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racists may suck but ever wonder what makes one?
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oh sorry, cant watch it cause my speakers are broken
Yeah.. :D
maybe what makes a racist.. Is that they don't have people in their lives... Or someone did something wrong to them, so they take it out on the whole culture.
maybe what makes a racist.. Is that they don't have people in their lives... Or someone did something wrong to them, so they take it out on the whole culture.
Bullies suck also.
Go Kyle!Let it all out...
;)
*Smiles.*
One time when I was in year 4 we had to have a cover teacher because our teacher was busy.My autism was a lot worse then, (im also a little OCD) I was almost always in detention (which really didnt help my social skills) because the teachers just didnt understand.
Anywho...this cover teacher understood me even less than the rest.
During class, for some reason she tried to get me to change seats. I dont know why but for some reason I just didnt want to move and couldnt see any reason for moving.
I guess I didnt like the seat or something.
This teacher didnt handle the situation well and obviously didnt know I was autistic.
She grabbed me by the wrist and tried to drag/pull me over to the other seat.
At the time I had fairly long nails, I reacted badly and paniced a bit or something.
Somehow I ended up scratching her by accident while trying to get her to let go.
She dragged me outside the classroom, called up my real teacher and started yelling at me.
I clearly remember her pratically waving her scratched hand in my face yelling that it was assult and that she could report it to the police as well as other horrible stuff.
My normal teacher came and she wasnt too happy with me either but she didnt really do much.
I dont recall her intervening when the cover teacher was yelling at me either.
Just both of them pratically towering over me, and me being completely terrified and not knowing what to do.
I dont remember crying or anything (even though the memory is so vivid) so I guess I just shut down and went silent and 'went inside myself' while she yelled at me so I doubt my scared look showed on the outside much. That incident really had a bad effect on me. I think that was the starting point of when I started to clam up and get really quiet.
I really hate that cover teacher.
I'm running out of hug pictures here! But I think I have a few left...
:)
That sounds terrible, Vyanni, but I love that you've come through it so well. Talking (okay, typing) to you, I can't even tell that you've ever been sad IN YOUR LIFE. You're a happy camper, that's for sure! And that really is the best way to be, right?
Yupperz!
Heh I see you put it in both rant and personal stories, I was reading it, and then thought 'hey... wait a second,,,':p
de ja vu all over again, right?:)
I wasnt sure which one to post it on. So I just put it on both. Sorry for the confusion!*Nervous laugh.*
I deleted the one of the personal stories page now though to cause less confusion.
Lol, I thought it was more suite for a personal story lol, but thanks for sharing your story Viyanni:D
Ditto.
Vyanni Krace ~Wisdom of the bitter sea.~ wrote: "One time when I was in year 4 we had to have a cover teacher because our teacher was busy.My autism was a lot worse then, (im also a little OCD) I was almost always in detention (which really di..."
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Rikka☆boss10☆♪CHOCOHOLIC1♪○psychic5○ wrote: "Vyanni Krace ~Wisdom of the bitter sea.~ wrote: "One time when I was in year 4 we had to have a cover teacher because our teacher was busy.My autism was a lot worse then, (im also a little OCD) I..."
yay! *Gladly accepts glomp with open arms.*
GLOMPING TIME!
Btw I LOVE Lol-cats. That picture is awesome.
I love glomping people ^^
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I LOVE THAT PIC! The guys just like: WTH!
i have something to rant about
and i don't understand
"why" they do this to me.
it seem so ignorant.
I am a vegetarian.
and practicing vegan.
One day at lunch, this guy
asked me if i wanted his chicken
and i said
"no thanks dude, i'm good. i'm a veggie."
you wanna know what he and his friends did?
they tried to
stick. meat. down. my. throat.
how ignorant is that?!
one sent me a picture of an chickens
head being cut off.
((with had me crying for hours, mind you))
i mean,
how can you dislike vegetarians so much?!
and i don't understand
"why" they do this to me.
it seem so ignorant.
I am a vegetarian.
and practicing vegan.
One day at lunch, this guy
asked me if i wanted his chicken
and i said
"no thanks dude, i'm good. i'm a veggie."
you wanna know what he and his friends did?
they tried to
stick. meat. down. my. throat.
how ignorant is that?!
one sent me a picture of an chickens
head being cut off.
((with had me crying for hours, mind you))
i mean,
how can you dislike vegetarians so much?!
Tears. Zombie. War. wrote: "i have something to rant about
and i don't understand
"why" they do this to me.
it seem so ignorant.
I am a vegetarian.
and practicing vegan.
One day at lunch, this guy
asked me if i wanted hi..."
Oh my! Are they even allowed to do that?
Trying to stick meat down someone's throat is horrible, especially to a vegetarian.
My brother calls himself a part-time vegetarian. Be barely eats meat at all and when he does, it is because he really really wants to eat it.
That's just... horrible! (Forcing someone to eat meat is horrible... as well as sending you that picture that you obviously did not like)
Isn't there anything we can do to try and limit discrimination against people because they are different?
Isn't being different what makes you special?
and i don't understand
"why" they do this to me.
it seem so ignorant.
I am a vegetarian.
and practicing vegan.
One day at lunch, this guy
asked me if i wanted hi..."
Oh my! Are they even allowed to do that?
Trying to stick meat down someone's throat is horrible, especially to a vegetarian.
My brother calls himself a part-time vegetarian. Be barely eats meat at all and when he does, it is because he really really wants to eat it.
That's just... horrible! (Forcing someone to eat meat is horrible... as well as sending you that picture that you obviously did not like)
Isn't there anything we can do to try and limit discrimination against people because they are different?
Isn't being different what makes you special?
i don't think it is allowed.
we can try.
and yesh, it is.
we can try.
and yesh, it is.
Hmmm... I hate bullies and people who a racist.
Grrrr... and Descriminterors. (I made that word up... which I do a lot.)
Grrrr... and Descriminterors. (I made that word up... which I do a lot.)
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Who are these boys and where do they live? *Murderous rage.*Im a half-vegetarian. There are some meats I will point blank refuse to eat. I hate the idea of eating a once-living thing. Especially when I think of how the animals are sometimes treated before being killed.
Often I will force myself to forget what it is im eating just to eat meat sometimes. I do that when I want to eat something with meat in it but I keep thinking about what it is and I put myself off my food.
*Nods in agreement.* Its revolting.
Grrrr. Yuck. Okay, so I may not be a vegetarian or a environmentalist, but I have morals. Animal torture and Animal testing is absolutely foul. I don't think animals should be tortured nor do I think that we should test products on animals. I get how people say that if they didn't then they would not be able to know for sure whether or not it was safe to use on humans but it is still revolting and should be limited if not banned.
I agree! It is not right to harm animals for our own personal gain. Ever.
Rant:People who preach tolerance, or who say they follow their religion's teachings of tolerance and then turn around and persecute others for being different than they are remain nothing but hypocrites and liars. That is worded terribly inelegantly, but it is a rant. Those people should take a step back from themselves and see themselves from someone else's perspective to see just how unfair and cruel they are really beinng so they can either stop claiming to be what they aren't or change themselves.
Thank you very much! That is exactly how I feel! It is very depressing, but then there are people like the members of this group and it restores faith in humanity.
My sister needs to take a step back and take a good look at herself too. She can be really cruel sometimes. She is often the one who starts any arguments I get into with her. She takes her anger out on me a lot too. I know this sounds ageist but if you have a younger sibling im sure you understand: She is 1 year and two months younger than me yet she acts like shes the older one and can boss me around. I dont like that. I hate being bossed around anyway and when its coming from my far less mature little sister it really makes my blood boil. My sister is a complete hyopocrite in some ways. Sometimes our fights become physical (not often) and she will hit me pretty hard (she seriously does have a scary punch) most of the time in the arm. (still hurts like hell though.) So I would hit her back with a little less force (but still enough for payback) and she will suddenly burst out crying (I seriously think they are crocodile tears) and tell mum that I hit her and she did nothing. She usually gets away with this because she bruises easier than me. I can punch my arm really hard all day and it still wont bruise. So naturally I have no evidence that she hit me. She often tries to get me angry on purpose.
She whacks/slaps me with clothes a lot too and often 'borrows' my stuff without asking but completely explodes with anger when I do the same. She expects me to share all my stuff yet she will never do the same in return. She really does act like a spoilt brat and it really makes me angry. Most of the time she is only nice when she wants something. The thing is I still love her and care for her because she is my sister so I keep sharing my stuff with her anyway even though she would never do the same.
Besides whenever I do refuse to share something with the excuse that she never shares her stuff she throws a hissy-fit and makes mum tell me to share my stuff.
She is getting a little better now since mum banned hannah montana and since she left disney channel for comedy central though. She now shares her bus-change with me when were walking home from the bus stop and stop off at the shops.
Though she only does this to trap me into having to do the same with my spare-change.
So now if I ever have any spare money in my pockets when we get off th bus she expects me to give her half of it.
She blackmails me a lot and calls my compromises 'blackmail'.
My sister is still keeping up her horrible behaviour. She knows I am pretty sensitive to sprays, they make me cough hard and give me massive headaches like you wouldnt believe, which is why she isnt allowed to apply perfume in any rooms that I enter often. Yet today she kept spraying her Lynx in my face and making me gag. Then she continued to say really horrible, hurtful things to me and I had to force myself not to cry. She can be really nice sometime sbut I really do have to wonder if its just a front sometimes. She genuinely seems like a horrible demon sometimes and as tough as I act when I face her, the minute I get back to my room I have to fight not to cry. The insane thing is she is my younger sister. I dont hate her but I really find life hard to live with her acting like this. Are her actions and behaviour considered sibling abuse?
It isnt just the odd sibling arguement that some families get, it happens at least several times a week. I dont think that sounds as a little sibling spat anymore does it?
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Yep. The thing is im usually the one to get in trouble. Its seriously starting to make me feel depressed. Oh and no matter what I tell my parents they simply wave it off as my sister simply being 'in a mood' or something ridiculous like that. They never seem to grasp just how bad it is. I have even told my dad that I think I might be getting depression or becoming bi-polar and they both just think Im overly-paranoid! Its really frustrating.If I one day become diagnosed with depression or with being bi-polar then I place most of the blame on my sister.
Its hard enough that I get bullied at school. I dont need that sort of abuse at home too.
She has reduced me to tears too many times to count, though I usually cry when Im alone so no one sees. She used to discriminate against me because Im autistic too.
But I seriously much be a masochist or something because I still love her despite all that, she can be really nice and a wonderful person at times. The differences in her personality are so huge that sometimes I really have to wonder if she has Multiple personality disorder or something.
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Talk to your school guidance counselor? I'm homeschooled so I don't know exactly what their job involves, but I'm sure they could at least help in some way if your parents won't listen.
I had no idea you were autistic. That's really sad that not only people at school but also at home are treating you that way. *hugs*
It might just be her age. How old is your sister?
Moods don't excuse this (or your parents' behaviour). *Hugs too*
That's too sad. Sisters should help each other. Not make the other one cry. :(
My sister is 13, she is a year and two months younger than me. She is a star student at school, I doubt the counsellors would believe me.
And its not just her age. She's been horrible to me long before she became a teenager. Her becoming a teen has only made it worse. Its sad because when we were both toddlers she used to follow me around all the time and basically loved me and looked up to me. She used to be a really sweet toddler.
Have you asked her why she's so horrible to you? Or is she just a bad person? I don't understand it, because you are really nice and for god's sake she's your sister! ...If that doesn't work, I'm afraid I'm out of ideas. :/
I dont think she realises what she is doing really. Whenever I try to talk with her about it or ask she tries to change the subject and be all jokey. It usually ends in me giving up on asking or us arguing because she is trying to avoid the subject and isnt acting serious and Im trying to get answers. Arguements like these usually end up with either me being verbally abused again and feeling horrible as she storms out of the room thinking she is in the right. Or with her hitting me with some clothes or throwing random objects at me. Whenever I get physically hurt I get angry so when she slaps me with clothes I sometimes grab her wrist hard, twist it behind her back and pin her down so that she cant hurt me. (We both do karate.)
Its all in self defence to stop her from hurting me further despite me wanting to grab the clothes and slap her back.
Then she starts crying and acting like Im the one who struck first and hurt her.
Then I wind up getting in trouble and STILL feeling horrible.
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Not about that. I was suggesting that for the depression/bipolar thing. Sorry it wasn't clear. If your parents won't believe that you might have a problem like that, maybe a counsellor would be able to help.
Have you ever tried to have those discussions in front of your parents? That way it's a more controlled situation and both sides of things will be in front of your parents?
Its happened once. Im not about to try again. My parents simply think it is sibling rivalry and my mum is always saying we cant be left in the house alone because we cant be in the same room as each other since we clash so easily over the smallest of things. The main issue is sharing since my sister is about as selfish and possesive as you can get. She also never admits it when she is wrong, she always has to be in the right. She always has to have things her way or she throws a hissy fit. The minute I say I do not want to share something she throws a hissy fit and my mum makes me share it. Whenever SHE doesnt want to share, I complain about how Im always sharing but my sister doesnt budge. My mum just tells me that she cant force my sister to share. Pretty hypocritical when she seems perfectly capable of forcing me to share huh?I often say to my mum that we (me and my sister) can be in the same room/house as one another just so long as we stay out of each others way.
Thanks for liking my story btw. =^_^=
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Ah, I see. Honestly, I've had that problem with my sisters, and my sisters with each other a LOT. I think a lot of it is just the ages of you both, honestly. I'm also going to guess that your youngest sister probably thinks that you get all the attention since you're the older sister and autistic. She probably is having problems of feeling the need to get attention more, though she does it in the wrong way. My youngest sister is the same exact way. With two older sisters she feels the need to do anything to get attention. Either to beat us academically(though she quickly gets discouraged at that), or through actions. I could be wrong though. It just seems like something where your younger sister feels the need to fight for attention, so she does so in not very good ways. It sounds like she might have taken it too far, then add all the teenager hormones and you've got disaster....
Plus, I've noticed that older children tend to wear out the parents some(and parents have more of an idea of what to expect and do after having their first kid) to where they've started to be more loose with the younger kid anyway, but still expect the older kid to act the same way. Kinda like they expect the older kid to be an example to the younger one or like they're the ones closer to leaving the house so they need all the extra "experience" and "knowledge" right then and there. I have the same problem as you do, I really do. I am often expected to do a lot more and stuff, yet my mom doesn't expect quite the same of my sisters. But at the same time I get away with a lot of things(and get things first) because I'm the oldest. Like I'm the only one with a laptop. I'm the only one my parents really trust to get things done. Stuff like that.
I guess I'm trying to say that the problem with stuff like sharing is something everyone in a family of more than one kid deals with, and the sister being rude/mean is a youngest sister "symptom", she's fighting for attention, and hormones are making everything a mess.
I hope that all made sense and it's not something you've heard a lot of times. I hate it when I get stuff repeated or told to me from multiple sources....
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-The siblings closest to your age you argue and fight with the most.
-Kids and Definitions:
Oldest: Expected to be role model, pushed to stress limit by parents, expected to be perfect. Rules are strict because parents are reading "Parenting Books" and are wondering why their toddler isn't crawling at the age the book says she should.
2nd Oldest: Opposite of 1st. Rules are looser because parents think they were too tough on the oldest.
Middle Child: Typically the "ignored" or "left behind" child. They try to get noticed, but it never really works out because they have to deal with older sibling shadows of social, academic, physical, and spiritual prowess.
2nd Youngest: Will be a mix of the two oldest. Will lean toward one of them and take theirs mostly.
Youngest: "Daddy's little angel" or "Mommy's little man". They are the MOST spoiled out of all the children because they are the last and therefore are the last to leave which depresses the parents...
