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We all know GR has had it’s share of drama. We’re battle-scarred & throw up our hands saying “we just want to read books”.
So, I, too, got the message from the troll "Kay". But, unlike some, I believe what she posted is true. And IF any of it’s true, it isn’t just drama. It is HUGELY problematic, potentially illegal, and has the power to really hurt people.
Please, just think through a few of these things:
— Mar 05, 2018 01:57PM
So, I, too, got the message from the troll "Kay". But, unlike some, I believe what she posted is true. And IF any of it’s true, it isn’t just drama. It is HUGELY problematic, potentially illegal, and has the power to really hurt people.
Please, just think through a few of these things:
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Forwarding to his attorney...okay. On what basis? What is SH claiming? Defamation? Because, lol, good luck with that.
I'm an attorney. It drives me up the wall when people use empty legal threats - not just because it makes people hate lawyers more, but because I find it one of the more vile abuses of the legal system. It has nothing to do with right versus wrong, or truth, or justice. It is intended to silence and shame people. A vile intimidation tactic, but an often effective one.
Remember how many people Donald Trump promised to sue last year? And how many has he sued? Right.

You stated exactly what I was hoping someone would!

Remember how many people Donald Trump promised to sue last year? And how many has he sued? Right. "
THIS.
SH's last lawsuit was dropped for lack of evidence.

What a bully. I'm so angry at myself for ever promoting her books. I'm taking down all those reviews.

..."
But wasn't that lawsuit also the one that was copied directly from someone else? So it doesn't even excist? Or are there more lawsuits?
Good grief a tool!

Yes, they are. I can say that for certain. But I also hear you on innocent authors. Kim Fielding just published with them, and she is in no way involved.

Oh, that's funny. Discussing the truth is abuse now? No one is posting any private information or making any kind of threat.
The statement is nothing new:
Hey GH Squad!
I know some people are waiting for a response to some of this rumors going around on social media, but I've said it before and I've said it again that the previous post I made is the last time I'm addressing this situation on a larger scale. The story being circulated is the same story that was being circulated a month ago was the same story being circulated a year ago, and it's just different people saying it now and in more places. Me, and everyone else being dragged in, has expected this to happen, so I'm not surprised and I am not interested in engaging in public arguing. I'll continue promoting my books and posting on Snapchat.
Anyway, the only response I will ever have is that I'm a bi dude writing romance, I've been married, I have kids, and yes I do things that are bad for my health. That's about it. My co-writers, friends, and publishers are not engaging in a vast conspiracy. It would be great if people would stop harassing them, dragging them, and doxing them as well (and yes, another author was doxed).
I have made my publishers (all of them, including my editor that I will be working with for my next series) aware of this situation, and their advice, and the advice of my agent, has always been to be professional and ignore it, so that's what I'm doing. At the end of the day, people will either engage in this and stop reading me or they will continue reading my books because they enjoy them. That choice is their right, and I have no interest in continuing to prove myself to people.
As for public appearances, I'll be at The Origin event in November, and Shameless in October. You'll see me on FB here and there, but mainly I'll be on Snapchat and Instagram for the moment. I am frankly done with Twitter, not just because of this situation, but because I don't support it as a platform.
Speaking of Snapchat, since a couple of people I added from here are screenshotting and sending pics to others in order to ridicule me/my appearance/voice, I'll just post my handle: thatguysantino
Feel free to follow if you want. I enjoy posting there and have fun with it. I also post a lot of music, so be prepared to be annoyed by that!
At the end day people have to make decisions for themselves. They obviously don't want to open their eyes to what's right in their face. To them it's still about author privacy. All they have to do is a google search. It's like a cult.
#churchofhassell
Hey GH Squad!
I know some people are waiting for a response to some of this rumors going around on social media, but I've said it before and I've said it again that the previous post I made is the last time I'm addressing this situation on a larger scale. The story being circulated is the same story that was being circulated a month ago was the same story being circulated a year ago, and it's just different people saying it now and in more places. Me, and everyone else being dragged in, has expected this to happen, so I'm not surprised and I am not interested in engaging in public arguing. I'll continue promoting my books and posting on Snapchat.
Anyway, the only response I will ever have is that I'm a bi dude writing romance, I've been married, I have kids, and yes I do things that are bad for my health. That's about it. My co-writers, friends, and publishers are not engaging in a vast conspiracy. It would be great if people would stop harassing them, dragging them, and doxing them as well (and yes, another author was doxed).
I have made my publishers (all of them, including my editor that I will be working with for my next series) aware of this situation, and their advice, and the advice of my agent, has always been to be professional and ignore it, so that's what I'm doing. At the end of the day, people will either engage in this and stop reading me or they will continue reading my books because they enjoy them. That choice is their right, and I have no interest in continuing to prove myself to people.
As for public appearances, I'll be at The Origin event in November, and Shameless in October. You'll see me on FB here and there, but mainly I'll be on Snapchat and Instagram for the moment. I am frankly done with Twitter, not just because of this situation, but because I don't support it as a platform.
Speaking of Snapchat, since a couple of people I added from here are screenshotting and sending pics to others in order to ridicule me/my appearance/voice, I'll just post my handle: thatguysantino
Feel free to follow if you want. I enjoy posting there and have fun with it. I also post a lot of music, so be prepared to be annoyed by that!
At the end day people have to make decisions for themselves. They obviously don't want to open their eyes to what's right in their face. To them it's still about author privacy. All they have to do is a google search. It's like a cult.
#churchofhassell

TBH I'm surprised this thread's stayed up on Goodreads for as long as it has.

What a bully. I'm so angry at myself for e..."
I just removed all my ratings and reviews for those two.. I'm going to see how the situation develops for the other authors but for now I just don't have an ounce of respect for scamtino and megan.

https://ayamaxwell.livejournal.com/17...
Or is this what started it all?"
I think that's meant to be a spoof of SH's confession.

https://ayamaxwell.livejournal.com/17...
Or is this what started it all?"
That's not SH's writing.


I wasn't going to come back on to this post, because the original intent has always been to make this about the WORDS and PICTURES that SH himself put out there..."
Thanks for your post, Susan. I never cared for SH's books much, but it's disheartening to find out about yet another case like this, especially in this community and because friends are personally affected by her antics.
My take away strategy from now on should probably be to only trust people that YOU have personally met. ;D

I've wondered the same thing. Once SH finally accepted the horrible truth that they were indeed a romance writer, Ais disappeared. Most of her tweets are random and odd or to/about SH.

It was never her fault.
And after a while and endless sympathy, I realized that SHE was the common denominator. If you get fired from EVERY job, alienate EVERY friend, YOU are the problem.
There are authors in this genre who share very little about their private lives, and what they share is mundane stuff (cute pictures of their puppy, a funny post about coffee) and authors who share a lot (transitioning from F to M; losing a loved one), yet not one of those authors has been doxed or attacked or had to sue someone.
Incredible, isn't it?
Why is that?
Why has SH been supposedly violated/attacked/bullied/doxed for "his" entire career? Why does this happen to "him" over and over again? Always the victim, never at fault. Someone is always out to get "him."
That's what I wish people would see: SH is the common denominator here. There is no "other," no bad guys waiting in the woods. It's SH who tells the stories, obfuscates, manipulates, threatens, and attacks.
If you're in deep shit, point some fingers, start a war, draw attention away from undeniable facts. And go back to pretending climate change isn't real because it snowed in Chicago a lot this year.

No, Ais is categorically a real person and a really great one at that. You don't hear from her cause she is not involved in m/m at all. She is writing a fantasy series which she is publishing via Patreon.

And though this might seem selfish, it really helps me to read all of this as I have felt and still feel so betrayed. I found SH’s books during a really tough time and to now know that someone I intensely identified with has outright lied and deceived so many, well it’s kind of mind boggling. So yeah, thanks to everyone sharing.

He didn't mention any names, though it seems it was enough.
Now that status is deleted, and Voinov announced
"Going on a bit of a social media detox . Things are just too ugly right now."
Seems like nobody's safe...

"In order for something to be considered defamation (or libel in written, online form) the statement must be presented as true but, in fact, be known to be untrue.
Further, if it is stated as opinion (which most online comments are), it is not defamation.
To note: public figures cannot sue for negative comments posted about them unless they can prove actual intent to harm with malice which is defined as knowingly making statements that are false or acting with reckless disregard for the truth or falsity of your statements."
All comments on here are responses to what we believe to be true or requests for more information to direct us to the truth.
The ability to obtain a lawyer isn't exclusive to SH. Just sayin'...



SH has literally no leg to stand on. Nothing anyone has said constitutes grounds for a law suit. It also takes money to sue. It's just more bullying and fearmongering.

Thank you again, Susan!!

I really only liked the ICoS series, all the rest were just meh, but I know a lot of people followed him/her because they loved the books. As I read these posts, I took my reviews/ratings of those books down and will never consider another book by SH or whatever she's called. Her or Megan Erickson for that matter.
If there are any other authors that know about this deception, I'll remove those ratings as well.
Thank you so much for bringing this to light - all of you.
I'm genuinely sad right now.
Sigh

Exactly!!

I have to admit other than reading SHs books I've never really delved further than that. I'm not interested in the private lives of authors. I've always held that I never wanted to know to much about an author because I was afraid I'd find out they weren't as awesome as I wanted them to be and it would spoil my reading experience and I guess I've just been proven right at least in this instance.
To all of you who have been burned by this person just know that being a kind and generous person is never bad. It hurts when you get taken advantage of but there are people who your kindness has touched and it has meant the world to them and right now you are proof that it takes heart to also be brave.
Susan thank you for opening up what is a much needed discussion.

I need to process all this information. Thank you, Susan.

Not this time, sweet pea. I have actual screenshots of various conversations in which he discuss having liver cancer and its treatment.
I and 3 other friends sent him gift cards that could be used to buy food because he told us he was going through chemo and had no one to cook for him. Again, I have screenshots.
So make no mistake, this person won’t stop lying. They will never admit to what they have done but we have to keep fighting them.

I need to process all this information. Thank you, Susan."
same here o.o

I am truly baffled by all this. I have no words. I'm sorry that you were used like this.

In which SH responds to someone expressing condolences after hearing about the cancer with, "Thanks Vicky. I'm doing better ATM so hopefully it stays that way :]"
https://www.goodreads.com/review/show...

https://twitter.com/Mallytweets/statu...
The Twitter thread also includes a link..."
Since I'm in that thread and the one who pointed out the Meatworks review (That will surely disappear soon) There is also screen shots of SH's Patreon post explaining why they created it and what they need money for. In case anyone has doubts.

I have pre-ordered two books by SH; yesterday I wrote from my Riptide account requesting a cancellation of those orders. They have not answered me yet, they have 48 hours to do it and so far only 24 have passed.
Could be interesting to see what they will do, although my guess is that they will access my request without any kind of comment; I'm not a reader that they can block on Twitter or Facebook, nor can they ignore my message, right?

Thank you for finding and sharing that! I just read about the cancer denial shortly ago, and I went to Twitter to see if anyone else had responded.

When I first found their books I remember reading that review and asking friend if they knew the author had cancer considering all the posts of drinking etc. When I saw that cancer was listed in their statements I had to make sure I remembered right.

1. Santino Hassell has always been kind TO me. Whether he was that way about me, I don't know. Nor do I care. We stopped talking for no other reason than we just lost touch.
2. Santino Hassell directly pitted me against two people involved with this whose stories made me question all our(mine and sonny's) interactions. It made me angry but ultimately, I go back to 1) he was kind TO me. I SHOULD have been kind to one of them (though I was always kind to Susan)
3. I'm speaking out ONLY because the claims of cancer and thus donations really bother me. People can see my tweets and make their own decisions on whether he's been or being honest about that.
4. Sonny spoke to me about his cancer but has never once, EVER, asked me for anything other than a spot on my blog (when people actually knew who I was).
So, that's me being 100% transparent and honest. I like Sonny. I probably will continue to like Sonny. Do I believe he had cancer? No. Is he who he says he is? I don't know and I honestly don't care.
What people should only care about is how they were treated by him. How he treated others. And if he lied about cancer/illnesses to get money (not attn, MONEY).
I am sad right now. I didn't want to speak out about a friend even one whose done some terrible things, it appears. But people should be listening to victims. That's really really important.

https://twitter.com/search?src=typd&a...


That's a really honest and fair assessment of what's going on in my head right now. I feel bad for how he treated people. I feel bad for how he treated Jenn. That, for some reason, doesn't negate all the times we talked.
This isn't just some random person I messaged once in a while. This is someone I confided in during a particularly vulnerable and miserable time in my life. I was going through chemo, my brain was a mess, then I was going through radiation and being bald and being unable to think cuz my brain was fucked up, thus I couldn't write, thus I shrank away from the community. This isn't an excuse, this is the reasons. I can't make myself hate someone. If life was that easy, people still wouldn't like Louis CK.
I started off today just livid about this. I spent the better half of a day going through those messages (we talked a LOT over a lonnng period of time). I read our conversations and the truth is he WAS kind to me and he was AWFUL about Jenn but I can't reconcile those two things to make them mean only one thing. You ask me how I can like him? I dunno. How do I turn that off? I can't as far as I can tell. What I am trying to do is believe Jenn about the gaslighting, and I back up her story. It was the least I could do. Not that I was mean to her personally. I just didn't spend any time getting to know her because of what he'd said and because I was dealing with treatment.
I can only be honest. So that's what I'm gonna do. I can both like Sonny and support victims speaking out, and maybe pave the road ahead for them so it's not so rocky. That's not to say that I won't wake up angry again in the morning.

FWIW Dani, I admire your courage and conviction. So much so, I just bought Shattered Glass. Thank you for putting yourself out there. You have my respect for standing by your principles while supporting others.

https://twitter.com/search?src=typd&a..."
This is shocking.
