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“Sharing your most broken places isn’t easy, but it pulls the darkest parts toward the light when you tell someone about your scars and soft spots. You can’t make sense of it, and you can’t move forward when you simply hold onto it with your own hands. Healing happens when you let yourself be seen.”

“We want to believe that the areas where we were broken scar stronger than before, but in my experience, those scars stay tender. You have to take care—as much as your can—not to test it too hard.

“I realized early on that many of my stated reasons for finally calling a therapist were not at all the reasons I needed to continue therapy. It is hard work to excavate your soul to get to the root truths that show up in your life and in your body as problems or patterns. A good therapist will help you scrutinize each layer.”

“It was always about the people.

Belonging is always about people.”

“In some cases, I not stand in opposition to the very things that I claimed made [beautiful, defining memories] so special back then.

Still, I can hold all these where I once belonged that informed my worldview in a way that was largely positive for my soul at that time…. Looking back I know now that only a sliver of the belonging was about the institution it was built around. It was always about the people.”

“I’d like to think that the things we move toward are a reflection of ourselves or of the selves we want to be.

As adults, we have the choice to move away from the opposite things: the people who are teaching us who we don’t want to be”

It’s natural for us to try on different ways of being in the world. Many of those behaviors and attitudes fall away, but some stick because we realize they reflect our true selves. And that can feel good and right.

“There is an undeniable pull to choose what is right. We don’t always heed that pull, of course, and then what follows is resistance down a bumpy road. But when we turn away from a thousand wrong decisions and toward one right one, the energy flows differently. There is an ease to our words and our spirits.”

I really hate when I accidentally read books written by influencers accidentally. It’s boring but it’s short so I’ll probably finish it

“Stay in bed as long as you need to,” Shayna reiterated, “And then when you get up, it will be a truer getting up.”

“So sometimes, when we are tangled up in some big, dramatic rollercoaster of a situation, the more important thing is making it’s way quietly into the universe. And when we’re finally exhausted enough by our emotional entanglement and declare it over, we will look up and this new, better thing will be there waiting. We will have changed. We will have become something better.”

“Mommy culture warned me not to lose myself in motherhood, but try as I might, I did get a little lost there for a while. I wish those messages weren’t wrapped in caution tape, but instead in the reassurance that women will, in fact, emerge from the woods.”

“I didn’t so much feel as though I was turning into my mother; it was more that I felt I had always been her…”