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Owned-Unread books (Sometimes I think I must stop the madness!)
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Sep 04, 2011 01:18PM

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My name is T S Davis, and I have a book problem...
I recently had someone suggest to me that a 12 step program may be the answer to my compulsion. Seriously. But seeing as my sense of decorating revolves around where to put my books, (countless of which are as of this moment neglectfully unread) and the fact that I think that makes me saner than most, I think I'll stick with it.
What are chances of a book uprising? An unread book militia, plotting against me as I sleep? Uh - oh
I recently had someone suggest to me that a 12 step program may be the answer to my compulsion. Seriously. But seeing as my sense of decorating revolves around where to put my books, (countless of which are as of this moment neglectfully unread) and the fact that I think that makes me saner than most, I think I'll stick with it.
What are chances of a book uprising? An unread book militia, plotting against me as I sleep? Uh - oh

There are no 12-step programs; maybe you should create one called Bibliophiles Anonymous. Unread books must be checked at the door, Amazon membership must be discarded and Barnes & Nobles savings cards shredded...
I couldn't do it, though. I am really sick!!

I'm trying really hard not to list books on my TBR until I actually own them. It's just so I can keep a better controll over it. Doesn't always work and I do go through the list on here culling it every so often.
I've gotten pretty good at not buying books reccently which is good for my wallet and my sainty since I'm not a super quick reader..lol

And I'm not going to change or do anything about it! I love it and you should too. Go out and buy a book today to celebrate your life-long love and commitment to them. Have they ever let you down?



Is that 6 per year? OMG I won't even dare counting all the kindle freebies I seem to be collecting. And with the Library and Netgalley my to-read list is never ending. 8-)

Where does the madness end?

P.S. "Not buying" does not equal not trading so I'm still likely to rack up a few new ones but at least that is contingent on me reading something I already have sitting around.



"An unread book has an unrealised potential which is almost mystical." Wow, well put!

Why, thank you,


by Sonya Van Etten
Book obsessed? Not me! To date I only own 359 books. Compared to some, with 2, 000 books in their personal libraries...I'm at the tip of the iceberg. One fellow has a book issue, with 35,000 books in his collection! I'm not writing this to compare how many books I have to another person.
My passion for books and reading began when I was a child. I had a lot of the Little Golden books on a bookcase in my room. I knew that books took me into another world even then, though I did not think about it often. Lots of times I just read to read. I did not analyze my life or take a “book inventory”. I was six years old! My favorite stories were “The Pokey Little Puppy”, “Animals” (an encyclepedia for children about the wild), and “Cinderella”.
As I grew up, my book tastes changed. At a book fair in fifth grade, I picked up my first scary book. I can see the cover in my mind but have since forgotten the title. Haha! Pity they did not sell Stephen King, whose writing entered my life two years later!
I always had my nose in a book and my parents complained.
“Did you vacuum?”
“No, I forgot.”
Truth was, I read a book for hours on end daily. I got in trouble for forgetting my chores. Often, an hour beefore my father got home, I rushed to get dishes put away, dog fed, and vacuuming done!
Later in life, I could not part with any of my books. I did not have a book case. The novels were stacked on the floor in my tiny bedroom. If a fire had started, I would not be here. My parents were at a loss because I kept bringing the books home. My bedroom was a firehazard and a tripping zone due to my mobility issues. It was a prison.
My father said, one day, “Sonya, we know you love books, but you have to stop. Get a storage unit for the books.” I was seventeen and earning a paycheck. Wise advice but no way was I doing it!
If I did not have my books around me, I would go into a full-blown panic attack. I needed help from a counselor to deal with the anxiety, but I was in deep denial. My dysfunctional childhood lead to the anxiety and later depression; I had been raped as a child. Books consoled me, cradled me in ways my parents could not.
When I was eighteen I found a new way to spend money, the all-mighty credit card. My first one had a limit of $500.00. At first I would buy one book then pay it all, then three more and pay that off. Months later, I got approved for a second card with a $600.00 limit and a third for a limit of $300.00. I mxed out all the cards on novels, not clothes or shoes, as some teens do. Could I pay them all off? No! I decided to forget paying them when my minimum balance wass more than I made at work. I got one card with a new limit from $300.00 to $600.00. It did not help! Matters got way worse, with additional interest and late fees!
That pattern of hiding in a book continued into my adulthood. In my twenties, I quit working for a life on disability. A new symptom of anxiety appeared, writing inventory lists of all my books. No matter how broke I got, I had my books. I did not care if I ate.
Manchester Public Library, a town in which I was homeless many times, lets patrons borrow as many paperbacks as you want, a help to us book addicts.
I will not list a book as to be read unless I have won it on GR, only when I have won it. I usually have about ten books in a different room that I haven't read yet but I won't list them until I read them. I do reread also.


I just love buying and owning books (not ebooks), reading is never a first thing on my mind here. I need a therapy

Plus being an adult with fulltime job and plus many other hobbies, i found it hard to find time to sitdown and enjoy a book unless its a very very good one like DaVinci Code or Steve Jobs bio.

I'm trying to keep my TBR below 20. I'm at 19 now. I'm not allowing myself to buy anymore till I read some of these books.
I want to keep the TBR pile below 20, so if I want a new book, I have to read one that I have already.
This is to stop myself getting overwhelmed at the thought of reading them and getting myself even more confused on what to read next.
I'm also not allowing myself to download free ebooks either for the next few months.



But now I've bought 98 new books and only read around 36 of owned books - so it's even!



"...a private library is not an ego-boosting appendage but a research tool. Read books are far less valuable than unread ones. The library should contain as much of what you do not know as your financial means, mortgage rates, and the currently tight real-estate market allows you to put there. You will accumulate more knowledge and more books as you grow older, and the growing number of unread books on the shelves will look at you menacingly. Indeed, the more you know, the larger the rows of unread books. Let us call this collection of unread books an antilibrary."
https://www.brainpickings.org/2015/03...
I switched from buying physical books to ebooks as my real-estate started to run out (I live in London, UK, where shelf real estate is expensive). It has a major advantage as many classic literature is out of copyright and available for free. It also makes it much easier to organise your books, and track the ones you've read and not etc.
Having big library (some 5,000 ebooks, not as many as Eco's 30,000 yet alas, but one day!) It also means I can follow my curiosity as I come to the end of one book and look for another that I already have, I can be lead by where my interests and intellectual investigations are taking me (whether fictional or non-functional). I read a hell of a lot anyway, and I feel ZERO guilt about this habit of acquiring more books (I don't spend more than I can afford, and I shop around so that Amazon don't get everything).

I think I have nearly 500 unread books waiting for me, ahh... "when I think of all the books that I still have to read, I have the certainty of being happy".
And most of you understand me! La vie est belle!




And these days I am far too busy to read more than a few pages at night. And what do I do? I nearly clicked on the "buy" button near my "shopping basket" of a well-known company's website, which would have meant more (5) books on my bookshelf (well with me they hang on for a few days on a table in the living room, I have to "see" them properly before I put them on the shelf)... and the simple reason being that I had lunch with a few friends/colleagues and 2 of them just hinted at the books they are reading. And this is enough for me to trigger this kind of "Pavlov's reaction"!!
But this time I have tried to come here and tell you this, may be it is the first step of the cure?

I've tried to make a deal with myself about buying books I'm only buying things on sale with the exception of my Must Read!!! authors. I've also been trying to supplement with library books. My library lets you check out 30 items at a time. Guess how many I currently have checked out? Yep, 30. I am reading 3 of them but there just aren't enough hours in a day.