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Aug 17, 2011 04:43PM
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Well then almost 30 veiws no p0osts...I'll start...I really want a boyfriend...now it is someone else's turn
Hi Byren, I kind of have someone I have been spending sometime with. I don't know if I would call him a boyfriend yet. I think everyone wants someone to be with and spend some time, so yep, I guess you could say I want a boyfriend.
Lucky...I haven't even kissed a boy
I didn't kiss a boy until I was 18. And it wasn't because I didn't want to. I did. I just didn't have anyone. I know it's hard to hear, but I have had a lot of smarter people than me tell me to just take things slow and make sure that someone was is deserving of what you have to give them. And you know what, that was just today that someone told me that.And they are right. Just hang in there, it will happen.
Jordie.R wrote: "I didn't kiss a boy until I was 18. And it wasn't because I didn't want to. I did. I just didn't have anyone. I know it's hard to hear, but I have had a lot of smarter people than me tell me to j..."I agree with this Jordie.
I had my first real kiss at 21. It was worth the wait.
I think I was 19, I always knew I wasn't the type to just date around. I wanted THE ONE...The man I first kissed turned out to be my hubby. I think the longest I dated someone in high school was 3 days. Don't rush it.
My first kiss was in a shed during a game of truth or dare...it was nothing to brag about and I really regretted it wasn't with someone special.
yeah, I don't count my first kiss with a guy... I realise now he was just using me so ima be more careful from now on :P lol don't waste it on something silly...
I really just want someone to hold me
We all do:) I wish I had something better to say to you that would make you feel better.
Awww, Bryen, your time will come! I know that probably doesn't make you feel any better, but it will. My first kiss with a guy didn't happen until I was 17 and I regretted it because he turned out to be a huge jerk. It'll happen for you one day and I hope it'll be perfect for you. :)
Hang in there, Bryen. I know a year or two seems like forever now, but it will happen in its own time. I kissed a guy at 16, basically because he was there and I was lonely. He ended up ditching me without an explanation and it hurt worse than the lonely part. I didn't date until I was 19 and in college, and met some people I liked for more than just a being a warm body. Believe me, it's a whole different thing when you actually care about the guy. Met my forever guy at 23. I hope you find your guy sooner than I did, but until then keep writing and enjoying the rest of your life.
☯☮Bryen☮☯ wrote: "I really just want someone to hold me"Bryen it will happen, believe me. And as much as you hate the wait now with everything in you it will be worth it :)
And I agree wholeheartedly with the others. Avoid jerks at all costs, the only thing they are good for is an heartache, I can personally attest to this.
I've wanted to tell someone about this for ages. I told all my friends that I was over it but I'm not and what better way to vent then to a bunch of strangers on the internet.I met a guy at the start of the (university) year (October) and it was strange from the start because we'd met on a night out and exchanged numbers and then from there we saw each other on and off, having sex etc. and nothing more.
Fast forward to early January and he'd just come back from home (he went away from the Christmas break) and we saw each other a few times. He then asked me to be his boyfriend and I was really happy.
Something you need to know: I'm 18, I've slept with 2 guys. He's 22 and he's slept with 5 guys, 6 including me.
So he asked me to go out with him and it made me happy, but then he started to talk about all the depression that he went through and even the scars that he'd given himself. Of course I knew what they were but I didn't want to talk about them, we were both pretty drunk and tbh I just wanted to have sex but he'd become all serious and talking to me about cutting himself so deep that the blood wouldn't stop. In the end...we still had sex that night.
I spoke to him quite a bit after then but we didn’t meet up. He slowly stopped talking to me and I didn’t know what was going on…I thought that he might have been stressed out with University so I didn’t go to see him because that would stress him out even more.
Fast forward again, 14 days later (in fact February the 14th) he was in a relationship with some guy. I woke up on Valentine’s day to realise that I was single and that I’d been single since the end of January.
Lucky we hadn’t made plans.
I cried for about half-an-hour and you guys are the only people that I know I cried about it. I told all my friends that I knew it was going to happen and I didn’t, I didn’t know and it got me really angry. I haven’t spoken to him since and I don’t want to, in fact I told my friends that if we see him out on a night out that I will punch him because it was such a horrible feeling and nobody should ever have to feel that.
So yeah, that’s my experience.
I am now looking for a boyfriend.
And to continue with you guys were doing I had my first kiss when I was 16—the guy had braces, I don’t think I’ll be rushing to do that again.
I hope you all have a great day! ♥
Joseph wrote: "I've wanted to tell someone about this for ages. I told all my friends that I was over it but I'm not and what better way to vent then to a bunch of strangers on the internet.I met a guy at the s..."
Well first--thank you--thanks for sharing that with us---I know--strangers are easy to share with---but then again--maybe not--to admit when someone has hurt us--well that is difficult even with strangers I think!! And you have every right to be angry--I hate arm chair analysis--but it sounds like the guy got very scared that he had shown too much to you--revealed to much of himself--but still--a cowardly thing to do--to run away like that---I am so sorry that happened to you--I really am Joseph!
Joseph wrote: "I've wanted to tell someone about this for ages. I told all my friends that I was over it but I'm not and what better way to vent then to a bunch of strangers on the internet.I met a guy at the s..."
I'm glad if we gave you a safe place to say this stuff. Really, it can be good sometimes to just put it down in words and know someone saw it and understood.
Being single can be hard. Finding out that way, because he just drifted away without having the courage to tell you what was going on with him hurts more. But he does sound like someone who is pretty confused and scared. Those people can be hard to care about - they sink so deep into their own pain they will hurt the folks around them almost obliviously.
Crying is a perfectly reasonable response to this. We all get hurt sometimes and we all cry (men and women, gay and straight.) And being angry is reasonable too. He didn't treat you the way you deserved to be treated. That was wrong, and it should make you mad. In a way that's good, because it will help you make a break from him.
I do hope you find someone else. At 18, the doors are just opening for you. Remember you are special and valuable and you deserve to be treated right. Hopefully the next guy you find will give your relationship as much thought and care as you obviously do.
And that first kiss? My guy had braces too and they do not do good things to lips, do they. One more thing that makes high-school such a joy (not.) Fortunately something you won't likely deal with again.
You never know what the other person is thinking. A guy who treated me horribly (pretended we were exclusive while he was engaged to someone else)...he ended up marrying the other girl but found me many many years later to apologize. He even told his wife whatt he did and why he needed to say be was sorry. I was crushed when it happened butby the time he found me i was long past it but it had bothered him for years.
Joseph, I'm sorry that you had that experience, and I hope you find someone who will treat you as well as you deserve.
I'm not too good with these things but I will say that the right person for you WILL come along, just give it some time. I know these things hurt and it takes time for our hearts to heal, but it will heal. I'm glad you felt you could share this with us and get it all out. Sometimes that alone can be a big a help.
Thanks guys! I can really tell that this is a place where I will feel comfortable to talk about these things.And I'm only 18, I'm at university (: I feel creativity enlightened, life is just getting used to throwing obstacles at me.
Oh, I have a poem. I'm not sure if I should post it here - it's LGBT themed.
He draws in and kisses me with his cherry chapped lips,
There’s a pause as our lips meet, and I pull away,
His lips are meant for kissing girls,
Not chasing fantasies and lost dreams.
He kisses me again, pulling my face to his,
He’s not letting go, so I let go; I give in,
And take the kiss. The first kiss of many.
But his lips are meant for kissing girls,
Not guys, never guys.
Because that’s wrong.
So unnatural.
And I want more.
What do you guys think?♥
-Joseph
You are very talented...so very talented. I love angst and that's perfect for me.
Joseph wrote: "Thanks guys! I can really tell that this is a place where I will feel comfortable to talk about these things.And I'm only 18, I'm at university (: I feel creativity enlightened, life is just gett..."
I don't know if I'm a good judge but I love it! It feels bittersweet and emotional to me. I think you did good!
Joseph wrote: "Thanks guys! I can really tell that this is a place where I will feel comfortable to talk about these things.And I'm only 18, I'm at university (: I feel creativity enlightened, life is just gett..."
Love the poem, and that feeling of tipping over the brink.
You can post things here, certainly. If you have longer work you can post it in the Tales Told folder (start a thread for it). You can also post in your own profile and link to it on here, and Sammy is going to start up a thread for poetry very soon which will be the perfect place for poems.
Thanks for the great feedback guys (:And yeah, I did look for a poetry folder, but I couldn't find one (: I'm glad they're creating one though.
Joseph wrote: "Thanks guys! I can really tell that this is a place where I will feel comfortable to talk about these things.And I'm only 18, I'm at university (: I feel creativity enlightened, life is just gett..."
It is beautiful!
Joseph wrote: "Thanks guys! I can really tell that this is a place where I will feel comfortable to talk about these things.And I'm only 18, I'm at university (: I feel creativity enlightened, life is just gett..."
Truly incredible. You are very talented, Joseph - at such a young age..hold on to that..
Hope it's OK to add my story since this thread looks kinda old too... I met my boyfriend at the beginning of school, but we really didn't talk much for a while. We think it's pretty funny that we're both named James, but at least I'm Jaime and he's Jimmy. He's really shy, has dyslexia, and bright red hair he hates but I think he's perfect. He just makes me happy and he's a great kisser too! :)
Jaime wrote: "Hope it's OK to add my story since this thread looks kinda old too... I met my boyfriend at the beginning of school, but we really didn't talk much for a while. We think it's pretty funny that we'r..."Please do!!
Jaime wrote: "Hope it's OK to add my story since this thread looks kinda old too... I met my boyfriend at the beginning of school, but we really didn't talk much for a while. We think it's pretty funny that we'r..."I'm so glad you found each other - that's wonderful. (And I married a red-head so I'm with you - very cute.)
Being a great kisser is a major plus for me in a relationship, my husband very good too :)
Jamie, THAT...Is about the sweetest thing I've heard in a long time. And I agree with Gino. Kissing = Definite turn on :) good luck!!!! :D
Aww...Jamie, that is really sweet. He sounds wonderful. :-)
Thanks! Jimmy's great. We've been having all kinds of discussions reading these books now and it's pretty cool. And everytime the characters kiss we do even if we have to save them because we're reading on the phone. ;)
Awwww. That whole brand new sparkly relationship thing is so amazing. And its so cool that you guys buddy read! Hope all the characters you read together are super affectionate! haha ;)
Jaime wrote: "Thanks! Jimmy's great. We've been having all kinds of discussions reading these books now and it's pretty cool. And everytime the characters kiss we do even if we have to save them because we're re..."I like that - sweetens the buddy-read concept.
hello, i had a boyfriend, but was kissed and then 2 days later dumped... its the first month of high school.... wonder whats next.... yeah not so fun
Toli wrote: "hello, i had a boyfriend, but was kissed and then 2 days later dumped... its the first month of high school.... wonder whats next.... yeah not so fun"Oh man, that's hard. Those days are tough - I remember even my non-romantic friendships shifted around a lot as we settled into school. But at least someone liked everything about you enough to be worth kissing. That's an affirmation of sorts. I hope you find someone less fickle soon.
Toli wrote: "hello, i had a boyfriend, but was kissed and then 2 days later dumped... its the first month of high school.... wonder whats next.... yeah not so fun"As someone who went through high school (a long time ago - Ha) and then taught at one forever and still works daily with teens, take it as a compliment that he wanted to kiss you and move on. My suggestion - don't be in too big a hurry to "land a boyfriend." Get to know others kids and figure out who are the sincere ones and who are the flakey ones before you get too caught up with anyone. Maybe join the GSA (if you're school has one and you're comfortable attending meetings.) I sponsored the GSA at my high school and there were kids who were, like, "stealth" members because they weren't out or because they didn't want their parents to know. They would talk with me about issues one to one, but did not want to be seen attending meetings. Depends on what is your comfort zone. Just don't let let people use you, Toli. You need to be you and not someone you think will "attract a boyfriend." My thoughts, for what they're worth. Good luck in high school!
There can be a lot of pressure, both internal and external, for people in high school and even middle school to have a boyfriend or girlfriend. And sometimes you feel like something's wrong with you when you don't have one.YOU HAVE TIME. It doesn't make you less if you don't have someone. It doesn't mean anything's wrong with you.
I had 2 boyfriends in high school, one lasting a couple of months and one just a couple of weeks. And that was it. (Okay, I'm straight, but love is love and a relationship is a relationship.) I married way too young, at age 22 to a guy I'd met when I was 19, because I felt like I was supposed to so I could prove to everyone I wasn't messed up or there wasn't anything wrong with me for not having had boyfriends. That marriage fell apart almost immediately, but I clung to it for 14 years because I was afraid I would be alone forever otherwise. I finally left when I was 36.
I didn't find the person I was meant to be with until I was almost 38.
Be young. Have fun. Enjoy yourself without putting too much pressure on to find *the* one or *a* one. Dating or having a relationship can be fun, but sometimes it's fun to just be with yourself and have friends. Do what makes you happy, not what people make you believe you "should".
Sorry if I'm over-advising... this is something I've been thinking about a lot lately because of some things my older daughter's been dealing with.
Michael wrote: "Toli wrote: "hello, i had a boyfriend, but was kissed and then 2 days later dumped... its the first month of high school.... wonder whats next.... yeah not so fun"As someone who went through high ..."
Thank you :) I have a friend who is moving up here and hes gay so.... maybe him!! XD and hes my really good friend lolz
Toli wrote: "Michael wrote: "Toli wrote: "hello, i had a boyfriend, but was kissed and then 2 days later dumped... its the first month of high school.... wonder whats next.... yeah not so fun"As someone who we..."
Him being a good friend sounds like a really good place to start. I suggest moving slowly at first in case you two as a couple doesn't work out. You don't want to lose the friendship. Best of luck to you, Toli!
Okai the first time i dated a guy i was about 11 and he was 13 and i had out first kis after 4 months of waiting and then i got dumped like 3 weeks later... :/
David wrote: "Okai the first time i dated a guy i was about 11 and he was 13 and i had out first kis after 4 months of waiting and then i got dumped like 3 weeks later... :/"Ouch. You guys were very young - I'm so impressed you had the confidence to be out to each other and together at all.
Kaje wrote: "David wrote: "Okai the first time i dated a guy i was about 11 and he was 13 and i had out first kis after 4 months of waiting and then i got dumped like 3 weeks later... :/"Ouch. You guys were v..."
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It's cool though - so many of us hide ourselves even from ourselves for a whole variety of reasons at that age. Not cool to be dumped of course, but that you were already figuring out who you wanted to become.
So, I guess this is an update? I have no idea, but my ex has decided to insult me constantly, behind my back. WOW... But today alot of my friends have been telling me that he is gross, and mean spirited. He is. Also my friend who was supposed to move up to my school, is not moving, he also has disappeared from Facebook.... I feel really lost.
Toli wrote: "So, I guess this is an update? I have no idea, but my ex has decided to insult me constantly, behind my back. WOW... But today alot of my friends have been telling me that he is gross, and mean spi..."Your so-called ex is being a jerk, Toli, plain and simple. Is he out to the school or is he trying to draw negative attention to you so he can stay in hiding? Don't know what to say about your friend unless you have some other way of contacting him. Maybe he got scared about his or your feelings and that's why he's not communicating. He may also be just rebooting his FB page - a lot of kids I know do that from time to time because they're getting harassed or something and have to shut down their page and create a new one. Is there a GSA at your school, or any local groups like that near you? The GSA at my school, while small, was always a good support group if kids felt lost. You can check out the link here - I post up lots of useful links and info and maintain contact with kids and the new advisor (I don't work there anymore. I'm currently writing books full-time.) Anyway, here's the link - check it out, and hang in there. I think I felt lost on and off all through high school. It's just that kind of roller coaster time of life. But even when a coaster hits the very bottom of a drop, it always goes back up to the top.
https://www.facebook.com/HawthorneGSA
There is a GSA, he is in it tho, and he always sits in my field of vision. He is also out to the school and i guess has a large number of people who havent been too nice towards me for the past month...
Can whoever runs the GSA talk with him? I had to have a few chats with kids, not in any confrontational way, but about things like that. Either the advisor or, even better, the student who's in charge of the GSA. The whole purpose of a GSA is to support each other, both gay and non-gay kids working together. Do you have friends in the GSA? Maybe you and the "ex" can sit down with a small group of kids in the GSA and they can help mediate the issue before it gets truly out of hand. Until you know why this boy is trashing you so much there's no way to stop him. Does any of that make sense?
