Sharada Subramanian's Blog, page 5

Change. Deal with it.

Change is constant. This mainly applies to human beings. You are friends with someone from the age of 10 and now they u both are at 30. Twenty years is a lot of time for someone to change, mature, grow and some don’t grow at all. They are not the same as they used to be when you both were fifteen year olds. She/ he does not like the same things. Preferences have changed. Preferences in music, movies, food

and people have changed. They have become more outgoing. They have shunned to themselves. They have grown thin. Grown fat. Grown wise. Grown foolish. Everything is different. There are newer people in their life. People who you are not aware of. Those who are making a difference to their lives more than what you did when you were in high school. You are not accessible to them as much as before. You have grown apart physically. You belong to different states. Different countries. Sometime you both might be in the same city and still be blocks apart. They have people now who know them better then you. Those who know what they have become. People who know what ticks them off and what puts a smile on their face. Don’t take ownership of them because you know them for decades. No you don’t. Don’t take more rights on their life because you share a relationship of decades. You weren’t there last month when they fell sick. You weren’t there next to them when they battled a break up. No offense meant to you. You were busy battling your own life. You couldn’t go. You didn’t have time to. It’s okay. They understand. Newer people have occupied your life too.

Please understand this, as people age, their preferences differ and their tastes differ. It’s okay if you didn’t know what they are like now. You don’t need to constantly be a part of their life. If you are able to be closer and still be the besties you were, then it’s brilliant. If not, don’t be a bother. Let them be. Let them have their new friends who are there for them at times you were busy with your new friends.

Don’t take this the wrong way. But, you don’t know them anymore. Stop boasting to the world about it. Stop saying you know them better. Do you know what food they like now ? Do you know what breaks their heart? Do you know their midnight cravings? You don’t know and it’s okay if you don’t. They have people who do. Give way. Stop blocking the road. Be nice. Be kind. Be there when needed. Be there when asked to. Don’t show it off. Don’t blow it from the rooftop that you know them since Christ was born. That’s stupid. You are also a part of their life. Maybe your part is over. Maybe you’re still the best friend. Maybe you are not remembered anymore. Maybe you have become a ‘hello’ friend. All of it is OK.

I get it. There was a time when you held primary importance in their life. A time when you took decisions for them. But you don’t need to anymore. They can decide for themselves. They have grown up. Probably grown up to be much better and wiser than what you have. They have other people who they consult to decide big things. Don’t expect to be consulted. You don’t ask them anymore. Do you? So shut up! Be nice. Be happy. Be content. You both have grown apart. Both of you have different choices. Sometimes choices that are against one another. Dont fret. You deal with it with grace. You accept the differences. You understand that’s what humans are made of. You give way for new people in your life and their life.

Next time when someone says something about the person you know for decades, stop saying ” I know him/her more than you do. I’ve seen him/her grow”. Sounds stupid. When you are not there for them everyday today like the others who are, you don’t know them. You knew what they were decades back. Not what they are now.

Deal with the change.

Wanderlust.

This explains it all. Need I say more? When people being out all of what the world is made of from within you. Such rarity. Such purity. Such lust. Such magic.

Stung by your love.

There are some people who make u from the scratch. The ones who inject the core of your existence. Even if it means to kill thousands others for it. They do it. That’s love. That’s passion. That’s being crazy. Once they make you and complete you, they give you to the world to enjoy and go about making someone else. Selflishly selfless. No? ;)

Shadowed!

There are some people in our life who are constantly behind us. Beside us. Beneath us. All of it at various situations of demand and need. As you gaze at the stars to wonder where they are, you realise how much you wish they were around to enjoy the sounds of the night. Only then you realise that they give you your space to be all by yourself. Shadowed space!

Night and day.

Some relationships function differently. When one sleeps, the other is busy cooking her morning breakfast. When one watches the stars, the other is busy wearing sunscreen. But when one cries, the other knows exactly when and why. That’s the kind of love that holds them together.

Rays of the morning sun.

Some relationships are unique and strange. That’s how they work. They work best being this way. They know your high point and know when you need to break free. They don’t judge you for wanting an option. They do their job. They shine and they leave when you need some darkness. Just like the sun. People too. :)

All things blue.

When you are so flexible to the one you love, that you are willing to to be however they want you to be and not think twice about it. It’s amazing what love does to you and how it changes the perspective of love and things revolving around it.

When you are so strong yourself as an individual but you are willing to be the giver. Be the smaller person . Be the way the person would love you to be yet also massage your originality.

Love does that. In a weird, strange and an ugly way, it does that to you. Though you have the ability to rise above the mountains  and wash away all things pretty, you choose to be in his/her palm.

Poetry et all.

Some people are so beautiful within that you see the colors of rainbow in their eyes. They add color not just to your life but to your eyes as well.

One day, someone will walk past you and make you realise why it didn’t work with anybody else. Even if it worked, why would it work the best with that person. Someone who will see the beauty in your scars. Someone who will help you make peace with your past not by letting go of it but by understanding it.

When someone you love sees them and not you in you, that’s when you know you’ve met ‘the’ person. There is nothing such as the ideal one but there is always a chaotic messed up perfection that’s yours .

Broken and old like an antique.

We are all antiques. As old and broken as an antique. We all get rusty and dusty. We get older by the day. We all become the remains of an era. A part of an history that’s long gone. But then, hundreds of years later, there will be this person who will dust the dirt off from us, put on some Polish on us, knows where we are broken and sit in one corner and appreciate our beauty. You will find yours!

Consumed by your love.

In life, there comes a time when you don’t know who is good and who isn’t. Moreover, what is good and what isn’t.  When we are in the crossroads of life wondering about this over and over. When we become the giver. The pleasure of being consumes by a loved one. It is the pleasure that Christmas mornings are made of.