Daring Greatly Quotes

“The most valuable and important things in my life came to me when I cultivated the courage to be vulnerable, imperfect, and self-compassionate.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“One of the questions I’m most often asked is “Don’t you get really depressed talking to people about vulnerability and hearing about people’s darkest struggles?” My answer is no, never. That’s because I’ve learned more about worthiness, resilience, and joy from those people who courageously shared their struggles with me than from any other part of my work.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“If, like me, you’ve ever stood over your children and thought to yourself, I love you so much I can barely breathe, and in that exact moment have been flooded with images of something terrible happening to your child, know that you’re not crazy nor are you alone.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“The irony is that when we’re standing across from someone who is hidden or shielded by masks and armor, we feel frustrated and disconnected. That’s the paradox here: Vulnerability is the last thing I want you to see in me, but the first thing I look for in you.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“We have to be able to talk about how we feel, what we need and desire, and we have to be able to listen with an open heart and an open mind. There is no intimacy without vulnerability. Yet another powerful example of vulnerability as courage.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“often the children who are engaging in the bullying behaviors or vying for social ranking by putting down others have parents who engage in the same behaviors.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“We’re hard on each other because we’re using each other as a launching pad out of our own perceived shaming deficiency”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“If you’re not in the arena with the rest of us, fighting and getting your ass kicked on occasion, I’m not interested in your feedback.)”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“Yes, shame is tough to talk about. But the conversation isn’t nearly as dangerous as what we’re creating with our silence! We all experience shame. We’re all afraid to talk about it. And, the less we talk about it, the more we have it.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“vulnerability and love are the truest marks of courage.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“Sometimes our first and greatest dare is asking for support.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“Far from being an effective shield, the illusion of invulnerability undermines the very response that would have supplied genuine protection.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“My decision to dare greatly didn’t stem from self-confidence as much as it did from faith in my research. I know I’m a good researcher, and I trusted that the conclusions I had drawn from the data were valid and reliable.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“social work wasn’t about fixing. It was and is all about contextualizing and “leaning in.” Social work is all about leaning into the discomfort of ambiguity and uncertainty, and holding open an empathic space so people can find their own way.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“All of my stages were different suits of armor that kept me from becoming too engaged and too vulnerable. Each strategy was built on the same premise: Keep everyone at a safe distance and always have an exit strategy.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“Love is not something we give and get. It is something we nurture and grow.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“Shame resilient cultures nurture folks who are much more open to soliciting, accepting, and incorporating feedback. These cultures also nuturn engaged, tenacious people who expect to have to try and try again to get it right - people who are much more willing to get innovative and creative in their efforts. A sense of worthiness inspires us to be vulnerable, share openly, and persevere. Shame keeps us small, resentful, and afraid. In shame-prone cultures, where parents, leaders, and administrators consciously or unconsciously encourage people to connect their self-worth to what they produce, I see disengagement, blame, gossip, stagnation, favoritism, and a total dirth of creativity and innovation.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“Vulnerability is the core, the heart, the center of meaningful human experiences.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“I am not what has happened to me. I am what I choose to become.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“Craig Bryan, a University of Texas psychologist and suicide expert who recently left the air force, told Time magazine that the military finds itself in a catch-22: “We train our warriors to use controlled violence and aggression, to suppress strong emotional reactions in the face of adversity, to tolerate physical and emotional pain, and to overcome the fear of injury and death. These qualities are also associated with increased risk for suicide.” Bryan then explained that the military can’t decrease the intensity of that conditioning “without negatively affecting the fighting capability of our military.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“Perfectionism is correlated with depression, anxiety, addiction, and life paralysis or missed opportunities. The fear of failing, making mistakes, not meeting people’s expectations, and being criticized keeps us outside of the arena where healthy competition and striving unfolds.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“Your level of belonging, in fact, can never be greater than your level of self-acceptance.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“One of the tragic ironies of modern life is that so many people feel isolated from each other by the very feelings they have in common: including a fear of failure and a sense of not being enough. Brené Brown shines a bright light into these dark recesses of human emotion and reveals how these feelings can gnaw at fulfillment in education, at work, and in the home. She shows too how they can be transformed to help us live more wholehearted lives of courage, engagement, and purpose. Brené Brown writes as she speaks, with wisdom, wit, candor, and a deep sense of humanity. If you’re a student, teacher, parent, employer, employee, or just alive and wanting to live more fully, you should read this book. I double dare you.” —Sir Ken Robinson, New York Times bestselling author”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“What we know matters, but who we are matters more. Being rather than knowing requires showing up and letting ourselves be seen.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“-Si noua ne este rusine. Uneori, teribil de rusine. Dar cand incercam sa spunem cuiva despre asta, ne coplesc emotiile.

Mi-a fost greu sa pastrez contactul vizual cu el. Suferinta lui ma emotionase, dar inca mai incercam sa ma protejez afectiv. Chiar in clipa in care voiam sa fac o remarca despre cat de rai sunt barbatii unii cu altii, batranul a continuat:

-Inainte sa spuneti ceva despre cat de rai pot fi antreprenorii, sefii, fratii si tatii...Mi-a aratat cu degetul inspre fundul salii, unde-l astepta sotia, si a adaugat: Nevasta-mea si fiicele mele, pentru care ati dat autografele, ar prefera sa ma vada mort, decat sa afle ca am devenit un om slab. Spuneati ca femeile vor sa fim vulnerabili si sa ne aratam asa cum suntem...Hai sa fim seriosi! N-ati suporta asa ceva. Vi s-ar face sila, daca ne-ati vedea in felul asta.

Reactia mea la cuvintele lui a fost una viscerala. Avea dreptate- ceea ce imi spusese ma izbise asa cum numai adevarul putea s-o faca.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“Rusinea prinde forte noi, atunci cand o transformi intr-un secret. Boala e pe masura secretelor pe care le ascunzi. Faptul de a nu discuta despre un eveniment traumatic, sau de a nu povesti nimanui ce ti s-a intamplat poate fi mai nociv decat trauma in sine.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“Caroline mi-a spus ca, ori de cate ori se simte rusinata, incepe imediat sa repete cuvantul cu voce tare: "durere, durere, durere". Mi-a spus asa: " stiu ca suna foarte ciudat, si probabil ca par un pic nebuna, dar - nu stiu din ce motiv - chiar functioneaza".
Binenteles ca functioneaza! Este o excelenta modalitate de a decupla programul de supravietuire al creierului reptilian, pentru a pune in functiune cortexul prefontal. Dupa un minut sau doua in care am repetat cuvantul "durere", am tras aer in piept si am incercat sa imi adun gandurile. Mi-am spuus: " Bun acumsunt in regula. Ce e de facut in continuare? Sigur ma descurc".”

Cu toate ca stiam ca lucrul cel mai periculos pe care il poti face dupaa o criza de rusine, este sa te ascunzi ori sa faci uitata povestea, mi-a fost teama sa discut cu cineva. Totusi am dat cateva telefoane.

I-am sunat pe sotul meu Steve si pe prietena mea cea mai buna Karen. Mi-au oferit amandoi lucrul de care aveam nevoie cel mai mult : empatie - cea mai buna modalitate de a-i arata cuiva ca nu este singur. Spre deosebire de critici (care exacerbeaza rusinea) , empatia iti confirma cu simplitate ca nu esti singur.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“Caroline mi-a spus ca, ori de cate ori se simte rusinata, incepe imediat sa repete cuvantul cu voce tare: "durere, durere, durere". Mi-a spus asa: " stiu ca suna foarte ciudat, si probabil ca par un pic nebuna, dar - nu stiu din ce motiv - chiar functioneaza".
Binenteles ca functioneaza! Este o excelenta modalitate de a decupla programul de supravietuire al creierului reptilian, pentru a pune in functiune cortexul prefontal. Dupa un minut sau doua in care am repetat cuvantul "durere", am tras aer in piept si am incercat sa imi adun gandurile. Mi-am spuus: " Bun acumsunt in regula. Ce e de facut in continuare? Sigur ma descurc".”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“There is no question that engagement requires sacrifice, but that's what we signed up for when we decided to become parents.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead