Change Your Questions, Change Your Life Quotes

“Blame keeps us stuck in the past. Responsibility paves the path for a better future.”
― Marilee Adams, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 10 Powerful Tools for Life and Work

“What do I want? 2. What are my choices? 3. What assumptions am I making? 4. What am I responsible for? 5. How else can I think about this? 6. What is the other person thinking, feeling, and wanting? 7. What am I missing or avoiding? 8. What can I learn? … from this person or situation? … from this mistake or failure? … from this success? 9. What action steps make the most sense? 10. What questions should I ask (myself or others)? 11. How can I turn this into a win-win? 12. What’s possible?”
― Marilee G. Adams, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 10 Powerful Tools for Life and Work

“Things happen to us all the time. You don’t have much choice about that. But where we do have choice is in what we do with what happens.”
― Marilee G. Adams, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 10 Powerful Tools for Life and Work

“Great results begin with great questions.”
― Marilee Adams, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 10 Powerful Tools for Life and Work

“Change begins with the person who wants the change.”
― Marilee Adams, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 10 Powerful Tools for Life and Work

“Every question missed is a potential crisis waiting to happen.”
― Marilee G. Adams, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 12 Powerful Tools for Leadership, Coaching, and Life

“Maybe an example Joseph gave us would make this clearer. It had to do with a study that was done with two comparable basketball teams. Team A was coached with an emphasis on preventing mistakes on the court. Day after day, they reviewed videos that focused on their errors. Those mistakes got grooved in their brains. By contrast, Team B was coached with an emphasis on building on their successes. Day after day, they reviewed videos that focused on their most successful plays. So Team B’s successes got grooved in their brains. “To put it simply, Team A focused on what was wrong. Team B focused on what was right. I’m sure you can guess which team had the greatest improvement by the end of the season.”
― Marilee G. Adams, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 12 Powerful Tools for Leadership, Coaching, and Life

“Blame keeps us stuck in the past. Responsibility paves the path for a better future. Blame”
― Marilee G. Adams, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 12 Powerful Tools for Leadership, Coaching, and Life

“What got you here won’t get you there. Marshall Goldsmith M”
― Marilee G. Adams, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 12 Powerful Tools for Leadership, Coaching, and Life

“One fateful day, expecting high praise from my advisor for some work I felt great about, I instead heard from him: “Marilee, this is just not acceptable.” At that moment something new happened. Instead of tearfully wondering what was wrong with me, I took a deep breath, and becoming calm and curious, simply asked him “OK, how do I fix it?” That simple shift took me from feeling powerless to being confident enough to take constructive action.”
― Marilee G. Adams, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 12 Powerful Tools for Leadership, Coaching, and Life

“B — Breathe! Do I need to pause, step back, and look at this situation more objectively?”
― Marilee Adams, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 10 Powerful Tools for Life and Work

“A — Aware. Am I in Judger?”
― Marilee Adams, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 10 Powerful Tools for Life and Work

“Learner/Judger Questions We all ask both kinds of questions, and we have the power to choose which ones to ask in any moment.”
― Marilee Adams, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 10 Powerful Tools for Life and Work

“Do people feel respected by me? Do I encourage others to take initiative, ask questions, and contribute their own ideas?”
― Marilee Adams, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 10 Powerful Tools for Life and Work

“Are you willing to take responsibility for your mistakes — and for the attitudes and actions that led to them?’ Then he said, ‘Are you willing — however begrudgingly — to forgive yourself, and even laugh at yourself?’ And finally, ‘Will you look for value in your experiences, especially the most difficult ones?’ Bottom line, ‘Are you willing to learn from what happened and make changes accordingly?”
― Marilee Adams, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 10 Powerful Tools for Life and Work

“Nobody said it, but I could see it in their eyes: we were cooked.”
― Marilee G. Adams, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 12 Powerful Tools for Leadership, Coaching, and Results

“efforts of the people you’re working with, not just from your own solitary work.”
― Marilee G. Adams, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 12 Powerful Tools for Leadership, Coaching, and Life

“It’s not differences that divide us. It’s our judgments about each other that do.”
― Marilee G. Adams, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 12 Powerful Tools for Leadership, Coaching, and Life

“What can I do to get people more engaged? What can I do to get people working collaboratively? What do others need from me? What do they have to contribute that I haven’t been noticing?”
― Marilee G. Adams, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 12 Powerful Tools for Leadership, Coaching, and Life

“the best way to solve a problem is to first come up with better questions.”
― Marilee G. Adams, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 12 Powerful Tools for Leadership, Coaching, and Life

“Authentic listening is not easy. We hear the words, but rarely do we really slow down to listen and to squint with our ears, to hear the emotions, fears, and underlying concerns. Kevin Cashman”
― Marilee G. Adams, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 12 Powerful Tools for Leadership, Coaching, and Life

“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. Viktor Frankl”
― Marilee G. Adams, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 12 Powerful Tools for Leadership, Coaching, and Life

“It seems like people go into Judger whenever there’s any kind of conflict,”
― Marilee G. Adams, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 12 Powerful Tools for Leadership, Coaching, and Life

“Like everyone else, I believed the way to fix a problem was to look for the right answers. Instead, Joseph showed me that the best way to solve a problem is to first come up with better questions. The skills he taught me rescued my career and saved my marriage as well.”
― Marilee G. Adams, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 12 Powerful Tools for Leadership, Coaching, and Life

“C — Choose. What’s my choice?”
― Marilee Adams, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 10 Powerful Tools for Life and Work

“C — Curiosity. What’s happening here? What are the facts?”
― Marilee Adams, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 10 Powerful Tools for Life and Work

“When two people are in Judger, the one who wakes up first has an advantage. That person can choose to go Learner and turn the situation around for both of them.”
― Marilee Adams, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 10 Powerful Tools for Life and Work