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message 751: by Jason, Walking Allergen (last edited Aug 05, 2013 11:50AM) (new)

Jason | 1166 comments Mod
Hi, Jen, read your blog post.

1 - I think there are entire groups/genres of books that are specifically targeted at, and enjoyed by, women. I agree that "chick lit" has a negative connotation, but I think it exists in some form. If I was trying to work up a definition for it, 40 Shades of Grey would probably figure in there somewhere.

2 - Whatever list of books my definition generated, your book club books would not be on it.

I'm not a mind reader, but I wonder if that member's exasperation wasn't even focused enough to be targeted at books by or about or involving women. There are plenty of folks out there (men and women) who only read thrillers and crime and sci-fi/fantasy that touch on emotions and weighty themes only tangentially, if at all. I'm reasonably sure that such a person would be colossally bored by the Bookhouse Boys list of books too.


message 752: by Jason, Walking Allergen (new)

Jason | 1166 comments Mod
Dave wrote: "Sounds like a good discussion topic for our next mini-podcast. (Not to discourage discussion here on the forum!)"

True! I would be in favor of doing more topic based shows here and there, and this would be a great one.


message 753: by Jen (last edited Aug 05, 2013 12:20PM) (new)

Jen (jen_alluisi) | 73 comments Jason, I totally agree that there are genres of books targeted at (and enjoyed by) women - and I am certainly not above enjoying them! Some are "chick lit" meaning they are sort of light-hearted, comedic romances; some are "women's fiction" meaning they are deeper and usually emotional (and sometimes emotionally manipulative). I said this on my FB post to clarify a bit, and I think it's fair to say here as well:

I like chick lit as a genre; I dislike that there's no guy equivalent in terminology (Tom Clancy novels are just "thrillers", not "dude lit"). And I really dislike that it's "OK" to hate on chick lit but not on books that appeal to a mainly male audience. That's my real issue - not that he called the book chick lit. He is wrong about that; it's more literary fiction than chick lit. But the dismissiveness of it because he presumes it's chick lit is what really got under my skin.


I similarly dislike that there's no "men's fiction" counterpoint to women's fiction. Actually, no, that's not true. I'm annoyed that any books are marketed by gender categories, regardless of who enjoys them most. But if we absolutely HAVE to categorize books by gender, why are there only female categories?


message 754: by Jason, Walking Allergen (last edited Aug 05, 2013 12:59PM) (new)

Jason | 1166 comments Mod
Couple things.

One, do publishers ever categorize books are "chick lit"? My instinct is that they don't, but I'm not 100& sure. It's a popular term created by audiences, and as such, not under the control of publishers. If one wanted to create such a term for books targeted at and about men, ostensibly one could do so, and it may or may not catch on.

Second, if a publisher ever did identify a book as for men, I believe there would be a general outcry that it was a sexist designation. Individuals who might be tempted to identify books in that manner might also be afraid of such a backlash.

Books (and most things) are generally assumed to be for everyone first, and then specific groups second. There is no "male lit" for the same reason as there is African-American literature, but no "white person" literature. It's not considered okay to name the traditionally dominant group as the target for something, but it is considered okay to do so for smaller or less traditionally well represented groups.

I don't think there's anything wrong with targeting products at men or women, because there are undeniably things that are disproportionately appealing to one gender or other, and that's how marketing works. How that targeting is handled, however, is on a spectrum, and it can absolutely be done in a condescending, reductionist fashion, which is unfortunate. I definitely believe this works both ways. Calling superficial action extravaganzas "books/movies for men" is just as socially acceptable as pegging romantic comedies as being for women, and is equally false if one is meant to infer that all men automatically enjoy such books/movies.

The trick, and it IS tricky, is to appeal to your demographic without simultaneously reducing them to a generalized bunch of attributes. Humans haven't figured out how to do this very effectively yet, and it may be a while.


message 755: by Jen (new)

Jen (jen_alluisi) | 73 comments I'm not sure about the chick lit designation (I may have to go look on the publishing info pages of some of my chick lit at home), but there is DEFINITELY a "women's fiction" designation in publishing. Printed on the book and everything.

I think my issue is that I feel, as a woman, that it's not OK for me to call a superficial action extravaganza stupid or worthless or state that people who watch them are stupid, but it's perfectly OK for me to make those generalizations about romantic comedies (the chick lit of the movie world). It feels much more acceptable to write off or dismiss as unimportant books/movies/whatever designated as "for women" than it is anything that's "for men."

I don't mean that you guys do this - I'd consider many of my male friends well above the simplistic reductionist thinking you accurately describe above. But in American culture, at least, it definitely feels as though books/movies/whatever that women enjoy is devalued compared to things that men enjoy. As an American woman, that is how I am made to feel by pop culture and by the attitudes I see on Facebook and Twitter (and apparently Meetup), and I know many a woman who would agree with me.


message 756: by Jason, Walking Allergen (last edited Aug 05, 2013 01:53PM) (new)

Jason | 1166 comments Mod
I dunno. Since neither of us have created any scientific studies or anything, all we have to rely on is our personal experience, and that's bound to vary. ;)

Just for myself, as a guy, I've been told by lots of people over the years something to the effect of "You probably like X action movie, right, cause you're a guy." Or, "Really, you didn't like X? I would have thought it would be right up your alley!" I've also heard both of those movie categories(because I absolutely don't disagree about the generalizations about romantic comedies and would have to cop to giving in to that lazy thinking myself), described in that reductionist fashion.

Don't get me wrong: I think a lot of action movies and romantic comedies are "stupid," and I also think that's perfectly fine! Pacific Rim was kinda stupid, but I enjoyed it plenty as entertainment. I think the danger comes in when someone who likes a "stupid" movie somehow becomes stupid for liking it...and when that generalization is extended to an entire gender, that's even worse.

I always tend to champion balance...I tend to look down my nose at anybody, of either gender, who chooses one genre and sticks to it to the point of excluding anything else. I feel like those folks are limiting their world in an unfortunate way. You kind of have the opposite problem vis a vis your commenter: you're chosen a wide array of books to cover, and he's managed to lump them all together in some nebulous "books for girls" category that would fall apart instantly if one applied one iota of critical thinking.


message 757: by Jeppe (new)

Jeppe (jmulich) | 315 comments I think it's a common if unstated assumption in almost all popular culture that the default audience member is male. That's why media targeted specifically to women needs its own label - "chick lit" or "chick flicks" or what have you. It doesn't just affect the perceived audience either but also the producers of said media, which is why some wikipedia editors felt it necessary to create a specific label for "Female Authors" besides the general one for "Authors" (http://www.nybooks.com/blogs/nyrblog/...). It's a sad state of affairs, but at least now it's something that people have started to call out.


message 758: by Matt, I am the Great Went. (new)

Matt | 1517 comments Mod
Jen wrote: "it's not OK for me to call a superficial action extravaganza stupid or worthless or state that people who watch them are stupid..."

I do this all the time. O_O


message 759: by Matt, I am the Great Went. (new)

Matt | 1517 comments Mod
I think we should have Jen on the next show to discuss this. Pull in some of that chick demographic. Seriously, though...


message 760: by Jason, Walking Allergen (new)

Jason | 1166 comments Mod
What do you say, Jen? Dave? I was just thinking the other day that it might be past time to have another guest...


message 761: by Dave Alluisi, Evolution of the Arm (new)

Dave Alluisi | 1047 comments Mod
Sounds like a fine idea to me. I think that because of our setup Jen and I will have to tag team while you guys discuss that subject, but I'm fine with that. She can even guest the whole mini if you guys want and I'll just go to bed early. :)


message 762: by Jen (new)

Jen (jen_alluisi) | 73 comments I'd love to, but we only have one mic, and you guys usually stay up too late for me! It's fine for Dave; he's an insomniac anyway :) Should we continue this discussion over email? I'm sure we can figure something out.


message 763: by Dave Alluisi, Evolution of the Arm (new)

Dave Alluisi | 1047 comments Mod
Statistically, you're within 16 1/2 feet of a rat at all times.

Pleasant dreams!


message 764: by Jason, Walking Allergen (new)

Jason | 1166 comments Mod
Ha! Good thing that's an average, and doesn't mean much to most of us.

Those people who are 10 feet away from 100 rats, though...sucks to be you.


message 765: by Jeppe (new)

Jeppe (jmulich) | 315 comments Jason wrote: "Ha! Good thing that's an average, and doesn't mean much to most of us.

Those people who are 10 feet away from 100 rats, though...sucks to be you."


I live in New York. That would be me.


message 766: by Robert (new)

Robert (vernson) | 592 comments It's a good thing you aren't speaking metaphorically.

Right?


message 767: by Dave Alluisi, Evolution of the Arm (new)

Dave Alluisi | 1047 comments Mod
I think the statistic applies mostly to cities in general. Though I wouldn't consider my country ass to be exempt, either.

They're basically anywhere leftover food/waste is to be found. So, anywhere there's people.


message 768: by Jason, Walking Allergen (new)

Jason | 1166 comments Mod
Jeppe wrote: "I live in New York. That would be me."

And there we have the real reason for skyscrapers and highrises. It's not because of overpopulation; it's to get as far from the rats as possible!


message 769: by Jeppe (new)

Jeppe (jmulich) | 315 comments My second apartment (more of a room really) in NYC was a tiny place in the East Village, a block away from the late CBGB and Mars Bar. It was two doors down from a vacant lot, which had been vacant for a long time, and it was common knowledge on the street that if you came home an evening where the garbage was put out, you literally had to kick your way through hungry rats when you came near the lot. That was still much better than those days where the public rat catcher did his rounds with poison and a steel spear. Blood in the streets.


message 770: by Dave Alluisi, Evolution of the Arm (new)

Dave Alluisi | 1047 comments Mod
Permission to repost this next time someone gets in my face about NYC being the greatest city in the world? ;)


message 771: by Matt, I am the Great Went. (new)

Matt | 1517 comments Mod
Dave wrote: "Permission to repost this next time someone gets in my face about NYC being the greatest city in the world? ;)"

Granted.

I can see the rat catcher coming back. Get some hipsters dressed like Mumford & Sons to wander the streets with a spear and a gunny sack. They'd probably go in for the ironic old-timey-ness of it.


message 772: by Robert (last edited Aug 09, 2013 08:56AM) (new)

Robert (vernson) | 592 comments Matt wrote: "Dave wrote: "Permission to repost this next time someone gets in my face about NYC being the greatest city in the world? ;)"

Granted.

I can see the rat catcher coming back. Get some hipsters dres..."


I like this idea, but only if the wandering minstrels are on constant mute!

Among some of the various jobs I've had through life, one was keeping maintenance at a well established restaurant in Milwaukee. One of the less appealing aspects of my job was to go on rat patrol, which usually found me crawling in often too tight cracks and crannies while arming and "reloading" rat traps! Yea!!!


message 773: by Matt, I am the Great Went. (new)

Matt | 1517 comments Mod
Soliciting positive vibes for my grandmother who is in the hospital now. All good thoughts will come back to you one-hundred fold.


message 774: by Jason, Walking Allergen (new)

Jason | 1166 comments Mod
She'll pull through, Matt.


message 775: by Matt, I am the Great Went. (new)

Matt | 1517 comments Mod
Jason wrote: "She'll pull through, Matt."

Thanks, brother.


message 776: by Jeppe (new)

Jeppe (jmulich) | 315 comments Just lost my grandfather two weeks ago, so I feel you. Sending good karma her way.


message 777: by Dave Alluisi, Evolution of the Arm (new)

Dave Alluisi | 1047 comments Mod
Best wishes, man.


message 778: by Matt, I am the Great Went. (new)

Matt | 1517 comments Mod
Much appreciated, guys.


message 779: by Robert (new)

Robert (vernson) | 592 comments I'm sure she will recover more fiery than ever, Matt!


message 780: by Devin (new)

Devin Bruce (doctorteeth) | 77 comments My best to you and yours, Matt. I send you many good thoughts (and if some bad ones slip in there by mistake, they weren't meant for you, I just have so many that I can't keep them all in hand).


message 781: by Dave Alluisi, Evolution of the Arm (last edited Sep 15, 2013 01:29PM) (new)

Dave Alluisi | 1047 comments Mod
I hate football.


message 782: by Robert (new)

Robert (vernson) | 592 comments Sorry, Dave.


message 783: by Jason, Walking Allergen (new)

Jason | 1166 comments Mod
Would it make you feel better to know that Rodgers and Cobb's big games helped me win in fantasy football? No? There's just no pleasing some people.


message 784: by Dave Alluisi, Evolution of the Arm (new)

Dave Alluisi | 1047 comments Mod
Wise move. Hint to all fantasy football players: start whoever's up against the Redskins. We can't stop sheeeeeeit. 71 points given up in two games don't lie.


message 785: by Jason, Walking Allergen (last edited Sep 15, 2013 09:26PM) (new)

Jason | 1166 comments Mod
In the first three games last year, Washington gave up 32, 31 and 38 points, and none of those games were against Green Bay. Plenty of time to right the ship.


message 786: by Jason, Walking Allergen (new)

Jason | 1166 comments Mod
Mike Dimayuga, "The Other Mike" as I knew him on the 11 o'clock forum and Twitter, died today or yesterday. I didn't know him personally, but I had lots of conversations with him about books, movies, art and comics, and he was one of the nicest, more unpretentious guys I've ever met on the internet. I'm really sad today.


message 787: by Jim (new)

Jim | 498 comments So sad. He was very positive, and so talented.

I encourage readers to check out Mike's work on his website.


message 788: by Matt, I am the Great Went. (new)

Matt | 1517 comments Mod
That is very sad news. I never met him, but was a fan of his work and he was always a prince of a man to interact with.


message 789: by Matt, I am the Great Went. (new)

Matt | 1517 comments Mod
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, DAVE!!


message 790: by Matt, I am the Great Went. (new)

Matt | 1517 comments Mod
This must be good: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/1... because she is a New York Times and USA Today bestselling author!


message 791: by Jason, Walking Allergen (new)

Jason | 1166 comments Mod
Average rating 4.31. The people have spoken. Well, the people writing paid reviews have spoken.


message 792: by Jim (new)

Jim | 498 comments Matt, how did you know...? I bought Dave Darkness Rises for his birthday! Scrolling through the reviews, I'm fairly certain Dave will be the first man who's ever read the book.

Happy birthday, Dave! Keep blazing new trails!


message 793: by Jason, Walking Allergen (new)

Jason | 1166 comments Mod
Happy birthday, Dave.


message 794: by Robert (new)

Robert (vernson) | 592 comments Happy birthday, Dave!

And because I know I'm going to forget,

HaaaaaaaAAAAAAAaaappy Birthday, Matt!


message 795: by Jim (new)

Jim | 498 comments Emily, even here, 140 characters is clearly your milieu.


And of course, HAPPY BIRTHDAY, MATT!!! Get presents!


message 796: by Matt, I am the Great Went. (new)

Matt | 1517 comments Mod
Thanks, all of you. It's been a decent one so far: homemade cake & lunch at House of Ramen courtesy of/with friends from work. Hopefully I don't get sucked into a maelstrom of mortality-mulling and moroseness!


message 797: by Devin (new)

Devin Bruce (doctorteeth) | 77 comments Happy birthday, Matt! I hope you managed to murder mosanthropy and moroseness with delicious noodles!


message 798: by Matt, I am the Great Went. (new)

Matt | 1517 comments Mod
Thanks, Jim, for the thoughtful present! You are waaaay too generous. The Gosling is going up in my cube (pics to come) and The Lost Art of Ah Pook Is Here: Images from the Graphic Novel is going under my pillow to taint my dreams with brilliance. You REALLY shouldn't have!


message 799: by Robert (new)

Robert (vernson) | 592 comments Oh, yeah!


message 800: by Jim (new)

Jim | 498 comments Happy first birthday to Margot Alluisi!!!



... who I'm sure is already reading this and rolling her eyes at my crappy syntax and misuse of punctuation. *sigh* Editors.


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