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Tea Time Tuesday: I Betook Time for Myself

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After 4 days of constant busyness at a conference, caring for grandkids amidst the time, caring for one who had Covid, searching for a house amidst working through details for my next visa with lawyers, walking literally 6 miles a day back and forth, I was drained to my toenails. I made a quick, wise decision and told no one. I snuck out of the house, I betook myself to a lovely breakfast in an outdoor cafe and breathed in peace and centered myself for an hour and then jumped back into the wild of life.

And finally my life began to be centered, ideas flowed and peace ruled. Take time for yourself to sit, ponder and sip.

I have gotten used to these funny looking poached eggs that are thrown into boiling water with a bit of vinegar. Today, coffee instead of tea because no restaurant does tea as well as I do!

Golden Era of Children’s Literature:

Randolph Caldecott—illustrator

Honey Cakes

But really, really, really--the key to giving your children mental muscle power and an advantage in any kind of education, is to read aloud to that child. All research complies with this, all teachers and writers say this, Clay and I say it emphatically in our own book. Read first--read daily---turn off media and put away work books and before you do anything else, read out loud to them--and read out loud to them until they are 30! Do not think that just because they can read at 6 that you should make them read to themselves and stop reading out loud. Read to them because you get to share in mentoring, discussing ideas, your vocabulary is bigger and you can explain things and they develop better skills in thinking and writing and communicating when you read out loud.

Sarah provides another peek into the benefits of reading:

“Consider that for every children’s classic written, there are countless versions of it to be found within the minds of the children who read it, and no two of them are the same. The imagination of each child is unique, creating a new image to fit the words he or she reads. Because of this, to read a story is to set in motion a swift growth of new images within the mind of a child. Every book read adds to that stock of inner imagery so that a child who is a great reader has a mind crammed with landscapes and people, trees and fairies, castles and mountains unique to his or her own thought.” 
― Sarah Clarkson, Caught Up in a Story: Fostering a Storyformed Life of Great Books & Imagination with Your Children

Go read a great story today, and enjoy as your brain and your children’s brains grow stronger just by enjoying the tale.

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God Regards Our Love, Not Perfection

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“We ought not to be weary of doing little things for the love of God, who regards not the greatness of the work, but the love with which it is performed.” Brother Lawrence

The world is brimming over with philosophies and values that proclaim the importance of self-fulfillment, self-promotion, accomplishment, and status. Yet Jesus came as a common man, no title, a man of sorrows, and compassion. Jesus chose to humble Himself, as the ultimate servant king. "I am humble and meek," He said. He came not proclaiming His rights, but bowing his knee. He washed feet, touched lepers, embraced and caressed the least, precious children, who He deemed worthy of honor.

When we accept with open arms and hearts a precious little baby as from Him, and wash tiny hands and feet with love in our hearts, we are worshipping. When we hold, rock, sing and comfort a screaming babe in the middle of the night during an ear infection, we become the voice of Jesus.

When we stay up late to listen to the forlorn heart of a teen who is growing, stretching toward adulthood, pondering the injustices of the world, the imperfection of our own families, and extend grace, patience, and soothing, hopeful words, we become the patience, hope, compassion of Jesus.

Our multitudinous little tasks, washing one more dish, correcting one more attitude, kissing one more cheek, when given from a heart full of love for Him, pleases Him far more than if we made millions & had a title of strategic importance.

He sees in secret, He cherishes our hidden worship more than anything else we could give Him-the worship of serving His own children out of a servant heart, filled with love and gratitude for Him. In this is our treasure we lay up in heaven for His glory.

Nathan gave me the little figurine above on a Mother's Day many years ago -- (the boy holding out his heart) He said, "Mom, you held my heart in your hands and shaped it with your love every day, every task, every minute of serving us kids. And Mom, for that reason, you will always be there in my heart, speaking to me of all the treasures you poured in one day at a time."

Love Him today, love those He has given you to serve today.

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Tea Time Tuesday: Tea by the Tray

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A true friend intuitively knows when you need a cup of tea and a quiet place to talk and prepares a place for friendship to grow.

Last week was quite busy for me. It seems many people from the US are visiting Oxford right now. I have all sorts of work, people to meet with, my Bible study, meals for others in my home 3 nights in a row. It just happens that in the middle of the week, Clay told me that one of our friend’s college age children and 3 friends wanted to meet with us for tea while they were in Oxford.

My day had been over busy and I felt adrenalin rising as I rushed home from a meeting. I was met in my kitchen with a fully set tea tray, pastries from the local bakery, tea poured in china mugs, candles lit, music playing, candles flickering—all ready and just right. Clay, my husband had arranged it all ahead of time so that I wouldn’t have to do anything—I just didn’t know it ahead of time but was so relieved. Tea is such a part of our family rhythm and habits that He knew just what to do without any instruction.I did’t have to so much as lift a finger and could just enjoy our visit with friends.

Habits of grace, I call these rhythms that bring moments of civility into your day, or give pause and peace to your week.

Seasons of life seem to be changing for all in our family, and I am trying to figure out how it will reshape my days and my online ministry. As my local ministry continues to heat up, I have less time for other commitments. Monday night I hosted a dinner for my wonderful friends in my Bible study, Preparing and shopping, decorating for this dinner meant I did not have time to do a Tea Time Podcast this week. Yet, the time we spent together was so very precious, as many in our group are carrying heavy burdens and pressures, and we needed to be there for one another. What are the ways you have invested time this week on what mattered that may even have interrupted your planned schedule? People, sweet human beings, are the real centerpiece of the ministry God calls us to as we serve Him, not just tasks. Praying and figuring it all out, again, as I have through many seasons. How about you?

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Owning the Beautiful, Sacred Role of Motherhood

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Years ago, weary from caring for my two littles, Clay encouraged me to meet with a friend for coffee. She had teenagers, was older than me, so I paid attention to what she said.

“Sally, you are so talented in ministry, such a great speaker. Don’t have any more children. You have a girl and a boy. You don’t need any more kids. It would be a waste of your ministry skills and training to further distract yourself with the burden of more children.”

Something about her unsolicited, unexpected counsel, bothered me. I searched scripture about motherhood and children. “God blessed them; God said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply, fill the earth ...’” (Genesis 1:28).

Eve’s name was “the mother of all the living”. Motherhood was an important part of God’s design for man & woman at the beginning. I had discipled adults, now I realized God created me as a mother to disciple my children, the future adults in my own home. The more I studied this topic in thirty-seven years of motherhood, the more I am convinced of the importance of a mother as a disciple maker. This inspired me to write many books on motherhood.

My friend had good intentions in giving her advice, but I knew that childbearing was imbued with eternal significance—raising children, bringing life to my home, and passing on a legacy of faith was part of God’s eternal design for my family.

My investment in my children as a strategic ministry of faith was no less important than the ministry I had outside of my home. This encounter, paved the way for us to decide to have more children, and for me to put aside the demands of public ministry in order to focus on personal ministry in my home.

As a mother who has raised four children from birth into adulthood, engaging my life and faith in the lives of my children has been my most fulfilling, fruitful work. I have not regretted the decision to do less ministry, have more children, and give myself fully to the work of raising them. It was challenging most days, but giving up my life to serve them was worth the cost.

Own Your Life: Living with Deep Intention, Bold Faith, and Generous Love By Clarkson, Sally Buy on Amazon FOR MORE

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Being Led by the Spirit in Parenting

Many times when I talk to parents, they want me to tell them exactly how they should handle whatever difficulty they are facing with their child. This is understandable, because it would be way more comfortable to have a written rule about how to respond in each circumstance so we could be assured of always doing the right thing. However, God seems to want us to need His guidance day by day, and to use what we know of ourselves and our children to make decisions.

The reality is that Scripture does not provide a systematic doctrine of child-raising. Instead, what we have is partial, anecdotal, and somewhat random. There are enough biblical cues and clues to discern what God wants us to know about parenting, but from my study it seems clear that He has purposely left the subject incomplete—He leaves it to our discretion to take the pieces He provides and make the whole. Why? I believe He doesn’t want us enslaved by conformity to only one “right way” of child raising; he wants us free in Christ to parent in the power of the Holy Spirit by faith. Faith and freedom should be the nature of our life in the Spirit, and it should be the nature of our life at home as parents.

Perhaps you’re continuing a journey you’re already on and are just looking for new parenting ideas. Perhaps you’re stepping onto the path of lifegiving parenting for the first time, looking for God’s direction for your home. Or perhaps you’re considering a new paradigm for your Christian home—moving from a legalistic model of form and function to a lifegiving model of faith and freedom. However you come to lifegiving parenting, and whatever it leads you to do in your home, keep Paul’s admonition in mind: “The Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom” (2 Corinthians 3:17, NIV). You’re free in God’s Spirit to discover what is right for your home.

The Lifegiving Parent: Giving Your Child a Life Worth Living for Christ By Clarkson, Sally, Clarkson, Clay

Tea Time Tuesday: Celebration Is Sacred

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“Come, Let us have tea and speak of happy things.”

I have made it a habit, a life value, to attempt to lead my family in the direction of happiness and joy through the rhythms we live out daily. Why? Because it is a sort of defense against difficult times. Even scripture teaches us that.

7 So go ahead. Eat your food with joy, and drink your wine with a happy heart, for God approves of this!

Ecc. 9:7

As many of you know, last week, our family took the trek to Scotland to celebrate Joy, my daughter. We heralded her accomplishments by finishing her PHD. Celebrating those we love is a sacred practice. When we value a person, speak well of them, affirm their worth, cherish their lives, we are imprinting their brains with the message that they matter, they have significance in this world, God has created them with purpose and meaning to His story in the world. But celebration takes time and energy and planning.

On today’s tea time Tuesday podcast, I speak of the week in Scotland, food we ate, etc. Enjoy!

We made a very long, trip to Scotland, got an Airb&b, bought flowers, hosted a donut and coffee open house one morning, attended several garden parties hosted by the school, wrote cards, met friends, walked literally thousands and thousands of steps (over 5 miles a day), and prayed for Joy. These celebrations hold our children fast to the ideals of our faith, love, family and give foundations to their lives.

Lockdown held other sacred times for our family. The rhythms we have kept through all of our years no matter where we moved, what the place, became really fun for us. We ate long meals by candlelight every night. We walked for miles together along the Oxford canals and sat on benches in the parks being friends. We watched several television series at night and a few comedies that delighted us together.

The dance of life goes on--one more generation anew will have their turn to make it beautiful and now my time to invest, to love and encourage is less than it used to be. Remember, my friends, today, you are living and writing the story of your life, crafting the legacy you will leave to generations to follow.

Through all seasons, we whisk here and there in a hurry to "get it all done." But, I am now in the position of being the one to say, "before you know it, the early years of motherhood come to an end, and you have no more days to enjoy your son or daughter as a child."

This year, I intentionally made time, even when I did not feel like I had it, to make more memories--to live in the moments when I could share real life--look into their eyes, share in the deepest expression of their hearts  because I know the season was about to pass.

We will never have this year, this day, this moment in which to invest again—it will be fleeting and over, as one spring marks another, one autumn tells of us another season or winter a year soon to be past.

Today is the day in which I may pour out love, Inspiration, serving and touching hearts, pointing in this moment of glory, to the divine Creator. Teaching what is true and right and good. Modeling faith.

I understood, from their first days, that

A real, little human being, requires personal attention as a flower needs real water.  

When this day is past, I must hope that I have used it well and invested wisely because I will never have it to live over again, and soon, very soon, the autumn of motherhood will remind us, that this season is almost over.

Remember: Only the wise can dance to the rhythm of life!

May you listen to the music of each season, and dance elegantly the dance God has granted you within your home.

The Lifegiving Home: Creating a Place of Belonging and Becoming By Clarkson, Sally, Clarkson, Sarah Buy on Amazon The Lifegiving Table: Nurturing Faith through Feasting, One Meal at a Time By Clarkson, Sally Buy on Amazon

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You Will Never Be Enough

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We are all in the business of telling a story with our lives. Sometimes emotional storm clouds gather around us and threaten to destroy the goodness of the story we are trying to live out.

As we get older, sometimes we let voices other than God’s begin to narrate our lives. My own life and children have never been flawless.

For many years I allowed critical voices from family and friends dictate how I viewed myself and my story.

"You have made so many mistakes in your past, you can never make up for it."

"Why do you always think of the craziest things to believe and then follow these crazy ideals? You are going to fail and your children will be injured by your lack of wisdom."

"You fail so often. What right have you to speak or write? If people really knew how flawed and selfish you are at times, they would never want to listen to what you have to say."

"You are not doing enough as a mom and your children are never going to love God or be educated well, because you never accomplish all that you set out to do."

We all have voices in our heads that speak of flaws, fears, guilt, anger--and these thoughts can sometimes take over and bring darkness to our souls.

Culture became a significant voice in my life constantly making me feel ostracized and uncertain of my countercultural decisions. Often our critics are our own family members and "believers" in our own arenas. I call them Job's friends--ready to blame  for the things that are going wrong in life when actually God is working at greater purposes.

When we begin to weigh others’ words more heavily than God’s Word, we begin to rehearse narratives about our lives that may not be true. And often, we do not live fruitful or faith-filled Christian lives because instead of looking at God's great capacity to live through us and to accomplish more than we ever could alone, we measure our abilities by our sinful, fallen and flawed self.

Spiritual strength is only found with the Spirit of God living through us--not by us grunting out a works based life that will never measure up. We will never be perfect or adequate on our own, but we are adequate when we walk by faith and live into God's provision for strength, joy, growth and wisdom.

If we are truly to own our lives, we must begin by owning our story and identity spoken to us by our living, loving God.

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What Does Your Family Symphony Sound Like?

Several years ago, I found myself reminiscing as I stood at the sink making the usual preparations for another of our annual Family Days. As our family has grown and flown, so to speak, we find it more difficult to gather all at once, and yet the effort continues to be made. We usually find at least a day or two we can all overlap and gather to share memories and just enjoy being together! Every year, there are more reasons to be grateful for our love for one another and our ability to share it. Have you ever considered the sounds of your own family symphony?

I remember other times in the past that hail to the times we are soon to have once again....

“ Just left the freeway. Home in minutes .”

Nathan’s text set off a familiar flurry of activity as I hurried through the house, eager to complete every preparation before the car headlights bounced off the front windows.

Candles lit.
Check.
Favorite acoustic music playing.
Check.
House straightened.
Check.
Dinner on the stove, cookies in the oven.
Check. (It smelled wonderful!)

Joy, our youngest, was coming home from a semester abroad, her first stint to be overseas by herself for four months. Joel and Nate had been dispatched to travel the familiar hour of highway to the Denver airport and had sent the text as soon as they exited on County Line Road, two miles from our home. I had just enough time to light the lantern at the front door and write “Welcome Home, Joy!” on the small slate board in chalk colors of red and blue.

Standing just inside the door, I paused and looked behind me at the waiting house, my appreciation refreshed by seeing it through the eyes of someone who has been away. I so love this place that my family calls home, that embodies so much of what we have come to think of as “the Clarkson ways.”

Each piece of furniture, each architectural detail, each tradition and ritual sings to us of beauty, safety, and growth—and of the vision, planning, thought, and artistry that went into fleshing out the vision of home that captivated me from the very beginning.

Even as an orchestra needs a conductor to choose the music, lead rehearsals, and unite all of the instruments into a harmonious sound, so every home needs someone who conducts what I call the life music of a home—its atmosphere. The one who conducts is responsible for bringing out the swelling themes, the steady bass notes, the drama of percussion kept in its place, the soaring melodies and intricate counterparts—all the instruments sounding together in a symphony of grace.

In our home, for the most point, the conductor of life within its walls is me. This is the role I have chosen, the role that suits me best, though my husband, Clay, adds his own unique rhythms and melodies and the whole family helps perform the ultimate creation of our shared life. And even as an orchestra must practice the music—with mistakes and interruptions scattered along the way—so our home building has been a process that will take a lifetime to perfect.

The Lifegiving Home: Creating a Place of Belonging and Becoming By Clarkson, Sally, Clarkson, Sarah

Wisdom, Agency & Capacity for a Blessed Life

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If the moments of your day have gone awry, simply take time for a warm cup of tea and delectable cake, breathe in peace for a few minutes, and start life afresh, now centered and at peace! SBC

I’m off to magical, mysterious, mystical Scotland to honor Joy’s graduation of her PHD. It is the first ceremony of the school for several years! What an accomplishment and finally we can celebrate. St. Andrews has a captivating influence on me and I am always tearful when I have to leave.

Meanwhile, I have been pondering women’s amazing capacity to live life to the fullest by living fully into one’s capacity, with wisdom, and using agency to spend the coins of ones life on what matters. As I have watched my girls flourish as women and as professionals, I see them stretching into the women God made them to be. I absolutely love women of every background, story and personality and want to champion them all.

Today, I celebrate other women—composer, author, cook, who have become influencers in their own fields by using wisdom to access their potentials. (Women I have grown to admire.)

I’ll eat a bit of fish and chips, feast and chat with many and cherish every moment.

Still praying for a proper house to come our way. Keep us in your prayers.

And do let me know what is up in your world and how I can pray for you.

Happy Week to all.

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Summer is For Memories, Creating Fun, Enjoying Life & Not for Complaining

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Summer is for fun.

This season will pass quickly, take time to celebrate life—have fun, create memories and refuel.

A stark memory rests in my mind from when I was a little girl that has never gone away. There was a woman in my life, (I’ll call her Frau Grumpy).

She followed most of life with clouds hanging over her demeanor— complaining, carrying around an Eeyore sort of  "chip on her shoulder, she never ceased to sigh deeply, after almost everything she said. Supposedly she was a mature believer who had been a "committed" Christian since childhood. Yet, she  always made me feel discouraged when I would go to her home as a child. Her spirit depleted those of us who had to spend time with her and also made me feel that it would be easy to disappoint her because everything around her did not meet up to her standards.

When at home recently, I was having a quiet time with the Lord, and He brought this to mind. I realized that this woman had high ideals, but her ideals did not include having a grateful, contented heart. And so, the spirit she cast on all that were in her wake was one of complaining and whining.

In this fallen world of ours, it is very easy to become disappointed with almost everything around us--the media, the television shows, the movies, politics, disasters, the lack of morality in our leaders, the economic crisis, people who compromise or are immature and disappoint us, and on and on. Many of us have very difficult circumstances to bear. Others have a terminally ill child. Marriage can be a place of strife and loneliness. Christians and family members can be our harshest critics. Yes, life can be extremely taxing. And, working through these obstacle courses of life can deplete us and has caused me considerable depression at times.

But what we practice on a daily basis when we face these trials, will determine, to some degree the legacy and memory we leave to those who know us well.

All of us must come to the conclusion at some point, that this is the "broken" place. This is the sphere in which sinful men have separated themselves from God's original design. Here, Satan prowls around like a roaring lion seeking whom he may destroy. We should live to expect this as the place of warfare for the kingdom of God, and take up our arms as His soldiers to fight our battles with courage and faith.

But what we practice we will become. If we practice fear--being afraid what life could bring our way; or what may happen to our children at this point in history;  or what if we go under financially;  or what if my child who is learning to drive has a wreck on the freeway; etc., then we will become  even more fearful and frozen in our ability to trust God.

If we practice criticism of others, complaining and seeing others with a judgmental attitude, we will become even more harsh and critical, unloving and self-centered.

If we practice living in guilt and inadequacy, we will become small in our own minds and not enjoy God's grace and unconditional love.

Whatever we water in the souls of our hearts will certainly grow. And if we water these "weeds" in the garden of our souls, they will certainly take over and devastate the crop of faith, love, thankfulness, grace, joy.

And if we practice these attitudes of "sin", our children will certainly follow our lead and become immature in the same areas of our own lives. What we sow, we will indeed reap, in our lives and in theirs.

What do you cherish in your heart and feel the right to engage in? Is is healthy? Is it producing life and peace? Observe and see what you are allowing your heart to engage in, because what you cherish will determine what your heart will produce. I share some of my pondering about this on my podcast today. I hope it encourages you.

The Lifegiving Home: Creating a Place of Belonging and Becoming By Clarkson, Sally, Clarkson, Sarah Buy on Amazon