The Power of Vulnerability Quotes

“No one reaches out to you for compassion or empathy so you can teach them how to behave better. They reach out to us because they believe in our capacity to know our darkness well enough to sit in the dark with them.”
― Brené Brown, The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connections and Courage

“Oversharing? Not vulnerability; I call it floodlighting. ... A lot of times we share too much information as a way to protect us from vulnerability, and here's why.

I'm scared to let you know that I just wrote this article and I'm under total fire for it and people are making fun of me and I'm feeling hurt -- the same thing that I told someone in an intimate conversation. So what I do is I floodlight you with it - I don't know you very well or I'm in front of a big group, or it's a story that I haven't processed enough to be sharing with other people - and you immediately respond "hands up; push me away" and I go, "See? No one cares about me. No one gives a s*** that I'm hurting. I knew it."

It's how we protect ourselves from vulnerability. We just engage in a behavior that confirms our fear.”
― Brené Brown, The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connections and Courage

“How much we know ourselves is extremely important but how we treat ourselves is the most important.”
― Brené Brown, The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connections and Courage

“You can't numb those hard feelings without numbing the other affects, our emotions. You cannot selectively numb. So when we numb those, we numb joy, we numb gratitude, we numb happiness. And then we are miserable, and we are looking for purpose and meaning, and then we feel vulnerable, so then we have a couple of beers and a banana nut muffin. And it becomes this dangerous cycle.”
― Brené Brown, The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connections and Courage

“When we lose our tolerance for vulnerability, joy becomes foreboding.”
― Brené Brown, The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connections and Courage

“You are responsible for the energy you bring into this room.”
― Brené Brown, The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connections and Courage

“The origin of the word "courage" comes from the word "cour", which mean heart, and it means to completely share your story with your whole heart.”
― Brené Brown, The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connections and Courage

“The people who have a strong sense of love and belonging, BELIEVE they are worthy of love and belonging.”
― Brené Brown, The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connections and Courage

“Vulnerability is our most accurate measure of courage.”
― Brené Brown, The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connections and Courage

“I can always tell about the health of a culture of an organization by how much gossiping is happening”
― Brené Brown, The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connections and Courage

“Accountability is very simple, three things: authenticity, action, and amends.”
― Brené Brown, The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connections and Courage

“We would rather be miserable and certain than wholehearted and uncertain.”
― Brené Brown, The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connections and Courage

“Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we're supposed to be and embracing who we actually are. Choosing authenticity means cultivating the courage to be imperfect, to set boundaries, and to be vulnerable.”
― Brené Brown, The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connections and Courage

“Belonging is the innate, human desire to be a part of something larger than us. Because this yearning is so primal, we often try to acquire it by fitting in and seeking approval, which are not only hollow substitutes for belonging, but often barriers to it. True belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world. Our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.”
― Brené Brown, The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connections and Courage

“Our ability to sit and not know is a superpower.”
― Brené Brown, The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connections and Courage

“One of the things very resilient people have in common is they understand who they are and they don't try to be other people, they don't try to be another way, because incongruent living is not sustainable.”
― Brené Brown, The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connections and Courage

“How we feel is more important than what other people think.”
― Brené Brown, The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connections and Courage

“There are some very universal pieces of armor that we all wear: foreboding joy, perfectionism, and numbing.”
― Brené Brown, The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connections and Courage

“Vulnerability is the first thing I look for in you, but it's the last thing I want you to see in me. In you, it's courage. In me, it's inadequacy. In you, it's strength and lovability. In me, it's shame.”
― Brené Brown, The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connections and Courage

“Sympathy is "I feel bad for you" not "I feel with you." Sympathy, without question, exacerbates shame.”
― Brené Brown, The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connections and Courage

“Shame is a focus on self; guilt is a focus on behavior.”
― Brené Brown, The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connections and Courage

“Men and women who have a deep sense of love and belonging believe they are worthy of love and belonging.”
― Brené Brown, The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connections and Courage

“Fitting in emerges as the primary barrier to belonging.”
― Brené Brown, The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connections and Courage

“Love and belonging are irreducible needs of men, women, and children. In the absence of love and belonging, there is always suffering.”
― Brené Brown, The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connections and Courage

“أصل كلمة "شجاعة" مُشتق من كلمة
|"cour" التي تعني القلب، وتعني أن تُشاركَ قصتك بالكامل من كل قلبك.”
― Brené Brown, The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connections and Courage

“Creativity is a function of being human. There are simply who use their creativity and people who do not. And here is the really hard news. Unused creativity is not benign. It does not dissipate. It metastasizes. And unused creativity turns into rage, grief, shame, judgment.”
― Brené Brown, The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connections and Courage

“Faith and reason are not natural opponents. It's our need for certainty that has pitted faith and reason against each other. And one of the greatest weapons that controls that debate in our culture is shame.”
― Brené Brown, The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connections and Courage

“Shame can only rise to a certain level before people disengage to self-protect.”
― Brené Brown, The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connections and Courage

“Vulnerability is the center of difficult emotion, but it's also the birthplace of every positive emotion we need in our lives.”
― Brené Brown, The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connections and Courage

“Ceea ce e paradoxal (sau poate firesc) - după cum aflăm din cercetări - este că-i criticăm pe ceilalți în acele domenii în care suntem vulnerabili la rușine, alegându-i drept „ținte” pe cei care se descurcă mai rău ca noi. Dacă n-am nici un fel de probleme în ceea ce privește modul în care-mi cresc copiii, nu-i judec pe alții pentru alegerile lor. Dacă-mi place corpul meu, nu simt tentația de a-i ironiza pe alții pentru felul cum arată sau fiindcă au probleme cu greutatea. Suntem exigenți unii cu ceilalți din cauză că ne folosim unii de ceilalți, pentru a scăpa de o deficiență percepută, de care ne e rușine. Însă un asemenea comportament nu reușește să-și atingă scopul și dă naștere la suferință. În plus - așa cum ne arată fenomenul „fetei rele”, răspândit în școli și licee în general -, este și contagios. Le-am transmis acest fals mecanism de supraviețuire și copiilor noștri.”
― Brené Brown, The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connections and Courage