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Samantha
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Jul 30, 2011 05:04PM
What do you dislike the most about yourself? What do you consider some of your flaws? It could be physical or otherwise.
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I am flawless!Or maybe that's clueless?
But boy can I procrastinate.
LMAO!!!! Flawless??? You know you're lying!
Maybe I forgot to mention a certain pathology I have Yeah that's the ticket
I have tons of flaws...let me see what comes to mind right off the bat.Hot Tempered. I'm quick to get angry and I don't forget shit!!!! So if you cross me, it's a done deal. I'm learning not to get so angry at the small things.
As far as body goes...I have a bunch but I really dislike my boobs. Too big! LOL. Sounds funny to say but I don't like having to try to get people to talk to my face or struggling to find tops that look right and not hoochie. I also have small lips and wish I had a nice pucker :)
Oh shit I hope I didn't offend you on the favorite artist thread!just ignore the question
LOL! Nope, you didn't offend me. I responded to you. I don't get that mad online. Kind of hard when you can't see people's expression or hear the tone in which they are saying things. So I give everyone the benefit of the doubt :)
My greatest flaw would probably be ... seeing nothing but my flaws. I'm really hard on myself. I am my worst critic and constantly hear those negative voices in my head.
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Hot tempered -- I can get angry quite fast. Thankfully I can forget things just as easily so I tend not to keep grudges over minor slights. Nevertheless, I'm learning to be more cool about things and I think I've made significant stride. The older I get the more easier it becomes to let shit roll off my back.
Emotional -- not in the sense that I let my emotions rule my life in the way that I see some people do, but in the sense that I'm far too easily moved. I'm a cry baby. Sometimes in situations where I need to be a hard ass somebody will tell me a sob story and I'd be bawling my ass off right along with them. I hate when that happens because when all the bawling is done I still have a job to do, and people (thinking that I'm going to give them a break because I cried with them) end up getting hurt even more because I still have to do what needs to be done even though I sympathize with them. I hate when that happens even more, but the tears come of their own volition. That's why I could never work in the medical profession!
Self-doubt -- I consider myself quite self-aware. I have a good inventory of my strengths and weaknesses. I tend to focus on my strengths so I have a great deal of self-confidence. I don't go around thinking I'm a victim or feeling sorry for myself, but in spite of this the fact that I work in a very competitive, male dominated environment, I sometimes experience moments of self-doubt that I wish I did not have because I honestly can't say its justified. I like and respect my colleagues and I honestly do believe and SEE where they feel the same toward me. Sometimes being the only female (or among the few females present) in a pool of testosterone-driven suits rattles my confidence even if it doesn't last very long. I think its an affliction every professional woman deals with actually. I (dear I even say, we) really need to get over it.
Other flaws I have that I won't try to change because they don't hurt anybody and makes me who I am:
Anal, especially about order (not necessarily the same as neatness), decoration and design, feng shui and all that shit. LOL I tell you, I drive my husband crazy with the compulsion to constantly redecorate our living space. It's a wonder he hasn't thrown me out of the house after all these years for I'm worse now than I was earlier hehehe!
Fussy -- I love fussing over my kids even though they're grown men now and they always get on my case about it. But I can't help myself. They're my babies and they always will be. I fuss over my husband too. I don't like seeing him disheveled in public and will pat at his hair or brush crumbs form his clothes when we eat out and other such annoying (for him) habits. lol
Control freak -- but not to a point where I think its a problem I need to change. I like being in control, but I delegate a lot too. At work, I have any number of assistants or other staff to help me out and I use them. At home, I'm not afraid to put my hubs to work (we also have a lady that helps us out once or twice a month). I guess I like the idea of being in control when I want to be in control. I hate feeling powerless.
Blunt & straightward -- I'm very candid. My mom thinks too much so, but I disagree. Where I feel it necessary I do have a tendency to speak exactly what's on my mind, and I think that's important. Fakeness and insincerity has become far too accepted in our society already. So rather than change that about myself, I'm trying to be more tactful with how I say things. Sometimes I get it right, sometimes I'm don't (mostly when I come upon really silly people who I don't think deserves any tact from my part).
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Lemme see do I have any body hang ups? Hmmm ... I don't like my nose. I think its a bit too long and beak like, but everyone always tells me I talk nonsense. I hate the way how most of my weight pools around my middle and thighs when I add a few pounds. Having said that, I am blessed with the way how I gain weight. Overall, it tends to get evenly distributed rather than just settle in one area like for some people.
By the way, Ms. Samantha, how come you told Michael your age, but didn't tell me? I'd like to know.
Margaret wrote: "My greatest flaw would probably be ... seeing nothing but my flaws. I'm really hard on myself. I am my worst critic and constantly hear those negative voices in my head."Margaret, I'm really hard on myself. I tend to kick myself all the time...so it really pisses me off when someone else tries to kick me b/c I already know. LOL.
Davina, I find it almost eery how similar we are. I agree that age helps calm the temper. Because I have a bad temper, I normally try to think before I react. If I didn't I would be in a whole world of hurt by now.I find it interesting that you see anal, control freak and blunt as flaws. Those are all characteristics that I have and I embrace them. I love that I'm anal. I have to have order and everything has to be right. I control EVERYTHING. When I don't have control, I don't function well. I tend to get bitchy and its not pretty. I keep it real. I don't care who it is, I say what I mean and I mean what I say. I've learned to filter my thoughts a bit b/c not everyone appreciates it but you know what...everyone that matters most to me understands it and deals with it.
Davina, I know it sounds silly to hate the boobs but they are annoying. I remember going straight to a bra (no training bra for me). By time I got to Junior High I was wearing a C cup. So you can imagine what happened as I kept getting older. It is so hard to fight for people to look me in the face. I use to get angry and call people out on it but I realize they are noticeable so I don't even bother saying anything to people. I hate trying to find button up shirts b/c I do wear them a lot under my suits and if I buy the wrong one, I look like I'm popping out of that bad boy. I never wear strapless shirts, dresses b/c I look like Jessica Rabbit when I'm trying not to draw attention. So while it sounds good in theory it really is a hard thing to deal with.I bet your nose is just fine. I have a pointy nose which I never really liked but when I look at my face in a whole it works b/c I have small lips and a big nose would over power my mouth. Though I do have large brown eyes.
Haha! I like to keep you guessing my dear. So that's why I told Michael and not you. LOL.
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I see them as flaws, but not bad flaws. They're more like a mole that mars the skin. It would be nice to not have it there, but it being there isn't greatly problematic so its a part of you come to accept and even love.
Haha ... sounds like you're a serious control freak, Samantha. I'm married to a Leo man so its not possible to command all the control all the time. I know a lot of people don't believe when you were born has anything to do with your personality, but I'm not one of them and if you know anything about Leos, they like being in charge! LOL.
That said, its important to me, in the part of my life that's most important, to be the boss or one of the bosses. I'm one of those people who has to run their own business or if I work for someone else I'm the manager of the business, not some subordinate who has to take orders from people. That doesn't work so well ... hahaha!
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I understand, Samantha. I know larger than average breast size can be cumbersome for those afflicted with it. I once knew a young woman from Jamaica who said when she was in high school back when she lived there kids used to call her JABA which stands for Jamaica Breast Association. There's no such organisation. They just made it up to torment her. How cruel can kids get? It's horrid.
I also know the challenge of not having people take you seriously because they're too focused on your assets. I have regular breasts -- not too small, not too big -- and sometimes I like to show a little cleavage. It amuses me how men trip over themselves at a little skin. To be honest, I don't get annoyed because I think its a little pretentious to wear revealing clothes and not expect men to look.
I'm not saying its any man's right to abuse a woman because she wears revealing clothes, but some appraisal is to be expected I'd say.
I don't dress with the intention of enticing men, no. I dress to please myself and if that attracts the opposite sex I'm cool with that, as long as they keep their distance.
Anyway, my point is having big boobs is not your fault. You didn't choose to have big boobs like I choose to show cleavage so I feel for you when you have to fight to get people to give you the respect you deserve.
