Status Updates From Secure Relating: Holding Yo...

When stressed, we want to hash out problems right now and may be desperate to not lose contact with others. However, this urgency can unintentionally push people away, cocreating the thing we are afraid of. We think to ourselves: If they could only see... And, boy, do we ever try to get them to see!

Chronically losing yourself as you compulsively caretaker others is a common example of a by-product of unprocessed trauma. 👀

Safe, real relationships are life-changing and heal!

Think of secure relating as a way to feed your little sea-horse shaped structure; the hippocampus love the nutrients of safety, predictability, and responsiveness.

This book. 😮‍💨

Mindful attention evokes connection, understanding invites intimacy, and care fosters warmth and generosity.