Amy Newmark's Blog - Posts Tagged "compassion"

Everyone grieves differently. There's no right way and there's no wrong way. However, what I learned while putting together our new book, Chicken Soup for the Soul: Grieving, Loss and Healing, is that there are ways to help manage grief and the loneliness that follows.

This new collection of inspirational and compassionate stories will help you cope with loss, regain your strength, and yes, find joy in life again. These stories provide powerful messages of resilience and hope.

Here are previews of two of my favorite stories from the book that offer advice on how to take one step at a time on the never-ending journey of managing grief:

Sometimes a good chat with a stranger is just what you need.
In Jamie Korf’s story, I Was Somebody's Sister, Jamie's Uber driver asked if she had any siblings, she was hit once again with her grief and her confusion as well: Was she an only child now that her brother was gone? Could she still say she had a sibling?

Jamie decided to answer with a full explanation—her brother had died a few months ago. There was a stunned silence and then the driver started talking. He had lost his son and his wife. Jamie and the driver cried and gave each other advice, doing their best to comfort each other.

Jamie says, “This special stranger sat in my pain with me, as I sat in his for twenty whole minutes.”

Look for the simple, social pleasures.
In her story, The Presence of Absence, Barbara Rady Kazdan tells us after her husband died the "quiet" that engulfed her house had become an unsettling daily companion. She hadn't realized her marriage shielded her from silence.

Barbara says, "My husband and I were a tiny community unto ourselves. In his absence, quiet descended."

Barbara soon realized she was going to need to escape the silence of solitude, now made worse with the pandemic. Eventually, she pushed herself out of the house, emerging from the darkness of solitude, and found joy with simple social pleasures—lunching with friends, chatting with neighbors, and joining book clubs and writing workshops! Barbara closes her story with: "And, once again, taking to the sky, melting into the arms of family, and savoring the sounds of lively households before returning to the silence at home."


Amy Newmark

Lately I find myself scouring the internet for a feel-good story to start my day. I particularly love those that involve practicing kindness — it always puts a smile on my face.

I recently found out that being kind is actually good for you — it increases self-esteem, improves your mood, and reduces stress.

It should come as no surprise that our new book, Chicken Soup for the Soul: Kindness Matters, is quickly becoming one of my favorite Chicken Soup for the Soul books!

Here are previews of two of my favorite stories from the book that show how you can incorporate kindness into your life — because it really does matter:

Follow that impulse to pay someone’s bill.
In Amy Mewborn's story "A Shared Struggle," Amy noticed that the woman in front of her at the grocery store checkout looked tired and frazzled. She was trying to handle an active three-year-old and a newborn, who was crying. As her items were rung up, the woman realized she didn’t have enough money so she started selecting items to put back.

That’s when Amy stepped up. She confirmed the young mother was a single mom, and then she explained that she was a single mom, too, and she had been in her shoes. She would be happy to pay for the family’s groceries. The woman started crying with gratitude.

Amy says, “The total cost for the rest of the groceries was less than thirty dollars. The man behind me and I split that total and left the IGA with full hearts that danced like the toddler.”

The biggest beneficiaries of that random act of kindness? Amy and the man behind her in line, not the young mother. We elevate ourselves and brighten our days when we do something like that for a stranger. And I’m sure that woman will turn around and pay it forward one day when she is better situated and encounters another struggling young mother.

Don’t hesitate to express your gratitude and appreciation.
In her story, The Letter, January Joyce was at the cellular phone store once again looking for help with downloading an app. She knew the kind young man named Carlos who worked there would help her.

As she waited her turn and then waited for the app to download, January watched Carlos in action, treating his elderly customers with patience and respect, rushing to open the door for someone, calling each customer by name.

The next day, January followed an impulse to do something about this. She wrote a letter to Carlos’s boss, and also mailed copies to the company’s headquarters and the CEO.

When January went back to the store for help again a couple of months later, she learned that Carlos was gone. An employee told her that someone had written a letter about Carlos and as a result he had been promoted and now managed his own store! When January also heard that Carlos and his wife had just had their first baby, she felt even better about following that impulse to reach out and compliment someone.



Amy Newmark