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That's what I took from the book. Not a gold digger. She didn't even spend any of his money buying new clothes, just wore her old flannels that people scorned her for.
I don't necessarily mean buying things, more luxury and status. she was taking ahuge risk and she made her decision to marry with haste.
The second wife was too much in need of Maxim. Too obsessed with getting his love. Instead, she should have asked herself some questions.
For instance, would Maxim have gone to the same lengths for her? Supposing, for example, she'd done something similar to Maxim's wrong. Would Maxim have forgiven her? Loved her? Covered up for her? Stood by her? I don't think so.
On learning what Maxim had done to Rebecca, how I wish with all my heart that the second wife had been strong enough to give him these 2 options:
1) He should give himself up. And accept whatever sentence from a court of law. In return, she'd give him her full support. Her uttermost love. Holding her head up high. For both of them. To the end. In other words, she'd stand by him. For always. Because he'd have made the right choice.
2) In case Maxim refused the first option, she should then have divorced him. The two of them could come up with an appropriate excuse for the divorce. Any excuse. Rather than reveal his crime. For both their sakes... but especially for Maxim's sake. She could tell him that she'd leave the matter of the crime between him and his conscience. Cut her ties with him. No matter how much it hurt her to do so. And walk away.
For Lena: re. the second wife’s clothes: yes, good point, I agree that she didn’t seem to be bothered about getting new clothes. Not even for her first arrival at Manderley, or for her first meeting with her in-laws, or for social visits. But, for myself, I find that it’s one of the things I like about her... And I also like Maxim for not putting pressure on her to get dressier clothing.
Still, it’s interesting to consider what she decided to wear for the costume ball at Manderley. The long, beautiful, white gown. My feeling is that perhaps she had a subconscious wish. Without being consciously aware of it, the second wife may have wanted the lovely white gown to be the wedding dress she never got to have... And who wouldn’t sympathize with her for having such a wish – it’s very understandable.......
Golddigging never entered her mind. She was terrified of the trappings that went with such a rich life, and never even bothered to buy new clothes after moving into Manderley, or new things for her own rooms. She was hopelessly in love with the handsome, mysterious Maxim, and so awkward, shy, and self-conscious, she couldn't bring herself to speak up about anything at all, even when being bullied by the hateful Mrs. Danvers.
Maxim was weak, but a kind & relatively gentle man at heart, who was tormented every day of his life over what he had done. Every moment was a nightmare for him. He made a desperate grab for happiness when he married this innocent, child-like young girl, and then berated himself over and over for it being unfair to her. Personally, he wasn't someone I could imagine loving, but times were very different then. No, I don't think she should have divorced him. She would have been heartbroken without him, and just made herself miserable forever. She loved him, and she understood what happened, and she forgave him. Would any woman today do that? Probably not. But it was definitely in keeping with her character, and their relationship, as written.
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That's what I took from the book. Not a gold digger. She didn't even spend any of his money buying new clothes, just wore her old flannels that people scorned her for.
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I don't necessarily mean buying things, more luxury and status. she was taking ahuge risk and she made her decision to marry with haste.
The second wife was too much in need of Maxim. Too obsessed with getting his love. Instead, she should have asked herself some questions.For instance, would Maxim have gone to the same lengths for her? Supposing, for example, she'd done something similar to Maxim's wrong. Would Maxim have forgiven her? Loved her? Covered up for her? Stood by her? I don't think so.
On learning what Maxim had done to Rebecca, how I wish with all my heart that the second wife had been strong enough to give him these 2 options:1) He should give himself up. And accept whatever sentence from a court of law. In return, she'd give him her full support. Her uttermost love. Holding her head up high. For both of them. To the end. In other words, she'd stand by him. For always. Because he'd have made the right choice.
2) In case Maxim refused the first option, she should then have divorced him. The two of them could come up with an appropriate excuse for the divorce. Any excuse. Rather than reveal his crime. For both their sakes... but especially for Maxim's sake. She could tell him that she'd leave the matter of the crime between him and his conscience. Cut her ties with him. No matter how much it hurt her to do so. And walk away.
For Lena: re. the second wife’s clothes: yes, good point, I agree that she didn’t seem to be bothered about getting new clothes. Not even for her first arrival at Manderley, or for her first meeting with her in-laws, or for social visits. But, for myself, I find that it’s one of the things I like about her... And I also like Maxim for not putting pressure on her to get dressier clothing. Still, it’s interesting to consider what she decided to wear for the costume ball at Manderley. The long, beautiful, white gown. My feeling is that perhaps she had a subconscious wish. Without being consciously aware of it, the second wife may have wanted the lovely white gown to be the wedding dress she never got to have... And who wouldn’t sympathize with her for having such a wish – it’s very understandable.......
Golddigging never entered her mind. She was terrified of the trappings that went with such a rich life, and never even bothered to buy new clothes after moving into Manderley, or new things for her own rooms. She was hopelessly in love with the handsome, mysterious Maxim, and so awkward, shy, and self-conscious, she couldn't bring herself to speak up about anything at all, even when being bullied by the hateful Mrs. Danvers.Maxim was weak, but a kind & relatively gentle man at heart, who was tormented every day of his life over what he had done. Every moment was a nightmare for him. He made a desperate grab for happiness when he married this innocent, child-like young girl, and then berated himself over and over for it being unfair to her. Personally, he wasn't someone I could imagine loving, but times were very different then. No, I don't think she should have divorced him. She would have been heartbroken without him, and just made herself miserable forever. She loved him, and she understood what happened, and she forgave him. Would any woman today do that? Probably not. But it was definitely in keeping with her character, and their relationship, as written.
