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Paul
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Jun 03, 2013 10:59AM
I am so sorry to hear about this. My condolences my dear friends.
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PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE send thoughts, energies, and prayers for my nephew Phillip. He is 26 and has Familial Polyposis Syndrome, which causes literally thousands of possibly cancerous polyps to develop. At the age of 12 he had his large colon and rectum removed due to the illness.This past week I took him on for a regular endoscopy and colonoscopy to monitor. They removed several more polyps. A few hours later he was back at the hospital, and was admitted. He was diagnosed with pancreatitis with an admission that they bumped his pancreas while removing a polyp. Five days later he still can't eat, needs oxygen, is tachycardia, his blood pressure is quite high, and this morning had a tube put down his nose to drain fluids from his stomach. He has has several CT scans and more to come. They have no idea what's wrong. And remember, he's only 26. Thank you all.
Oh, heavens! I will certainly keep the positive energies flowing his way!
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I too have a prayer request. My best friend "Katrina" is having a lot of grief dumped on her by her ex-husband. He is double digit arrears on child support and has been our of contact with the kids for years. All of a sudden a few years ago, he got new girlfriend who has made it her mission to "get the kids back in his life" meaning get custody so that they can collect a check. The kids are 14 and 12. They really don't want contact with him but they don't have a choice due to the divorce decree.
Her husband (of 7 years) would like to adopt the kids and they have been trying to do this for years but "the donor" as we call him,is fighting for his "rights" at every turn, yet he had had no contact for well over 6 years before all of this.....
Horse's patoot........
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I am so proud of her, I could explode! She's my first one (of the six "nieces and nephew")to graduate. I am also torn with "no, you can't be graduating, you just came home from the hospital!" and "I am so proud of you!".
Thank you, energies sent to Katrina, and congrats Leigh!
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As mentioned my "niece" Leigh graduated on Tuesday. What I did not know,is that my "niece" graduated 7th in her class of a 100+ (it's a HUGE Catholic High School), wore 5 honor cords, 2 tassels (one honors, the other her school), was awarded 2 Presidential letters for Excellence, was one of 5 students inducted into the Academic Hall of Fame, and was the only student awarded the Medal of Educational Excellence by the Sister of Notre Dame.
If I wore buttons, they would be bursting!
My nephew is out of the hospital! YAY! Thank you all!
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The nursing home/assisted living/home health care aid discussion is up and running.
I am shell shocked, scared and barely holding it together.
Sending thoughts and energies your way my dear.
Not that it needs saying, but I'm here for you. Anytime, anyplace.
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Update: I talked to her cardiologist yesterday. A combination of things are going on. Age is a factor to ALL of this. She has internal bleeding, which we know, but they don't know where. To do the exploratory surgery may cause more harm, and it also nay not be fixable. She has a clogged minor artery (again, we knew this) and now has A-Fib. and related heart failure. The treatment of blood thinners will exacerbate the bleeding, and the milder ones will not prevent stroke. She should be released in a few days and should be able to go to physical rehab before coming home, but for how long she will be home, I don't know.
I fear that I will not have her much longer and I am not ready for this, not yet, not now.
I understand the fear. BIG hugs to you my dear friend.
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Still sending energies. Its scary, so much better than a nursing home.
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I can't stop crying.
At least the last thing I said to her was "I love you."
Oh no! Call if you need to talk, love you my dear.
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I told her I loved her before I left and she said, " I love you too."
Now I'm numb and crying.
Awww. :( Great big hugs and much love to you
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On Tuesday, she told the nurse, " I want to die. Let me die. Unplug me." She is and was not on anything except oxygen. She said "Let me die." again while I was there, and yesterday she told her cardiologist that she was "ready to meet her maker."
I know she's tired and she has earned this, but I am hoping that she can make it to 96 next month and then slip away quietly.
Selfish I know, but still it would be nice.
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I have been out of steady work for 6 years.
YYAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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We love you very, very much!And don't let the stupid people get you down.
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Sending those thoughts and wishes for a wonderful day!
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Happy belated birthday to your grandma!
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I have to make the appointment today. I have to go in for a mammogram and ultra sound because I found a lump in my right breast.
Last Monday, I was supposed to be getting dressed and as is typical, I started to entertain myself by playing with my boobs. Yes,guys,we women do in fact play with them. I was playing "droopy boobs" where I lift them up to where they are supposed to be and let them drop down. I felt something. This lead to my performing my monthly exam which I was going to do later in the week anyway. Since I was at Narzain's I had him see if he felt it too. He did.
I was able to find it every day in the same spot, so I told the doctor yesterday. He felt it too. He said that I am fibrous in this area and he is not panicked, but feels that we should have a picture of it.
So there we go.
I will keep you all posted as soon as I know what is what.
Sending energies your way. Thoughts are with you. Huggies.
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*benign*benign*benign*benign*benign*benign*benign*benign*benign*benign*benign*benign*benign*benign*benign*benign
*points to Sophie's post* What she said, times a million :)
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Thank you. I am hoping for the same thing. I hope that all it is just the fibrous tissue the doctor thinks it is. I am trying to prepare for the worst as well. Morbid as that seems,I am bracing for bad news,since I have had a lot of that lately.
Part of me feels that if something bad happens, that I brought it upon myself by not being a nice person, for having uncharitable thoughts about others, not saying nice things, and being an all around B**** (all caps). I know that is not true, but at times it seems like it is so after all.
*Sigh*
That is just the fear talking. I am allowed to be scared. This is my body and I am allowed to be scared, but not be ruled by fear.
Fear is a feeling. You feel hot, you feel tired, you feel afraid. Fear cannot kill you.I agree entirely that you are allowed to be scared, but not ruled by the fear. And, whatever happens, you did NOT bring it upon yourself. (I know you know, but it bears repeating).
I'm right here with you the whole way.
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I have known almost as many survivors of breast cancer as I have known those who were lost to it. I watched a friend die of cervical cancer and my mother survive uterine. I know I am strong and tough and that I will come out of this for the better. Yet, I can't help but fear being "that person", the one others avoid because I am all about me and my problems. I have seen too many examples of this in my life where nobody wants to be around "Jane" because all she does is complain about this,that or the other thing, and nobody wants to hear it.
I find it hard to tell others I need them because I am the one who usually is needed by others. I fix scraped knees, soothe hurt feelings, give advice, make cookies, offer tissues, a shoulder to cry on, a sympathetic ear to listen to a problem, or what have you. I am the one that does for others and I am not used to letting them do for me because I guess I feel that if I ask for help,it had better be important.
Yes, I realize how relatively dumb that reads,but it makes sense to me, since I have not seen myself as important over the years, so therefore I wasn't important to need help of any kind. I know that we will all be laughing at what a panic I have caused a few hours from now, but then I am afraid of the guilt that I am going to feel because I caused said panic needlessly,which in not true. I am the one who is good in a crisis, but now that I am said crisis, I don't know what to do.
I don't know how to fix this.
Kim, I know that you are the fixer, the one others go to. You are scared, and rightly so. There is a small chance this could be bad news. A SMALL chance, but even that is enough to terrorize anyone. We are you friends and loved ones. We care about you, we are here for you. Dump on us, cry on our shoulders, share your fears. You've been there for everyone else... it's ok to flip it around. Much love to you dear.
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At the risk of sounding like the person who yelled "FIRE!" in a crowded theater, I am proud to report that I am 100% fine. The tech told me yesterday that I did exactly the right thing in coming in ASAP, as this is what they want you to do. They want you to come in so that things can be addressed as soon as possible. She said that I was nice to give somebody good news for a change.
I have been hearing the same kind of advice that Paul shared from another friend of mine,LOUDLY, but all the same,it is still true. I am learning how to let others be there for me. For a long time, I have not had people I felt I could trust. I have had too many people in my life hurt me because I thought I they were my friends, but they were just using me for my help, my brains, or for an elaborate joke. Sometimes all 3.
I am working on it, and will get there in my own time, and as long as everyone is patient with me, it hopefully won't be long.
Again, thank all of you who were there for me and for all your positive thoughts. I really appreciated them.
*points to happy-dancing Sophia*What she said.
Believe me, this is NOT like yelling fire in a theatre. This was a legitimate concern that needed to be checked. Even the lab tech told you that you did everything right. I know, you know all that, and I know you don't like to make a 'fuss.' But sometimes a fuss is what's needful, and this was one of those times.
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On another front,we may be able to bring grandma home for Christmas Day. The swelling has gone down enough in her legs that we may be able to get shoes on her once again. She has ingrown toenail that will be dealt with this week and then shoes will be tried. She needs to "re-learn" how to walk in them, so therapy will be good for that. She is off of her oxygen, and even played bingo last Friday, and won 8 Bingo bucks. She is planning on going today. She is a card player, but this is good for her as well.
So, the good news train is gearing up and I hope it keeps coming.
