Quiet Quotes

“frustrated by the superficiality of dining-hall conversation,”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“people plunge hungrily into searching conversations. There’s a lot of one-on-one discussion about intimate topics”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“They have difficulty when being observed (at work, say, or performing at a music recital) or judged for general worthiness (dating, job interviews).”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“highly sensitive people tend to be keen observers who look before they leap. They arrange their lives in ways that limit surprises.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“It was one big warehouse space, with just tables, no walls, and everyone could see each other,”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“McHugh helped the students find rhythms in their lives that allowed them to claim the solitude they needed and enjoyed, and to have social energy left over for leading others.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“Big Five school of personality psychology”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“Myers-Briggs”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“top performers overwhelmingly worked for companies that gave their workers the most privacy, personal space, control over their physical environments, and freedom from interruption.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“While early print ads were straightforward product announcements (“EATON’S HIGHLAND LINEN: THE FRESHEST AND CLEANEST WRITING PAPER”), the new personality-driven ads cast consumers as performers with stage fright from which only the advertiser’s product might rescue them.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances; if there is any reaction, both are transformed. —CARL JUNG”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“At the onset of the Culture of Personality, we were urged to develop an extroverted personality for frankly selfish reasons—as a way of outshining the crowd in a newly anonymous and competitive society.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“when she died in 2005 at the age of ninety-two, the flood of obituaries recalled her as soft-spoken, sweet, and small in stature. They said she was “timid and shy” but had “the courage of a lion.” They were full of phrases like “radical humility” and “quiet fortitude.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“Психолог Ганс Айзенк, интроверсия «позволяет сосредоточить мысли на решаемых задачах и не расходовать энергию на социальные и сексуальные раздражители, не имеющие отношения к работе».”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“Работайте в одиночку. Вы сможете создавать революционные продукты с лучшими характеристиками, если будете работать над ним самостоятельно. Не в составе группы. Не в составе команды.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“Я всегда был лошадью в одноконной упряжке; я не создан для тандема или командной работы... ведь я хорошо знаю: для достижения определенной цели очень важно, чтобы один человек и мыслил, и повелевал{1}. Альберт Эйнштейн”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“There is no such thing as a pure extrovert or a pure introvert. Such a man would be in the lunatic asylum.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“The “Bus to Abilene” anecdote reveals our tendency to follow those who initiate action—any action.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“every small step is a giant stride in a child’s world.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“In her book Anger: The Misunderstood Emotion, Carol Tavris recounts a story about a Bengali cobra that liked to bite passing villagers. One day a swami—a man who has achieved self-mastery—convinces the snake that biting is wrong. The cobra vows to stop immediately, and does. Before long, the village boys grow unafraid of the snake and start to abuse him. Battered and bloodied, the snake complains to the swami that this is what came of keeping his promise. “I told you not to bite,” said the swami, “but I did not tell you not to hiss.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“When Professor Little introduced the concept of self-monitoring to his personality psychology classes, some students got very worked up about whether it was ethical to be a high self-monitor. A few “mixed” couples—HSMs and LSMs in love—even broke up over it, he was told. To high self-monitors, low self-monitors can seem rigid and socially awkward. To low self-monitors, high self-monitors can come across as conformist and deceptive—“more pragmatic than principled,” in Mark Snyder’s words. Indeed, HSMs have been found to be better liars than LSMs, which would seem to support the moralistic stance taken by low self-monitors.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“at the height of the crash. “Each time someone at the table pressed for more leverage and more risk, the next few years proved them ‘right.’ These people were emboldened, they were promoted and they gained control of ever more capital. Meanwhile, anyone in power who hesitated, who argued for caution, was proved ‘wrong.’ The cautious types were increasingly intimidated, passed over for promotion. They lost their hold on capital. This happened every day in almost every financial institution, over and over, until we ended up with a very specific kind of person running”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“turn over and watch the alarm clock. Finally it’s six thirty. At least the worst part, the night-before part, is over; this time tomorrow, I’ll be free. But first I have to get through today. I dress grimly and put on a coat. Ken hands me a sports water bottle filled with Baileys Irish Cream. I’m not a big drinker, but I like Baileys because it tastes like a chocolate milkshake. “Drink this fifteen minutes before you go on,” he says, kissing me good-bye.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“Try to think of happy things,” he says, caressing my forehead. I stare at the ceiling, tears welling. What happy things? Who could be happy in a world of podiums and microphones? “There are a billion people in China who don’t give a rat’s ass about your speech,” Ken offers sympathetically.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“Open-plan offices have been found to reduce productivity and impair memory.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“America had shifted from what the influential cultural historian Warren Susman called a Culture of Character to a Culture of Personality—and opened up a Pandora’s Box of personal anxieties from which we would never quite recover.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“Quiet demonstrates just how deep and disturbing is this plague of extroverts—the showoffs, risk-takers, salesmen, charmers, charlatans and politicians.” —New York Post”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“How can you tell if a Finn likes you? He's staring at your shoes instead of his own.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“Peer pressure, in other words, is not only unpleasant, but can actually change your view of a problem.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“Aggressive power beats you up; soft power wins you over.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking