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Pogue
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May 03, 2012 04:50PM
Arnie, as a later coming outer I can say that when you start to open the door and take that first step out the feeling of freedome is amazing. Having said that, it is up to you when and if you choose to do that.
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You are welcome, it is hard to admit who you are to you as well as the world. I when I admited I was gay almost had a breakdown. Now, I will correct people when they ask what my boyfriend does. I tell them SHE is a....
Arnie, you know I support you in whatever you decide to do! :)
come out, come out , wherever you are. otherwise you are not living a genuine life; you are just trying to please "people" and that is a wholly unworthy goal
Part of the trouble is learning to stand up for yourself without making yourself a target--especially if you live with a hater. When people say inflammatory things about others, I quietly say, "I don't agree with that." If somebody asks me why, I reply, "Because all human beings are entitled to live in peace and dignity no matter who they are." If they press me about crimes or other bad examples, I reply, "People who obey the law should be left alone. People who break the law should be dealt with by the police. I don't see what [orientation | gender | race | ethnicity | religion | immigration status | whatever the applicable topic is] has to do with determining guilt or innocence."
If all else fails, "I try to live by the golden rule. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. I hope you do too."
Hello, Arnie.I hope your journey of self-discovery is going well.
I'd like to disagree with what Steven says about coming out. I think you need to be 100% sure that this is what you want to do before you do it. You need to be prepared for an adverse reaction, though I'm not saying that that will be what happens. But if that is how things work out, having no regrets about doing it and being totally comfortable within yourself that you are gay will give you the strength to get through all the emotional fallout. Coming out before you're ready will only make things worse, if the people around you are not accepting.
Good luck.
