it is by tapping into others’ expectations and agenda we find ourselves with a sinking feeling when we enquire “Is time running from us?”
Attempting to be everything for everyone and trying to fulfil every call on our time rarely produces success.
Working according to thought-out priorities is a way of ensuring the answer to the question “Is time running from us?” is a resounding “No!”
The unexpected is surely to be expected, however. Even so, by living fully each moment we are in our way making sure time isn’t running from us.
And by focusing on key objectives we get the chance to live our potential, as opposed to merely exist as if on autopilot.
If you’d like to explore the issue of how you use time to achieve your objectives, please get in contact and we can arrange a complimentary coaching call via Skype or Google+ hangout.
For now, thanks for reading ‘Is time running from us?‘ today.
Brian.
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About Brian
Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, CTI-trained co-active coach and freelance trainer, supplies professional and personal development through coaching, coaching workshops, marketing development training and English language training.
As an adjunct professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches a postgraduate course based on dramatic texts and elements of coaching to examine various work-related performance matters.
Publications
How to deliver your potential successfully on the stage of work (2016)
The stage of work (2016)
Performance skills at work (2015)
Personal performance potential at work (2014)
Coaching, performing and thinking at work (2013)
Reflections on performance at work (2012)
Elements of theatre at work (2010)
Training through drama for work (2009)
January 22, 2017
What happens when the goal is reached?
I guess we can all recognize that nagging feeling, the worrying question pulling at our proverbial coat tails as we near our objective: ‘What happens when the goal is reached?‘
Along the path towards our desired destination, efforts and actions are kept on course by the motivation we hold in our heart to achieve success. Days have a certain structure and the overriding intention provides stimulation to give our best in each endeavour we are called upon to undertake.
But again, what happens when the goal is reached? Will we be filled with a sense of achievement and satisfaction? Are we going to experience a degree of regret for the passing of those days when the seeking of the goal encaptured our whole being? And are we somewhat afraid of having to live up to our success?
Of course there are a million other questions, including ‘What’s next?’, that may never actually arise. What happens when the goal is reached is at present an unknown entity. Being curious about the future is one thing. Letting it stop us from pushing forward towards our purpose is another thing.
Your input might spark answers or creative thinking for others here, so please feel free to share your thoughts on the issue of ‘What happens when the goal is reached?‘ by leaving a comment below.
Kindest regards.
Brian.
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About Brian
Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, CTI-trained co-active coach and freelance trainer, supplies professional and personal development through coaching, coaching workshops, marketing development training and English language training.
As an adjunct professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches a postgraduate course based on dramatic texts and elements of coaching to examine various work-related performance matters.
Publications
How to deliver your potential successfully on the stage of work (2016)
The stage of work (2016)
Performance skills at work (2015)
Personal performance potential at work (2014)
Coaching, performing and thinking at work (2013)
Reflections on performance at work (2012)
Elements of theatre at work (2010)
Training through drama for work (2009)
January 19, 2017
Who drains our energy?
By taking the question ‘Who drains our energy?‘ from various perspectives we could ponder, list and wonder why we continue with certain relationships or situations.
Possibly it is valid to think of energy in the following ways: time energy, emotional energy, confidence energy, desire to achieve energy, and enjoyment or enthusiasm energy.
Knowing who drains our energy in each area goes a long way to being in a position to explore present and future options.
And understanding who drains our energy in these categories helps us to decide whether the benefits obtained by being around the energy drainers outweigh the cost of losing our daily verve.
Naturally, for social, commercial or even political reasons we at times have to accept a compromise, although that need not be our automatic mode of behaviour.
As ever, we are free to choose many aspects of life, including who drains our energy.
If you’d like to explore this issue further, perhaps in the form of a complimentary coaching session, please let me know. For now, thanks for connecting here and reading this ‘Who drains our energy?‘ post today.
Brian.
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About Brian
Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, CTI-trained co-active coach and freelance trainer, supplies professional and personal development through coaching, coaching workshops, marketing development training and English language training.
As an adjunct professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches a postgraduate course based on dramatic texts and elements of coaching to examine various work-related performance matters.
Publications
How to deliver your potential successfully on the stage of work (2016)
The stage of work (2016)
Performance skills at work (2015)
Personal performance potential at work (2014)
Coaching, performing and thinking at work (2013)
Reflections on performance at work (2012)
Elements of theatre at work (2010)
Training through drama for work (2009)
January 15, 2017
How to find new perspectives for old issues
Wondering how to find new perspectives for old issues might not seem to be one of those dilemmas likely to cause us sleepless nights. After all, things are what they are and old issues are possibly not at the top of our list of concerns.
That said, just as the idea of reusing, renewing and recycling objects has taken hold, we may find value from exploring how to find new perspectives for old issues.
To answer the ‘how’ element of the title, we have the options to:
A) Take an old issue and place it in a different setting.
Many times associated items and notions lead us to a given perspective. Ideally a new environment will trigger fresh thinking towards an old issue.
B) Imagine a best-case scenario for us and the issue under consideration.
From this viewpoint constructive aspects regarding the old, lingering and maybe also challenging, issue are oftentimes able to shine bright. Pondering the optimum in a way allows hidden points to come to the fore.
C) Strip an issue down to its core.
Looking at the origins of a question can help us create a mindset around it more attuned to its true importance to us. Seeing anew the real matter is itself a ‘positive’ response to the question of ‘How to find new perspectives for old issues‘ we could say.
Thanks for being here today and reading this How to find new perspectives for old issues post.
Kindest regards.
Brian.
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Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, CTI-trained co-active coach and freelance trainer, supplies professional and personal development through coaching, coaching workshops, marketing development training and English language training.
As an adjunct professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches a postgraduate course based on dramatic texts and elements of coaching to examine various work-related performance matters.
Publications
How to deliver your potential successfully on the stage of work (2016)
The stage of work (2016)
Performance skills at work (2015)
Personal performance potential at work (2014)
Coaching, performing and thinking at work (2013)
Reflections on performance at work (2012)
Elements of theatre at work (2010)
Training through drama for work (2009)
January 12, 2017
Being aware whilst moving through the day
Being aware whilst moving through the day is something we all probably feel we are doing. To a great extent we know what is going on around us; our observational skills and intuition assist us moment by moment.
Keeping an eye on intentions and outcomes helps ensure our goals are at the centre of our efforts.
Yet the full picture may well be just beyond our vision, lurking as it were in the shadows we overlook and the areas of life we avoid due to discomfort, ignorance or even fear.
Putting ourselves into the whole of life – aided by our accumulated experience and guided by our heartfelt values – is a way of being aware whilst moving through the day.
The option of sitting back and waiting for everything good to come to us seems no longer available, if indeed it ever was.
As much as we are all so similar as a result of globalization and a merging of tastes and fashions, we need to take personal responsibility for being aware whilst moving through the day.
Or then again, perhaps not. To share your input on the issues raised, please leave a comment below. For now, thanks for reading this ‘Being aware whilst moving through the day‘ post.
Brian.
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About Brian
Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, CTI-trained co-active coach and freelance trainer, supplies professional and personal development through coaching, coaching workshops, marketing development training and English language training.
As an adjunct professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches a postgraduate course based on dramatic texts and elements of coaching to examine various work-related performance matters.
Publications
How to deliver your potential successfully on the stage of work (2016)
The stage of work (2016)
Performance skills at work (2015)
Personal performance potential at work (2014)
Coaching, performing and thinking at work (2013)
Reflections on performance at work (2012)
Elements of theatre at work (2010)
Training through drama for work (2009)
January 8, 2017
How to win with three simple actions
To answer the question ‘How to win with three simple actions?‘ we perhaps need to first i) define what we mean by winning and ii) set out just what three simple actions we are referring to.
So, to get the proverbial ball rolling, let’s look at each of these points. By ‘winning’ we have the option to take the idea in its broadest sense to signify the concept of living our potential by being our best.
When we are giving our all in any endeavour undertaken, certainly this can be said to be ‘winning’.
In terms of the three simple actions – simple to state, yet not always easy to put into operation – the following came to mind when preparing this post: smiling, being polite and listening.
Imagining a day with these actions at the heart of all we do could be motivation enough to attempt to create such a day.
We may say implementing these three simple actions is just another way of restating the Golden Rule of “Do not hurt others with that which pains yourself”.
Fulfilment invariably feels right when we know our efforts are leading us towards our goals, whilst also ensuring we are not harming others in the process.
And finally, it might be useful to consider the impact when we ignore these three things…
For now, in any case, please feel free to join the conversation concerning How to win with three simple actions by leaving a comment below.
Brian.
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About Brian
Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, CTI-trained co-active coach and freelance trainer, supplies professional and personal development through coaching, coaching workshops, marketing development training and English language training.
As an adjunct professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches a postgraduate course based on dramatic texts and elements of coaching to examine various work-related performance matters.
Publications
How to deliver your potential successfully on the stage of work (2016)
The stage of work (2016)
Performance skills at work (2015)
Personal performance potential at work (2014)
Coaching, performing and thinking at work (2013)
Reflections on performance at work (2012)
Elements of theatre at work (2010)
Training through drama for work (2009)
January 5, 2017
How to use discipline to carry us forward
Before looking at how to use discipline to carry us forward, a few moments can be given over to considering the source of our discipline. In the first instance our discipline draws energy from the compelling goals we have set for ourselves.
Motivated to accomplish a precise objective, we have most likely identified actions and habits aligned to this purpose. Discipline comes into being through studying, training and practice. Developing habits beneficial to our life is an ongoing activity and a discipline in itself.
In terms of how to use discipline to carry us forward, we might wish to think about the power focused repetition provides. During those invariable tough moments when attempting to achieve this or that, discipline keeps us on course.
Rather than pondering discipline as an automatic element, perhaps it is a measured response to a specific requirement. Furthermore, it is discipline which may carry us forward in the face of criticism or even praise.
Taking positive steps, as it were, with our goal firmly in mind, is then our answer to the initially asked question of ‘How to use discipline to carry us forward?‘
Please feel free to join the conversation here by leaving a comment below. For now, thanks for reading this ‘How to use discipline to carry us forward‘ post.
Brian.
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About Brian
Brian Groves DipM MCIM Chartered Marketer, CTI-trained co-active coach and freelance trainer, supplies professional and personal development through coaching, coaching workshops, marketing development training and English language training.
As an adjunct professor at the Catholic University of Milan, Italy, Brian teaches a postgraduate course based on dramatic texts and elements of coaching to examine various work-related performance matters.
Publications
How to deliver your potential successfully on the stage of work (2016)
The stage of work (2016)
Performance skills at work (2015)
Personal performance potential at work (2014)
Coaching, performing and thinking at work (2013)
Reflections on performance at work (2012)
Elements of theatre at work (2010)
Training through drama for work (2009)
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