A Practical Guide to Emotional Intelligence Quotes

“Optimism is often a consequence of EI.”
― David Walton, A Practical Guide to Emotional Intelligence: Get Smart about Emotion

“Past disappointment can lead to fearing the future.”
― David Walton, A Practical Guide to Emotional Intelligence: Get Smart about Emotion

“Self-awareness is about understanding ourselves and knowing what pushes our buttons and why. Our past and our self-image”
― David Walton, A Practical Guide to Emotional Intelligence: Get Smart about Emotion

“emotional intelligence is an essential requirement where there is a need to work with, influence and seek cooperation with other people.”
― David Walton, A Practical Guide to Emotional Intelligence: Get Smart about Emotion

“Emotional intelligence incorporates at least two of them: Cognitive intelligence – the ability to think rationally, act in a purposeful way and manage your environment. It’s your intellectual, analytical, logical and rational skill set. Social intelligence – the ability to understand and manage situations which involve other people. It is your ability to be aware of yourself, to understand yourself, to manage relationships and understand the emotional content of behaviour.”
― David Walton, A Practical Guide to Emotional Intelligence: Get Smart about Emotion

“Alfred Binet developed the first IQ test in 1905 and measuring intelligence has been a preoccupation of psychologists ever since. Whilst these tests have been useful for predicting academic success, until recently they only measured someone’s ability to handle information in the abstract – ignoring other skills or abilities. Research in 2002 suggested that this type of intelligence was responsible for less than 25 per cent of someone’s chances of success in later life. A review of 52 studies in 1994 put the figure closer to 5 per cent – other factors accounting for the remaining 95 per cent. Whatever intelligence is, shouldn’t these ‘other factors’ count?”
― David Walton, A Practical Guide to Emotional Intelligence: Get Smart about Emotion

“EI is based on an important feature of relationships: ‘behaviour breeds behaviour’. Our own approach may be the cause of others’ reactions. Emotional intelligence requires us to be mindful of the effect we have.”
― David Walton, A Practical Guide to Emotional Intelligence: Get Smart about Emotion

“At its most basic, emotional intelligence is the ability to manage the impact of emotions on our relationships with others. It involves recognizing accurately how you and others feel at any particular time and the way emotions are affecting the situation. It involves keeping feelings sufficiently in control so that we can act effectively. And in no small part it involves using good interpersonal skills to create positive relationships with both individuals and groups. Our ability to express the emotions we feel in a constructive way is the cornerstone of staying in control.”
― David Walton, A Practical Guide to Emotional Intelligence: Get Smart about Emotion

“Emotional intelligence has been touted as an explanation of what your brain does, a means to achieve your goals, a basis for improving your family life and relationships, improving your job prospects and being more successful at work.”
― David Walton, A Practical Guide to Emotional Intelligence: Get Smart about Emotion

“It’s about being aware of feelings in yourself and in others, understanding them and managing their impact. It’s about being in control, interpreting body language, coping with negativity, working with others and building psychological well-being.”
― David Walton, A Practical Guide to Emotional Intelligence: Get Smart about Emotion

“Being in control of your own thoughts, emotions and needs Being positive and self-motivated particularly in the face of setbacks Using empathy: being able to put yourself in others’ shoes Communicating effectively to build productive and positive relationships Using emotional reasoning: being able to use emotions to enhance rather than restrict your thinking.”
― David Walton, A Practical Guide to Emotional Intelligence: Get Smart about Emotion

“Communication difficulties are more often symptoms, rather than causes in their own right.”
― David Walton, A Practical Guide to Emotional Intelligence: Get Smart about Emotion

“Problems of unclear goals are best picked up straight away. When people are feeling uncertain or vulnerable, they need empathy then, not later.”
― David Walton, A Practical Guide to Emotional Intelligence: Get Smart about Emotion

“Self-awareness is about understanding ourselves and knowing what pushes our buttons and why. Our past and our self-image play a large part in how we choose to interpret other people’s behaviour. More importantly, it also determines the way we act and the effect we have on others.”
― David Walton, A Practical Guide to Emotional Intelligence: Get Smart about Emotion

“Our own approach may be the cause of others’ reactions. Emotional intelligence requires us to be mindful of the effect we have.”
― David Walton, A Practical Guide to Emotional Intelligence: Get Smart about Emotion

“I like knowing where I stand, being able to be honest about what I think, comfortable with how I feel and genuine about what I say”
― David Walton, A Practical Guide to Emotional Intelligence: Get Smart about Emotion

“emotional intelligence is much more a characteristic of optimists than of pessimists.”
― David Walton, A Practical Guide to Emotional Intelligence: Get Smart about Emotion

“Emotional intelligence is an assortment of mental abilities and skills that can help you to successfully manage both yourself and the demands of working with others.”
― David Walton, A Practical Guide to Emotional Intelligence: Get Smart about Emotion

“Low self-esteem and confidence are closely related to your mood and self-image, so it is important to realize that beliefs are only opinions, they are not facts. They can be biased or inaccurate, and there are steps you can take to change them.”
― David Walton, A Practical Guide to Emotional Intelligence: Get Smart about Emotion

“If the beliefs are mainly negative, there is evidence that they can put you at a higher risk of mental health problems”
― David Walton, A Practical Guide to Emotional Intelligence: Get Smart about Emotion

“Usually we perceive things through a sort of ‘tunnel vision’. If we have been chronically unhappy, for instance, we tend to see things through that prism. And with a particular problem in mind, anything that doesn’t immediately seem relevant drops out of our field of view.”
― David Walton, A Practical Guide to Emotional Intelligence: Get Smart about Emotion

“But self-awareness is more than paying attention thoroughly. It is changing how we pay attention.”
― David Walton, A Practical Guide to Emotional Intelligence: Get Smart about Emotion

“Our beliefs and assumptions act as filters for what we see and what we observe.”
― David Walton, A Practical Guide to Emotional Intelligence: Get Smart about Emotion

“Keep your impulsiveness under control, or your behaviour when you are feeling anxious or distressed.”
― David Walton, A Practical Guide to Emotional Intelligence: Get Smart about Emotion

“Think clearly and stay focused when others are highly emotional”
― David Walton, A Practical Guide to Emotional Intelligence: Get Smart about Emotion

“am able to control my temper and handle difficulties without them affecting my mood or speech.”
― David Walton, A Practical Guide to Emotional Intelligence: Get Smart about Emotion

“Real awareness asks you to turn a switch, focusing on ‘What’s going on inside me at this moment?’ It means suspending judgement for a time and putting your goals in the back seat while you describe what is actually going on rather than what you think should be.”
― David Walton, A Practical Guide to Emotional Intelligence: Get Smart about Emotion