Fifty Shades of Grey
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How old should someone be to read this book?
i wouldn't be comfortable knowing my 16 year old was reading this kind of material but i guess i still like to think that 16 year olds are still "innocents" x
Sandy wrote: "i wouldn't be comfortable knowing my 16 year old was reading this kind of material but i guess i still like to think that 16 year olds are still "innocents" x"I agree I think 16 is to young, I think 18 is good because most women are starting college or the work world at that age.
Paris (kerbytejas) wrote: "Harrietb wrote: "I read all three at the beginning of summer, and I'm sixteen. I thought it was good, and it's really not even as bad as everyone makes out. Seriously, I'm not a slut or anything an..."That is not at all what I was saying - I was stating that, quite aside from the fact I have read the books, I am not somebody who is obsessed with sex and so, for me,the aspect of the descriptive sex is not the reason I enjoy them so much. I love them because of the actual story as well. I totally agree that it is not what you read that determines your level of 'sluttiness.'
See my review and see if you agree w/me. Cyndee Thomasgoodreads.
This is a mature book for adults. Whether you feel what goes on in this book is correct or not this book is not for young people. After reading this book I don't feel this is for anyone lol!
I think you should be 18+ to read this book. It has strong sexual content that involves BDSM. Which even some adults have a hard time dealing with. BDSM is a CHOSEN life style and it certainly is not for everyone. This book may be misleading to young women, confusing BDSM with Domestic Violence. There is a big difference and young woman might not be mature enough to tell. I agree with Lisa's comment above. It's just a story that is def not for everyone.
I agree this is a series not for everyone!
I'm 16 and I read the book last year when it was not popular yet. I hadn't read the summary and didn't really know what the book was about so you could imagine my surprise... But I really like the book. Not necessarily the sex, sometimes I even skipped those parts, but I think Ana is a great character and her sense of humor is amazing.
Well that depends. At 16 I'd already read my fair share of porn fan fiction so honestly I wouldn't have been scarred by it, I resent the book and the way it's written and everything E.L. James stands for, but that doesn't mean I think you'll be emotionally disturbed by it. As long as you remember that whatever goes on in this book is awfully wrong, and if it ever happens to you in real life (any of it. Seriously.), you are to run, you'll be fine. You know kinda like when you're reading a crime novel and you're thinking "omg I could never kill someone that's awful wtf", that's pretty much the way you need to view this book.That goes for all ages though.
I wouldn't recommend it to people of any age. It's just so bad. reading it at an early age should be even worse, firstly because of it's content and secondly it can damage your taste in books permanently.
No. I think books like Fifty Shades isn't suitable for your age especially when you already find it disturbing. I guess if you can handle it, why not?
I read it when I was sixteen... My jaw didn't drop, I didn't have nightmares, I was not scarred for life. I read it and decided that while I liked it, I didn't particulary like the BDSM thing. I agree that that's not something that should be happeneing in a loving relationship. I got over it, kept reading, and chose to read the other two books in the series. Maybe I didn't freak out because I think about sex differently. While I had no problem with it, someone who grew up in a household where they were told certain things about sex will probably have another opinion. It all depends on the kind of person you are. Your values and your ideals. Because it's such a popular book, you probably know what the general plot is by now, so you should be able to make the call whether you can handle it or not. It's a personal decision.
I would highly recommend waiting. This is a book for people who want the escape of a good book and aren't conservative sexually. I would probably say 21+ really. Great series, but its not for everyone! I've heard several people say it freaked, grossed, or disturbed them at any age. Others love it! Just wait a bit and then decide if you still want to read it in a few years.
I'm 16 years old and I read this book.I don't think that there is really an age for people to read this...it really does depend on the maturity of the reader. I would not recommend this to any of my friends at school (or anyone at all, for that matter...) I was not shocked by all of the BDSM in the book, I had already knew about that because a family member of mine read it. I did not like it because there really was no plot at all. I don't care if there are sex scenes in a book, but in Fifty Shades it took up most of the book...I have nothing against the people who liked the book, or think that anyone who enjoyed it is a pervert. Hey, I know EVERYONE thinks about stuff like that sometimes :/ It really depends how mature someone is to determine if they should read it or not.
i think 16,im 16 and i read all of the books. people are blowing the book way outof porportion, if u dont like these type of books then thats fine but i loved all three and i handled it maturally and i really enjoyed the books :)
Claire wrote: "I think it all depends on how comfortable you are with the content and the maturity of the person. I'm 16 and I read it. Not a big deal. People are making it way more than it is. It's just sex, peo..."i agree
I think 18 years old.
uh...could "never" be considered an age? If not, I'll have to get back to you.
well the sex part yes but with out the extreme of the sex is what i think Claire was saying
Age doesn't matter as long as you know how to appreciate the story without being narrow mind. It's how deep your maturity that counts. :)
I was 15 when i read it. if anything i found some scenes weird and improbable, but i enjoyed the love story. however with that been said i would not let my 15 yr old kid read it and if my mum knew i had wanted to read it she wouldn't have let me either.
I'm 16 and I've read it, but I do read adult books and I'm fine with what was in the book, sex is something that everyone does at some point.
id say 16. better to read about it at 16 then to do it at 16...books i think are kept me abstainant for so long
Suitable for teenagers who understands the difference of reality and fiction of sex. Though, I think mid teenagers are probably most likely of those who could read it and enjoy and understand that is fiction. I think someone younger could read it, but I don’t think they would get very far. I don’t think a 13 year old would be harmed by reading this book, because I think a 13 year old would be bored to tears by this book for any of it to sink in.
But I speak from personal experience, started reading adult books before I hit my teens, and picked up my first erotic book at 13/14, was bored, and took a few years later until I could enjoy them.
Lisa wrote: "Just wondering what you think the suitable age should be... I'm sixteen and I've heard that this book is really good but I'm not really sure if it's appropriate for someone of my age. I heard there..."I am 30 years old and it made me blush.... I am also a mother and I would not suggest anyone under 21 read this book.....
I really think it's up to personal opinion. I am 14 and read the book this past month. The content is very mature and graphic. It also depends on what you already know about sex/bdsm. As a teen a lot of conversations between peers (not me!) revolve around sex so a lot of the stuff in the book is part of everyday high school conversation. But to be honest I don't think it's such a big deal. Plus there's more to the story than whipping and hand handcuffs.
Dear girls who are thinking of reading this book,I don't even consider the "big deal" in this 'book' to be about the sex scenes. The first book I read that had a sex scene in it was when I was in the fourth grade, and I didn't even know what I was reading, really. The big deal is how this book treats the relationship between these two people - and I use the word relationship VERY loosely. It's revolting and young girls should never get this idea stuck in their heads that they can completely change a guy, all the while being physically and emotionally abused and treated like garbage. Add in sex and it can be extremely confusing. So yes, you should certainly think twice about reading this book if you are under 18. Or any age, for that matter.
I think anyone who is mature can read it if they like
Well im 14 and i read this book not knowing what it was about nd well its just sex...so i think anyone whose mature and doesn't care well then age doesn't matter.
I really think its not that crazy and the reading level age depends on how mature you are. im 16 and i liked the book and if ur mature and you want to read it, go ahead :)
I really don't think it matters. I I'm 15 and I read it. There wasn't really anything in it that made me cringe. There were things in there that I had never heard of before, but I wasn't that shocked. The only reason I read it was because I had some friends that were recommending it to me. We all read it and we were mature about it. So many people at my school have read it and frankly, we all see that the book isn't just sex. There is an actual meaning behind it. Really the way I see it is if you can read it and be mature about it then you are old enough. If you read it and all you can think about is the sex, then you shouldn't be reading it no matter what your age is.
I think the opinion of a teenager will be different than say an adult or parent. Most teenagers will not see it as a big deal whether they read it or not but an adult will think about why a book like that will be damaging to a teen.
...what the heck are you talking about...I am far past the teen stage and it was "damaging" to me to read this...the writing damaged me, the repetition damaged me, the unlikable characters damaged me (and my Inner God)...oh my...damaged is the best adjective I could come up with to describe this piece of...paper... >>>>>I think the opinion of a teenager will be different than say an adult or parent. Most teenagers will not see it as a big deal whether they read it or not but an adult will think about why a book like that will be damaging to a teen. <<<<<
I think you are describing damaging in a different way, but okay I see your point. I think i would say traumatize or disgusted in your case
I read much worse at 14. There are more graphic books that girls could potentially stumble across (and come on, how old are boys when they start hunting for porn? Where's the difference?)Having said that, I hope teenagers aren't reading this, just because I think it's so poorly written. Unless it can be used to demonstrate how not to write a fricking novel.
Siobhan wrote: "I read much worse at 14. There are more graphic books that girls could potentially stumble across (and come on, how old are boys when they start hunting for porn? Where's the difference?)Having s..."
Or how not to have a relationship. The bdsm parts, if done correctly, would have been fine. It's the whole, "Oh Christian! You want to stalk me and beat me and never let me see my friends and take over my entire life so I have no will of my own? Ok!" part that gets to me.
Well, ask yourself this - would Daenerys Targaryan be old enough to read it?
Alex wrote: "Well, ask yourself this - would Daenerys Targaryan be old enough to read it?":) I don't even know how to answer that. I've only just finished the first book but (view spoiler)
...how about nauseated...???...or disillusioned...or just plain disgusted...that such an awfully written book could gain such a broad readership while other well written, even classic books written by talented and hard working authors sit mouldering on the shelf...and this person makes a gazillion dollars...perhaps the Mayans were right and this is The End of the World...>>>I think you are describing damaging in a different way, but okay I see your point. I think i would say traumatize or disgusted in your case <<<
Yeah those are good ways to describe it Rey :) My most recent statement wasn't to say a certain age should or shouldn't read the book.
I just think my view as a 14 year old was always that nothing was a big deal for me to do. I didn't know why my parents were punishing me for doing certain things or telling me I couldn't, but now as a 30 year old I see where they were coming from.
Siobhan the average age for boys to first view porn is 11. I don't agree with it either, for one it sets a the wrong image of how sex should be and how women should be treated. I think when I have children I wont restrict like crazy but have discussions about all of this with them so they can still have a somewhat healthy view of relationships and sex even if I can't stop them from coming across the filth that the world puts out there.
No one should have read FSOG, because it should have NEVER been released. Grammatical errors and elementary school wording make up about 95% of the story. It was a waste of paper & Kindle space. Just my opinion.
I'm 16 and I've recently read it, but I always read sec scenes and stuff in books. BUT this book is different. I had no problem with the BDSM stuff but IT'S A TERRIBLE BOOK. That disgusting sex and controlling behavior is ALL THERE IS. It's the most boring series I ever read! I only read half way through the second book had to abandon it because there's sex every three pages.Don't read it.
>>>Don't read it.<<< ...a person wise beyond their years...I read it just to see what it was all about...and it is total junk...terrible writing, repetitive phrasing, unlikable characters, NO plot...pretty much sums it up...junk...
I am 20 and I read it... but I recommend it to ppl over 18
Rey wrote: "...how about nauseated...???...or disillusioned...or just plain disgusted...that such an awfully written book could gain such a broad readership while other well written, even classic books written..."See I just do not get this stance. I probably buy about 200 books every years and check out 100 more from the library. We are not restricted in our reading choices to ONE book. It was a mediocre book in terms of writing and could have benefited from an heavy red editing pen. However, I have certainly read worse and that did not stop me from purchasing books that WERE well written.
Catherine wrote: "No one should have read FSOG, because it should have NEVER been released. Grammatical errors and elementary school wording make up about 95% of the story. It was a waste of paper & Kindle space. Ju..."So you believe in censorship?
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please do yourself a favor...don't ever call yourself a slut because you may read racy books (erotica or even BDSM themed).
your reading choices are no reflection on your (or lack of) sexual behavior