Fifty Shades of Grey
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How old should someone be to read this book?
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Nobody has to read this disturbing,aweful books...
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You should be old enough to want to read it. If you read and are "disturbed" or don't like reading about BDSM, put it down. Knowing what some other people enjoy doesn't mean that you have to enjoy it.My only problem with the book was that it was boring. Poorly written. Stupid characters. Oh, and the sex scenes were also boring and laughably unbelievable. There's much better erotica of all sorts out there.
I don't hate the writer or those who like reading it. I just won't be reading any more. Life's too short to read stuff that just doesn't appeal to me.
Ask yourself a question if you seen your little daughter reads this or sister what would be your reaction and they are between the age rage of 11- 18yrs old there after thinking that should answer your question.
Plus forget about age group this book is generally creepy especially for those who are new to bdsm scene if your a first time reader about this subject it is horrifying. I read this never knew about bdsm I was scared I know the author said she did her research online but I don't know what site she was on cause she did a crap job. Imagine in a couple one of the partner thinking about broaching the topic of bdsm into their lifestyle and the other partner read this book they would run away from their partner not mention the effect it would cause on the other partners self esteem lol .
17+; even though its logic is the very same of a 5 y/o who finds out a new lolipop flavour.
If you don't know what bdsm is, you probably shouldn't read it. Even 18 is pretty young, in my personal opinion, especially since I didn't know about any of that stuff until I was about 20 and I was in no way a sheltered kid.
Brittany wrote: "If you don't know what bdsm, you probably shouldn't read it. Even 18 is pretty young, in my personal opinion, especially since I didn't know about any of that stuff until I was about 20 and I was i..."I agree with you
The book is definitely for a mature reader and that age can vary. The content is graphic, and if you are disturbed by it, don't read it.
I am seventeen and I've read the series and I think that's an appropriate age.
I don't know but I was 16 when I read it and it didnt freak me out or whatever
Colleen wrote: "Lisa wrote: "Just wondering what you think the suitable age should be... I'm sixteen and I've heard that this book is really good but I'm not really sure if it's appropriate for someone of my age. ..."I would have to disagree with it just being a love story. This is an unhealthy relationship where one (Christian) is both abusive and controlling. This alone makes it inappropriate for younger readers who may have a hard time seeing the difference.
It is based on mental age. I was reading erotica when I was 11, but then other 11 year olds of the world wouldn't even be mature enough to have heard of it. On an average maturity level, also for someone who has not been previously exposed to this nature it would be 18+Although I do not recommend this book at all, the abusive manipulative relationship is sick and disturbing. This is not about love, it is about sadism (more specifically sexual sadism), so better off spending that time reading something decent.
Colleen wrote: "I think if 2 consenting adults agree to what happens in their private lives it is up to them. She had a choice to say no. It is nobody's business to judge them on their own lifestyle. I know this ..."How about the way he controlled her outside the bedroom? What she ate, her mannerisms...? This is not kinky sex, this is controlling her as a person. This is abuse.
Stop and think for a moment how you would feel if this was your daughter...
How old should you be to read this book?? I'm not sure if it's a question of age, I think it may be a determination of if you have had any sexual experience. I'm not sure if I would have my daughter read this book unless she has had a sexual life herself and therefore can have a better understanding of the sexual content as this is not a vanilla experience. Don't get me wrong, I loved the book however I have been in a sexual relationship for over 20 years and therefore am aware of different sexual preferences. I think that you need to have sexual experience in order to process the book.
Do u know what Christian seemed like a sex addicted i would have loved to see his reaction if ana had banned sex for a month lol he'd probably have cheated on her .
Sönïa wrote: "Do u know what Christian seemed like a sex addicted i would have loved to see his reaction if ana had banned sex for a month lol he'd probably have cheated on her ."He seemed like the type to "take" what he wants.
Troy wrote: "LOL, I love how you guys are bashing the guy. She obviously liked it or she wouldn't have kept coming back. He didn't have to "take" anything from her."So little you know about women. Many go back to her abuser, over and over, until (in some cases) he kills her. It doesn't make it right. It's just the mind frame of the abused.
Amy wrote: "Sönïa wrote: "Do u know what Christian seemed like a sex addicted i would have loved to see his reaction if ana had banned sex for a month lol he'd probably have cheated on her ."He seemed like t..."
yeah totally agree
Lisa wrote: "Just wondering what you think the suitable age should be... I'm sixteen and I've heard that this book is really good but I'm not really sure if it's appropriate for someone of my age. I heard there..."I think there is no suitible age, it depends on how mature you are. You must be comfortalbe with pornographic as well as understand the feministic point of view, since the books is on the edge of anti-feminism but also depics the unsecurity and curiosity of a young woman.
I think it is important that you understand all of this, to see that the book is more than sex. It's deeper than that. Some 16 year olds might be mature enough and some might never understand it. Just have feminism in mind when you read it
it's a bit stronger for youngs but can be go on with.......
I read it when I was 15. To be honest, it really helped me learn about different sexual experiences. My parents didn't care that I bought it, but I'd say that readers should be around 16 and up to start reading smut.
It all depends on the reader and how mature they are. If they can handle this at an early age, then so be it.I myself started reading these kind of books at age 13 and I think I turned out to be pretty alright :)
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I think that it is more about maturity than age. New readers have to keep in mind that while this book is labeled as a romance, the main characters spend most of the time in the bedroom. While I don't have a lot of knowledge on BDSM relationships, I am aware that these series do not live to the common principles of the kink (Safe, Sane, Consensual.)
I worry about the people who are getting introduced to this lifestyle that will see such an unhealthy relationship (Ana and Christian's) as the norm.
Im 14 and Ive read it.
Superlock wrote: "I think that it is more about maturity than age. New readers have to keep in mind that while this book is labeled as a romance, the main characters spend most of the time in the bedroom. While I d...I worry about the people who are getting introduced to this lifestyle that will see such an unhealthy relationship (Ana and Christian's) as the norm. "
Agree.
Amy wrote: "Superlock wrote: "I think that it is more about maturity than age. New readers have to keep in mind that while this book is labeled as a romance, the main characters spend most of the time in the b..."You just have to know that it is not normal to do that.
I don't see it that way. It is just a difference in taste. Some people are vanilla and others are not.
bookowl wrote: "... with whips, handcuffs and other sadistical torture devices? I don't think so."Lily wrote: "I'm younger than you and I started reading it not knowing what the main idea of the book was. The description doesn't indicate any of the nasty stuff that goes on in that book! Seriously, I'm scarr..."
I realize that you wrote this after reading the book at a young age, and you were not ready for something like this. HOWEVER. I also do not think it's fair to judge all dom/sub relationships based on a romance read, again, under the age of sixteen. Personally, I don't see the point in making an age limit for explicit books, but I do think that before you read them you should already be comfortable with your own sexuality and with the idea of others' sexuality. You obviously are not comfortable with either of those, especially the latter. In your first comment you mentioned that you had an issue with the anti-feminist nature of this book... and yet you continue to insult 'Anastasia's' right to be in control of her own body. I would urge you to be more conscious of how you portray your opinion in the future; be careful not to contradict yourself and insult others please.
Superlock wrote: "I think that it is more about maturity than age. New readers have to keep in mind that while this book is labeled as a romance, the main characters spend most of the time in the bedroom. While I d..."
Their relationship was not depicted as healthy in the book. In fact, Christian was depicted as unhealthy from a sexually abusive childhood. There actually was no dom/sub stuff except one episode that Anna was uncomfortable with and actually left Christian over. Most of the book was just straight up sex.
Mary wrote: "Superlock wrote: "I think that it is more about maturity than age. New readers have to keep in mind that while this book is labeled as a romance, the main characters spend most of the time in the b..."My aunt said she just ended up skipping over those parts because they became annoying.
I'm still young and in high school but I have to say this book hardly disturbed me. It's not that I've experienced any of these things before but really, it's how you view the subject. I focused on Christian and Ana's emotional, intimate bond and didn't care for the BDSM. It may have changed my view on how I see things but so far everything has benefited as I'm maturing
18+ enough said.
Tiffany wrote: "I'm still young and in high school but I have to say this book hardly disturbed me. It's not that I've experienced any of these things before but really, it's how you view the subject. I focused on..."Exactly
Superlock wrote: "@Mary I am little confused. English is not my first language so I would like if you could clarify your comment.Are you agreeing or disagreeing with me?
I am aware that their relationship was unhe..."
Their relationship is DEPICTED as unhealthy. Why would a reader think it was healthy or normal?
Superlock wrote: "I would not know. But by becoming a best seller I can only think that a lot people who had not been aware of the BDSM genre will see this book as the base to start that lifestyle. I find it curi..."
I would think that if someone would come to some momentous decision to enter a BDSM lifestyle, they would probably do a little more research before committing.
It pretty much depends on how mature you are.
It defiantly depends on the maturity level. I think people have blown it way out of proportion. If it doesn't bother you and you think you can read it then you probably can. Although i wouldn't give it to sophomores in high school or under of course. only say that because i was a junior when i started the series.
Hey I'm 14 (well 1 month till i'm 15) and i found this book in my sister's room, i started reading it but i did not get to the "uncomfortable" part yet, at the start i thought it was just a romantic novel but i did my research and i guess i am lucky i didn't get to the "uncomfortable" part yet but i am wondering wether i should just finish it because it seems really interesting as in not the sex part but the psychological part. Some people my age here are saying that it depends on your maturity but you cannot measure maturity or anything so how do you know that you am mature enough for this.
bookowl wrote: "I was 13 when I read it... Wouldn't recommend it though I could handle it."Is it really bad cuz i stopped before the sex part and i don't know if i should continue. I'm 14.
It is porn. I could have written this book, thats how poorly written it is - pure trash.
I think it should be based on some ones level of maturity not age I read them at 16
Anastasia wrote: " how do you know that you am mature enough for this."I think it's mostly being aware that this is an erotic book and that what the characters are doing in the bedroom and out of it doesn't reflect what a real BDSM relationship or any romantic relationship should look like.
Anastasia wrote: " . . .it seems really interesting as in not the sex part but the psychological part."
In the first book the main characters spend most of their time in bed. The next book in the series is the one that gives a better understanding of Christian.
It's definitely soft porn, a little kinky too. Maybe people should read all of then because the story line is pretty good, the lavish things he buys her are the only irritating part. Who does that!Lol
I'm 66! At 14, I had Lady Chatterly's Lover hidden under the pillow and skipped to the sex scenes, as I was definitely too inexperienced to understand the couple's relationship beyond that - nor was I interested. But curiosity about sex is normal at that age. I think 50 Shades is sort of an over-the-top sendup, which you would know nothing about, and understanding the power struggle that's going on requires some real world experience. If you read it, just don't take it too seriously.
I've read this book together with my best friends when we were still 16. We loved the whole series and it did not disturb us though. We're 18 now and FS trilogy is the only erotic novel we've ever read.
I'm fourteen and I am currently reading this book. And to be honest I think I'm quite mature for my age. I don't really mind reading this.I must admit this is a completley different book that I've imagined myself reading but why not explore new things. And yeah I'm sure a normal 14 year old wouldn't be reading this particular book/genre. And its not like I'm going to be doing the things they do in the book. No no. I'm not like that. Im way too young to be doing things like that. But doesn't mean I can read about it and have a mild imagination about it. Everyone's different and should be able to choose what they're willing to do even in reading.
Honestly I think that the age doesn't matter too much. I'm very young and maybe people consider that you can´t read 50 shades just because of that, but what I think is that it depends if the person is mature or not. So if you can read this type of books it doesn't matter too much the age, only matters to be the enough mature to undersatand and enjoy the book ;)
I totally agree with you Daniela. It's about whether you're mature enough to handle a book like this not so much about your age.
My friend suggested these books to me and I didn't know that these were erotic novels. In the beginning everything was cool, but after 30-40 pages the real book started and I was like- What the hell? OMG! OMG! My innocent thoughts!! But, well, I was intrigued, couldn't stop myself, so, I read the 2 books and now I'm on the 3rd one. I'm 16 btw. ;)
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