Mark B. Borg Jr.'s Blog, page 3
June 6, 2016
The Power Of Giving - In Action
There is nothing so valuable as having what we offer to others taken, made use of, and experienced as having value and being useful and helpful. Irrelationship blocks this.
June 1, 2016
What If Only I Am Ready/Willing To Work On Our Relationship?
When bottoming-out in irrelationship, it can be a painful moment fraught with terrifying insights into how wrong so much of what previously felt right about the relationship is.
May 26, 2016
Learning to Relate
Learning how to relate is extremely complex—more so when, very early in life, a child’s parents aren’t effective caregivers.
May 9, 2016
How Can Your Relationship Survive True Intimacy?
What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management. Love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.
April 26, 2016
How We Can Be Empowered Through Conflict
When we assume that conflict in a work situation means there's a problem, we create a problem by losing an opportunity for learning and growth. Here's how to do communication well.
April 18, 2016
“I’m Married to My Work”
If we think of intimacy as taking a chance on letting ourselves become known and accepted as we really are, “intimacy” can apply to relationships that develop in the work place.
April 11, 2016
Are You or Your Boss a Benevolent Tyrant?
The day-by-day sharing of space and tasks makes the workplace a powerful incubator for routines of irrelationship.
April 4, 2016
What Does A Successful Relationship Look Like?
Irrelationship allows us to interact with each other to maintain mutual unawareness of the threat of getting what we (think we) want in long-term love: intimacy, for instance.
Mending Distance by Speaking and Listening from the Heart
Irrelationship allows us to interact with each other to maintain mutual unawareness of the threat of getting what we (think we) want in long-term love: intimacy, for instance.
March 29, 2016
Generosity as Isolation
Generosity and altruism are, of course, wonderful qualities. They are also the sheep’s clothes of irrelationship, allowing us to hide our anxiety about being close to others.
