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Apr 09, 2012 05:51AM
Please keep my grandmother in your thoughts today. She fell and broke her hip yesterday and is supposed to have surgery today. She's 87, so I'm very worried and I haven't been able to visit her because I have a cold and don't want to make her sick on top of everything else. So please send good vibes her way!
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I hope she has a speedy recovery, Amber.
Good thoughts to you and your Grandma, Amber!
Thanks so much everyone! I got to see her before she went in to surgery today, and it turns out she broke her hip in the "best possible way" making the surgery easier than anticipated. We're heading to the hospital in a few to greet her in recovery!
That is good news. The family about her will keep her going.
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Hope your grandma can recover quickly Amber.
Very sorry to hear about your grandmother, Amber. I hope the surgery goes well and that the recovery isn't too hard on her.
Jammies wrote: "Any updates, Amber?"She's doing well today. They had her up and walking a little and everything seems to be progressing much better than we initially anticipated. Her only issue right now is her high blood sugar, as she's diabetic and her eating schedule has been all messed up by the surgery and meds, but my mom says it's under control. I'm very relieved, that's for sure and now I can celebrate my new job and my Grandma's excellent recovery! Telling her about the new job seemed to perk her up a lot last night, before the crazy painkillers kicked in and she started talking about my cat.
I'm glad to hear your grandmother is doing well Amber.
I'm happy that your grandma is doing better than expected. You both have my best wishes.
Well, I'm happy to say my grandmother is recovering. But now there is a bigger problem on the horizon. My grandma has decided that she wants to stay in the nursing home where she has been recovering. This is a problem because my mother has been her caregiver for the last 6 years and has been unable to work. Without my grandma, she will be homeless and have no money. I'm obviously going to let her stay with us, but all I have to offer is a couch and I have roommates which makes everything very complicated. I don't know what to do or who to call to help my mom out, and with the economy in the shitter, how is someone who hasn't had work for 6 years supposed to find a job? I feel sick just thinking about this, and weird sharing it on the internet, but none of the rest of our family is any help, even just for moral support and I think my husband is becoming overwhelmed by the amount of emotional support I'm requiring right now.
I'm glad your grandma is doing so well. I'm sorry I don't have any advice to give about your mother's situation though. A hug will have to do. ::hug::
Thanks, janine. I can use all the hugs I can get right now.
A hug from J9's gigantic hands is equal to at least 11 regular hugs.{{{{{{{ Amber }}}}}}
((Amber))Is your mom eligible for some kind of Social Services?
Carol wrote: "((Amber))Is your mom eligible for some kind of Social Services?"
I really hope so. A friend gave me a number that might help. My main focus right now is trying to keep my mom in a decent frame of mind because she's going to need to approach everything as logically as possible if anything good is going to come of this. Being free to try to start over could end up being positive eventually, but for the next few months it's going to be very difficult for everyone.
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Oh, I see Zardoz just mentioned that.
Amber, I'm sorry that things are so complicated for you in trying to help your mom. This is a delicate question, and you certainly don't have to answer, but why is your mom now homeless? Couldn't she stay in your grandmother's house? If it was an apartment, I can see the problem. I do think the suggestions about her becoming a caretaker for someone else make sense. Lots of people are looking for responsible people to help them care for their parents. Sending you good wishes. Stay strong.
It's a long story, but basically the house they are in is a rental, so when my grandma's ss and pension are signed over to the nursing home my mom won't be able to pay the rent. My grandma gave up her house to move to Michigan with my mom and step-dad, but then my step-dad walked out on them and we moved them back here so we could help out.
Sounds complicated, as so many family situations are. You're doing what you can right now and, hopefully, your mom will be able to find work and eventually live on her own again. Go in the bathroom and take some deep breaths when you're feeling overwhelmed. Plan a stress-free evening with hubby. Everything will work out.
Scout wrote: "Sounds complicated, as so many family situations are. You're doing what you can right now and, hopefully, your mom will be able to find work and eventually live on her own again. Go in the bathroom..."Kind advice Scout. Tcer's are nice . Yeah.
*hugs Amber*First resource: http://www.aoa.gov/ That's the Administration on Aging, and right on their home page are links for local programs, benefits, etc.
Second resource: http://www.vsb.org/vlrs/ That's the Virginia (I think that's your state, yes?) Bar Association referral service. If your mom has been unable to work for 6 years, she might be eligible for SSDI/SSI and a reputable disability attorney is paid only on results.
Please, please remember to take care of yourself and PM me if there is anything I can do.
Aww, Amber! I'm sorry to hear of the troubles you are having right now. I'm glad your grandmother is recovering and sad that your mother's home is in jeapardy.Keep faith in the fact that everything will work out. There are options and the right one will present itself.
Big hugs to you all!!
Thanks everyone. TCer's are nice. And thoughtful. And supportive. And awesome.Thanks for the links jammies, I'm definitely going to look into those and give them to my mom as well.
