Courage to Change—One Day at a Time in Al‑Anon II Quotes

“While these loved ones may not meet our expectations, it is our expectations, not our loved ones, that have let us down.”
― Al-Anon Family Groups, Courage to Change—One Day at a Time in Al‑Anon II

“Sometimes the only way I can determine whether I’m trying to control someone else or whether I’m simply expressing my feelings is by noticing how many times I say the same thing. If I mention something that is on my mind and then let it go no matter what response I get, I am speaking sincerely. If I repeatedly make similar suggestions or ask prodding questions again and again, I am probably trying to control. If I am satisfied only when the other person responds in a way I consider desirable—agrees with what I’ve said or takes my advice—then I know I’ve lost my focus.”
― Al-Anon Family Groups, Courage to Change—One Day at a Time in Al‑Anon II

“I must learn to give those I love the right to make their own mistakes and recognize them as theirs alone.”
― Al-Anon Family Groups, Courage to Change—One Day at a Time in Al‑Anon II

“When I can’t find a solution to a problem, when I have nagging doubts, fears, or frustrations, when I feel lost or confused, a searching and fearless moral inventory of myself can make a tremendous difference. Whenever I work the Steps, I tell my Higher Power that I am willing to heal, to find a solution, to feel better. The energy that would have been dumped into worry, tears, and obsession can be turned into positive action. “We all wish good things to happen to us, but we cannot just pray and then sit down and expect miracles to happen. We must back up our prayers with action.”
― Al-Anon Family Groups, Courage to Change—One Day at a Time in Al‑Anon II

“can take steps to make amends, we cannot change the fact”
― Al-Anon Family Groups, Courage to Change—One Day at a Time in Al‑Anon II

“Being a Sponsor is as much a commitment to myself as it is to someone else. It is not a favor. Sponsorship gives me a chance to share intimately, to care, to practice detaching with love, and to apply the Al-Anon principles more consciously than ever. And, if I listen to my own words, I find that I usually tell those whom I sponsor exactly what I myself need to hear. “Give what you have. To someone, it may be better than you dare to think.” Henry Wadsworth Longfellow”
― Al-Anon Family Groups, Courage to Change—One Day at a Time in Al‑Anon II

“through the faith and support that surround us, we discover that we can live and even grow through terribly difficult times.”
― Al-Anon Family Groups, Courage to Change—One Day at a Time in Al‑Anon II

“As one member jokingly puts it: “Grant me patience, Lord—and hurry!” My sentiments exactly! Do I have some discomfort or a problem in my life? Let me fix it, or be rid of it now. Is it a situation I’ve lived with for twenty years? Fine, I’ll give it fifteen minutes. Perhaps I’ve lived with it all my life—well then, an hour, maybe even two. Is it connected with alcoholism? Do its roots run really deep in the ground of my being? In that case, I’ll make a few program calls and share at a meeting. Is it still hanging on? Very well, I’ll launch a major campaign of self-criticism. What’s wrong with me? Why do I have all these feelings about something that isn’t important? I’m sure I caused all this myself; somehow I’m to blame. Heaven forbid I should surrender, accept my discomfort, and pray for guidance. Today’s Reminder Willpower cannot eliminate in a day troubles that have taken root and flourished in my life for decades. Things take time. “You cannot create a statue by smashing the marble with a hammer, and you cannot by force of arms release the spirit or the soul of man.” Confucius”
― Al-Anon Family Groups, Courage to Change—One Day at a Time in Al‑Anon II

“look searchingly and fearlessly at myself, my feelings, motives, and actions.”
― Al-Anon Family Groups, Courage to Change—One Day at a Time in Al‑Anon II

“Sometimes I go about pitying myself And all the while I am being carried across the sky By beautiful clouds.” Ojibway Indian saying”
― Al-Anon Family Groups, Courage to Change—One Day at a Time in Al‑Anon II

“…Desprenderse emocionalmente no significa menos atención sino más atención a mi propia serenidad.”
― Al-Anon Family Groups, Valor para cambiar: Un día a la vez en Al-Anon II

“If you understand, things are just as they are; if you do not understand, things are just as they are.” Zen proverb”
― Al-Anon Family Groups, Courage to Change—One Day at a Time in Al‑Anon II

“Daily vigilance will turn out to be a small price to pay for my peace of mind.”
― Al-Anon Family Groups, Courage to Change—One Day at a Time in Al‑Anon II

“If I continue to do what I have always done, I will continue to get what I have always gotten. I want the benefits that this spiritual program has to offer. Therefore, I must take the risk and let go and let God.”
― Al-Anon Family Groups, Courage to Change—One Day at a Time in Al‑Anon II

“After a while, I saw that my fears had little to do with the alcoholic. Instead, they indicated that I needed to work my program.”
― Al-Anon Family Groups, Courage to Change—One Day at a Time in Al‑Anon II

“Let us spend one day as deliberately as Nature, and not be thrown off the track by every nutshell and mosquito’s wing that falls on the rails.” Henry David Thoreau”
― Al-Anon Family Groups, Courage to Change—One Day at a Time in Al‑Anon II

“I had such a low opinion of myself.”
― Al-Anon Family Groups, Courage to Change—One Day at a Time in Al‑Anon II

“know”
― Al-Anon Family Groups, Courage to Change—One Day at a Time in Al‑Anon II

“God seldom delivers . . . virtues all wrapped in a package and ready for use. Rather He puts us in situations where by His help we can develop those virtues.”
― Al-Anon Family Groups, Courage to Change—One Day at a Time in Al‑Anon II

“It’s time to stop waiting for others to take care of me. The only person who can love me the way I want to be loved is me. “Gradually I accepted the fact that my ‘if only’ wishes were not about to come true. But I also learned that I could be happy even if they didn’t.”
― Al-Anon Family Groups, Courage to Change—One Day at a Time in Al‑Anon II

“All the beautiful sentiments in the world weigh less than a single lovely action.”
― Al-Anon Family Groups, Courage to Change—One Day at a Time in Al‑Anon II

“don’t know the motives or circumstances that cause another’s behavior. I do know that when I hold onto resentment and blame, I occupy my spirit with bitterness. Today I will find a more nurturing way to fill myself up. “You can’t hold a man down without staying down with him.”
― Al-Anon Family Groups, Courage to Change—One Day at a Time in Al‑Anon II

“Detachment allows us to let go of our obsession with another’s behavior and begin to lead happier and more manageable lives, lives with dignity and rights, lives guided by a Power greater than ourselves.”
― Al-Anon Family Groups, Courage to Change—One Day at a Time in Al‑Anon II

“We cannot climb up a rope that is attached only to our own belt.” William Ernest Hocking”
― Al-Anon Family Groups, Courage to Change—One Day at a Time in Al‑Anon II

“You have to count on living every single day in a way you believe will make you feel good about your life . . .” Jane Seymour”
― Al-Anon Family Groups, Courage to Change—One Day at a Time in Al‑Anon II

“We talk about the part we played in our problems and how we change our attitudes and actions by applying the Al-Anon program to our lives.”
― Al-Anon Family Groups, Courage to Change—One Day at a Time in Al‑Anon II