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i'm honestly still confused how can you write an entire book about an ace protagonist and NEVER realize you've confused aromanticism with asexuality like... i'm not even offended i'm just confused
Aug 19, 2017 12:51PM

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message 1: by M F (new)

M F a lot of people conflate the two because it never even occurs to them that love and sex aren't inherently connected. it's like... well done. you missed the entire point. good job.


message 2: by Elle (new)

Elle (ellexamines on TT & Substack) Miriam wrote: "a lot of people conflate the two because it never even occurs to them that love and sex aren't inherently connected. it's like... well done. you missed the entire point. good job."

that's EXACTLY it. thanks for saying so <3

and obviously it's fine not to want romantic love and not to have it, it's just... don't throw ace ppl under the bus?? I guess??


message 3: by tessa (new)

tessa what book is this about?


message 4: by Elle (last edited Aug 19, 2017 02:21PM) (new)

Elle (ellexamines on TT & Substack) tessa wrote: "what book is this about?"

Before I Let Go by Marieke Nijkamp :/


message 5: by [deleted user] (new)

SAAAAAAAME. like, it's really not hard to a little bit of research. it hardly takes any time.


message 6: by Hiba (last edited Aug 19, 2017 02:37PM) (new)

Hiba Even the words asexuality and aromanticism kinda explains it. I can't believe someone can actually did this like seriously?? How could you?


message 7: by Elle (new)

Elle (ellexamines on TT & Substack) syd ⚓ Syd Down and Read wrote: "SAAAAAAAME. like, it's really not hard to a little bit of research. it hardly takes any time."

agree :/ it's not even complicated research I mean... it's literally the first thing to know about asexuality like??


message 8: by Elle (new)

Elle (ellexamines on TT & Substack) Hiba wrote: "Even the words asexuality and aromanticism kinda explains it. I can't believe someone can actually did this like seriously?? How could you?"

I know? I'm so incredibly confused


message 9: by Martina (new)

Martina That's one of the mistakes that they tend to do while writing about ace characters, it is really annoying, I mean, you just have to do some research to understand


message 10: by Elle (new)

Elle (ellexamines on TT & Substack) @Martina I know!! It's not even much research to do - it should be obvious from the word.


message 11: by Elle (new)

Elle (ellexamines on TT & Substack) Cady wrote: "omg, that's like my biggest pet peeve. like whenever i tell people i'm ace they're like "Oh, so you're not romantically attracted to anyone?" and i'm like no that's not the same the thing. and i me..."

oh my god i know. i feel like given that people already conflate the two it's really not great to act as if they're the same thing because a lot of readers aren't going to know better!!


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