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If It’s Not Working in 2015

… leave it there.

No need to carry it forward.

New years are just that – they are for having A NEW YEAR. But we make it a habit of packing up what didn’t work this year and slinging it over our shoulders and bringing it forward into the new year – as if it will somehow magically change? It doesn’t. It is the same dysfunction just another year later and another year wasted.

If a part of your life is consistently not working and keeping you back, then the new year ahead is the time to make change. Resolutions are set to free us from the binds that tie us.

Take stock of what isn’t working this year, so you can find what will. Don’t sit back and watch your life idly pass you by. Every new year is a year to make change and create the life of your dreams.

If it hasn’t been working in 2015 (and in years past), it will most likely NOT work in 2016. Cut your losses and change direction. Decide what you can leave in this current year and create the space to bring in new energy. You already know what things look like this year and if you do not create the space for change, next year will be an obvious repeat. Do you want to make it a happy new year? Then truly move forward and make it A NEW YEAR.

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Ask For What You Need

… or you’ll NEVER get it.

Speak up or you’ll NEVER be heard.

And ironically if you don’t, you’ll have no one to blame but yourself.

Things do not magically change because you want them to change. They change when you do something about it. The name of the game is communication – simple, direct and honest.

In life, YOU DO NOT GET WHAT YOU DO NOT ASK FOR. So start asking. It isn’t anyone else’s responsibility to give you what you need, it is your responsibility to honor yourself and ask for it. People cannot help you if you do not first help yourself by articulating your unhappiness and being clear about what it is you really need.

But our biggest problem is that we stay stuck in situations that no longer serve us and relationships that no longer nurture our growth. And we wonder why we are left unhappy and depressed? By living your life in a state of inertia, nothing can ever change until an act of will propels the situation forward.

Don’t waste your time blaming others for your unhappiness. If you can’t articulate yourself clearly then you will NEVER get your needs met and you can NEVER blame anyone else for it.

If something in your life needs to change, speak up or forever hold your peace. And don’t think you are doing others a favor by staying quiet, you are hurting everyone by keeping the peace. Your life and believe it or not, the lives of others, only improves when you decide to do something about your situation. How do you want to live you life?

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Feeling Overwhelmed

… is always MORE OVERWHELMING than the actual tasks at hand.

Nothing is ever as challenging as we think it’s going to be.

Whether we have too much on our plates, or are feeling in-over-our-heads with a project(s), we inadvertently tend to build up anxiety over getting it all done/achieving it on time, etc… We naturally default to feeling overwhelmed, but the overall feelings of “being overwhelmed” are much more overwhelming than if we were to just sit down and work out the logistics of doing the project and/or setting the schedule. Once you shed the light of consciousness on your anxieties, you can see that it is never as bad as you think it will be.

Instead of worrying about how to tackle a project and pushing it off for weeks feeling overwhelmed, sit down and start it. You will soon see that it is not as bad as you thought. Nothing is as difficult as are the feelings of overwhelm. Things are never as difficult as we think they will be. But we spend countless amounts of energy fretting over it and that is the energy that we could be channeling into something more constructive.

Take back your power. Don’t give it away to worry about something that needs to get done. Live one moment at a time and by the time you get up to doing what you have been feeling overwhelmed with, you realize it isn’t so bad after all and much easier than you thought.

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If You Are Feeling Stuck in Your Life

… Change it up.

Explore MORE. Do MORE. Experience MORE.

Or risk staying in the same place forever.

Change doesn’t happen by standing still. Nothing ever changes in your life until you invite the powers of change in.

Everything is energy and when we repeat the same patterns of behavior that make us feel stuck and bound, we cement that energy around us. In other words, repetition is binding. By engaging in the same behavior over and over again, we create walls around us that keep us trapped in the unhappy place we’ve created for ourselves. It makes it impossible for any degree of change to reach us.

Change requires “flexible” energy – doing new things, experiencing new situations and exploring new sides to ourselves. This flexible energy has the ability to “poke holes” in the walls of stagnancy around us and bring about change.

So if you are feeling stuck, get out of your rut. Change up your routine. Do something new – anything new. Do even just one small thing differently and let that fresh energy begin to chip away at the walls that bind you.

Complacency breeds stagnancy and stagnancy cannot exist in a world where change reigns. You may not know how to get out of feeling stuck, but you can make small changes to your life and routine and those small changes have the power to break the chains that bind you.

If you are feeling stuck, change it up. Don’t let fear keep you complacent. You don’t have to have all the answers, you just have to make one small change and the universe will conspire with you to help break the chains that bind you. Anytime you are ready to be free, the rest of your life is ready to begin.

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When You Leave Something

… leave it with LOVE.

Otherwise you’ll be attached to it. And not in a good way.

In other words, if you hate it or resent it, it will follow you. And if you’re done with something/someone, do you really want it hanging over you and preventing your happiness?

Negative emotions such as anger, hatred, resentment, frustration, guilt, and pain carry a dense vibration; they keep you locked and engaged in a very painful dialogue with your past. As long as you harbor those emotions, you are not free to move forward into your future. Those emotions will keep you trapped in the place you’ve struggled to move away from.

The answer? Let go with love…

Translation? Learn the reasons why that person/situation was on your path. What did they bring to the table for you? What did they teach you? How did they make you better? Acknowledge all the good the relationship bestowed upon you and be grateful for the experience. It made you who you are. Bless it and let it go – but always let it go with love – kindly, constructively and compassionately – then your work is done.

Letting go with love sets you free because it assures that you have allowed yourself to get the learning from the experience and you pass that love along to the person/situation you walk away from. That love is kind and mutually supportive – it’s a win-win situation for everyone. As humans, to be heard and understood and to hear and understand another is the greatest gift we can offer each other. It’s the greatest gift that love offers.

So when you leave something/someone, leave it with love. That quality of love will sustain and nurture both of you as it heals the past and opens the doors to a much happier and healthier tomorrow.

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Woulda – Shoulda – Coulda

… but you didn’t.

So move on.

Hindsight is always 20/20 but your sight in the moment is all that matters. When you make a decision, you make it with the best information you have at hand in that moment. And that is really all that matters. That is all you can do.

Circumstances and situations change all the time as people use their free will. All you can do is to acknowledge that you made the best possible decision in that moment given the information you had at hand and LET IT GO.

You cannot control every outcome. You cannot outsmart the universe. Situations unfold quite purposefully to bring you to where you need to be in your life – whether you recognize that or not.

In the moment you make a decision, recognize that at that moment in time, you made the BEST DECISION. If you made that decision from a calm, centered space and it was a decision that felt authentic to you and satisfied your needs, wants and an innate understanding of your truth, then you made the RIGHT DECISION in that moment. End of story.

It doesn’t matter what the future brings… hindsight is always 20/20 and there is always a reason why we are NOT given it upfront. If we knew all the answers before we made the decisions, we wouldn’t be learning and evolving.

Your life is always unfolding in front of you. If a decision you made seems to no longer serve you or appears to be the wrong decision for you, then it is time to make another decision. Don’t regret the decisions you make, only regret your inability to revise the equation and make amendments to it.

Life is not static… decisions are meant to evolve and grow with you. “Woulda Shoulda Coulda” is the song for victims. When you are truly empowered and in charge of your life, you realize that all is happening exactly the way it is supposed to be happening and you are being asked whether or not you can roll with the changes.

Make your decisions and DON’T LOOK BACK. Your decision was perfect in that moment. But in this new moment, you might want to readjust it slightly in order to account for your own personal evolution. Hindsight might always be 20/20 but your insight in this moment is always PERFECT.

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Being Vulnerable

… takes real COURAGE.

And only a small few have it.

In essence, being vulnerable is the key to your PERSONAL POWER.

Ironic… right?

Our society is obsessed with “being strong” and overcoming fears and inadequacies by overcompensating with ego. But that isn’t real courage. It’s fake. It’s a false sense of identity.

Hiding behind your ego is inauthentic to who you really are. It’s just a wall or facade that you put up for others to see while you cowardly hide behind it, with the intention of hiding all your insecurities, fears and failures.

But here’s the deal… real courage comes from inside – it is an inner strength and it’s dervived from your ability to be authentic to yourself, to be real, to acknowledge your weaknesses and recognizing that through them, your greatest strengths lie.

The ability to admit your faults, your fears, your inadequacies is what makes you truly courageous. In a world of cowards, those who can look in the mirror and own who they are, are the ones who will grow to address those faults, fears and inadequacies. Through this process, real growth and personal transformation occurs. Without this process, we become a slave to the ego and never heal our pain. We continue to mask our pain and push it down until it destroys us.

You don’t become courageous by being a coward and hiding your vulnerabilities from the world. Courage must be earned by fearlessly confronting your demons and being strong enough within yourself to wraggle them to the ground.

It is easy to sit by and pretend you do not have issues and hide them behind a thick, fancy, shiny patina. But really the question is… can you be vulnerable? Can you go deep within yourself and ask yourself who you really are and be able to unearth the negative patterns you have been unconsciously playing out? It’s only through that deep difficult work that one truly earns the title of true courage. It’s the ultimate bravery. Ignorance might be bliss…but it is NEVER courage. Being vulnerable is the only real courage.

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Pay Attention To Your Life

… it’s trying to tell you something.

Every event and every situation that shows up in your life is guiding you along your path. There are NO coincidences.

The events and situations that occur in your life are very purposeful – they are happening to awaken you and bring you to a higher level of consciousness and happiness. They are specifically bringing you to a better place – if you can pay attention to them.

Unfortunately, most people do not pay attention to their lives. They are sleepwalking their way through their lives – bumping into the same walls and hitting the same obstacles over and over again. They run the all too familiar mouse wheel of existence because it is anesthetizingly familiar.

Pay attention to your life. It has something to teach you. Wake up and listen.

Life whispers to you through every feeling you have, subtly saying, “wake up… make a turn here…. you are unhappy. Get off this road.”

Life whispers to you through every new person you encounter.

Life whispers to you through every experience and every new road you venture down.

Life whispers to you through every line in a movie and every lyric of a song.

It is always whispering… “listen to me.. pay attention to this…. this will help you… this is the answer you are seeking.”

Listen to the whispers of your life and let them lead you to the life you are meant to be living. If you do not pay attention to your life, you will miss the subtle bends in the road and may end up in a ditch.

PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR LIFE, nothing haphazardly happens to you. Every situation/event is carefully orchestrated to bring you towards higher learning and a higher understanding of yourself and your needs.

Wake up. Don’t let your life pass you by without getting the meaning from it. Pay attention and catch the open doors of opportunity before they slam shut in front of you.

Your life is your road map to success… pay attention to it; it is ALWAYS trying to tell you something.

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Living Outside Your Comfort Zone

… is where the magic happens.

Because magic only lives in the realm of the unexpected. If it’s expected, it’s ordinary. To be extraordinary, one must find themselves OUTSIDE the expected.

Everyone wants magic, but not many are willing to step outside the safe, orderly haven of expectation and routine. Comfort zones dominate our decision making processes and therefore limit our potential for greatness. Comfort zones control our dreams and passions and stuff them into the small, safe and controllable boxes of routine which suffocates the spirit.

Nothing amazing is ever created within a comfort zone. Creativity can never fluorish within narrow confines of human thought. Boundaries must be pushed – walls must be torn down – and risks must be taken – in order for real magic to infiltrate our existence.

Do you believe in magic? Do you believe that magic exists for you? Staying in your comfort zone will never invite the energies of magic to dance with you. Comfort zones keep you safe, they do not make you great. 

Strive to be extraordinary. Get out of the ordinary box, leave your comfort zone behind and open up to the magic all around you. Challenge yourself to get out of that comfort zone and do something/be something amazing. Life is to short to sit back and accept mediocrity. Allow yourself to break through your confines and create the magic that you seek. You were never meant to stay safe, you were always meant to achieve greatness. What are you waiting for? You are the only one standing in your way.

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You Get What You Choose

… so choose wisely.

And really choose wisely because the quality of your choices determines the QUALITY OF YOUR LIFE. It can be no other way.

You might think that sounds obvious, but this is a very misunderstood concept. We often times feel stuck with the choices we’ve made, so we never make new ones. We accept unhappiness because we cannot see any other way out. But choices are always meant to be changed. You are only stuck in the belief that you cannot change them.

It’s YOUR life… No one else’s. And if a choice you’ve made isn’t serving you (for whatever reason), make another choice. The fact of the matter is that no one has control over your life unless you give it them. And why would you do that? Why would you give up your freedom of choice and keep yourself glued to a choice you once made that no longer makes you happy? When you give up your freedom of choice, you have lost the game of your own life. And trust me, it is a game you don’t want to lose.

So what are you waiting for? Do you want to change your life? Do you want to be happy? Give yourself that chance. Recognize that we live and die by our choices and that the quality of our lives is always contingent on the quality of the choices we are making. The only thing we have in our life are our choices… so choose wisely.

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