You Don't Have to Take it Anymore Quotes

“Love without compassion is possessive, controlling, rejecting, and dangerous.”
― Steven Stosny, You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One

“Relationships can be happy with low levels of love and high levels of compassion, but not the other way around.”
― Steven Stosny, You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One

“Resentful, angry, and abusive people drastically misinterpret the message of their own pain.”
― Steven Stosny, You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One

“Worst of all, your sense of self becomes a monument to someone else’s bad behavior”
― Steven Stosny, You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One

“What is lonelier than distrust? Human beings very much need to feel trust and to be trusted by others.”
― Steven Stosny, You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One

“You don’t have to take it anymore: Turn your resentful, angry, or emotionally abusive relationship into a compassionate, loving one / Steven Stosny.”
― Steven Stosny, You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One

“under the surface, it’s really a core hurt that you blame on someone else.”
― Steven Stosny, You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One

“In fact, most anger and abuse rise out of deep wells of resentment.”
― Steven Stosny, You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One

“Think about it, she’s complaining because she misses him and wants to be with him.”
― Steven Stosny, You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One

“She would be more understanding of his hard work, if she felt connected to him when he was home.”
― Steven Stosny, You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One

“But the implication when you defend yourself is that you don’t care about her hurt, you care only about defending your own ego.”
― Steven Stosny, You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One

“More important than getting him to respect and value you is getting you to respect and value yourself.”
― Steven Stosny, You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One

“Love him enough to demand that he find it in his heart to value and respect you, according to his deepest values.”
― Steven Stosny, You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One

“Sometimes it seems like starving a hungry heart will make you stronger.”
― Steven Stosny, You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One

“hungry heart.”
― Steven Stosny, You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One

“He hurts you because he loves you inadequately. When he senses your emotional needs, he feels like a failure as a husband. Instead of doing better he blames his failure on you. You remind him how much of a failure he is, just by having your own emotions.”
― Steven Stosny, You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One

“Your love isn’t what’s hurting you; the person you love is hurting you.”
― Steven Stosny, You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One

“You can improve your experience of the situation by recognizing that your opinion does not require his validation.”
― Steven Stosny, You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One

“A love relationship that isolates one or both parties from parents, friends, community, and spiritual connection is doomed to failure.”
― Steven Stosny, You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One

“Relationships automatically develop resentment when selfish and petty concerns become more important than the emotional connection between you. If”
― Steven Stosny, You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One

“psychological sense of spirituality is a feeling of union and transcendence, motivated by compassion, awe, or joy.”
― Steven Stosny, You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One

“you need to cut back on social activities, including after school activities for your kids, in favor of more family dinners and quality time together.”
― Steven Stosny, You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One

“And if you feel that you can protect your family’s well-being, your self value will be high, even if you fail in other areas of life.”
― Steven Stosny, You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One

“improve, appreciate, connect, or protect.”
― Steven Stosny, You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One

“The need to love and be loved overrides comfort and even the instinct to survive.”
― Steven Stosny, You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One

“Children also need to love back, as research with severely depressed mothers indicates.”
― Steven Stosny, You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One

“Babies who are unloved fail to thrive, even when given food and medical care. Some don’t even metabolize food given to them intravenously; they lose the will to live and in some cases they actually die from lack of love.”
― Steven Stosny, You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One

“Resentment and anger have amphetamine and analgesic effects.”
― Steven Stosny, You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One

“we are hard-wired to respond to the needs of loved ones, and we fail to do so at our emotional peril.”
― Steven Stosny, You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One

“And you are not protective of your husband by staying with him if he does not overcome his addiction to blame.”
― Steven Stosny, You Don't Have to Take it Anymore: Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One