The Chimp Paradox Quotes

“The Human, on the other hand, will interpret information by searching for the facts and establishing the truth. When it has done this, it will then put things together in a logical manner using logical thinking and form a plan of action based on this.”
― Steve Peters, The Chimp Paradox: The Mind Management Program to Help You Achieve Success, Confidence, and Happiness

“The Chimp interprets this information with feelings and impressions. When it has gotten a feel for what is going on, it then uses emotional thinking to put things together and to work out what is happening and form a plan of action.”
― Steve Peters, The Chimp Paradox: The Mind Management Program to Help You Achieve Success, Confidence, and Happiness

“time. Up in the air, above the situation, he asks if it is really the end of the world if he doesn’t get the job. The answer is ‘No, it isn’t’ and although it is very disappointing, he can deal with the disappointment and consequences because he is an adult Human and not a Chimp or child. He also knows logically that he may still be able to do something about the situation and must not allow the Chimp to think catastrophically. Step 5: He now goes into Human mode and asks himself, ‘What can I do about the situation?’ He answers: ‘I can choose the emotions I want and I can choose to act like an adult. Being emotional isn’t going to help anything, least of all me. I can’t think of anything practical to do at this point in time – this I must accept. I can choose to accept the situation rather than keep on saying “what if” or “this shouldn’t have happened” or even worse, “life should be fair”.’ Step 6: Eddie decides to put his Human in charge and decides to actively change his emotional approach to the situation. On a practical point he considers his options to either wait in the hope that another bus appears or to go home and phone the interview organiser. Step 7: Despite his disappointment he might manage a smile and be thankful that the sun will still rise tomorrow. He remains focused on the solution and not the problem. Of course, you may want to react differently or deal with the situation differently if you were in his position. It is just an example of how it might go. Clearly there are endless possibilities. The main point is that he has decided to act as a Human and not as a Chimp and to choose positive emotions despite the setback. Choice despite seriousness The scenario above was not so serious but what happens if a real crisis occurs? Imagine a young man who has had an accident on a motorbike and has been left paralysed from the waist down. Sadly this is not an uncommon event. How does he deal with this type of crisis? This time when he gets up into the helicopter and tries to gain perspective the answer is not so good. His whole life has just changed and not for the better. It would be totally unreasonable for anyone to say to him get a perspective and smile. He will need to go through a grieving process. All of us respond differently to the same situation, so there are no rights or wrongs when responding to a severe crisis. It is about understanding your response and making choices about how you want to manage it. The simple steps described are helpful for minor crises and immediate and transient stress but they need modifying”
― Steve Peters, The Chimp Paradox: The Acclaimed Mind Management Programme to Help You Achieve Success, Confidence and Happiness

“The Life Force To discover the Life Force on your Stone of Life, imagine that you are 100 years old and on your death bed with one minute left to live. Your great-great-grandchild asks, ‘Before you die, tell me what I should do with my life?’ Pause for a moment now and try to honestly answer the question immediately within the next minute. You have just one minute, start now and then when the time is up and you have worked out what you would say to them, continue reading. Answering this question will identify what is important to you, what is the essence of the Sun within your Universe. It is what life is all about to you. It is your ‘Life Force’. Many of you will answer with statements such as, ‘it doesn’t matter what you do’, ‘be happy’, ‘don’t worry’, and ‘make the most of it’. Whatever your advice was to your great-great-grandchild is really the advice to yourself. If you are not living by this advice, which is the essence of your existence, you are living a lie. Don’t live a lie; it will unsettle you more than anything else.”
― Steve Peters, The Chimp Paradox: The Acclaimed Mind Management Programme to Help You Achieve Success, Confidence and Happiness

“Todo este proceso se basa en la emoción. El pensamiento emocional supone que el Chimpancé establece hipótesis y completa los detalles recurriendo a datos que suelen basarse en impresiones, sentimientos paranoides o pensamientos defensivos.”
― Steve Peters, La paradoja del chimpancé

“If you are a cat lover, then you can admire and even be in awe of a tiger. However, despite its beauty, it is a dangerous animal and you will never be able to bring it into your home and share your house with it. It belongs in the wild.
Sometimes, people can be like this. You can admire them and even be in love with them, or revere them, but you can never share your life with them. They are dangerous and can do some serious damage to you. If you can recognise they have some impossible-to-live-with traits, then admire them in the wild and not in your home. Find a domestic cat that suits your home if you want happiness.”
― Steven Peters, Chimp Paradox

“If you have forgiven a remorseful partner then that means putting the incident behind you. Forgiving doesn't mean storing up the misdemeanour to use it over and over in the future when it suits you. If you are doing this then forgiveness is not the right word. The right word to describe what you are doing is tormenting. You can either forgive the partner, and don't bring it up again, or you can call it a day, and let the person find someone else who won't torment them.”
― Steven Peters, Chimp Paradox

“An even worse stick is when someone has done something wrong and clearly shown remorse and change, only to be repeteadly reminded of their previous misdemeanours by another person. This very strong form of passive aggression by the stick-weilding person is abuse.”
― Steven Peters, Chimp Paradox

“Managing your emotions and thoughts is a skill. You must be willing to dedicate time to acquire emotional skills and also dedicate time to maintain them.”
― Steve Peters, The Chimp Paradox: The Mind Management Program to Help You Achieve Success, Confidence, and Happiness

“Jika Anda ingin selalu mengukur kesuksesan dengan tindakan yang telah Anda capai, Anda harus menerima konsekuensi emosional ketika Anda tidak mencapai tingkatan itu. Jika Anda mengukur kesuksesan hidup dengan upaya dan tindakan terbaik yang bisa Anda lakukan, maka menjadi sukses dan bangga pada diri sendiri selalu ada di tangan Anda.”
― Susi Purwoko, The Chimp Paradox: How Our Impulses and Emotions Can Determine Success and Happiness and How We Can Control Them

“Pada umumnya, Anda bisa mengendalikan segala sesuatu tentang diri dan reaksi Anda, Anda bisa mengendalikan sedikit dari keadaan, tetapi Anda tidak bisa mengendalikan orang lain.”
― Susi Purwoko, The Chimp Paradox: How Our Impulses and Emotions Can Determine Success and Happiness and How We Can Control Them

“Ingatkan diri Anda bahwa segala sesuatu di dalam hidup akan berlalu. Anda akan segera menengok ke belakang, ke saat sekarang, sebagai kenangan di masa yang telah jauh berlalu. Hanya sedikit sekali hal dalam hidup ini yang penting dalam jangka panjang.”
― Susi Purwoko, The Chimp Paradox: How Our Impulses and Emotions Can Determine Success and Happiness and How We Can Control Them

“Berduka adalah cara yang sangat sehat untuk berdamai dengan musibah dan patah hati.”
― Susi Purwoko, The Chimp Paradox: How Our Impulses and Emotions Can Determine Success and Happiness and How We Can Control Them

“Jika Anda membiarkan diri menggenggam "batu yang tidak berharga", pada akhirnya Anda akan menyerahkan kebebasan Anda. Jika Anda terus membiarkan stres mendominasi hidup Anda karena Anda terus menggenggam hal-hal yang tidak baik bagi Anda, Anda harus menerima bahwa Anda akan kehilangan kebahagiaan. Miliki keberanian untuk melepaskan "batu yang tidak berharga" dalam hidup Anda. Jangan bertahan menggenggamnya karena takut atau sudah biasa atau sekadar keras kepala. Kebebasan dan kebahagiaan Anda lebih berharga daripada batu mana pun.”
― Susi Purwoko, The Chimp Paradox: How Our Impulses and Emotions Can Determine Success and Happiness and How We Can Control Them

“Sering kali kesuksesan sebagian adalah pemeriksaan terhadap realitas tentang apa yang bisa Anda capai secara realistis. Belajar menerima bahwa Anda telah melakukan kesalahan, dan menghargainya, akan jauh lebih membangun daripada mengkritik diri karena gagal meraih kesuksesan total.”
― Susi Purwoko, The Chimp Paradox: How Our Impulses and Emotions Can Determine Success and Happiness and How We Can Control Them

“Ketika memutuskan untuk melakukan sesuatu, ingatkan diri Anda bahwa yang penting adalah komitmen, bukan motivasi.”
― Susi Purwoko, The Chimp Paradox: How Our Impulses and Emotions Can Determine Success and Happiness and How We Can Control Them

“Disiplinlah, dan bukan hanya menjadi teratur. Setiap orang bisa menjadi teratur dengan membuat rencana. Hanya sedikit orang yang bisa melaksanakan rencananya karena mereka tidak memiliki disiplin diri.”
― Susi Purwoko, The Chimp Paradox: How Our Impulses and Emotions Can Determine Success and Happiness and How We Can Control Them

“Memiliki rencana berarti Anda telah membuatnya sendiri, sangat berperan dalam pembuatannya, atau percaya bahwa rencana itu ideal bagi Anda dan tidak ada yang lebih baik.”
― Susi Purwoko, The Chimp Paradox: How Our Impulses and Emotions Can Determine Success and Happiness and How We Can Control Them

“Tidak melakukan yang terbaik adalah ketika Anda sengaja tidak berusaha.”
― Susi Purwoko, The Chimp Paradox: How Our Impulses and Emotions Can Determine Success and Happiness and How We Can Control Them

“Segala sesuatu di dalam hidup ini hanya sepenting yang Anda inginkan, dengan kata lain, sesuatu akan menjadi penting bila Anda menganggapnya penting dan sebaliknya.”
― Susi Purwoko, The Chimp Paradox: How Our Impulses and Emotions Can Determine Success and Happiness and How We Can Control Them

“Jangan menjadikan impian sebagai sasaran karena ini akan membangunkan Simpanse. Anda perlu memandang impian sebagai kemungkinan, dan menerima bahwa impian itu mungkin tidak terwujud.”
― Susi Purwoko, The Chimp Paradox: How Our Impulses and Emotions Can Determine Success and Happiness and How We Can Control Them

“Aturan emas untuk memahami orang dan situasi adalah SELALU berusaha mencari FAKTA sebelum Anda membuat penilaian.”
― Susi Purwoko, The Chimp Paradox: How Our Impulses and Emotions Can Determine Success and Happiness and How We Can Control Them

“Ketika kita memiliki perasaan tentang tujuan di dalam hidup, hal itu akan mendatangkan perasaan akan makna dan pada gilirannya menuntun ke pencapaian, kepuasan, dan kesejahteraan.”
― Susi Purwoko, The Chimp Paradox: How Our Impulses and Emotions Can Determine Success and Happiness and How We Can Control Them

“Simpanse beroperasi menurut hukum rimba dan ia melakukannya dengan dorongan serta naluri yang kuat. Manusia beroperasi menurut hukum masyarakat dan ia melakukannya dengan dorongan etika serta moral yang kuat, dan khasnya disertai hati nurani.”
― Susi Purwoko, The Chimp Paradox: How Our Impulses and Emotions Can Determine Success and Happiness and How We Can Control Them

“Mengatur Simpanse internal yang impulsif dan emosional ketika dewasa adalah salah satu faktor terbesar yang menentukan seberapa suksesnya Anda dalam hidup.”
― Susi Purwoko, The Chimp Paradox: How Our Impulses and Emotions Can Determine Success and Happiness and How We Can Control Them

“Stress is a very individual response because we all have different things that stress us. These individual stresses are nearly always related to the way in which you perceive the situation and the beliefs that you are holding,”
― Steve Peters, The Chimp Paradox: The Mind Management Program to Help You Achieve Success, Confidence, and Happiness

“Happiness is more about being at ease with yourself than it is about being at ease with others.”
― Steve Peters, The Chimp Paradox: The Acclaimed Mind Management Programme to Help You Achieve Success, Confidence and Happiness

“Your freedom and happiness are worth more than any stone.”
― Steve Peters, The Chimp Paradox: The Acclaimed Mind Management Programme to Help You Achieve Success, Confidence and Happiness

“What can you do practically to alter things and what things do you have to accept and work with?”
― Steve Peters, The Chimp Paradox: The Acclaimed Mind Management Programme to Help You Achieve Success, Confidence and Happiness

“Fighting against the system may not always be inappropriate if the system or person is corrupt, but there are ways of doing this without losing your own integrity. If”
― Steve Peters, The Chimp Paradox: The Acclaimed Mind Management Programme to Help You Achieve Success, Confidence and Happiness