Tim Clinton > Quotes

“Often, our misunderstandings about love are born in disruptive family relationships, where someone was either one-up or one-down to an extreme. There is an appropriate and necessary difference in the balance of power between parents and young children, but in the best situations, there should be no power struggles by the time those children have become adults - just deep connection, trust, and respect between people who sincerely care about each other.
In disruptive families, children are taught to remain one-up or one-down into adulthood. And this produces immature adults who either seek to dominate others (one-up) or who allow themselves to be dominated (one-down) in their relationships - one powerful and one needy, one enabling and one addicted, one decisive and one confused.
In relationships with these people, manipulation abounds. Especially when they start to feel out of control.”
― Tim Clinton, Break Through: When to Give In, How to Push Back: The Moment that Changes Everything

“She buried her need for trust, intimacy, and closeness. Never again would she willingly reach out to anyone for emotional comfort. Instead she relied only on herself and on the material things she let herself love. Having”
― Tim Clinton, Why You Do the Things You Do: The Secret to Healthy Relationships

“coping with strong emotions is a learned skill, one that requires parents and other adults to be good coaches.”
― Tim Clinton, Why You Do the Things You Do: The Secret to Healthy Relationships

“I’m not focusing on your outside. I’m trying to find the masterpiece inside you.”
― Tim Clinton, The Impressionist: Becoming the Masterpiece You Were Created to Be

“Changing your marriage and family starts with changing you.”
― Tim Clinton, The Impressionist: Becoming the Masterpiece You Were Created to Be

“The Bible says, ‘The Lord is compassionate and gracious and does not treat us as our sins deserve. He knows how we are formed. He remembers that we are dust.’ Christ died for you too,”
― Tim Clinton, The Impressionist: Becoming the Masterpiece You Were Created to Be

“he looked to his right, an indication that he was retrieving memories from the brain’s left side—the more logical, factual side.”
― Tim Clinton, Why You Do the Things You Do: The Secret to Healthy Relationships

“The biggest disease today is not leprosy or tuberculosis, but rather the feeling of being unwanted, uncared for, and deserted by everybody. The greatest evil is the lack of love. —MOTHER TERESA”
― Tim Clinton, Why You Do the Things You Do: The Secret to Healthy Relationships

“The more dependent you become on God, the more independent you become in life.”
― Tim Clinton, Attachments: Why You Love, Feel, and Act the Way You Do

“Repressed anger can lead to numerous emotional and physical problems including depression, anxiety, hypertension, and ulcers.”
― Tim Clinton, The Quick-Reference Guide to Biblical Counseling

“Each one of us responds to life’s stressful situations the way we do for a reason. We are hardwired as human beings—truly created and programmed to: 1. Long for deep, lasting, and satisfying relationships. 2. Seek, search, and live for a destiny that is greater than ourselves.”
― Tim Clinton, God Attachment: Why You Believe, Act, and Feel the Way You Do About God

“You’re in a war whether you realize it or not. Denying it or going numb as you say causes you to lose your passion for life. God gave you emotions for a reason. Sometimes you got to get scared enough or angry enough to fight. Filling your life with substitutes just anesthetizes the hole inside you. It’s the enemy’s way of keeping you disengaged and keeping you from fighting for what’s important.”
― Tim Clinton, The Impressionist: Becoming the Masterpiece You Were Created to Be

“C. S. Lewis once said, “From the moment a creature becomes aware of God as God and of itself as self, the terrible alternative of choosing God or self for the centre is opened to it.”28”
― Tim Clinton, God Attachment: Why You Believe, Act, and Feel the Way You Do About God

“If level one disputes are resolved within a few days, the emotions usually evaporate fairly quickly. However, if they persist, the conflict usually advances to levels two and three. Then the primary emotions of fear and anger are buried, leading to a host of secondary emotions.”
― Tim Clinton, Why You Do the Things You Do: The Secret to Healthy Relationships

“Jesus has graced the cover of Time magazine twenty-one times since World War II.”
― Tim Clinton, God Attachment: Why You Believe, Act, and Feel the Way You Do About God

“People may never do what someone else desires or expects, and they can’t be made to. We can control only ourselves; much bitterness could be avoided if people accepted this truth.”
― Tim Clinton, The Quick-Reference Guide to Biblical Counseling

“speaking in Roanoke, VA, at an Extraordinary Women event when a woman stepped up and started crying. “How is Ashley?” she searched my face, completely sincere.”
― Tim Clinton, The Impressionist: Becoming the Masterpiece You Were Created to Be

“a team of researchers at Johns Hopkins Medical School set out on a thirty-year study to find out if a single related cause existed for mental illness, hypertension, malignant tumors, coronary heart disease, and suicide. After studying 1,377 people over a thirty-year period, the single common denominator was not diet or exercise. Not at all. They found instead that the most significant predictor of these five calamities was a lack of closeness to the parents, especially the father.7 Why? Stress! When a child grows up in a loving, intimate home, particularly with a father, the child is better capable of handling stress in life.”
― Tim Clinton, God Attachment: Why You Believe, Act, and Feel the Way You Do About God

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― Tim Clinton, The Quick-Reference Guide to Counseling Women

“Interestingly, even at that early age, the parents’ response to the child is imprinted onto mirror neurons, and later in life, the child is likely to automatically, almost instinctively, and without awareness, respond to his or her own emotions and behaviors in a manner that reflects the way the parents responded.”
― Tim Clinton, God Attachment: Why You Believe, Act, and Feel the Way You Do About God

“No wonder the scandal of the church shooting its wounded keeps growing. And no wonder there will be many expressions of shock and disbelief on judgment day when many will hear the Lord say, “Depart from me, for I never knew you.”
― Tim Clinton, Caring for People God's Way: Personal and Emotional Issues, Addictions, Grief, and Trauma

“Scott had known how to talk about God’s goodness, but now he turned to God for comfort, a step that strengthened his relationship with the Lord.”
― Tim Clinton, Why You Do the Things You Do: The Secret to Healthy Relationships

“God’s not mad at you. All His anger was taken out on Jesus. Thank God for the blood! Now you receive His gift!”
― Tim Clinton, The Impressionist: Becoming the Masterpiece You Were Created to Be

“The anger that arises out of hope fuels adaptive conflict.”
― Tim Clinton, Why You Do the Things You Do: The Secret to Healthy Relationships

“Saint Augustine once noted, “Man was made for God, and he’ll never find rest until he finds it in the One who made him.”
― Tim Clinton, Why You Do the Things You Do: The Secret to Healthy Relationships

“Remember this, though: change takes courage, and courage grows with knowledge.”
― Tim Clinton, Why You Do the Things You Do: The Secret to Healthy Relationships