Mark B. Borg Jr.'s Blog, page 4
March 21, 2016
Listening to Hear
We don't know what your lives are like, but we're hoping that you can muster up six minutes to communicate effectively—to experiment with listening and being heard.
March 14, 2016
How Avoiding Difficult Dynamics Undermines Work Productivity
Community character, as a function of irrelationship, is a group defense that people in groups unconsciously establish/maintain to protect them from being overwhelmed by anxiety.
March 7, 2016
Later Never Comes—Betrayal and the Threat of Intimacy
Understanding avoidance, especially avoidance of awareness of the threat of intimacy, requires understanding how betrayal in childhood leaves its mark on adult relationships.
February 29, 2016
Why Do We Stay Unwell?
Being well or unwell in relationship and in irrelationship are both two-person processes.
February 22, 2016
The Threat of Intimacy in Our Daily Lives
Intimacy in our everyday lives is about our working through—together—our fear of accepting each other as we are: allowing ourselves to accept and be accepted, love and be loved.
February 15, 2016
Can We Co-Create Emotional Unavailability?
Irrelationship is not a self-against-the-world defense against the anxieties of every day life. It is a dynamic—a defense system that we co-create and co-maintain with others.
February 11, 2016
Valentine's Day—Love's Amateur Night
Valentine’s Day provides an opportunity to test the waters and see what it might be like if we allowed the intimacy and vulnerability of our partnership to happen every day.
February 8, 2016
Narcissism and Abuse as a Co-Created Relationship System
Labeling the other person as pathological to justify leaving them is one way to avoid intimacy. We don’t see how we repeatedly transform each other into what we don't want.
7 Steps to a Guilt-Free Break-Up With a Narcissist
Labeling the other person as pathological to justify leaving them is one way to avoid intimacy. We don’t see how we repeatedly transform each other into what we don't want.
February 1, 2016
5 Steps to a Better Valentine's Day
Valentine’s Day is a day that can be fraught with and weighed down by expectations. Perhaps we can mitigate potential problems by prepping for it together.
