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Just remember, it isn’t about a man. This is your life and it’s too precious to waste. Do things when it is convenient, especially if it regards your relationships of choice and who you let in on the inside. It will yield a much better return on investment…especially in the dignity department.

“ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #44: Most women are starving to receive something from a man that they need to give to themselves.”

“The fox is the smaller animal, and in the animal kingdom, the smaller animal is the prey. Therefore, the fox knows it is incumbent on her to look out for her own best interests, especially in the beginning of a relationship. On the other hand, the nice girl believes everything she’s told because it sounds good, which puts her out there to get hurt.”

Again, the bitch is very nice. She is as sweet as a Georgia peach. But inside every sweet peach is a strong pit. And this means she won’t explain the obvious when a man is disrespectful. There is no way to hold your own in a relationship and simultaneously accept rude behavior. A quality man doesn’t want a woman he can trot all over.

The difference between the bitch and the nice girl is not so much in their personalities or in their demeanor. It has nothing to do with how abrasive a woman is. A bitch is a bitch with her actions, because she isn’t willing to give herself up.

“He should accept me as I am!“ says the woman who is too nice. Accept you? Oh no, sister. Slap yourself. He should want you madly. Acceptance has nothing to do with it. He accepts a doormat. But he desires his dream girl. If you want acceptance, go to a self-help group.

Settling for relationships that fall short is a common mistake that so many of us make. It is not a unique experience that transforms us into failures.

We embrace solitude as a way to get to know ourselves again:

Think: in this hyper connected world where we’re judged by the number of followers we have on social media, it’s easy to devalue solitude. Choosing solitude is a power not a weakness.

Ask: how does the idea of being alone make you feel?

Do: gradually build up the minutes daily without your phone, in complete solitude

We say yes to new experiences

Think: what we experienced today will be lessons for us to learn tomorrow. Without new experiences, we’ll never learn anything new.

Ask: what are the qualities of the person you most admire in your life? Are they open or closed off? Have they said yes to new avenues in their life?

Do: think about a time in your life when you welcomed in a new experience…

ASK: What if you fail this time? Really? Will the world truly end? Are you afraid of the actual act of failure and how that might make you feel? Or is it the perception of failure that is holding you back?

DO: Read books and quotes of people who celebrate repeated failures.

The most important thing is not that bad things happen (they’re inevitable after all), but that we find the strength to get back up again after we fall. Nobody has it figured out. Nobody.

Hoarding feelings of guilt for time wasted won’t erase the past. Instead examine the past, give yourself grace and use the wisdom you obtain with honesty and accountability and move forward

Ego is simply a mask for fear. Don’t pretend it doesn’t exist, use it as a guide to ensure that I’m listening to my spirit. Pause when doomscrolling and check in with what your ego is actually preventing you from doing…

We can all learn to detach ourselves from ego by inviting solitude and quiet into our lives

It takes courage to admit and make the necessary changes after we hold ourselves accountable for the part we played in tolerating mistreatment

When you value yourself, that’s usually when the natural shift takes place and you begin to let go of the things that no longer serve you, and instead, gravitate towards those who match your energy.

Do you find yourself frustrated when people don’t respond as you think they should?: We avoid ourselves by trying to fix and control others, so if you’re dealing with difficult people in your life, who seem ungrateful for you, stop & turn these emotions around and project inward, ask yourself who are you really angry at?

“We all deserve the freedom to explore the unknowns, unburdened by the expectations of others. There are no rules that require us to conform. Regret, unhappiness, and misery can all be avoided if you learn to live in accordance with your own vision. Detaching ourselves from the expectations of others is the only way we’re going to start to find ourselves.”

“There is no need to rush, overthink or stagnate. Life is a journey that is meant to flow freely as we continue to evolve organically. What is meant to be will be. The only real obligation we have is to remain true to our calling and committed to the work needed to move forward.”

“Our idea of perfection is flawed. We measure ourselves against others without recognizing we’re all walking a unique path that was destined solely for us to pursue. We will never find our true essence by emulating someone else.”

“We humans define perfection in so many different ways that it can’t possibly exist as an absolute truth.”

“For most of my life I was stuck in a cycle of people pleasing and depending on others to bring joy into my life. The thought of enforcing boundaries scared me because I genuinely believed it would make people leave. I found it difficult to accept help, gifts, or anything without feeling a deep need to reciprocate immediately.”

“When you’re looking for love and it seems like you might not ever find it. Remember, you probably have access to an abundance of it already, just not the romantic kind…You have so much to gain and learn from this kind of love. You carry it with you forever. Keep it as close as you can.”

“The details of an imaginary boyfriend used to keep my mind in a never-ending fantasy groove. Real life was always a disappointment because the narrative of romance in my head was completely unattainable. Love should be about aligning your life with another person not a place of make believe you can escape to where you always feel high, are the star of the show and unquestioningly adored.”

“Anyone can be fucking fancied. It is a far greater thing to be loved.”

“Any decent man would take a woman at peace with herself over a woman who performs tricks to impress him. You should never have to work to hold a man’s attention. If a man needs to be “kept interested“ in you, he’s got problems that are not your business to manage”