Co-Creating Change Quotes

“Your task is to focus on his feelings and help him see and turn against his defenses. Lastly, in learning any treatment method, we make mistakes. Patients will nearly always forgive a mistake of the head, just not one of the heart.”
― Jon Frederickson, Co-Creating Change: Effective Dynamic Therapy Techniques

“To know what to say, we need to know what is going on. To know what is going on, we need to assess each patient’s response moment by moment. That assessment, known as psychodiagnosis (H. Davanloo, supervision 2002–2004), determines every intervention by the therapist.”
― Jon Frederickson, Co-Creating Change: Effective Dynamic Therapy Techniques

“learning any treatment method, we make mistakes. Patients will nearly always forgive a mistake of the head, just not one of the heart.”
― Jon Frederickson, Co-Creating Change: Effective Dynamic Therapy Techniques

“Never explore defensive affects.”
― Jon Frederickson, Co-Creating Change: Effective Dynamic Therapy Techniques

“To see only pathology in the patient requires no genius on the part of the therapist, only projection.”
― Jon Frederickson, Co-Creating Change: Effective Dynamic Therapy Techniques

“The point of compassion is not to eliminate suffering, but to lead a person to the truth so he will be able to lead a life of truth” (Almaas 1987, 92). Compassion merely on the side of feeling good is pseudocompassion.”
― Jon Frederickson, Co-Creating Change: Effective Dynamic Therapy Techniques

“Those of us who consider the admission of sin and wrongdoing an intolerable insult to our narcissism and find conscious guilt unbearable, are forced to resort to symptom formation. The suffering entailed in our symptoms gratifies the superego need for punishment and, at the same time, evades unbearable conscious guilt” (D. Carveth and J. Carveth 2003, 2).”
― Jon Frederickson, Co-Creating Change: Effective Dynamic Therapy Techniques

“When we do not see how we create our suffering, we assume others cause it. As a result, we pay attention to other people instead of the defenses creating our suffering.”
― Jon Frederickson, Co-Creating Change: Effective Dynamic Therapy Techniques

“Defenses reject reality and our feelings. The defenses do not observe the truth. They reject it, distorting the patient’s awareness. The patient, enacting an identification, looks at himself through dismissive eyes. This identification does not protect him or give him a realistic appraisal. That is why we say: “This mechanism probably saved your life in the past, and we should thank it for how it protected you then. But what protected you in the past is destroying your life today.”
― Jon Frederickson, Co-Creating Change: Effective Dynamic Therapy Techniques

“become emotionally close again, after a life in which closeness led to pain. These feelings trigger anxiety and defenses. Defenses prevent the patient from being aware of his feelings, interfering with his sense of self, relationships, motivation, development, and even the meaning of his life. Thus, the therapist focuses on the feelings the patient avoids. When anxiety and”
― Jon Frederickson, Co-Creating Change: Effective Dynamic Therapy Techniques

“on the feelings the patient avoids. When anxiety and”
― Jon Frederickson, Co-Creating Change: Effective Dynamic Therapy Techniques