Boundaries Face to Face Quotes

“The extent to which two people in a relationship can bring up and resolve issues is a critical marker of the soundness of a relationship.”
― Henry Cloud, Boundaries Face to Face: How to Have That Difficult Conversation You've Been Avoiding

“EMPOWERING Confrontation also brings empowerment, the ability to make choices and changes in your relationship. God created all of us to be change agents for each other. We have a responsibility to influence the people in our lives to be the best possible people they can be: “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up” (1 Thess. 5:11). When we encounter a long-lasting difficulty in a relationship, especially if we don’t have the skills to confront, we feel helpless about seeing any change. We see the problem, we don’t like what it’s doing to the connection, but we don’t know how to broach the issue or do anything about it. This sense of helplessness often translates into resignation and passivity. We give up inside and accept that things will never change. You often see people who have been in a bad marriage for a long time take this stance: He [or she] will never change, so I’ll just have to live with it. While most would agree that we can’t make someone change, it is also true that we can do much to promote change. When we learn to confront lovingly, directly, and effectively, we are often pleased in the change not only in our relationship but also in ourselves. We feel a sense of power that we can make changes and we have choices. We were designed to both connect and act. Confrontation puts the “act” into the connection.”
― Henry Cloud, How to Have That Difficult Conversation: Gaining the Skills for Honest and Meaningful Communication

“Para los puros, todas las cosas son puras.”
― Henry Cloud, Boundaries Face to Face

“lo que respecta a las relaciones, en dos mundos. En uno sostenemos conversaciones amistosas en las cua-les evitamos todo desacuerdo; en el otro sostenemos conversaciones cruciales de tipo conflictivo que desgarran todo y a todos. En el primer mundo tenemos conexión sin verdad, y en el segundo, verdad sin cone-xión.”
― Henry Cloud, Boundaries Face to Face

“You can set a boundary with your words when you are honest and when you establish a consequence for another’s hurtful actions.”
― Henry Cloud, How to Have That Difficult Conversation: Gaining the Skills for Honest and Meaningful Communication