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“Our most basic instinct is not for survival but for family. Most of us would give our own life for the survival of a family member, yet we lead our daily life too often as if we take our family for granted.”
― Paul Pearsall

“The credo of Asclepian or brain-oriented healing is 'don't just sit there, do something.' [...] The credo of Hygeian or heart-oriented healing is 'don't just do something, sit there.”
― Paul P. Pearsall, The Heart's Code: Tapping the Wisdom and Power of Our Heart Energy

“I began to fear that constant hoping might cause me to sacrifice today for the illusion of a better tomorrow." - The Last Self-Help Book You'll Ever Need”
― Paul Pearsall

“You can resent your bald spot or be glad you have a head.”
― Paul Pearsall

“Stop looking for love and start showing it.”
― Paul Pearsall

“Shut up and listen. Research shows that people who interrupt are three times more likely to die of a heart attack than those who don’t and that marital relationships usually fail because of too much communication, not too little. Couples who spend a lot of time being quiet together stay together.”
― Paul Pearsall, The Last Self-Help Book You'll Ever Need: Repress Your Anger, Think Negatively, Be a Good Blamer, and Throttle Your Inner Child

“It is the mark of an educated man to be able to evaluate a thought without accepting it. ARISTOTLE”
― Paul Pearsall, The Last Self-Help Book You'll Ever Need: Repress Your Anger, Think Negatively, Be a Good Blamer, and Throttle Your Inner Child

“All the pop psychologists are misleading people about things like guilt and conscience. Guilt is a noble emotion; the person without it is a monster.”16”
― Paul Pearsall, The Last Self-Help Book You'll Ever Need: Repress Your Anger, Think Negatively, Be a Good Blamer, and Throttle Your Inner Child

“Lasting love is more a matter of learning to look outward at the world together than looking longingly eye-to-eye.   Love Conditionally. Healthy, lasting love is conditional, not unconditional. No one, including you, is love-worthy if she or he does not behave lovingly. Love is something you earn, not something you deserve. Worry more about being love-worthy than about your own self-worth.”
― Paul Pearsall, The Last Self-Help Book You'll Ever Need: Repress Your Anger, Think Negatively, Be a Good Blamer, and Throttle Your Inner Child

“most of the problems we think we have stem from too much self-focus rather than too little.”
― Paul Pearsall, The Last Self-Help Book You'll Ever Need: Repress Your Anger, Think Negatively, Be a Good Blamer, and Throttle Your Inner Child

“Some people believe they have moral choices other than to love their partners no matter what; others believe that they deserve love, no matter how they behave. I say that both are wrong.”
― Paul Pearsall, The Last Self-Help Book You'll Ever Need: Repress Your Anger, Think Negatively, Be a Good Blamer, and Throttle Your Inner Child

“The mind-closing danger of biased beliefs occurs when we don’t know we hold them. Sometimes we have to swallow our pride and engage in clear-eyed analysis.”
― Paul Pearsall, The Last Self-Help Book You'll Ever Need: Repress Your Anger, Think Negatively, Be a Good Blamer, and Throttle Your Inner Child

“The black color of the pupil results from an energy convergence and the total absorption of all of the energy waves of the color spectrum. When you look into another person’s eyes at their black pupil, you are looking at what has become of you in their eyes.”
― Paul Pearsall, The Heart's Code: Tapping the Wisdom and Power of Our Heart Energy

“What really drives us to seek help is an equally frightening sensation: that of being alive, yet not really living.”
― Paul Pearsall, The Last Self-Help Book You'll Ever Need: Repress Your Anger, Think Negatively, Be a Good Blamer, and Throttle Your Inner Child

“Don’t Expect What Goes Around to Come Around. Total jerks and evil people often get all the good breaks. Being nice guarantees nothing. Good things happen to bad people. Sometimes, things just don’t “balance out” or “work out for the best.”
― Paul Pearsall, The Last Self-Help Book You'll Ever Need: Repress Your Anger, Think Negatively, Be a Good Blamer, and Throttle Your Inner Child

“Research indicates that the longest-living people in the world were distinguishable by their pessimistic outlooks.”
― Paul Pearsall, The Last Self-Help Book You'll Ever Need: Repress Your Anger, Think Negatively, Be a Good Blamer, and Throttle Your Inner Child

“Energy cardiology suggests that the heart is the conductor that keeps all the cells playing the same score.”
― Paul Pearsall, The Heart's Code: Tapping the Wisdom and Power of Our Heart Energy

“In preparation for his New York Times Magazine story about one woman’s heart transplant experience, he had the opportunity to attend a Valentine’s Day party held for more than one hundred heart transplant recipients. Almost every recipient reported “spiritual memories,” or feelings of the energy of their donor. Siebert writes, “All the people I met at the party spoke in the same reverent tones about the angel in their chests, about this gift, this responsibility they now bear, and the little prayer they say to the other person inside them. It was as if they were part of some strange new cult, the tribe of the transplanted.”28 No one forgets that they have another person’s heart in their chest, and Siebert acknowledges that no matter how hard we try to see the heart as “just a pump,” every heart transplant recipient seemed to “re-inform themselves with a larger spiritual significance.”
― Paul Pearsall, The Heart's Code: Tapping the Wisdom and Power of Our Heart Energy

“The Heart Energy Amplitude Recognition Test Dr. Paul Pearsall—President & CEO—Ho’ala Hou (To Reawaken), Inc.
SCORING
0=Never 1=Almost Never 2=More Than Sometimes 3=A Lot 4=Almost Always
___1. Are you in a hurry? (Have you looked ahead on this test?)”
― Paul Pearsall, The Heart's Code: Tapping the Wisdom and Power of Our Heart Energy

“As Sandra now knows, her husband, Jim, received the heart of a young woman from New York. Her family said she was prone to depression throughout her life, was shy and soft-spoken, had worked part-time in a flower shop, and had taken her own life in despair over a lost love.”
― Paul Pearsall, The Heart's Code: Tapping the Wisdom and Power of Our Heart Energy

“domino transplant” in which she received a healthy heart and lung from a deceased donor and her still-healthy heart was given to another patient; this way, her new lungs, connected to their original heart, are less likely to fail.)”
― Paul Pearsall, The Heart's Code: Tapping the Wisdom and Power of Our Heart Energy

“Have less; do less; say no.”
― Paul Pearsall

“The way of the heart is much less environmentally deterministic than the brain and is based on a view of the universe as essentially a friendly place. The heart speaks in the language summarized by author Elizabeth Rivers: “When something doesn’t go my way, I let go of my idea of how it should be, trusting that my mind [brain] doesn’t know the larger picture.”
― Paul Pearsall, The Heart's Code: Tapping the Wisdom and Power of Our Heart Energy

“Don’t Read Weight-Loss Books: Eat Them. They’re a better source of fiber than information on permanent weight loss. If you eat them, they’ll stay with you longer and be generally better for your bowels than the plans they offer.   Ditch Your Diet. Research shows that no diet works for long, and constantly trying and failing at dieting is depressing, unhealthy, and ends up making you even fatter. Use the SWELMM system of “Stop Worrying, Eat Less, Move More.”
― Paul Pearsall, The Last Self-Help Book You'll Ever Need: Repress Your Anger, Think Negatively, Be a Good Blamer, and Throttle Your Inner Child

“We seldom say we love someone with all of our head, send brain-shaped candy on Valentine’s Day, or tell our lover that we want to give our brain to them.”
― Paul Pearsall, The Heart's Code: Tapping the Wisdom and Power of Our Heart Energy

“pain is fact; suffering is optional”
― Paul Pearsall, Awe: The Delights and Dangers of Our Eleventh Emotion

“And whenever he’s busy trying to be all he can be, he forgets about trying to be all we can be.”
― Paul Pearsall, The Last Self-Help Book You'll Ever Need: Repress Your Anger, Think Negatively, Be a Good Blamer, and Throttle Your Inner Child

“The brain thinks and seems to know it thinks, but thinking is not its primary evolutionary imperative. Rational thinking comes second to the brain’s reactive survival instincts, and enhancing the self takes precedence over regard for the welfare of others. The primary mission of the brain is to keep us alive and to make our individual life as physically pleasurable as possible. Connection, loving, and caring are the brain’s second thoughts usually seeping through the din of its urgent energy as expressions of the heart’s code.”
― Paul Pearsall, The Heart's Code: Tapping the Wisdom and Power of Our Heart Energy

“for months Fred would say the name Sandy when we made love. I could have killed him. He said I was hearing things and he still denies it, but when he was really passionate, he used to say Sandy.” With a red face, Sandra leaned toward Karen and whispered, “Jim always calls me Sandra, but in bed he calls me Sandy.” As Jim blushed and took his wife’s hand, Sandra added, “In fact, since the transplant he never says my name at all, but he is much more romantic and much less macho. I’d say he donated his type A heart and got a type B version.”
― Paul Pearsall, The Heart's Code: Tapping the Wisdom and Power of Our Heart Energy

“Whenever I become too busy, too impatient, and too cynical in my daily living, I stop and remember to listen and feel for my heart. I attend to it before it has to demand my attention by gripping me by my chest. During business meetings, on airplanes, or standing in a long, slow line, I place my index finger and thumb together on my left hand and feel the energetic thumping of my heart’s code that reminds me to lead life and not be led by it.”
― Paul Pearsall, The Heart's Code: Tapping the Wisdom and Power of Our Heart Energy