Deborah Day's Blog, page 2
February 20, 2012
A True Friend!
Friendships are the priceless gift that life grants us. For those of you who are fortunate enough to have a handful of good friends, you are truly blessed. A good friend is meant to bolster you; to encourage you to be your best self. A true friend is not intimated by your grand nature. I true friend only wants and strives for your best. A genuine friend sees your short comings and encourages you through them instead of just pointing out what is defective in you. That friend knows your good intentions and lovingly helps you to grow into your best self. Your life is better for having this person in it.
With a good friend you work through difficult times together; not abandoning the other because times are tough. A true friend is one of the anchors in life that helps you to claim yourself in this universe. If you have several friends like this thank them today. If your friendships don’t give you this then maybe you need to consider them more of an acquaintance rather than someone to really bear your soul to. Being the active director of your life requires that you be able to judge which friendships encourage you and which are more of a burden.
Moreover, what kind of friend are you? Do you display these qualities to the ones you call “friend?” Receiving this support merits giving this support. I encourage you to be picky about the ones you call your close friends. Your friendships ‘mirror’ you! What do your friendships say about you?
Deborah Day, M.A.
“The Empowerment Director”
With a good friend you work through difficult times together; not abandoning the other because times are tough. A true friend is one of the anchors in life that helps you to claim yourself in this universe. If you have several friends like this thank them today. If your friendships don’t give you this then maybe you need to consider them more of an acquaintance rather than someone to really bear your soul to. Being the active director of your life requires that you be able to judge which friendships encourage you and which are more of a burden.
Moreover, what kind of friend are you? Do you display these qualities to the ones you call “friend?” Receiving this support merits giving this support. I encourage you to be picky about the ones you call your close friends. Your friendships ‘mirror’ you! What do your friendships say about you?
Deborah Day, M.A.
“The Empowerment Director”
February 5, 2012
What's This Self-love Thing?
Self-love; most of us have heard this idea. You must love yourself before you can truly love someone else. How many times have you heard that one? But, what is this whole self-love thing? Does it mean that you should always praise, adore and shower yourself with gifts? What connotations come to your mind when you think of self-love?
Here are some things I do know. We are not perfect. We are all human which means we all have human frailties. We all make mistakes. Mistakes are part of the way we learn. So, self-love is not about being perfect or performing perfectly. Self-love is more about accepting our imperfections and being compassionate about the fact that we can and do make mistakes. Acknowledging that even though we make mistakes we are still ‘good’ is essential. The more you can accept that you are imperfect and yet still good, the more you will feel love and compassion towards yourself.
Self-love is about grasping that your essence is good. It is accepting that you can be light even, though sometimes you feel dark. It is learning to be gracious towards yourself. Self- love is a consistent commitment to remembering who your authentic self is: good. Not perfect, but good.
Here are some things I do know. We are not perfect. We are all human which means we all have human frailties. We all make mistakes. Mistakes are part of the way we learn. So, self-love is not about being perfect or performing perfectly. Self-love is more about accepting our imperfections and being compassionate about the fact that we can and do make mistakes. Acknowledging that even though we make mistakes we are still ‘good’ is essential. The more you can accept that you are imperfect and yet still good, the more you will feel love and compassion towards yourself.
Self-love is about grasping that your essence is good. It is accepting that you can be light even, though sometimes you feel dark. It is learning to be gracious towards yourself. Self- love is a consistent commitment to remembering who your authentic self is: good. Not perfect, but good.
