Bouncing Back Quotes

“In over one hundred studies to date, researchers have found that people who have a daily gratitude practice consistently experience more positive emotions; they are more likely to accomplish personal goals (thus demonstrating resilience); they feel more alert, energetic, enthused, alive; they sleep better; they have lower blood pressure; and they live an average of seven to nine years longer.”
― Graham MFT, Linda, Bouncing Back: Rewiring Your Brain for Maximum Resilience and Well-Being

“Developing a healthy pride in and acceptance of our essential, lovable self helps develop the neural circuitry that leads to trust, openness, more learning and growth, and more resilience.”
― Graham MFT, Linda, Bouncing Back: Rewiring Your Brain for Maximum Resilience and Well-Being

“A person without a sense of humor is like a wagon without springs —jolted by every pebble in the road. — HENRY WARD BEECHER”
― Graham MFT, Linda, Bouncing Back: Rewiring Your Brain for Maximum Resilience and Well-Being

“The speediest and most reliable way to strengthen the prefrontal cortex, and begin to recover the resilience of our true self, is through experiences with people who can be, as the clinical psychologist Diana Fosha puts it, true others to our true self. True others are those who can see and reflect our true self back to us when we have forgotten, or perhaps have never known, who we truly are. They remember our best self when we are mired in our worst self and accept without judgment all of who we are. True others are not necessarily the people closest to us, though they may be: they are the people most attuned to us, those most accepting of our innate goodness, our essential worth as human beings. For many people, a true other can be a spiritual figure or deity; for others, it may be a counselor, teacher, or friend. When someone who is acting as a true other genuinely sees us at our best, we can see ourselves in that light, too. This mirroring helps us rediscover our resilient self.”
― Linda Graham, Bouncing Back: Rewiring Your Brain for Maximum Resilience and Well-Being

“Calm: You can stay calm in a crisis. 2.    Clarity: You can see clearly what’s happening as well as your internal response to what’s happening; you can see what needs to happen next; and you can see possibilities from different perspectives that will enhance your ability to respond flexibly. 3.    Connection: You can reach out for help as needed; you can learn from others how to be resilient; and you can connect to resources that greatly expand your options. 4.    Competence: You can call on skills and competencies that you have learned through previous experience (or that you learn through Bouncing Back) to act quickly and effectively. 5.    Courage: You can strengthen your faith to persevere in your actions until you come to resolution or acceptance of the difficulty. Bouncing”
― Linda Graham, Bouncing Back: Rewiring Your Brain for Maximum Resilience and Well-Being

“Studies show that repeated noticing and naming of our emotions increases cell volume in the corpus callosum, the integrative fibers linking the two hemispheres of the cortex, making it easier to integrate the intuitive meaning of the emotion with the cognitive understanding of it. Self-empathy makes this process safe, even with difficult or “negative” emotions.”
― Graham MFT, Linda, Bouncing Back: Rewiring Your Brain for Maximum Resilience and Well-Being

“Anyone can become angry — that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way — that is not easy. — ARISTOTLE”
― Graham MFT, Linda, Bouncing Back: Rewiring Your Brain for Maximum Resilience and Well-Being

“Neuroscientists have proved irrefutably that you can teach an old dog new tricks; you can even heal the dog — or the brain — when necessary. Although the initial wiring of our brains is based on early experience, we know that later experiences, especially healthy relational ones, can undo or overwrite that early learning to help us to cope differently and more resiliently with anything, anything at all. The”
― Linda Graham, Bouncing Back: Rewiring Your Brain for Maximum Resilience and Well-Being

“Resilience, like all innate capacities in the brain, develops as the brain processes or learns from experience and translates or encodes that learning into its neural circuitry. Because resilience is all about surviving and thriving, our brains begin to learn and encode lessons about coping strategies that keep us alive and safe from the very beginning of brain development. Some responses to “safe” and “dangerous” even begin in utero. In”
― Linda Graham, Bouncing Back: Rewiring Your Brain for Maximum Resilience and Well-Being

“The brain rewires itself by focusing attention on new experiences and encoding in its neural circuitry the learning from those experiences. And it does that most quickly through interactions with other people.”
― Linda Graham, Bouncing Back: Rewiring Your Brain for Maximum Resilience and Well-Being

“Most of us feel internally stressed-out by some external stressor every single day. Few of us will get through an entire lifetime without our resilience being seriously challenged by the pain and suffering inherent in the human condition. None of us is immune to being asked to cope with what we never asked for, with what we deeply, deeply do not want. The”
― Linda Graham, Bouncing Back: Rewiring Your Brain for Maximum Resilience and Well-Being